The pursuit

To the ladies: If you just met a guy in what ways should he pursue you? What scares you off and what makes you melt?

To the guys: What are some ways you go about pursuing a lady you know you want but hasn't made her interest in you clear yet?

i think every girl has different things that scares them off, and what makes them melt.

if she hasnt made her decision, just make sure you make it clear she knows YOUR interested

Well, in speaking from former experience, over-eagerness can be a little off-putting. So can anything that borders on stalking or being followed, clinged onto, or adored too closely. The gradual, low-key approach always worked better with me.

When I was in my dating years, the Internet didn't yet exist. So phone calls and visits, flowers and cards were the usual ways in which someone got my attention initially. Also just being funny and nice when we were together.

actually listening to her does the trick for me..women love to be talked to. not talked at. Remember, less is more.

Being nice help a lot too..and take a shower, shave and brush those fangs of yours.

depends on the situation, the girl, and so many other things.

Just call, and be like, hey, would you like to get some coffee. I mean, I just got three missed calls within 5 minutes from one of my guy friends today, when I saw that I just shook my head.

Balance is key, let them know your interested but not too interested.
and although I have never recieved flowers (excppt for prom) I do think that would make me melt, so old school romantic. that would just be too sweet! :1baa:

Become her friend first. Get over that awkward stage when she doesn't really know you, and how you react to certain situations. Let her see you in many diffrent aspects of your personality before you let her know. Its alot easier to like someone when you feel you know them. That is one of the biggest sticking points for me. You can seem like the nicest guy in the world, but the fact that we don't know what triggers your anger or violence is very scary. I mean after all the horror stories you hear, you can't blame us for bein cautious. Dont assume that because we made a reference to sex means we wanna sleep with you. Alot of women, myself included, are very open about their sexuality and are brazen enough to talk about it. Don't try to impress her by telling tales of your sexual adventures and misadventures, if you come off as a dog in the slightest bit, turns most women off. Do Not Ever try to force yourself on her because you convinced yourself "she might like it". but for Goddesses sake, dont be a pussy and wait till she's expressed feelings for someone else, or tell her on the phone because youre afraid of rejection in person. If she hints that shes not intrested, dont ask why, we're tryin to be nice about it. Do ya really wanna know? And last but definitely, not least, treat her like a human being, not like some piece of meat that you just cant wait to sink your teeth into..... oh and no games..... playing games is so high school. peace- Hilder