cigarettes

my girlfriend smokes cigs, i dont. she has for a long while, im not sure how long. a couple times, especially when we first started dating, 11 months ago, she told me she had stopped, when really, she hadnt. then finally, she told me she stopped for good, and a couple months back, she told me that she had been smoking, on a pretty regular basis. this crushed me, but didnt do anything to hurt our relationship. since then, i asked her to slow down, and she has, but its been down to 1-3 cigarettes most days. i dont think she was ever a heavy smoker, but still. having said this, she respects my wishes, and has never smoked around me, and doesnt smoke if she is going to see me that day.

i just hate the fact that its hurting her, and we both know it, and theres nothing i can do about it. ive talked it over with her so many times, its crazy, but it doesnt work. i cant think of anything else to get her to stop. she says she's tried, but cant.

its just killing me that she keeps hurting herself, and i cant do anything about it. anyone got any advice?

just say you really want her to stop and then say 'do it for me' and if not start saying things like do it if you love me then say 'if you dont stop ill leave you' but dont really just say it an see if it works just say....

Me or the cigs, choose

Please don't try to make her choose Cig's over you. I know what its like to be addicted to the fuckers, and when you REALLY want one you'll try to sneak one, even if this means you'll hurt those close to you. I suggest you get her that chewing gum stuff, and mybe make her put her Cig butts in a jar full of water, everytime she craves one, make her smell the jar, it'll throw her right off.

let her smoke if she wants to like set a 5 a day MAX or somthing then 2 weeks later a 3 a day MAX. The problem is worrying, humans have incredibal capabilities. Those include healing..

Ha, incredibal capabilities? yeah right, like what? war? murder? pollution? evil? rape? cancer?

We are fucking idiots. Simple.

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Originally Posted by CrAzYpOtHeAd

Please don't try to make her choose Cig's over you. I know what its like to be addicted to the fuckers, and when you REALLY want one you'll try to sneak one, even if this means you'll hurt those close to you. I suggest you get her that chewing gum stuff, and mybe make her put her Cig butts in a jar full of water, everytime she craves one, make her smell the jar, it'll throw her right off.

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I agree with you.I hate the smell of ashtrays and cant have one near me if I am not smoking so maybe I should use this to help me give up :thumbsup: :cool:

Miss.Smoker should in my opinion KICK U 2 THE CURB.

If that is all you have in your fibble life to worry about GOD HELP US ALL.

You have to decide if you want to be with a smoker cigs for the rest of your life. What if she can never quit? Are you planning to have children with her? Smoking cigs is a vasoconstrictor, mj is a vasodilator. Children whose mothers smoke have more respiratory problems and are born smaller. This is a life decision.

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Originally Posted by Gen

You have to decide if you want to be with a smoker cigs for the rest of your life. What if she can never quit? Are you planning to have children with her? Smoking cigs is a vasoconstrictor, mj is a vasodilator. Children whose mothers smoke have more respiratory problems and are born smaller. This is a life decision.

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Yeah, thats if she smoke's while she's pregnant.

you cant do anything about this, it's up to her