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Oh shit guys...
..so I think I may have a little problem.
My whole life I was like "babies are stupid, kids are stupid, I am never having kids.."
Now everytime I see a freakin' kid they are like all I can focus on and think "AW OH MY GOD THEY ARE SO FUCKING CUTE I WANT ONE..."
..it is really starting to freak me the fuck out.
I feel like I am going to have a baby VERY VERY SOON..and im a little fREAKED.
theres only one thing to do if you have a kid of your own
kill it
nah, just playing.....or am i? i really dont know...call it being half serious...
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Originally Posted by TallulahGreen
This is a common condition among many childfree people: You have a temporary moment of weakness, your instincts take over your emotions, and you feel warm and fuzzy for a while and wish to become a parent. You will get over it! Don't give in, it's not real - nature is trying to trick you into having sprogs.
the childfree-by-choice pages
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The Childfree Zone (Phoenix, AZ)
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Kindervrij, the Dutch childfree site
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hahhaha DAMN you are serious about that shit.
I want to have kids for sure, I just don't know why I want them so young all of the sudden!!!
Maybe I already am pregnant???
I.was.the.same.way...Then.we.had.a.oops...Now.my.b aby.is.all.that.matters...
This was the part that worried me. Are you basing that "feeling" on the fact that you had sex with your BF at precisely your most fertile time of month? Or on the fact that, deep down, you know you're already pregnant or feel fairly certain the chance is high?Quote:
Originally Posted by TallulahGreen
Because if it's the other--and you don't think or know you're already pregnant--then it's probably just a phase. Happened twice with me as I was maturing and I'd see babies'/kids' little faces and imagine the romantic aspect of it all, particularly during times when I was particularly taken with a boyfriend and feeling a touch of the "nesting" instinct kick in with him. I had two friends who had the mommy urge when, on some level, they were hoping to get pregnant and hasten a desired marriage proposal (a very bad idea and strategy that backfired in both instances). And I had one friend who went through the urge to breed when she was disillusioned with college and wanted a reason to drop out. Sometimes it happens when girls/women are looking for more love than they're getting currently.
For the sake of the fun you're having now and need to keep having, your future, and your future kids' happiness, let's hope this is just a passing phase. Babies and children are charming and a great joy for people who like babies and children and want to spend 20 - 25 years raising and supporting them. But even under the best of circumstances when they're planned for and you have plenty of money, a solid marriage, college educations completed and good jobs in hand, it's a huge and overwhelming responsibility. It turns your life, your priorities, your plans, and your finances upside down. The reality of parenting isn't all just "ooohs" and "aaahhhs" and cuddles and rocking. It's bone-draining fatigue, additional stresses on a young marriage/relationship, impossibly expensive medical and babycare costs, and changes to your body, your sex life, and your hormones that you can't yet really fathom. It's hard work and serious responsibility. Wish I'd played for 10 more years before we had ours!
Excellent advice BG.
Thanks, Mrs. G. As usual, I'm sure I said too much. And I don't want to seem anti-baby or anti-reproduction. I adore babies. I love my own, wanted to have more than one, and to this day still crave to adopt the others I see. Heck, I think I want to be a pediatrician. But parenting is the most frighteningly hard job there is, and emotionally and physically it's far harder on moms than on dads, especially during pregnancy and the first three to five years.
Amen, and well I know it. I'm crazy about my daughters (8 and 5) but some of my most horrific and heartrending moments of my life are directly due to them LOL!
It seems in the past year I have known more people around me to have babies than ever. Never would I have ever thought that at such a young age(21 years old)..I would start to feel like I want kids.
I am going to fight(and will) the thought of wanting kids now.
I don't want to do what my mother did....and have a kid too soon!
However, she always tells me weird trippy stuff...like I should have a kid young?
I am feeling quite nested...with my boyfriend of 2 years...we often talk about kids, and have agreed that if I were to get pregnant on accident at this point in time...we will keep the child.
I don't know, I am trippin' out on life lately...
I know what I want and what I need..but I still just have this trippy ass feeling in the pit of my stomach screaming BABY!!