teens and parenthood...

well im 15 and i have a son hes 14 months in september he will be 2 but its been hard to get through everything with him and without him his dad,his dad is mixed [black and white] and im mixed [black and domincan] so i guess that just makes my son [black and white ] so his family dosnt really like me and my family dosnt like him alot either Sean[sons dad] said that his mom didnt feel comfortable with having a litle mixed kid in her family which i dont understand but ohh well.. i think its because of the race thing and it makes me upset to know that they dont accept my son i currently have no custody of my son he lives with my stepmom and my dad and in California and i live in Maryland sooo thats kinda far his dad lives in Washington so he dosnt see him much but when he does i get happy because my son gets happy just to see us but one day hopefully we cud get back together sometime and live 2gether maybe but 4 now were apart and i wud like to be with my son while hes gowing up i dont want him to think im leaving him behind especially when he gets older and starts to think his parent left him but we really didnt we just cant take care of him now soo but first i have to finish high school and all that good stuff but when the time comes...:)

im sorry that you dont have your son, but the day you will finally have him will be a great one.

Your son knows you love him:)

Just be as steady a presence in his life as you can, even at a distance. Remember those holidays and birthdays. Make phone calls (he's still kinda young to talk, I know). He's being raised by folks who're more suited to the job right now, and that's the right thing for him, but you can stay as in touch as much as possible so he knows you care now--and will know later. When he gets older, everyone can help him understand why it was important that he be raised by your dad and stepmom. I think that was a very mature thing you did to let them take care of him while you finish school and finish growing up! I hope they're good, loving, caring "parents" to him.

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Originally Posted by Samwhore

im sorry that you dont have your son, but the day you will finally have him will be a great one.

Your son knows you love him:)

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:) thanx i cant wait for that time to come

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

Just be as steady a presence in his life as you can, even at a distance. Remember those holidays and birthdays. Make phone calls (he's still kinda young to talk, I know). He's being raised by folks who're more suited to the job right now, and that's the right thing for him, but you can stay as in touch as much as possible so he knows you care now--and will know later. When he gets older, everyone can help him understand why it was important that he be raised by your dad and stepmom. I think that was a very mature thing you did to let them take care of him while you finish school and finish growing up! I hope they're good, loving, caring "parents" to him.

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yea i definately remember the special days to call and my parents are good parents for him right now but he understands when its time to go and time for me to leave it just hurts sometimes but inside i know its the right thing to do for the both of us.

It may hurt, but just try and remember how much better both of your lives will be because of it. By letting your parents take care of him you're proving that you love him. One day when hes a little older he'll understand that.

:D thanx im sure he'll understand 2

TIP: dont be a controlling bitch like my mom.


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