Some thoughts on "opting out"

A good friend of mine decided to end his life yesterday, and I thought comments here would be relevent.

The phrase "a permanent solution to a temporary problem" comes to mind; there's nothing one can go through that can't be made manageable through help from others and a moment or two of thinking about how it can be worked out. Suicide isn't a solution, it's the start of a whole new set of problems for the people you leave behind.

In view of the fact that our lives can be terribly challenging, and that some here, as in all other walks of life experience periods of instability and doubt, I'd like to urge anyone who'd consider such an alternative to at least give your friends and family a chance to help.

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So sorry to hear you lost a friend 42.

sorry to hear about your friend man, iv had close people life long friends, die round me these last years, mainly due to drugs, heroin or as with your case life gets 2 much, its heavy, iv been told im blessed, im strong in matters like that i can shrug it off but others r not so lucky life engulfs them and strangles the life out of the person untill the only alternative in there minds is 2 take there life.
i dont bleieve in god,sorry, but i do believe in some sort off higher power and hopefully ur friend is up there chillin out.
nice thought.

sorry bout your friend dude it sucks that there is so much money spent on ways to end lives [ bombs / wars ect. ] but so little spent on prolonging life and helping out those who are having a hard time dealing with thier problems we buried my best friend about 10 -11 yrs ago he had been a truly unhappy person most of his life and when he got clean his problems seemed to just over whelm him he checked out on his 28th bday after 6 months of clean time he did his last shot and went on to the next place we miss him still to this day but i really believe in my heart that he is in a better place and happier than he would be if he was still with us im sorry for your loss but like the saying goes only the good die young so im pretty sure i'll be around for quite a while

sorry man i dunno wt makes ppl do it but some ppl think lifes too hard to live.

all the best from one 42 to another 42

(((((42))))) Sorry to hear about your loss. I have never lost any friends or family to suicide but know a kid, who is 14 years old, who has attempted to kill himself about 4 months ago by slitting his wrist. He moved away from my neighborhood that same week. I wanted to speak with him before he moved away but didn't get the chance to. I know his mother found out about him slitting his wrist but she got upset about it and told him next time, she's going to take him to see a doctor. I couldn't believe her response. NEXT TIME? Wow.

Sorry about your friend 42. This girl at school tried to kill herself this year but her brother found her and she's still not doin too good. You're totally right though, all it does is leave a painful mess for his family.

Sincerest thanks for all the comforting comments.

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A friend of mine just lost a relation who decided to commit suicide also. I think we all know how the loss of a family member or friend can effect us; so in some ways suicide may be considered the selfish way out. But I think that the people who choose to commit suicide will have decided, in alot of circumstances, that ending their own life is the only way to cope - when somebody has reached that point I don't think rationality and selflessness are a major part of their thought processes. For them, suicide is the greatest relief and the last resort... maybe even a new beginning.

I'm sorry about your loss also, 4252. It should go without saying that if you ever need somewhere to come and chill and even occasionally 'escape', then this is the place. :)

Suicide sucks, I mean I'm sure alot of us here have thought about it at one time or another, I sure know I have. Most people who try to kill themselves are just trying to get attention. The ones who usually succeed are the people who really don't want to be alive anymore.

Oh well we all die someday. So does it really matter if its sooner or later? I personally want to die someday, hopefull after having seen alot of cool stuff and experianced all that life has to offer me. I mean what if there isn't anything after this life? What if all of the Chirtians and Hindu's and Buhdists and everyone are completly and utterly wrong. Well then I want to have fun while I can and not take anything too seriously. Well thats just my philosophy.

Try not to worry too much 42 because in the end we all mean just as much in the universe: nothin.