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does she have to cum???...and how long should it go for its gunna be her first time...i wanna make it special....how long at least should i last....is it hard or does time fly by quick for her....lol im not a virgin but the only time i fucked was wen i was drunk....help???!?!
If you possibly can, make sure you do a lot of petting and stuff before you even get into the sexual situation--and do that lots of times. Again, do this on several episodes before you even get in the situation where you're going to have intercourse.. Make sure she can come successfully through petting (with your hand) before you set your expectations on her having an orgasm during your first time.Quote:
Originally Posted by Devin Sticky Bud
It takes girls/women a good bit longer to get to where sex works for them. And the truth is, most girls don't come the first time they have sex. Lots don't come until they've been at it for a few years. Three-quarters of women don't have orgasms from intercourse at all. So petting/forplay is the key for most of us.
That means keep your expectations of her performance low. Either she'll be aroused when you use the hand technique and there'll be a good chance she came come that way, both before and when the occasion arrives that you'll also have intercourse. Or she won't. It depends on how well she already knows her body and how much she's experimented before you and by herself. Let's hope she's comfortable masturbating and already knows her own sexual response.
You got some good advice up there to make sure you fire one out of the barrel yourself before you go into action with her. It'll keep you from being quite so torqued. Control it with your mind. My husband says thinking about algebraic equations (he's a scientist!) helps slow him down if she starts to feel like he might come too soon. But it may also take you some time and experience, too, to get good at lasting longer. And wear a condom, which'll not only help you be safe but slow you down.
Good luck!
P.S. Believe it if a girl tells you, "It's OK. I don't have to come everytime." We generally don't come every single time, but that doesn't still make it a fun experience. We tend to like the closeness and connection as much as the other.
I always wanted a girl that thinks about algabraic equations during sex. What's your secret, Birdgirl?
I'm not the one who thinks about those. It's what my husband says he did when he was young and felt like things were happening too fast!
Funny. Nope, I couldn't think about algebra even if I wanted to. I'm too bad at math. I guess if I needed a slow-down tool, I'd have to think about diagramming sentences. As it is, I'd probably benefit more from a speed-up tool!
Just take a good look at a blank crossword puzzle before you lay down for sex.
excellent advice bird girl...
girls dont HAVE to cum during intercourse. Some just dont orgasm that way. But I've never heard of a girl not orgasming from clitoral stimuli. So if she doesn't cum from straight bangin, get creative and use your fingers on her clit WHILE your bangin.
It's good advice to get her to cum before you even start having sex.
if a girl im plowing dont finish
i feel like a failure
it is very important to satisfy a female in bed
you can tell when theyve had enough
and you can also tell when they havnt
if shes still talking when your done your doing something wrong
she should be asleep or real real quiet and have a blank look in her eye
One thing to understand about men and women when it comes to sex.
Men seek to end their pleasure or get to the point, or orgasm. Or if you imagine a graph with a 45 degree ramp up with a sharp drop off.
Women seek more to extend their pleasure, much like a graph with a slow ramp-up, then a plateau with variable spikes then a gradual decline.
The majority of the sex response nerves are on the outside and terminate and intertwine in points in the g-spot and epicenter.
So the most sensitive nerve endings are all around the entire outside of the vulva and dooby. Ive heard some women say the inside feeling is one of being "filled up". So the outside is important.
If an orgasm for her doesnt happen dont push the issue. Sometimes its just not there but doesnt mean she isnt recieving pleasure. Dont let your ego be hurt if its not there to be. But realize if its not there one day, it might be on another.
Sometimes she will want foreplay, and other times want to go right to it and skip it.
Her moods and ability to have it are like an electrical sine wave, waxing and waning as opposed to a guy, who is like a linear line, (you most always want sex).
This is the difference in having several fluctuating hormones as opposed to two in a guy which are fairly constant. It is also based on emotional sexual tension in her that comes from you.
I can also think of at least 10 emotional reasons or minds states where she wants sex. So it a combination of things that come together at once.
Never neglect building emotional sexual tension over several days when there is no sex going on. There will come a point when that tension will need to be released to the one who created it.
If your going for foreplay play attention to her errogenous zones:
1. Front and back of neck.
2. Insides of arms.
3. Triangle of back.
4. Back of knees.
5. Sides of thighs.
6. Inner thighs.
7. Undersides of breasts.
Of course there are more or different combinations a woman likes, these are popular errogenous zones.
The idea is to use a light touch with a paper thin gap with long strokes and mix it up:
1,4,6,2,1,5,2,7 start again and mix it up. I didnt mention the obvious for a reason and that is because she warms up slower than you. Spend some time doing this. It varies from girl to girl, 20 to 30 minutes or so.
Then move on to the obvious with combinations of fingers, tongue and lips.
Fingers first, if you sit behind her and stradle her and have her lean back into you it might be the easiest position to work the hands so its not awkward.
Then you can draw up her juices with your fingers to her dooby and rub back and fourth. Not too hard though.
Do it again and mix up the motions, side to side, and up and down. Maybe some light pats and gently pushing down, while pulling up simultaneously on the area above her dooby with slight pressure to bring the dooby outside momentarily. Mix up all these motions in a rythym.
Now go down on her.
Start licking, sucking and tugging with your lips on the entire area.
Insert two fingers about 2 inches or so till you feel the area on the top known as the g-spot.
Use the come-hither motion with the fingers while simultaneously licking.
Side to side and long up-licks while curling the tongue length-wise to wrap around her dooby. lol. Then put your entire mouth simultaneously on the whole area while her doobie is cradled in your tongue and do some small movements of the tongue at the time.
check the web: (strap on tongue vibrator). Well worth 40 bucks.
Try the strap on tongue vibrator simultaneously with the come hither motions.<<<<Hard for me to believe doing both of these simultaneously wont have her squishing your head with her thighs and bucking her hips.
Give her some time. Again it varies. 30-40 minutes or so.
Then move on to: The three-point method.
When it comes to giving her an orgasm via intercourse, the three-point method works well provided an orgasm can be had and the mood and tension is right. (see fairly recent post under "why dont girls have lots of orgasms") thread for explanation.
She needs to be on top and in control here. Let her have her wild ride.
Every guy should learn this one to stimulate all three areas:
The dooby, the g-spot and the epicenter all at the same time while she is on top controlling the motion with a rocking back and fourth motion with the hips as opposed to up and down motions. Details to this are important so read it.
Thats putting her first.
Now you can go for missonary or doggie or whatever for you.
Good luck.