y cant i pm a mod

it says restricted

It is being worked on. See this thread. For now, you can email one of the mods who have their email listed in the Sticky at the top of this forum.

I don't want to come across as a wise guy, but people who have been around for a few months (or more), and apparently like this site, should consider being a cafe member.

Not only can you PM a mod, and other cafe members, but you will be supporting the site.