Need some advice

I need some advice with one of my friends, she was my best friends until sunday morning when she said we couldn't any more, and now has some of my other friends calling me an asshole.

It started on saturday night with her and her boyfriend coming over to my house, to wait to go to RHPS, we sat around for a while playing my 360 then we decided to go smoke some pot. Got high, came back inside, and played some games again. Then we decided to go to her boyfriends house to get some more weed. Upon getting there we learned we would have to drive to his dealer's place to get some, my friend was driving at this time and te only thing she said was "I don't know" but kept on driving.We had to pick up two people for money purposes then we went got the weed came back dropped the two guys we had picked up and had to go to my friends fathers apartment (who had kicked her, her mother, and her little brother on their asses when she was only 11) to check in with him because her mother was out of town. Me and her boyfriend are told to wait in the car while we wait for him to get back from the bar.

After 20 minutes of waiting her father and his fiance they arrive and go into the apartment talk to my friend for 10 minutes then him, his son and stepson come out and get into the car, He starts it up and starts to drive off. Now I can smell the alchohal on his breath from the back seat and I have to ask his son what the hell was going on, he's taking us home. I pull out my phone to ask my friend what the hell was going on and I hear from him "Put the phone away, you are not talking to her, if you try to she won't even see you for the next week, do it again you'll never see her again" I'm just kinda sitting there thinking "What the hell is this asshole saying? He has no right to say this after he kicked her out 6 years ago".
He dropped off her boyfriend off first then me, when I get out of the car he looks at me and says "I expected better from you." That one statement pissed me off to no end and by that time I was sober upon walking to my door I flick him off and go inside and go to sleep. The next day I look at my phone and see my friend had called me at least 6 times that night, so I called her, this is the entire conversation:
"Hey, you called me?"
"Yeah, I have something to tell you..."
"What is it?"
"I don't know how to tell you this."
"Come on you can tell me"
"We can't hang out any more"
"Why not?!"
"All you care is, is the weed. You saw and heard I was unconfortable last night going to that dealer and then you flicked off my father when he was helping keep me out of trouble, now my entire family hates you and I don't think..." I hung up

I was completely stunned by this and decided I would talk to her at school, well upon getting there today this had been simmering for awhile, and I was pissed and depressed. Then a mutual friend tried to stop me and I obbiously wasn't in the mood to talk to any but one person, so I start to walk away from this girl and she yells "Patrick, you can't do this to your friends!" I stop and look at her and yell back "Tell that to Chelsea, because according to her you can just forget some one that thought of you as a sibling!" She replies with " You are an asshole for what you did to her any ways!" Then I just broke down and left school when I saw Chelsea. And now I just don't know what to do.

jeezus christ dude...so the dad smelt the bud on u and ur friend and thats why he took u home? and then he probally went home and beat/brainwashed ur friend...but either way this chick sounds like she cant be trusted if she just turned on u so easily...

Well it sounds to me like this chicks dad doesn't like pot, at all, and approves alcohol because it has been accepted in society. :rolleyes: Sad world ain;t it. It's "okay" to get pissed drunk and cause fights, but when it comes to pot, it is the worst thing in the world. Bullshit, I know.

There really isn't much you can do to change the minds of those brainwashed. I to have been a victim of this when I visited my buddies family out in this two bit hick town. They drank beer all day, smoked a pack of ciggs. a day, and drove drunk, but when I pulled out a joint to smoke, I was labeled a drug addict by them.

Once they have been told something and start to believe it, there is no changing their minds, I hate to say. They have been told and have had their minds filled with mindless propaganda. They are stubborn people who trust their government and what they tell them.

I don't really know what to tell you other than trying to explain to your friend the harmlessness behind cannabis, and tell her the dangers of alcohol and tobacco. Just inform her and try to talk sense into her.

As for that drunk father who left his family years ago, fuck him and his bullshit, and punch him in the nose next time to knock some sense into him.

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Originally Posted by hello3pat

I need some advice with one of my friends, she was my best friends until sunday morning when she said we couldn't any more, and now has some of my other friends calling me an asshole.

It started on saturday night with her and her boyfriend coming over to my house, to wait to go to RHPS, we sat around for a while playing my 360 then we decided to go smoke some pot. Got high, came back inside, and played some games again. Then we decided to go to her boyfriends house to get some more weed. Upon getting there we learned we would have to drive to his dealer's place to get some, my friend was driving at this time and te only thing she said was "I don't know" but kept on driving.We had to pick up two people for money purposes then we went got the weed came back dropped the two guys we had picked up and had to go to my friends fathers apartment (who had kicked her, her mother, and her little brother on their asses when she was only 11) to check in with him because her mother was out of town. Me and her boyfriend are told to wait in the car while we wait for him to get back from the bar.

After 20 minutes of waiting her father and his fiance they arrive and go into the apartment talk to my friend for 10 minutes then him, his son and stepson come out and get into the car, He starts it up and starts to drive off. Now I can smell the alchohal on his breath from the back seat and I have to ask his son what the hell was going on, he's taking us home. I pull out my phone to ask my friend what the hell was going on and I hear from him "Put the phone away, you are not talking to her, if you try to she won't even see you for the next week, do it again you'll never see her again" I'm just kinda sitting there thinking "What the hell is this asshole saying? He has no right to say this after he kicked her out 6 years ago".
He dropped off her boyfriend off first then me, when I get out of the car he looks at me and says "I expected better from you." That one statement pissed me off to no end and by that time I was sober upon walking to my door I flick him off and go inside and go to sleep. The next day I look at my phone and see my friend had called me at least 6 times that night, so I called her, this is the entire conversation:
"Hey, you called me?"
"Yeah, I have something to tell you..."
"What is it?"
"I don't know how to tell you this."
"Come on you can tell me"
"We can't hang out any more"
"Why not?!"
"All you care is, is the weed. You saw and heard I was unconfortable last night going to that dealer and then you flicked off my father when he was helping keep me out of trouble, now my entire family hates you and I don't think..." I hung up

I was completely stunned by this and decided I would talk to her at school, well upon getting there today this had been simmering for awhile, and I was pissed and depressed. Then a mutual friend tried to stop me and I obbiously wasn't in the mood to talk to any but one person, so I start to walk away from this girl and she yells "Patrick, you can't do this to your friends!" I stop and look at her and yell back "Tell that to Chelsea, because according to her you can just forget some one that thought of you as a sibling!" She replies with " You are an asshole for what you did to her any ways!" Then I just broke down and left school when I saw Chelsea. And now I just don't know what to do.

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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou

Well it sounds to me like this chicks dad doesn't like pot, at all, and approves alcohol because it has been accepted in society. :rolleyes: Sad world ain;t it. It's "okay" to get pissed drunk and cause fights, but when it comes to pot, it is the worst thing in the world. Bullshit, I know.

There really isn't much you can do to change the minds of those brainwashed. I to have been a victim of this when I visited my buddies family out in this two bit hick town. They drank beer all day, smoked a pack of ciggs. a day, and drove drunk, but when I pulled out a joint to smoke, I was labeled a drug addict by them.

Once they have been told something and start to believe it, there is no changing their minds, I hate to say. They have been told and have had their minds filled with mindless propaganda. They are stubborn people who trust their government and what they tell them.

I don't really know what to tell you other than trying to explain to your friend the harmlessness behind cannabis, and tell her the dangers of alcohol and tobacco. Just inform her and try to talk sense into her.

As for that drunk father who left his family years ago, fuck him and his bullshit, and punch him in the nose next time to knock some sense into him.

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2 things:
1) the father used to do cocain
2)My friend smokes too

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Originally Posted by hello3pat

2 things:
1) the father used to do cocain
2)My friend smokes too

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Oh, Missed that part about your friend, I apologize. :o

Maybe your friend is just being controlled by her father? I mean, you said she smokes too and now she's like, "Oh, I can't hang with you anymore" after the dad happens to find out.

Maybe right now isn't a good time to be puffing smoke around her. Maybe down the road she will realize what an asshole father she has, and make her own choices.

For the time being, I suggest you talk to her and not smoke cannabis around her anymore, just for now until she gets her head sorted out. Be friends with her still, but don't bring the cannabis around. Hang out, talk, whatever, and talk some reason into her.

Hope this helps somewhat, good luck. :)

She said she couldn't hang out with me anymore.

I see you put in that she did not want to drive to the dealers...

She is right and you are wrong for not reading her... She was in a car with a bunch of guys on a pot mission... She was probably scared to say it to you in any other way but "Well I don't know"

apologize to her and say you realize you screwed up and I will be a better friend...

i thought it was her boyfriends idea to go on the mission?...she stabbed u in the back...u thought she was ur friend and u could both blaze togetehr have a good time, and when shit hit the fan she folded and turned against u...its fucked up but its relality....

yea what's up with the boyfriend? i mean whether or not you did anything wrong the boyfriend is as much/more involved as you so why are you getting so much heat?