friends with benefits

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so, i was going out with this girl for about a year, it was a really good relationship and we lost our virginity to each other and then all of a sudden she bitched out and said i didnt care about her enough because i didnt call her enough. i think she was just being stupid or something, i dont really have a response to that situation. it completely caught me by suprise. anyways its been a few months, and a few nights ago she asked me if i was still down to hook up and stuff, and i said sure, but the more that i think about it does that kind of stuff work out? i mean i dont want to go for it and then have it be really awkward for both of us. but i would definately like to go for it. i guess im just a newb LOL. ???
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Friends with bennies can work out, if both or all 3 or all 4 of you can work out all of the pit falls, like jelousy, or letting yourself feel leftout, apprehension, or showing favoritism one way or the other.

The open lifestyle is NOT for everyone. You must check your feelings, and your shallow thinking, because it's about all involved...not just yourself.

The only way anything like this works out is talk, talk, talk....and then talk some more about it.
And, NEVER EVER use what happens in playtime during an argument...you will completely destroy any firm ground made up to that point, and you show your not trustworthy of other persons feelings.

Just my $.02.

I think he was talking about just one friend.

Someone always gets too attached and ends up getting hurt. I learned the hard way that its a bad idea.

You've got nothing to lose, awkward moments aren't that bad. Just be careful if she starts asking for money and weed too much.

yeah, if you're gonna go for that, be careful. i have had one friend with benefits (and really dont think i ever want to again), we never dated, just hooked up all the time, and now he likes me. it's really hard because i would like for us to just be friends because he's a really chill dude, but it's practically damn near impossible now because he gets jealous when i hang out with other guys or even talk to other guys. and i'm not even dating him. he calls and texts me all the time, and he hardly ever mentions hooking up anymore (we haven't hooked up in awhile). to me, we're strictly friends now, but he's still really attached, and i can't shake him off. well, i'm not necessarily trying to get rid of him, but i would like to just have a friendship, but i doubt that's possible now.

naw you cant be a fuck buddy with your ex, does'nt work! be fuck buddys with your buddys!

It rarely works.
It's just not feasible... do you just toss aside all the emotion that comes out during sex next time you see each other, and ignore it? Is the person acting colder going to offend the person who is a little more attached? And are both of you REALLY that comfortable having sex for its own sake, rather than as an expression of love?
It's hard to have both a sexual and non-sexual relationship, with the same person, at the same time.
99% of the time, you aren't going to be dealing with that the same way.
And someone will get their feelings hurt.

shit i dont know now. i feel like i should go for it, because i really dont think we were meant to have a relationship anyway and neither does she. were just so different that it never could have worked. there's girls id much rather spend my life with then her, anyways. there arent many conflicting emotions left between us, so fuck it im gonna give it a shot. i think the benifits outweigh the risks by alot. but if i do manage to fuck myself over at least ill know what to avoid down the road!
it would be really hard to find a girl who turns me just like like she does anyways. she has a special style. im not passing the oppurtunity up. :thumbsup:

do it man...just don't expect to get a relationship out of it..it didn't work before, just keep it to only like fuck buddies...

and my experiences, you do get attached and you don't wanna spend tons of time with this person..