Me, my Dad, and Mary Jane

..Needless to say he was pretty choked. I am 21, live at home, work 3 seasonal jobs and am going to school for my business degree.

We have a great relationship and I straight out told him I have smoked pot and enjoy it, but he does not know the frequency of my enjoyments!

He said he was surprised with me because I have (cough) been the perfect son. I couldn't tell him about the OZ's of kush but toned it down to 'tried it a few times', I couldn't see him any more hurt than that, but I still feel like shit! Though I DO love the plant. The hardest thing is knowing I let my dad down, good on all you dads who go about establishing this level of companionship with your kids, I think its a good thing.

I'm not sure what more I can say to him, anybody have any ideas? We talked about it for a while and he mentioned (so now you want me to be okay with it?). He also said because I enjoyed it, it will lead into me enjoying it more and more.

He then said he feels I am too young, and wishes I would wait until I was a few years older (3 - 5 years or thereabouts), I countered that with 'Dad, I live in BC and it is all around me, I have been avoiding it since I was 15 or 16 but recently I made the decision I would like to try it', I think he realized I will not stop now that I have started, and that made him feel kind of :( perhaps.

My dad neither drinks nor smokes or smoked anything. He raised me telling me life is so much fun in itself you do not require any substance to make it better, which in my case is true I have been provided with everything I need and more, as well as a loving family and the best food on the table, toys under the tree and money in my pocket when I needed it when I was younger.

Currently I smoke rather frequently and this started about 6 months ago, one option is to cut back and just hide it but that is what I have been doing and sure its worked but there's something there that still bothers me.

My dad does not like the fact that I am 'using' a 'drug' but he realizes that pot is not all that bad, ''but still'' it is a drug and therefore he is unhappy... maybe its the level he loves his kids at that made him feel the way it did, and I know it is a bit of a curveball to him, many people are quite surprised when they find out I smoke the herb... not your stereotypical pothead and I fully take advantage of that :jointsmile:


Not sure where this is going, but thanks if you made it this far. I would love to hear any thoughts. I do not need the 'while living under your parents house you abide by their rules' speech. In my family the house is as much mine as my parents and if they could have it their way we would live together forever probably (lol), there are some traditional aspects at hand also, but I do not wish to disclose any specifics.

It sounds like you have a great dad who loves you very much. However, you two obviously have very different views concerning cannabis. You and I both know the truth, it seems your father doesn't and likes his sobriety. You're not too young, that arguement is frankly absurd. I would move out asap. If smoking cannabis makes you happy, then continue to do just that and feel no shame what so ever. For me freedom is more important then comfort, you sound like you're in a pretty comfortable situation, homewise, at the moment. It's up to you, you can respect your father and honour him, by obeying his commands. Or you can do the exact same, but stand up for your beliefs and values. A true loving father would not disown or kick out his son or daughter for consuming cannabis. Get out and be you is what I say.

It does sound like you have a good relationship with your dad.

He's just concerned that weed will be something that'll interfere with your success and/or ambitions. Dads are that way. They want the best for their kids. They want their kids to rise to that challenge, too, and be the best they can be.

If your grades are good, you're keeping up with your responsibilities, maintaining a social life, and weed isn't your sole source of pleasure in life, you and your dad may just have to disagree. The bottom line is it IS their house. They pay for it and let you live in it. So hard as it is to hear, you do need to abide by their rules till you're out and on your own supporting yourself. If that's an impossibility, I'd keep the amount of your smoking on the down-low and make damn sure it didn't interfere with your life, your plans, your grades, your jobs. While you're at it, start educating your dad about cannabis. Start here(scroll down to general information and check out those links).
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