Waiting for death.

Hi,

What do you do, when you know someone that you love and care about is dying? When you know that they are not going to get better, and all you can do is wait for the phone to ring and the person on the other end is telling you that the person died.


I am having a hard time dealing with the knowledge that my dad is dying and that there is nothing that I can do. I am hundreds of miles away and I can't miss any more work to be with him, I can miss work just cant afford it.

Just was wondering if anyone here has experienced anything like this, and what helped you?

I'm so sorry to hear that. My mom died when I was very young, so we're kind of in different situations. Whats wrong with him?

You should try talking it out to people. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I've had people other than my mom die since I've been older, but no one as close to me as my dad. It really makes you realize what you had, and what you take for granted.

Money shouldn't be an issue in this situation. You should go see him.

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Originally Posted by make it legal

I'm so sorry to hear that. My mom died when I was very young, so we're kind of in different situations. Whats wrong with him?

You should try talking it out to people. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I've had people other than my mom die since I've been older, but no one as close to me as my dad. It really makes you realize what you had, and what you take for granted.

Money shouldn't be an issue in this situation. You should go see him.

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My dad has CPD/COPD his lungs are black, his heart is weak. He can no longer walk because he has no energy.

I talked about it with my boyfriend, but that didn't seem to help. I am the type of person who will just push it back and forget about it. This time however I can't. I know that he is dying, and I hate that feeling.

Yeah you should really go see him. Borrow money from someone if you need to. This part is probably worse than the death itself because at least if he dies you won't have to be constantly wondering and worrying.

Im so sorry to hear that EE2000, it's so hard to watch a loved one slip away. I lost my nan to cancer a few years ago, watching her go like that fucking killed me. The only thing that helped me was being with my family and girlfriend sharing the highs and lows. If you can try to go and see him, you may regret it later in life and you don't want that hanging over you.

My thoughts are with you and yours,

Peace

Buddy

Yeah I will probably go down there next weekend, at least the ticket want cost me 600 bucks.

I figured that he has lived this long, he may surprise and live another year. But I cant continue to get calls from my brother telling me dad is back in the hospital again. So I will go look into airline prices. I don't think I can travel 10 hours in my car.

Well that's good to hear.

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Originally Posted by EE2000

Yeah I will probably go down there next weekend, at least the ticket want cost me 600 bucks.

I figured that he has lived this long, he may surprise and live another year. But I cant continue to get calls from my brother telling me dad is back in the hospital again. So I will go look into airline prices. I don't think I can travel 10 hours in my car.

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you said you couldnt afford going there and you take the plane instead of your car :wtf:

Anyways, I feel your pain as for your father. My dad has leukemia himself and now hes getting bad off, it cost tousands and thousands only for medication, you know, experimental crazy medications and all (lucky we're in canada)...I dont know how long he'll still be fine, since hes had cancer for like 20 years now..

Knowing that somebody you love will die soon is probably one of the worst feeling ive ever experienced, my neighbor (who was just like my grandma)

I sencerely hope he'll be fine :(

It would be easier for me to fly then drive, and with gas prices it would probably even out. A few weeks ago it was only about $324.00 and that is duable, the $500 for a ticket however is not. Since I am not salaried at work, I don't get paid for the time I miss. And they know the situation, so if I have to go its ok with them. Forgot to mention that my is a freaking 8 cylinder ( sorry spelling ) gas guzzling thing, but I love it.


The best I can hope for is for him to go in his sleep, and that he is in no pain.

soo sorry to hear that! i think you should visit him too. hang in there man