Dating: Blockers and Helpers

Guys do you know the difference between a Blocker and a helper when it comes to dating?

Whats a Blocker? Dont look for the dating experts to talk about this and all the other things they leave out in their talk shows, articles and books. They never tell you the reality of what a man REALLY goes through when dating.

Here some of these experts go and ask a bunch of women "What do you want from a man"? Then they tell us this information through all of the media outlets. I could have done that. The problem is when you deal with women from a womans point of view of what she wants, it doesnt work. Ask all these love doctors why the divorce rate is so high. They've had 10 years to make it right. What they are telling you to do doesnt work. Some of their stuff is good though. But it leaves a whole lot out, or it WILL get you into trouble.

I love success stories. When a friend gets a raise or meets a new girl Im sincerely happy for the guy. But you know what guys? The rest of the world isnt like me. Its hard for me to believe that there are people who don't want anyone else getting ahead or lucky. In fact many people just love it when someone else strikes out, takes a fall, is in pain, or is down and out. Some will even try to prevent you from being happy if they get the chance.

I call these negative beings blockers.

If I never pointed out what a blocker is and how he really helps you in dating how would you know?

So what is a Blocker? Here's an example of a blocker.

Your at a night club or similiar social gathering. The girl you meet there is not dating anyone there and is only socializing or dancing with you. She goes to the restroom for a spell. While she is gone a 240lb. linebacker comes up to you and says, "Your dancing with one of our women". From this you know that this particular guy has most likely failed in his attempts at this particular woman. His thinking is, "If I can't have her, no guy will".

Ape man is a blocker.

You guys already know what Im talking about right? It is the same when a blocker starts a rumor that you are gay or something similar to make sure that it gets back to the girl. The insecurity is the same, just different circumstances. It is the blockers INTENTIONS that is his undoing.

Blockers help you do you know that? In her mind she thinks, "Why is that guy (blocker) jealous of you"? This actually raises her INTEREST LEVEL IN YOU. Now how come the mars and venus guy forgets to mention this important FACT when dealing with other men and women in social settings?

You see blocker did you a favor without knowing it, he planted a seed in the head of the girl that works to your advantage.
Most guys get uptight and want to clobber the blocker, DON'T!, remember 240lbs!......might need something else!!

Seriously though, if your a man who can resist showing jealousy or possesiveness or REACTION through SELF-CONTROL it really does work to your advantage, she sees your SELF-CONTROL in this social setting as a positive real male strength trait in a man. The blocker would actually love it if you lost your SELF-CONTROL because this is his game. He knows instinctevely that if he can draw you into any type of fight, verbal or other wise it will work to his advantage.

Isnt SELF-CONTROL, comprised of patience and disipline one third of what she is looking for in a man when it comes to attraction?

Blockers hate to see CONFIDENCE in another man. Do you know that is the very reason most guys get into fights? When you put women, men and alcohol in a social setting you will see this happen. Trust me. If I can walk into a night club alone and guys want to pick a fight with me right off the bat with "shoulder checks", rumors etc. what does that really tell you? You, just minding your business are now being confronted or imtimidated by doing nothing at all. I know that most men have already experienced a blocker at one point or another, or they were one themselves at some point.

The helper on the other hand is a guy with honesty and integrity. He does not see you as a threat or a rival. These guys are happy to help you get the girl and see you happy, they want to help you but sometimes just dont have the right answers to help you succeed, but its their intention that counts.
Theres probably 6 of these guys on the planet!!