Sad, but not quite.

My real good friend just told me she never wanted to talk to me again. Why? I asked her a question and she went off! Told me how selfish I was and I play too many mind games as if I get off on it and went on with the negative things about me. How pessimistic and cruel of her. To be honest, I had no idea where all this was coming from, some sort of place where she harboured ALOT of resentment towards me. Things like this really makes you feel like a horrible person, I know I'm not.. but she's just psycho.

Usually news like this would make me ALOT sadder than I am right now, I'd say I'm taking this pretty darn well.. Smoke one for me guys, I'm off to work in a bit so I can't. Thanks guys

Either she has lost her mind completely or was never your friend to begin with.

Had something similiar happen to me once it sucks ass and it makes you feel like there fucking insane, and come to find out she was so hey who knows man... lol

Life would indeed be dull if stuff like this never occurred. Count your current blessings, and in the words of the Beatles: Let it be.

Has anyone ever said that to you before?

wow yeah that happened to me before but itll be all good sounds like yur taking it well, just keep it up if the friendship is worth keeping do what u feel needs to be done..hope it works out for u

Actually, this just happened to me a couple days ago. A went over to a buddy of mines house the other day. And he didnt look real pleased to see me. So I asked him whats up, and why he looked so pissed. Just jokingly I said, Oh you must not like me huh, and dont want me here. And, he said truthfully no I really dont, and so I stood up, and left.

You think you know people, but I guess you never really do.

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Originally Posted by geonagual

Has anyone ever said that to you before?

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That's a good question.

What ever you asked her right there, you know, might have been the straw the broke the camel's back. Really think about yourself in her eyes, think about what she said. Ask some of your friends specifically if you're like anything she said, and demand an honest answer. If they say you are like any of what she said, you should really make a determined effort to change that aspect of yourself.

I while back I had a friend that I went off on. He did something, and kept thinking I was bitter over that and that's why I went off on him. But it was really that I was sick of his personality, he was selfish, used people, took advantage of his friend, and always put himself before others (to be short and general). When I went off on him I let him know that I can only put up with so much and what he did was just the breaking point. I told him if that's how he's gonna be I don't want to be his friend. I don't want to talk to him or see him unless he changes. I told him I don't care if he takes it to heart or not, but if he cared about our friendship he would take it to heart.

Well I completely avoided him. At first he tried to hang around me like after a week, but I kept avoiding him. It was a good long while, probably 2 months before I went around him again. But I think the seriousness set in and yeah he did change. He's a much better person and we're closer friends for it.

So, if you have any doubt in yourself about what she said, you might wanna consider changing that about yourself. You said it's a real good friend? Well, if you value her friendship, you probably should try to remedy the situation.

And I don't think she's trying to come off as cruel or pessimistic, she's probably just sick of it. She's trying to help you. It may come as a shock to you, but it's reality. If she puts a mirror in front of you and you don't like what you see, then don't blame it on her, it's you who has to change.

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That's a good question.

What ever you asked her right there, you know, might have been the straw the broke the camel's back. Really think about yourself in her eyes, think about what she said. Ask some of your friends specifically if you're like anything she said, and demand an honest answer. If they say you are like any of what she said, you should really make a determined effort to change that aspect of yourself.

I while back I had a friend that I went off on. He did something, and kept thinking I was bitter over that and that's why I went off on him. But it was really that I was sick of his personality, he was selfish, used people, took advantage of his friend, and always put himself before others (to be short and general). When I went off on him I let him know that I can only put up with so much and what he did was just the breaking point. I told him if that's how he's gonna be I don't want to be his friend. I don't want to talk to him or see him unless he changes. I told him I don't care if he takes it to heart or not, but if he cared about our friendship he would take it to heart.

Well I completely avoided him. At first he tried to hang around me like after a week, but I kept avoiding him. It was a good long while, probably 2 months before I went around him again. But I think the seriousness set in and yeah he did change. He's a much better person and we're closer friends for it.

So, if you have any doubt in yourself about what she said, you might wanna consider changing that about yourself. You said it's a real good friend? Well, if you value her friendship, you probably should try to remedy the situation.

And I don't think she's trying to come off as cruel or pessimistic, she's probably just sick of it. She's trying to help you. It may come as a shock to you, but it's reality. If she puts a mirror in front of you and you don't like what you see, then don't blame it on her, it's you who has to change.

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I've also had this simliar experience with other people, where I just get sick of who they are and I go off on them and feel HORRIBLE about it. I've tried to look at it from her point of view and yeah sometimes I can be selfish but the things she was bringing up had never ONCE ocurred to me. It was an honest mistake,whatever it is that I did, knowing me I will try to work things out because thats what I am. Theres always room for improvement because No one is perfect.

Thanks you all, I'm always looking for perspectives that I havent yet thought up of myself. I'm going to not talk to her for a bit, because I cant deal with confrontation.

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Actually, this just happened to me a couple days ago. A went over to a buddy of mines house the other day. And he didnt look real pleased to see me. So I asked him whats up, and why he looked so pissed. Just jokingly I said, Oh you must not like me huh, and dont want me here. And, he said truthfully no I really dont, and so I stood up, and left.

You think you know people, but I guess you never really do.

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This is actual quite bullshit. I agree with you though. The person may not feel the exact same way you do and may find you suffocating or something. I just can't deal with all this negativity in life. Why do people go pyscho on you? Arent you at all curious as to why he didnt want you there? I know I would but staying around would have probably ended up in an argument.

That is honestly the best way to go let it rest for a little while and then try and talk to her after a while if the friendship is worth keeping. But keep holding your head high man. Think about it if there was no reason for her saying all those things she wasnt a friend in the first place. That's what I thought about my situation after a while of thinking.