Help?

Ok so I really like this girl... she is from another town 20min or so away... we talk a lot on the internet... I have hung out with her a few times... but always with her/my friends :( So yeah it's weird and I can never really tell if she is interested... her one friend has seemed to hint at it and she gave me her number. But I still just always have doubt.
But here is the deal she is coming to the town where I live by herself... I will find shit to fill all the time with hopefully... but I have no fucking clue how to say... "ask her out" more so just scared and dont want it to be awkward after a "no" and that would just kind of ruin everything and make it weird between us and I dont want that.
It's been a long time since my last relationship if you want to call it that and she asked me out...
But I mean I feel that if her friend has hinted stuff and she gives me her phone number AND is willing to hang out all day/night with me... she has to be somewhat interested, right? She is quite shy too.

Sorry I have no clue what the fuck to do and sorry if this post doesnt make sense... any advice would be appreciated

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Originally Posted by ThinkLong

Ok so I really like this girl... she is from another town 20min or so away... we talk a lot on the internet... I have hung out with her a few times... but always with her/my friends :( So yeah it's weird and I can never really tell if she is interested... her one friend has seemed to hint at it and she gave me her number. But I still just always have doubt.
But here is the deal she is coming to the town where I live by herself... I will find shit to fill all the time with hopefully... but I have no fucking clue how to say... "ask her out" more so just scared and dont want it to be awkward after a "no" and that would just kind of ruin everything and make it weird between us and I dont want that.
It's been a long time since my last relationship if you want to call it that and she asked me out...
But I mean I feel that if her friend has hinted stuff and she gives me her phone number AND is willing to hang out all day/night with me... she has to be somewhat interested, right? She is quite shy too.

Sorry I have no clue what the fuck to do and sorry if this post doesnt make sense... any advice would be appreciated

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i always like to point out the obvious so here it is...

the worst is she says no... are you gonna be scared to do anything in you life for fear of rejection (i.e. asking your boss for a raise??)

sorry for the harshness, but grow some balls... ask her out... all she could say is no, but if she's drove 20 mins to meet a stranger that she met on the internet, she's obviously intrested to some extent...

if it makes you feel better ask in a similar fashion:

look i know we don't really know each other that well, and i'm usually not this forward, but i really do like you and i'm intrested in taking this to the next level, i want to know if you are as well....

if not that's cool too, i just had to ask.... or i might beat myself up for letting something so great just pass me up (bonus points for this line)

also remember it's about how you present yourself, drop the fear and pull that confidence from somehwere....

you walk up to a girl and say "uh uh... um.. i just wanted to know.. um... do you wanna get with me?" and she'll probably laugh at you...

you gotta be suave with it, and confident, girls look for confidence.... even if you aren't confident, you gotta play the part.

Haha yeah I know... I really need to grow some balls

But just to clear it up... we didnt really meet randomly online... we already kind of knew each other a bit

well that doens't help your case for hanging back of fear...all the more reaosn to drop the question.

Yeah dude, it's obvious shes interested. If she's shy...you might have to be the one to break the ice and start conversation or whatever. Confidence definitely works but be real about it. At some point y'all have to kiss or something (hate to sound all mushy) and that'll be the perfect time to ask her out.

holla back and let us know how it goes (lol)

Well thanks for the help... any other advice on like when where stuff like that?
Obviously right away would be total shit if she said no... that would be a long awkward time after that

Oh and what the fuck do I do if she says no? Like what is there to say after that

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Originally Posted by ThinkLong

Oh and what the fuck do I do if she says no? Like what is there to say after that

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play it off like youd on't care of course... carry on the friendship....

what else is there to do? lol cry about it?

just ask dude, forget about rejection.. if it happens it woulda happened no matter how long she knew you.. ever scene martin lawrences stand up, you so crazy?

"a woman knows right away whether she's gonna fuck you.. she sees you and says 'oh ima fuck him!'"

it goes for dating as well... they're either intrested or not... timing or location plays little into it....

being rejected and the afterwards is only akward if you make it so...

oh btw, i should probably tell you i'm exactly like you... i didn't have a real girlfriend til i was 15.. i've had 3 serious relationships in my life (or serious to me) and even tho the first two ended bad, i didn't regret going for it...

you can't be scared... if i'd been scared, i'd of passed up the woman of my life, who i also married nearly 4 years ago now, and have known for nearly 10.. we also have a kid together... and i can't speak for her, but i coudln't be happier...

it never would have been if i was too scared to admit my feelings...

Thanks man for all the help... threw you some rep too

Oh and just a random thing... she is totally cool with me smoking the green :thumbsup: