I think i found love but now what?

Ah its been far too long since ive been here! I missed the way the air smelled any who I just fell in love for the second time. I was standoffish at best when I first met her but after being able to go to my Ex's town with the new woman of my dreams and constantly think about her it kind of reinforced my feelings. Idk I hate love bc when i find it someone usually has noticed it one to two years earlier. Idk what I should do she always says how she cares but when I see her and her bf and realize she wont ever leave him i dye inside. I don't mess around with her bc i respect him well enough to keep my burning desirer in check................well i try. I need help I'm 19 and don't know how to handle a love that is reciprocated well kinda sort of thanks for the help and ANY AND ALL HELP IS WELCOMED!:rastasmoke:

I know there are reel problems in the world and i care about this shit......i feel bad and i needed to open up please dont hate me for being self absorbed

I'm not sure how well I understood your tale of woe above. But it seems you've in "love" with someone who has a boyfriend?

If she isn't likely to leave him, you're going to have to move on down the romantic road. Seriously. See about falling in love with someone who's available for a relationship. Or else wait for these two to break up, which might never happen. That's the bottom line, as much as I'm sure you don't want to hear that.

Does she have a sister? ;)
Seriously, you're way too young to be sweating over relationships.

yeah young, dont sweat it! in a couple of weeks you'll be wondering what you were fretting about..
but if it really matters to you, talk to her, get into her mind.. and things will either A) work out the way you want to B) you have to respect what she wants.

good luck :)

Damn dude you kinda fucked yourself on this one. She has a boyfriend, man. Forget about her until shes single again. Nobody can give you any advice here, you just gotta make a judgement call. Like decide whether you want to try to get her and ruin their relationship, possibly causing bad feelings between you and your beloved, OR... find a new girl. Or just be single for a while. Its kinda cut and dry at this point man.

My opinion? Forget about those feelings. Bury them until you almost dont recognize them. Each time you start feeling sorry for yourself because you arent with her, bitch slap yourself, then man up a little. Youre 19 dude. If its meant to be, then when shes single again and youre single again, that little spark will reignite.

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Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary

Damn dude you kinda fucked yourself on this one. She has a boyfriend, man. Forget about her until shes single again. Nobody can give you any advice here, you just gotta make a judgement call. Like decide whether you want to try to get her and ruin their relationship, possibly causing bad feelings between you and your beloved, OR... find a new girl. Or just be single for a while. Its kinda cut and dry at this point man.

My opinion? Forget about those feelings. Bury them until you almost dont recognize them. Each time you start feeling sorry for yourself because you arent with her, bitch slap yourself, then man up a little. Youre 19 dude. If its meant to be, then when shes single again and youre single again, that little spark will reignite.

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Very true words, ive had some similar things happen to me with a girl, except i dont think the feelings where as strong as they are with you. But, my advice is if she does have feelings for them dont try and break it up. If you really do love her you'd want her to be happy. So just grab a bowl and a beer and live your life bro.

just move on to the next one..........your 19, im 18, i aint thinking nothing about love or that BS, now's the time for fun, and sex, and lots of both, so live it up, because if you dont, 2O yrs down the road you will regret it.....ANd if she seems really in love and not even thinking about leaving her man, it'll take a big FUCKUP on his part to fuck up what he has, and you cant just expect that to happen........Have you told her how you feel? Or has she expressed the same feelings to you in anyway whatsoever? And i really think your mistaking love with infatuation, because i have been in love, with my neighbour from 12 yrs ago, who i met randomly again last year, got her number, had a relationship, we both fell head over heals for eachother, but the whole relationship aspect is not for me right now, maybe if it had happened 4 yrs from now or 5................

sorry everyone i was out of it at the time. Im at work now but im going to read everyones thoughts then compose my own again thanks for the help.

Double post double post double post! Seriously though I've been in love before and it wasn't returned and this kills me because i usually have feelings then wait them out till they subside. This however isn't one of those silly crushes or would be hook ups, its two people putting themselves out there. maybe im too young and too romantic but i do see us together in the future and i guess ive decided.