Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
Now, I know what everyone's going to say...
"You're young. It's normal. Things will change."
The simple fact is, I've never truly liked a girl in my entire life; not beyond a physical attraction at any rate. Not to sound immodest, but I'm generally considered good-looking, likable and charming, and a number of girls have fancied me over the years, but I've never had or desired to have anything to do with them beyond just fooling around.
I feel bad, because I do like and respect girls, and I would never purposefully hurt their feelings, and I just don't understand it. These girls do not have anything wrong with them: they are beautiful, intelligent and very kind-hearted, and I just feel nothing towards them even though I have the chance.
And no, I'm not gay; I am attracted to them physically, after all.
Now, I know this isn't normal. Any thoughts?
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
Don't get into a relationship. If you think you're going to hurt someone, then maybe she's your next girlfriend. I don't know.
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
Yes, I'm curious what the answer is for this.
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
your gay
no just playing :-p
but im gunna have to say "give love a chance"
<3
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
I'm guessing either you haven't met someone yet who inspires you to feel those feelings of affection--or else perhaps on some level you have some discomfort and unfamiliarity with people of the female persuasion. I'm not saying you're gay by any means. You may just be in unfamiliar waters. Have you ever had any close female friends?
There's no law that says you have to like girls. There are a heck of a lot of straight guys out walking the planet who don't. Give it time--and work on getting to know some girls as people, not just as objects of attraction. If that doesn't help the situation, it might be time to look at the relationships with, and attitudes toward, the women in your family of origin, the ones who have been the models (mothers, sisters, etc.) for how you feel about the other women out there.
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
Let me guess, you also seem a little detached otherwise, and have a low energy level? you're low on serotonin, bud. If you're still young, then don't worry, your entire body chemistry might still change. If not, you'll have to find an understanding partner who connects with you on a different level.
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
Your in the closet gay !
seriously I would fuck anything that is female moves right now too horny, but NO I'm too ahh... just consider yourself lucky and go for girls that are interested in you and see if it works.
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
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Originally Posted by cannabis=freedom
The simple fact is, I've never truly liked a girl in my entire life; not beyond a physical attraction at any rate.
im much like this too... but i was not always like this... i had a girlfriend, whom i loved with all my body and all my soul, but after she leaved me it seemed she had taken all my feelings with her, so now im a heartless being. Its almost 4 years since she left, and after it i hadnt any relationship.
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Originally Posted by mesoto
Let me guess, you also seem a little detached otherwise, and have a low energy level? you're low on serotonin, bud.
i dont know about him, but i think it is true for me. i think the only time in my life i had 'normal' levels of serotonin was while i had my girlfriend. and let me warn you... this serotonin is a very addicting substance... i would say almost like heroin, crack, or shit like this... the withdraw from it is hellish... thats why i prefer weed! :jointsmile:
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
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Originally Posted by birdgirl73
I'm guessing either you haven't met someone yet who inspires you to feel those feelings of affection--or else perhaps on some level you have some discomfort and unfamiliarity with people of the female persuasion. I'm not saying you're gay by any means. You may just be in unfamiliar waters. Have you ever had any close female friends?
There's no law that says you have to like girls. There are a heck of a lot of straight guys out walking the planet who don't. Give it time--and work on getting to know some girls as people, not just as objects of attraction. If that doesn't help the situation, it might be time to look at the relationships with, and attitudes toward, the women in your family of origin, the ones who have been the models (mothers, sisters, etc.) for how you feel about the other women out there.
That's really good advice; thanks a lot. I still don't get it, though, because I'm really close to both my mother and my two sisters (both of whom are older than me), and I also have a number of female friends, including a couple really close ones.
I do think you're right, though, that I just haven't happened to meet someone who invokes those feelings yet.
Apathetic towards the idea of a relationship
Yeah, I'm not sure how old you are, but I never found a girl I was interested until I was 21. I got a lot of the "are you gay" shit from my mom, which is infuriating as hell when you say "no" and they won't listen, telling you that it's ok to come out of the closet and such.
But yeah, I never had many close friends anyways, I have a few very close friends that I hold very dear to me, and the rest of the people are just cool people that I hang out with. So it's kind of natural for me not to get into many relationships because I have a really high standard for friendship in the first place. if you have somewhat the same personality type as myself, maybe that's the reason.