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looking for suggestions, my girls mom has cancer again. I got the hint that she felt like I didn't support her much the first time she went through it all. My stance was I felt that everything else in her life was so crazy I wanted to be calm for her and I really didn't know how to react. Death all that, I shut down for a bit after. So when things like this are brought to attention I seem to cloud up and not know how to react. Meanwhile shes hallucinating over it.
Heeeelp..
Life has a way of just continuously flinging the shit doesn't it? I'm very sorry to hear about this man, I can only hope we can finally one day cure cancer.
Honestly I'm just in too much of a shit load of pain right now, so I can't give you too thorough an answer. But what I can tell you in regard to helping your gf emotionally:
1. Be supportive and be prepared for irrationality. Emotional distress can bring out the worst in people when they can't handle it well enough, and this can change a person's personality. If she does "act like a bitch" to you, take it as a sign of deeper inner turmoil, rather than a personal attack, and support her at that point more than ever.
2. I'd tell her that the best thing she can do is have acceptance. She will only caues more suffering for all involved by denying the situation, as in wishing things weren't this way or feeling it is unjust. All that matters is what to do with the situation to best remedie it, and flow with the rest whether we want it or not.
Regarding cancer and how to suppress/cure/treat it:
1. Take 400IU Vitamin-E a day. Get plenty of vitamin-A too, but through natural sources (especially carrots since they contain all 8 types of carrotenoids).
then..
2. Start at 4,000mg Vitamin-C a day. Add 2,000 grams a day till she reaches 24,000mg-30,000mg a day. I know this sounds excessive, but it's very non-toxic and will have potent anti-cancer effects at that dose. Once cancer goes into remission, maintain 4,000mg a day. And don't worry about extra vitamin-C intake from fruits and the such, that's just icing on the cake. Some successful cancer treatment studies with Vitamin-C have gone as high as 300,000mg, but that's in extreme and desperate situations.
3. Delta-9-Tetrahydrocannibinol (THC), the active compound in cannabis, has very good anti-cancer effects. It would be a good idea for her to take weed with the cancer, though preferrably by means other than smoking.
4. Green or red Rooibos tea, a tasty african tea, has extraordinarily large amounts of anti-oxidants that destroy free-radicals and supporess cancer growth as well as protecting against it. It's anti-oxidant content is up to 50 times higher than that of regular green tea.
5. There's a mushroom called "agaricus blurzai" if I remember correctly. I probably have the name somewhat wrong since it's been quite a while, but it's a tasty little mushroom that has significantly powerfull anti-cancer effects. This is a relatively recent discovery.
6. Lower stress by whatever means necessary (Sublingual Vitamin B-12 helps), as stress produces cancer-creating free radicals and supporesses the bodies immune system and overal function. Meditation may be beneficial, I saw one guy who completely overcame his cancer without chemo or drugs, by eating healthy and practicing meditation to a very advanced level.
7. Avoid red-dye. It's quite carcinogenic, though don't depend on the FDA or grocery stores to pay attention to that.
Hope this information helps, please pass it on to her as these combined treatments could really help. Best wishes to you and your gf too, let us know how things work out.
Thank you Mr Devious.
Im certainly thankful for your help. I DID notice some irrationality the other day. She thought I was home when she returned, swore to death she saw my car parked and then it was gone and I wasn't home. So then she began interrogating me as if I was cheating on her. In that tone. I began to get anxiety cause I can't handle being accused when I had no idea what she was talking about and I was confused because I couldn't believe how she could believe she saw my car. I've known her all my life it seems, and I know when she breaks down she gets pretty out of her mind. Its so wierd how her mind will almost check out. Things have happened to her in the past, plus her mom went through this before. I'm just realizing how much of a wreak she thinks she is based on things I find out about her past, plus how she lives now based on reactions to those events. So.. Sigh I'm an asshole. I just wish I could do something.
I'll forward all that to her mom, trouble is, her mom is as good as dead, her father is a controlling acid head. Delusional to the fullest so she'd get stressed about everything and smoke till she got cancer of the lung, it had spread to her brain. They operated and then she was in remission. She doesn't want radiation. The FIRST thing to do for her recovery would be to get her out of her environment. That man creates the cancer imo. That level of stressful household is not healthy whatsoever and its being proven. My gf got a bit of that as she's a bit wierded out like her mom but hardly as bad as the girl got everything she wanted and was taken care of in most aspects. She was a rich girl to me. As I've come from poverty, self educating the skills I have yadda yadda. My grandfather has prostate cancer, and his life just crumbled after surgeries and radiation, only to find it spread to other places......... /sigh His attitude changed and he's very negative, killing himself faster imo. I'm such a happy person and I feel so crushed that life was decided and we can't control our reactions enough to spiritually heal ourselves. No disease can live in a body that is in harmony with it self. That man you speak of is proof. I've heard of many to control their thoughts and emotions so carefully they bring themselves to health. Being a firm believer of that ol power of thought. I think its the most effective, as well as the most difficult. I'll sit down with her and give her a good hug and tell her I'm here behind her. I felt anxious about it. Thanks again bro.