Theory of Sexuality

Does anyone here have a theory about sexual preference? What I mean is, do you guys think people are born being attracted to a certain sex, or is it acquired throughout life, or a mixture of the two?

I have been thinking about this recently, so my theory may not be all that sophisticated but I wanted to hear your guys' views. I think sexual preference could surface out of an initial physical encounter with a person. Here is my own personal example to try to explain this: I have always thought of myself as being heterosexual. I have only ever had romantic relationship with men, and I have never had any sexual experiences with women before. However, I do find myself attracted to women. Maybe I don't feel as strongly towards them as I do towards men, but in general I do find women more attractive. This made me think...maybe if I have a physical encounter with another woman, I will feel more strongly towards women sexually, and then perhaps consider myself bisexual. To apply this generally, perhaps we are all born 'heterosexual' and our first physical encounters with people of either gender is what causes us to be attracted to them sexually later in life. Like, instead of growing up kissing boys- if my first 'real' kiss was with a girl, maybe now I would be a lesbian, or at least bisexual? Since society raises most of us to believe that heterosexuality is the norm, most people automatically are drawn to the opposite sex. If this assumption of society didn't exist anymore, would there be a higher chance of homosexuality? Would it grow close to 50% of the population, instead of the mere 10% it's at now?

What do you all think? If no one responds, thats ok, I just wanted to write all this down anyways.

i think i played too many asian video games when i was younger and i now have an never ending thirst for asian girls. i just dont know man

I think it's how were brought up, and the experiences we have as children.

I always spent almost all of my time around male friends when I was growing up. Never really had any female friends. In fact, I remember being rather uncomfortable around any girls that I did come across, and its the opposite for being around any guys, even if it was someone I had just met. Always enjoyed the company of another guy.

This may or may not be the reason I am gay, but I wouldn't change it for anything, for I love my bf, and that outweighs all the homophobia in the world. :)

*HUGS*

-Haz

I think our preferences are established much earlier than when we have our first experiences. That's certainly what they're teaching us in med school, too. Experiences later may strengthen people's leanings in some way, but generally the experts now standardly believe that our proclivities are determined either in utero or within the first two years of life.

I can remember feeling attracted to men even as a very young girl. I think I was wired that way from the get-go. Not everyone may be as aware of those facts, perhaps, and may need later experiences to help wake themselves up about their preferences. But I still think those preferences are largely inherent in us from our earliest youth.

I think the more you hang around and associate with a sex, the easier it is to be more relaxed in a social, and possibly sexual way with either sex... i notice that when i had a girlfriend, i was much more social with girls and they were easier to talk to... but then i was single, hung around with all my guy friends, and i suddenly didnt care about trying to get girls.. it wasnt a sexual thing, just social, but it was a difference i could note.

I never really had a choice on whether I liked girls or not, I just always have. I've been sexually attracted to older women, only because they had boobs lmao, for as long as I can remember. Porno had always gotten me excited (probably by instinct), but I never realized why until I turned 13.
Though I'll admit that I do find some guys attractive (mainly Trent Reznor circa 1994, fuckyou all for judging me), I find gay sex gross and would never have sex with them.

I think it's genetic, or as birdgirl said when your extremely young.
I don't think your up bringing has very much to do with it...although I suppose it could effect homophobia and denying your (true) sexuality.

I consider myself bisexual, leaning more towards the gay side of things. But I had early experiences with both male and female (and continued to up untill about 6 months ago) and I don't believe that had anything to do with my current sexuality.

I like men...lol thats it...in the same way straight people are attracted to the opposite sex, I am attracted to the same. Nothing I can do about it, I wouldn't want to do anything about it...I am completly comfortable and happy with it.

Edit: I did however grow up with 2 older sisters, and I got on extremely well with girls from a very young age. But I also had male friends from an early age...don't think that effected anything either.

birdgirl is probably right, i took a psych class on human sexuality in the summer and it talked about some studies that have been done that suggest you are born (genetics) homosexual or not. So far they are just theories, but you never know. One study found that men who had older brothers were more likely to be gay (the 3rd brother would be more likely to be gay than the 2nd born, the 4th bro would be more likely than the 3rd, etc).

Nature and nurture both probably contribute to sexual preference but it is interesting to explore other possible theories.

Yeah what you said about first encounters could be true....although I believe mine was with a girl...lol

But as you said it's all just theories at the moment...
I wonder if they will ever actually find out what makes someone gay, haha

thinking about it I don't think they will, it's a bit like trying to find out what makes someone straight.
I guess it's just another part of life.

but maybe one day