Your stance on cheating ...

I have very mixed feelings on wheather or not cheating is okay. I feel like it is ok if there are no feelings involved with it, and that as long as at the end of the day you still go back to the person you are cheating on.
I always said that I would never cheat on someone because I thought that it meant you didn't have strong feelings for them, or you were lacking something in the realtionship.
But then this weekend I cheated. On friday my boyfriend dropped me off at a train station where I missed my train. Earlier that day my friend who I havent seen in ahwile called me n was like come down town. So since I already was I called n asked if I could sleep over. He said it was fine and met me there. I was upset because my bf never called to see if I was ok or anything, just a nice young girl in a train station in the city w. a large amount of homeless crack heads at 12 30 at night, really safe right? so we were just drinking and one thing led to another and we fucked.
I feel terrible but at the same time it was just one night where I got caught up in the moment.
Should I tell him? I have no feelings for this guy ... I'm really confused.

edit: I love that I can tell everyone on here, and not my friends. This site is so helpful, w. out it things would eat me alive.

You mean cheating within the context of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and not in marriage, right? Please tell me that's what you mean.

Frankly, if people are in a committed relationship, whether it's girlfriend-boyfriend or engaged or married couples, they ought not to cheat. If they want to be with other people, they need to do the right thing by their partner/spouse and get out of the previous relationship first. Cheating is hurtful and destructive and also dangerous from a disease standpoint.

Cheating is bad mojo. In relationships. In school. On taxes. Everyplace I can think of!

To me, it's never ok, not in any way shape or form. I broke up with my first gf of two years because she kissed someone. To me, it's the ultimate slap in the face and it's inexcusable. I still loved her at the time but I couldn't trust her, and she knew how strongly I feel about that sort of thing.

And I honestly think you should tell your boyfriend, because imagine if he cheated on you and didn't tell you, it wouldn't be fair.

Its not cheating if you share. My GF and I live an "alternate" lifestyle. Whe have been swingers for several years, My first wife an I were also into swinging. Basicaly its anything goes as long as we are both there and all agree.

Stop n ask yourself how would you feel if he came home and told you Ooops I tripped and slipped and accidentally stuck my dick in someone else ??? Not at all cool , married or not = complete loss of trust and respect .
Crispi :jointsmile:

Sounds like you're not too serious about either dude, so as long as they know that, it's ok.
You should tell your BF what happened. Your relationship will either grow or fall apart, but at least it will be honest.

I didn't mean marriage, because in that you vow to be exclusive. edit: that was stupid to say because in being a bf/gf you sort of vow to be. I take that back, but I guess I meant its more serious.
I was lying to myself when I thought it didn't matter because I dindt have feelings for him, I was being a slut and he deserves to know. I think I am just going to end it, he is too selfish and even though I didnt like the guy (as more than a friend) who I cheated him on with, I still enjoyed having sex with him better because I felt like he actually wanted to please me. My boyfriend is really immature (and clearly I am too) but I can't deal with it anymore. It's over.

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Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420

I didn't mean marriage, because in that you vow to be exclusive. edit: that was stupid to say because in being a bf/gf you sort of vow to be. I take that back, but I guess I meant its more serious.
I was lying to myself when I thought it didn't matter because I dindt have feelings for him, I was being a slut and he deserves to know. I think I am just going to end it, he is too selfish and even though I didnt like the guy (as more than a friend) who I cheated him on with, I still enjoyed having sex with him better because I felt like he actually wanted to please me. My boyfriend is really immature (and clearly I am too) but I can't deal with it anymore. It's over.

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That's probably for the best.
You deserve someone you don't need to cheat on.

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Originally Posted by psteve

Sounds like you're not too serious about either dude, so as long as they know that, it's ok.
You should tell your BF what happened. Your relationship will either grow or fall apart, but at least it will be honest.

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Me and you always post at the same time lol, but yeah its going to fall apart. This made me think more about our realtionship. It really is lacking a lot, I should have put more thought into it. I hate being alone, so hopefully I will find someone good enough to not cheat on.

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Originally Posted by psteve

That's probably for the best.
You deserve someone you don't need to cheat on.

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hahahaha see wut I mean u always post right b4 I get a chance too.