How do you know when it's time to end it?

I'm sooo confused about my relationship, probably because I have never had a good one, ever. The guy I'm with now has done some fucked up shit to me in the past. He got me pregnant and things went sour, I had an abortion and he stopped talking to me. He said sorry and I really know he was. So 6 months later we are haning out agian and things got back to the way they used to be. I was sooo happy that I was back with him (I think because all I ever wanted was to make a relationship work out) and things were going really well up until the past week, after things started to get sort of more serious agian. He stopped making an effort to see me, and I get sooo emotional over it when he can't see me because it brings back everything that happened awhile ago. I think if he doesn't call me when he says he will, or makes stupid excuses not to see me I feel like he is never goign to talk to me agian. He also has no idea I feel this way, I try so hard to be the 'perfect' girlfriend. I mean I do everything right for him. I don't call to much, I'm chill with his boys, I'll suck his dick and make him a sandwhich, yet he still won't put any sort of effort into seeing me. I don't know if a few good times with him are worth me getting so upset when he doesn't care to see me. What the hell should I do? Should I just end it ... he's also going to college in the fall.

Drop that f*cker like a rock, he's no good for you. Put all that pent up effort into a new guy. You deserve it.

Youre too good for him< tell him to fuck off and if you ever see him again youre gonna file for a restraining order against him

Yes... you seem to be too good for him... for me its interesting to note that things like this always happen... if one of the partners is very good, loyal, caring, and so, the another partner tends to be the exact opposite... dont know why it happens, tough...
Anyway, if you dont want to be treated badly, be the bad one... and the men will knee down before your feet... Sad but true... :thumbsup:

The time too leave was after he stopped talking to you during such an emotionally draining time in your life. Tell him to fuck off. You dont need his shit.

He got you preg or you got preg??? You talk like he's your fault in life,,,what do you expect from him??? He could be ashamed,,,he could be hurt,,,you need a down and dirty talk because you are guessing here...

Well damn talk to him about it. See how receptive he is.

I can only speak for myself, but I'm oblivious to certain emotions and feelings. If someone doesn't tell me how they feel, I wouldn't have a clue. I really don't know how busy your bf is in general so I have no judgement.

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Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420

I'm sooo confused about my relationship, probably because I have never had a good one, ever. The guy I'm with now has done some fucked up shit to me in the past. He got me pregnant and things went sour, I had an abortion and he stopped talking to me. He said sorry and I really know he was. So 6 months later we are haning out agian and things got back to the way they used to be. I was sooo happy that I was back with him (I think because all I ever wanted was to make a relationship work out) and things were going really well up until the past week, after things started to get sort of more serious agian. He stopped making an effort to see me, and I get sooo emotional over it when he can't see me because it brings back everything that happened awhile ago. I think if he doesn't call me when he says he will, or makes stupid excuses not to see me I feel like he is never goign to talk to me agian. He also has no idea I feel this way, I try so hard to be the 'perfect' girlfriend. I mean I do everything right for him. I don't call to much, I'm chill with his boys, I'll suck his dick and make him a sandwhich, yet he still won't put any sort of effort into seeing me. I don't know if a few good times with him are worth me getting so upset when he doesn't care to see me. What the hell should I do? Should I just end it ... he's also going to college in the fall.

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You prolly want advice from a girl. But here's some from a guy.;)
First off...It seems to me that you girls sometimes stay with a man because of the relationship rather than the man himself. You should really make sure if this one guy is the right one for you. Do you love him? Does he love you? You see, I don't know him or you so I can't really get into it. But it sounds to me that you are the one putting all the energy into the relationship, not him. That isn't fair....a relationship should be an expierence for both. Both parties should make sure the relationship is running right. Both should care...both should "please each other"(not just you "sucking his dick")....both should make sure the other isn't hungry.....both should give each other space......and both should be understanding when it comes to the others friends. you get my point? You are not a slave. You are the "perfect girlfriend"....simply because you try to be. If he doesn't realize that
then he
1. Doesn't know how to show it
2. Doesn't care about you(at all or equally)
3. Doesn't care about the relationship(meaning he prolly has more)
or he could be busy with many things and he really does love you, it's just not the right time to doubt his love but from your prior trials with him, it seems like he's just a fuckin asshole.

......he should want to be the "perfect boyfriend"


now, on a more personal note. It bothers me to know there are ladies out there wanting more from their boyfriends.........it seems to me that the couple forgets whats important or gets used to having that company and takes it for granted. I haven't had a girlfriend in a VERY long time and I know I could make a girl VERY VERY VERY happy. And meanwhile, you and MANY other girls are wasting their time with pricks who see girls as objects and don't value their company and all the attention you all give them.

im sorry for the rant.
It's just that my mother raised me to respect females....don't even get me started on bastards that hit women.....and I'm sitting here, lonely as fuck, drooling over the thought of having a girlfriend and your boyfriend is wasting your time.

It's like wanting a pipe and seeing a headshop go up in flames.

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Originally Posted by Spoken Word

now, on a more personal note. It bothers me to know there are ladies out there wanting more from their boyfriends.........it seems to me that the couple forgets whats important or gets used to having that company and takes it for granted. I haven't had a girlfriend in a VERY long time and I know I could make a girl VERY VERY VERY happy. And meanwhile, you and MANY other girls are wasting their time with pricks who see girls as objects and don't value their company and all the attention you all give them.

im sorry for the rant.
It's just that my mother raised me to respect females....don't even get me started on bastards that hit women.....and I'm sitting here, lonely as fuck, drooling over the thought of having a girlfriend and your boyfriend is wasting your time.

It's like wanting a pipe and seeing a headshop go up in flames.

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Preach,brother!

Like yourself well enough to let this guy go far, far away and make someone else's life miserable. When you're trying to change yourself to accommodate and him and be perfect for him, you're losing your own identity. That's not a good thing. And it's not healthy.

This guy's not good for you. He's toxic, in fact. And you need to take a break from dating till you can find someone who treats you well and won't take advantage of you or interact with you in ways that leave you feeling miserable. Love is supposed to feel good and be mutually supportive. Take some time to get your head right and then you'll be in shape to find someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated.