Gay marrige

first off, this is my first post in about five months...for that absence i apologize. i hope at least somebody remembers who i am....

ok, back to my point.
up until about a week ago, i couldnt be more for gay marrige in every aspect. but this past week in my child psycology class, we learned about how important it is to have both a mother and father in a childs life. Children who are forced to go through the death of a parent, or a brutal divorce suffer in more ways then the disolve of their family. there are crucial things, by nature, that a man or a woman provide for their child. Think back to when you were a kid, and you can pick out sertain aspects of this.

now what does this have to do with gay marrige?? well alot of gay couples want to adopt. And this is where i have a new problem. i dont think gay parents can physcologicly provide for a child. I now think that children have enough to cope with in there lifes, and this is a situation wher eyou have to think of the children.

I am all for gay couples recieving every single right that married couples recieve. But when it comes to adopting children, i feel there should be guidelines. There are situations that gay parents would uniquely come across...such as..."how come billy has a daddy and a mommy and i have two daddies"
guess what, the answer to that question can fuck a kid up!!!
Gay parents should be liscened. I know that sounds fucked up, but i think its true.

man...im fucked up tonight.

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Originally Posted by stangle12

first off, this is my first post in about five months...for that absence i apologize. i hope at least somebody remembers who i am....

ok, back to my point.
up until about a week ago, i couldnt be more for gay marrige in every aspect. but this past week in my child psycology class, we learned about how important it is to have both a mother and father in a childs life. Children who are forced to go through the death of a parent, or a brutal divorce suffer in more ways then the disolve of their family. there are crucial things, by nature, that a man or a woman provide for their child. Think back to when you were a kid, and you can pick out sertain aspects of this.

now what does this have to do with gay marrige?? well alot of gay couples want to adopt. And this is where i have a new problem. i dont think gay parents can physcologicly provide for a child. I now think that children have enough to cope with in there lifes, and this is a situation wher eyou have to think of the children.

I am all for gay couples recieving every single right that married couples recieve. But when it comes to adopting children, i feel there should be guidelines. There are situations that gay parents would uniquely come across...such as..."how come billy has a daddy and a mommy and i have two daddies"
guess what, the answer to that question can fuck a kid up!!!
Gay parents should be liscened. I know that sounds fucked up, but i think its true.

man...im fucked up tonight.

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Fuck yeah i rember you, I have to sign off now, but I will read this thread tomorrow, all I got to say for now is WELCOME BACK!!! I use to love reading your post, you crack me up big time lol, but ya cya alater! keep postin again! and I wuill read this thread fully later :)

i dunno man, if they want to adopt, thats their choice. also, i dont think it can fuck them up, theyd be used to having two dads/moms and find it completely normal. most children are very understanding of this. it doesnt matter if you have a mom and dad or two moms or dads, its the parenting that they do that makes the kid who they are.

also, i guess i joined after you left, so hey man whats up? looking forward to seeing more of you in the future

There are enough unloved children in this world.

I would much rather see a child with two parents of the same sex than with none at all.

yeah i get what your saying, a child growing up with out a mother can really crush them in their future. people like dhamer and gacy were neglected by a parent and eventually it just makes you snap.

Yeah I think I was new but I remember your crazy avatar.
I doubt having both parents the same gender can really mess the person up. Having two parents of the same gender should be just as normal as having a mother and a father. Its not like the kids will live a life that will be completely shut out from the world, they'll eventually learn what its like to be a 'boy' or a 'girl'.
Yeah they'll ask why I have two daddys and he has a mom and dad. It'll be like asking why am I white and why is he black. Its just a part of life, part of evolution or genetics. The world has a million things going on in it so being concerned about a gay parents can really mess up a child as much as you say.

Dude, I was raised by my mom and grandmother. The absense of a full time father hasn't caused much damage to me. I may not be able to change my oil, but I turned out alright. Two women for me did a fine job. Isn't it better for a child to grow up in a gay home than an orpanage (sp). Come on, there are to many children with no where to go. And two parent, male/female homes aren't alway's healthy enviornments.

Hey, Stangle. Welcome back. I'm not sure we ever talked five months or more ago, but I remember your avatar and am glad you're back with us.

Im fairly well convinced that licensing of gay parents would be unfair because, frankly, I've seen far more opposite-sex straight people mess up their kids than gay adoptive couples ever have. I know three gay couples with children, and in comparison to the proportionally larger number of straight ones with either adopted or body-borne kids that I know, the gay parents win the well-adjusted-kids contest hands down.

Any sort of couple can provide balance to a child. In two-parent hetero marriages, the mom and dad complement each other. One might be more nuturing and softly affectionate whereas the other might be more rambuctious and energetic. The kid benefits from those complementary differences. But I maintain that all couples have those differences, straight or gay. Look at any gay couple and see which partner has the more feminine tendencies, and you can see those differences even before kids come into the picture.
It's the balance of two complementary, in-residence, loving, psychologically healthy parents that gives kids a nice double-anchor, and two-parent families also have a financial advantage. Most of the research on this subject validates the fact that gay parents are just as good at parenting well-adjusted children, if not better, than straight ones. I personally believe that a loving gay couple who strongly wants children may be superior in lots of ways. I think adoptive parents in general, gay or straight, often have an edge on the breeders simply because they actively, consciously desire children and have to overcome several more obstacles in order to build a family. Some of us breeders actively, consciously desired children, too, but too many others do not. Anyway, I vote no licensing unless everyone has to pass the same licensing restrictions.

Maybe the true test ought to be an obstacle course. Then the folks who win, showing the strongest determination to overcome obstacles to have a family, can undergo a series of screening checks. Then, once they clear both the obstacle course and the screens, they can go procreate or adopt, whichever they choose.

I remember you,sup???

I would not touch this topic with a ten foot pole...

Skink, you brought back the original Skink avatar I first knew you with!! Good to see the "Skinkzard" again.