Just sharing some thoughts

I was thinking about some of the reasons people think they love people and can't let them go. This is just my two cents and I know this doesn't apply to many many people. :hippy: So don't bash me if this isn't ture for you because I know nothing applies to everyone. Im just sharing some of my thoughts.
1. Your getting to much valiadation from them -- You feel like with out them your nothing. And that's not true. I always need my bf to tell me Im sexy when I know I'm looking good to make sure it's true. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. I want everyone to know that no matter what anyone says about you, that it doesn't change you. Just because someone says Im sexy doesn't mean I am. Just because my man isn't good to me doesn't mean I'm not good. You need to be secure with yourself and know that no matter what anyone says (or how they treat you) Doesn't at all change who you are. Know who you are and Love yourself.
2. You make up who you think people are in your head. I don't know about some of you guys but I see this a lot with me and my girlfriends -All under 20yrs old - We get rapped up in who we want them to be that we don't see reality. A guy does soemthing nice for me once and I get so caught up in it that I build this whole other person off of that one situation. My bf does something nice for me, and Im all ohhhhh *swooning* Hes so wonderful, he's changed, and it's a nice thoguht so I keep it in my head forgetting about everything else.
3. YOU THINK YOU CAN CHANGE PEOPLE AND YOU CAN'T! It's hard enough for people to change on their own when they want to, but there is no way in hell someone is going to change for someone else when they don't want to. It's like when people go to rehab they try so hard to change, but most of the time they go back to their old ways. And I find a lot of people I know go to rehab to please their parents or there friends, and they are always the ones to realapse. I know that I am always thinking that the better I am and the nicer I am that it will change people, but it doesn't work. Because like I said the only person you can change for is yourself.
I hope that made sense I am bakkkkkedddddd LOL. :stoned::stoned:
Peace and Love all. :hippy:

hehehe made perfect sense! :D

Or you know there a safe zone. People are afraid of putting themselves out there to meet someone new. There afraid of rejection.

^^Deffinatly. That sort of goes with the validation thing, your scared to meet new people in fear of rejection, and we fear rejection because of the thought that they don't like me, so it makes you feel like your not good enough. Even though people need to see that most of the time when someone is mean or rude to you it's because of somethat that THEY are goign through not you.