For those 35 to say 45 years old

I am 40 and recently I have been questioning where I was at, where I am and where I am going. I know it is middle age but I wonder if I should be doing more with my life.

It is not like I think I am a screw-off, but I am starting to realize life is very short. I mean look at the death notices in the paper. Some young, some old and your entire life is written up in 3 paragraphs that no one really gives a crap about.

So I feel like I am at a cross-road but don't know which way to go. Or for that matter, where each road goes.

Maybe I just had a crappy day or need to get laid. LOL. Anyway, anyone else in my age bracket know what I mean?

I'm 42 and I have to tell you..it's still hard for me to know what decision to make sometime....plus my wife and my daughter's well being comfort and security..

I've been given some options in work/career issues, whether or not be in a more sales/pr position as opposed to a technician..(I've made money both ways) mostly high tech corporations...

one thing for sure Im glad I gave up drinking.... :D

Looker,

I have two kids and that's what I am talking about. It's tough. I hope the young ones on the site take notice. They are sitting back fat dumb and happy saying: "Listen to those old shit's"

Little do they know that the light up ahead is a train.

I fell down pretty bad but I have come back nicely....I also got very lucky in some areas..

Theres a part of me that says dont be too high profile cause your more visible and therefore more easily knocked off...

The other side says be high profile make a bundle quick and get out fast..before you get knocked off :D

Yes. I had to make a change when I got home from another 70+ hour work week and sat down at the table with two dozen bills and mortgages on three homes...what the fuck am I doing collecting cars, houses, and bottles of wine I really don't like?
Time starts to fly by when you close in on 40. So we sold a lot of stuff including our main house, cashed in a lot of stocks, and moved to the hills.
You can always go back to the rat race, but you can never get back missed experiences. I spent today at a lake with my 4-year-old and her best friend. To paraphrase John Irving's "World According to Garp": Life is short, so you have to fill it with as much adventure as possible.

shit..... i have about 6 kids and 2 step kids and am near 50 which is past halfway life is a illusion one minute your 21 the next your 50 and the time has vanished

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Originally Posted by 9ski9

Yes. I had to make a change when I got home from another 70+ hour work week and sat down at the table with two dozen bills and mortgages on three homes...what the fuck am I doing collecting cars, houses, and bottles of wine I really don't like?
Time starts to fly by when you close in on 40. So we sold a lot of stuff including our main house, cashed in a lot of stocks, and moved to the hills.
You can always go back to the rat race, but you can never get back missed experiences. I spent today at a lake with my 4-year-old and her best friend. To paraphrase John Irving's "World According to Garp": Life is short, so you have to fill it with as much adventure as possible.

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I like that kinda thinkin....

But now when I have to go back near our old home and drive on the NJ Turnpike or Garden State Parkway, my balls crawl up from fear.

I know exactly what you mean. I'm 35 and have been asking myself "what now?" quite a bit lately. When you're younger you can do all kinds of things because your future is a long ways off. Then one day you wake up and you realize that your future has arrived. This is it, your a grown up now, you've made your bed and you are lying in it whether you like it or not.

Totaly agree w 9ski9, although my change was not as drastic...

I'm 48 and I am there. I visualize my life as one BIG bell curve. About 1 year ago I decided that I was at the peak of the curve and it was time to ramp down over the next 25 years or so. I started reducing the importance of JOB and increase the importance of FAMILY and SELF.

I put "getting home for dinner" and "spending every weekend with my family" ahead of job demands, salary and promotions. It was hard on the ego, but so satisfying personally. It takes determination and something you need to do for yourself. I'm not quite leaving the rat race, but I no longer race.

Time is our most valuable asset at this age, and we should value it like our last bag of weed. Everyone on this thread is aware that they are at a turning point, and it's up to you to turn.