Dread...

This is an unloading...if you dont want to read or reply, thats fine, Im posting this more to unload a little, dont mind me...

Im resigning as manager of my shop the day after tomorrow. I feel as though Ive done a less than satisfactory job as a manager; I feel as though I checked out from the job at least a month ago; and I feel like a complete failure.

The job requires 40 hours a week. Most think thats nothing.
Not me.
^^^There's one reason I wish to resign as manager.
I feel like a lazy ass. I am a lazy ass. But I like to make my money working hard for 3-4 days, than dragging it out over five. Maybe I'm being bratty.

The job requires me to deal with customer complaints. Obvious managerial duty.
I, for the most part, am a people pleaser and have excellent customer service (which, unfortunately, took me years to skill), and am quite good at problem-solving, however...its the irate ones. The complete dickheads who have no interest in resolution, who just want to scream and yell, throw tantrums, and I have to STILL try to please them despite their atrocious behavior. It's them. Them alone that make me HATE customer complaints.
I just dont care. I have come to a point where I just dont care about their problems. I dont really care to try to fix 'em either.

The job requires me to cover shifts and deal with employees.
I knew this going in. I must be a special kind of "dumb" accepting this postition.
For this past year I have had every employee's problems on my brain - constantly. I hardly give my own problems much thought, why would I want a job that forces me to be concerned with everyone's problems? Where everyone's problems will affect me to some degree in a negative way? I gotta cover this shift because so-and-so's child blah blah blah! I have to work 75 hrs a week this month because 2 girls went on vacation at the same time and both threatened to quit if I said they couldn't go, so I had to buckle because we're so understaffed and I cant afford to lose them!!!
And because we are so understaffed my...words...mean...nothing. I can threaten to write up an employee if they're late, sure. Does it scare them into coming in on time? Nope. Cuz will they be fired? Nope. That just means more work for me! Its like the parent who counts to 3 and spanks verses the one who counts to 3, and then its 9 1/2, 9 3/4, 'til finally 10, and then!...nothing. The kid just looks at her and laughs cuz he knows his mom doesnt believe in spanking.
Damn manipulative brat.

I guess I just dont care anymore. When I get off work I want my brain to be off work too. I want the worry gone. I want to go home and know Im doing what Im supposed to be doing - loving and caring for my family and myself. To be completely devoted. Then when I go to work, my mind is only on work. And still be completely devoted to my career.

The 2 have meshed together. When Im at work I just wish I were home, and when Im home all I think about is work!

*phone rings*

What was written above was written about 2 hours ago, before a phone call interupted me. I had intended on ending my little vent with "because Im a lazy ass who sucks as a manager I am stepping down."
But...
After a long talk with my good girlfriend who is in the same field as I, I have decided that it would be best to give my 2 weeks notice and find another shop to work in that is fully staffed. My friend was in a similar situation as I, and she stepped down from her manager position...however, once she stepped down she had to do manager duties on reg pay until a new manager was found. I know this will happen to me. Given the current circumstances with being understaffed, there is no other way. I may be taking the cowards way out, I may lack loyalty, I may be being a brat. But I'm unhappy. All signs point in another direction, and being stubborn and/or stagnant now feels completely wrong.


Opinions are welcome, and thanks to those who took the time to read/care. :)

Leaving the security of our jobs is one of the most difficult things that we do. I assume that you've talked it over with hubby and he is OK with your decision. You probably feel like a failure, but in fact, you're probably pleasing your employer, because somebody's gotta do this stressfull and thank-less job.

More and more employers intentionally put their people in very difficult positions, without any reguard for their health (stress) or work-life balance. Another shop might be better, and is worth a shot. If not, then reevaluate your situation again. People with skills, like yourself, will always be able to find employment.

(Just an aside: people that have jobs like this should be required to smoke weed when working).

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Originally Posted by DonnieDarko

(Just an aside: people that have jobs like this should be required to smoke weed when working).

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I second that notionâ?¦..(can you imagine.)

Noâ?¦.youâ??re not being a brat. Look, I am a big believer in loyalty and I believe that one should give 110% while your on the job. But it sounds like your Co. is not taking care of you the way they should.

You guys should have told those two bitches to fuck offâ?¦â?¦. They are employees. They knew it would put the people they work with through hardship but they didnâ??t care. Iâ??ve worked at many places that made it clear that individuals could not take vacations at the same time.

They only threaded to quit so they could get what they wantedâ?¦.. you should have saidâ?¦..OK, which one of you/or both is quitting.

You figure one way or the other youâ??re going to be with out 2 employees for the next two weeks. You can either spend those two weeks replacing them or waiting for their sorry asses to come back from â??vacationâ?�â?¦.. fuck them.

They canâ??t file for unemployment if they quit over shit like thatâ?¦â?¦ :)

Take care of YOUâ?¦.Just go to work do your 8 the best you canâ?¦and try to have some funâ?¦and donâ??t sweat the dick heads.

If you play your cards right you may be able to get a raise or a promotion out of this.

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Originally Posted by DonnieDarko

I assume that you've talked it over with hubby and he is OK with your decision.

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Yeah, he is really supportive of my leaving this shop. He's actually been trying to get me to change shops because he thinks I dont get paid enough for the amount of work.
So he is quite happy that I finally came around, lol.

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More and more employers intentionally put their people in very difficult positions, without any reguard for their health (stress) or work-life balance. Another shop might be better, and is worth a shot. If not, then reevaluate your situation again. People with skills, like yourself, will always be able to find employment.

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I plan to do exactly that, Donnie. :) I know that my happiness and well-being is most important...its just its so easy to get comfortable and continue to try and deal with being over-stressed cuz at least thats predictable, you know? I know its completely wrong to stay somewhere that you're not happy out of a fear of change, but I figure, hey! At least Im not deciding to leave after several years of this misery down the road.

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(Just an aside: people that have jobs like this should be required to smoke weed when working).

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haha, I so would smoke weed before going to work if I actually enjoyed being high at work. Ive tried it many times over the years (sporadically), and generally I just get real paranoid, hungry, thirsty, and dimwitted. The high's not worth trying to cover up the negative side-effects. Maybe Ive just never had the right daytime smoke, though, lol.

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Originally Posted by likemclever

You guys should have told those two bitches to fuck offâ?¦â?¦. They are employees. They knew it would put the people they work with through hardship but they didnâ??t care. Iâ??ve worked at many places that made it clear that individuals could not take vacations at the same time.
They only threaded to quit so they could get what they wantedâ?¦.. you should have saidâ?¦..OK, which one of you/or both is quitting.

You figure one way or the other youâ??re going to be with out 2 employees for the next two weeks. You can either spend those two weeks replacing them or waiting for their sorry asses to come back from â??vacationâ?�â?¦.. fuck them.

They canâ??t file for unemployment if they quit over shit like thatâ?¦â?¦

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If they had been complete bitches about it, I would have fired them, but both made it like "we already paid for the tickets, omg I can't cancel my trip now, blah blah blah." Very nice, but very much like "if you really push it, Im just going to quit. I can easily find another shop." Thats the unfortunate aspect of this business. We stylists are flakey and there's always someone willing to hire us! But anyway, given that Ive been trying to hire for quite some time now with little luck, I figured it would be better for me to just let it go, that way I would only be working a lot of hours for a month instead of an indefinite amount of time.
Trust me, I really wanted to lay down the law, and not put up with the shit, but I dont believe it would have been beneficial for me to do that given the current circumstances.

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Take care of YOUâ?¦.Just go to work do your 8 the best you canâ?¦and try to have some funâ?¦and donâ??t sweat the dick heads.

If you play your cards right you may be able to get a raise or a promotion out of this.

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Thanks, likemclever. :) I did give my 2 weeks today, my supervisor was actually pretty cool about it, she tried to convince me to stay by offering manager commission pay even if I went to part time, and I told her I would think about it...but I already decided that a change in shops is the best choice for me.

Huge weight off my shoulders now.

Now I just have to get through these 2 weeks, lol.


Thanks for taking the time to read and reply, guys. I very much appreciate your input. :)

Hey Ousted,

Every time somebody posts a thread in the Cafe Lounge I seem to be in the same position, or have been recently.

Here's my situation....

I'm out of work right now. I quit my job just over a week ago. I too felt ldike I was taking the cowards way out, and that's probably what some people think about me too, but after loooooooong discussions with friends and family i've come to realise that sometimes, well, you gotta do what you gotta do.

I work in the parts department in the biggest garage in the island. I know nthing about mechanics, don't even care about mechanics, but I needed a job quick so I took it. Immediately it was a high-stress job, and in a high-stress environment. I found myself not knowing what to do most of the time, but there was nobody to show me what to do because everybody was busy literally all of the time.

So, not wanting to look like I was sitting around doing fuck all, I occupied my time by doing things like answering the phones, making coffees, etc, all the time having to teach myself the job because still nobody would take the time to show me what to do... they just kept promising that my training would start soon. I learnt more and more aspects of the job by watching the other guys and listening, and after just a few weeks I was as efficient on the EPCs (the software they use) and the other programs as some of the guys who had been working there for years.

Eventually one of the guys offered to start training me, showing me the ropes, but everything he tried to show me I had already taught myself. So do you know what he did? He got pissed off and told me to sweep the floor for answering him back! I was so shocked, and so were some of the other guys who were there so they had to basically tell him to shut the fuck up. Over the course of the next couple of months this guy went on a major power trip (he was pissed off at me from that day on and I still don't know why) and tried to make me sweep the floor every day, make him (and only him) a coffee every day, run to the shop for him, and do all the jobs he didn't want to do. He would refuse to train me or help me until I did what he told me.

Eventually some of the other guys noticed what he was doing, and they had a word with him and told him to back off, but he didn't. He would make complaints about me for no reason, complain at me for not doing my work when I had already finished it and he had been sitting down doing fuck all all day, and basically treated me like shit.

This might be expected from some people... and I would have stuck it out if it hadn't been the money. I didn't get told what my wages were gonna be until after I started the job, and then I found out that my wages were £1.50 per hour less than minimum wage. I pointed that out to my supervisor, who said that they didn't know there was a minimum wage, and said he'd pass it on, but apparantly the company couldn't do anything about it because I was still on my probationary period. So, I handed in my two weeks notice. My supervisor pretty much begged me to stay, and promised that he'd get this other guy to leave me alone and let me get on with my job, and promised that he'd sort out my wages...... I agreed to stay, the guy still treated me like shit, my money stayed the same, and then to top it all off the Area Manager called me into his office and threatened to fire me if I didn't pull myself together and put some effort into the job! I went from basically being bullied, stressed out all the time, exhausted all the time, and wantign to quit because I was still broke all the time, to not putting in enoughh effort and being threatened to be fired! lol Basically, I walked out of his office and never went back.. I would have told him to suck my dick but I restrained myself.

Anyway, sorry for the long ass rant, I always seem to type forhours in the Cafe Lounge... my point is, alot of the time companies don't give a shit about their employees, no matter how much they say they do. If you're really unhappy in the job then leave, find something better. It's that simple (I hope).

:)

I am thinking of looking for another job too, it is seriously diffuicult though considering the industry I have been in for two years. I don't know shit about writing a resume. Maybe I should cry for help on these boards.

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Originally Posted by GHoSToKeR

Hey Ousted,

Every time somebody posts a thread in the Cafe Lounge I seem to be in the same position, or have been recently.

Here's my situation....

I'm out of work right now. I quit my job just over a week ago. I too felt ldike I was taking the cowards way out, and that's probably what some people think about me too, but after loooooooong discussions with friends and family i've come to realise that sometimes, well, you gotta do what you gotta do.

I work in the parts department in the biggest garage in the island. I know nthing about mechanics, don't even care about mechanics, but I needed a job quick so I took it. Immediately it was a high-stress job, and in a high-stress environment. I found myself not knowing what to do most of the time, but there was nobody to show me what to do because everybody was busy literally all of the time.

So, not wanting to look like I was sitting around doing fuck all, I occupied my time by doing things like answering the phones, making coffees, etc, all the time having to teach myself the job because still nobody would take the time to show me what to do... they just kept promising that my training would start soon. I learnt more and more aspects of the job by watching the other guys and listening, and after just a few weeks I was as efficient on the EPCs (the software they use) and the other programs as some of the guys who had been working there for years.

Eventually one of the guys offered to start training me, showing me the ropes, but everything he tried to show me I had already taught myself. So do you know what he did? He got pissed off and told me to sweep the floor for answering him back! I was so shocked, and so were some of the other guys who were there so they had to basically tell him to shut the fuck up. Over the course of the next couple of months this guy went on a major power trip (he was pissed off at me from that day on and I still don't know why) and tried to make me sweep the floor every day, make him (and only him) a coffee every day, run to the shop for him, and do all the jobs he didn't want to do. He would refuse to train me or help me until I did what he told me.

Eventually some of the other guys noticed what he was doing, and they had a word with him and told him to back off, but he didn't. He would make complaints about me for no reason, complain at me for not doing my work when I had already finished it and he had been sitting down doing fuck all all day, and basically treated me like shit.

This might be expected from some people... and I would have stuck it out if it hadn't been the money. I didn't get told what my wages were gonna be until after I started the job, and then I found out that my wages were £1.50 per hour less than minimum wage. I pointed that out to my supervisor, who said that they didn't know there was a minimum wage, and said he'd pass it on, but apparantly the company couldn't do anything about it because I was still on my probationary period. So, I handed in my two weeks notice. My supervisor pretty much begged me to stay, and promised that he'd get this other guy to leave me alone and let me get on with my job, and promised that he'd sort out my wages...... I agreed to stay, the guy still treated me like shit, my money stayed the same, and then to top it all off the Area Manager called me into his office and threatened to fire me if I didn't pull myself together and put some effort into the job! I went from basically being bullied, stressed out all the time, exhausted all the time, and wantign to quit because I was still broke all the time, to not putting in enoughh effort and being threatened to be fired! lol Basically, I walked out of his office and never went back.. I would have told him to suck my dick but I restrained myself.

Anyway, sorry for the long ass rant, I always seem to type forhours in the Cafe Lounge... my point is, alot of the time companies don't give a shit about their employees, no matter how much they say they do. If you're really unhappy in the job then leave, find something better. It's that simple (I hope).

:)

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I've been in job situations like that before. Its much worse when you have a difficult coworker/boss that you feel hates your guts than just being unhappy with the job in general, I believe. When people show such strong dislike or cruelty, I dont think they are aware of the impact it has on people. I would much rather be in a dead-end job surrounded by people that care about me, than a fullfilling job where people or a person treated me like a piece of garbage on a daily basis.
Its good you left that situation. There's other jobs out there and new friends to be made, there's absolutely no reason to settle for being miserable. So good for you, Ghost! :)

Thanks! :)

So what happened? Did you quit after all?

I did, I put in my 2 weeks, and my supervisor was really cool about it. I was concerned about disappointing/frustrating her, but she seems as though she's on top of things and was understanding about it, so that was a huge relief.
However, I realize that once you've put in your 2 weeks, its very difficult to put much effort into the job anymore. Pretty shitty on my part, but I know Ive been half-assing things so far...
I appreciate your interest, though, ghost, and I'll keep you all updated about my future. :)