I'm starting to realize my g/f is a humongous

Bitch.

So for 1 year and 3 months I have endured what any dude would call hell. I mean my friends have told me, my mom has said it indirectly and so forth. I'm sure I don't make it easy for her either in some ways.

Backdrop: She has been my first serious relationship never have I ever felt like this for ANY OTHER girl in my life. First REAL kiss, first fuck, first eevveerryythhiinngg imaginable.

At first our fights were over me smoking weed, and lying about it. You can say that was a dickish thing to do and if I really wanted to smoke weed I shouldn't have been with her and lying was wrong. But I felt like I loved her alot, she made me really happy, and a little weed smoking with a buddy every now and then didn't hurt anything. Well that was ALOT of BRUTAL fights and eventually I just sort of quit. I would go on monthly stretches without smoking weed. Then we both graduate, she goes up to NY to visit her dad (mom pretty much abandoned her) promised she would come back get a job and we would get an apartment. Make a long story short she decided to stay up there and started pushing me away. I got ready for the break up I started planning a future without her, sure it hurt but I was preparing myself for the worse. This goes on for a week of her pushing me away, and me feeling like she wants to move on, many nights crying feeling sad. Then when i'm ready to move on and I stop calling she calls me and just drops all this on me i want to be with you blah blah blah alllllll that jazz. So then she comes and visits, we fight about me smoking weed again, but then she smokes with me and she gets over weed.

Now this is the same girl I caught dancing all slutty with some other guy if you guys remember that thread and I was strong enough to get over that and see hte bigger picture which was just being with her. Now I want to just go to this fucking show for one night and she's flipping out saying I'm not going to talk to you if you go, we'll probably break up blah blah this whole fucking guilt trip. Normally that works on me but not after I saw those pictures of her dancing with that guy. I tell her if shes willing to break up over me going to a show then we weren't really worth it. I just got a job this morning and have yet to start working until next weekened. Shes saying "I have a job, i'm working and saving money to move back down there, you're not taking us seriously by going to this show, i'm not talking to you". To me thats her being a straight up bitch. because if I had a laxed g/f or someone who wasn't SUCH A BITCH it wouldn't be a problem now would it? People have told me long distant relationships don't work, and its not good if we always fight but for some reason I have really strong feelings about her. But I just see things going downhill from here on out. I used to be able to not fathom the fact she would be happy with some other guy but the more i think about it and stay in this relationship its more like I would wish that guy good luck...or maybe he would just be a better b/f then me.

But I just needed to vent. Everyone older then me that reads this will probably laugh and htink i'm a silly 18 y/o with problems that won't matter in 5-10 years but...I don't know. Sorry I just wrote a book.

Drop her like a bad habit and move on.

Na, I'm laughing because you'll probably vent about another relationship like this in 10 years.

But yeah man, you gotta trust your instincts.

Just think how nice it will be when it is gone.You most definitly shouldnt be with someone who makes your mental life hell.

Yeah that is true...when its all gone and i'm over.Right now I can't imagien that, shes been in the back of my mind for the past year and 3 months. This is sort of an ironic analogy, but know how when prisoners get out and they don't know how to act because they're so used to prison life? Thats how I feel about her, i've been with her so long i don't know how to think anything else....

How did you guys get over ex wives, long term g/f's?

Like when you think about them today doesn't it bug you they might be happy with someone else. And i'm worried i might end up miserable and she'll be happy with someone new.

agreed she doesn't sound like someone i would want to hang around with

Wow man...thats like a mirror of my last relationship (5 years and we were engaged). The girl was REALLY important to me, helped me through a really bad time in my life and did what i felt was enrich me as a person. However the last few years went down hill, she started telling me who i could and couldnt talk to (we'll she tried atleast) and if it had a vagina it was strictly off limits. I wasn't allowed to smoke, quit for probably the better part of 2 years till shit got really bad between us, and i made a new friend that loved to have me over and smoke me to the face (suppose he didnt have many friends that partook, and i like to think im a fun person to be around). Ultimatly walked in on her fucking another guy, and said "Thank you so much for giving me a reason to drop your ass". Prior to that i had found a few really shady text messages on her cell phone that i let slide because she claimed they were from close friends and ill admit i make some comments that could sound REALLY bad if taken out of context towards my friends.

Ultimatly ive moved back home for a few months, im not really smoking at the moment but thats more because everyone i know in this area has either A) gotten arrested B) moved away or C) stopped dealing, but i do have plant growing. Im alot happier now as well, my advice to you is end it man, it sounds like she treats you like shit and you seem to be looking for a way out. Theres no reason to try and maintain a realtionship when all it does it make you feel shitty (i mean hey, a relationship is supposed to make you feel good, sure we all have ups and downs in them but seems like you're in a perpetual trough to me). More importantly, someone should love you for you and not want you to make any major changes you're not ready to make.

whatever you DO NOT move in with her until you get this shit sorted out because believe me... you may think you're ready to live with someone but moving in with someone, especially someone you're not incredibly happy with, is one of the most DIFFICULT things to do.

Really though i feel your pain, and i know its a tough situation.

How did i get over her?

I went out with a long time friend who had been there for me to bitch to about the relationship for a while and had a fucking fantastic weekend. Then i realized that all my ex did was make me unhappy and i was better off with out her.

edit: I dont have to think about her being happy with someone else because i know she's not capable of that, all she does is make people unhappy.

I bet she will have a long time of unhappy relationships..good in the beginning, bad in the end..your cool bro, you are only 18, you are stylin. just takes a little time to get over it..it will all be gone when you meet someone new that you like.

She sounds like a selfish person who throws a tantrum if they dont get their own way. That's rich comming from me, because i'm selfish, and if i dont get what i want i get pissed off.

Me and my current bird are abit like that, we argue it's to be expected living with a cunt like myself. Our arguments are over bills, shopping and sex. Or lack. Not things like concerts.