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Whenever I ask a guy (assuming he's straight) what he wants to do before death, his usual answer (mine too) is "a chick:thumbsup: " or "two chicks at once:thumbsup: :thumbsup: ". Meaning, sexually functioning men do not feel fullfillment in life w/out sex. I was wondering if it was the same with women. Do women hold sex at a value equal or at least comparable to that of men? Or is it possible for a woman to be happy w/out ever having sex?
This sounds less like men actually, and more like pre-pubesent males. Or at the very least, virgins.
Don't get me wrong. Sex is fantastic. I highly recommend it. But fulfillment?
Someday I want to take that special girl, buy a small patch of land in the chilean andes. Build a small rustic house with my own hands. Till the soil for my own 2 acre grow patch. Such a dream would be highly fulfilling.
Sex I've had. But I still feel there are things do be done before I die.
I gotta agree with Polymirize. (Yet again.) Those sound like the goals of teenagers and/or virgins. Don't get me wrong, either. Sex is great. And it's a component of the fulfillment I feel in life. I wouldn't be nearly as happy, relaxed, or well-connected with my spouse without it. But it's not the be-all/end-all of life. And as a rule, it's not quite as important to women as it is to men. I have to admit, though, it's fairly important to me.
My life-fulfillment goals have a lot more to do with doing somethng good with the talents and abilities I've been given, ideally something that helps others who haven't been as lucky as most of us Americans are. Specifically right now, that goal involves finishing med school, practicing for a few years, then retiring early with my husband and working for Médicins Sans Frontières (Doctors Without Borders).
I have to admit, Polymirize, that I just announced to my husband as I was reading this thread to him that if anything ever happens to him, I may change my goals to moving to the Chilean Andes with you. He said "You go for it, babe. Polymirize is a nice guy. Tell him I recommended he build that house with lots of extra mud-and-llama-dung insulation since you're so cold-natured."
The goal to have sex before I die was at the top of my list of my ambitions as a pubescent male. Now it's to accomplish what I see as other weightier things. I confess, though, that I do hope to continue having sex till the Grim Reaper claims me.
When that day comes, Polymirize, you and Bird have my blessing. She's pretty and she's a great cook. She is a little feisty, though, and the fact that she's so verbal makes winning arguments darn near impossible. You strike me as a man who's up to that challenge. She'll probably need supplementary oxygen in Andean elevations, which may be a drawback, but she speaks good Spanish, which'll be an advantage. Take good care of her.
yeah prepubescent or virgin.. sex is good, but if you've never had it, and physiologically you need it..
my life would not feel complete if I were to never have sex or have a good relationship 'being' with a good woman, but if for instance, I did something really great that would outweigh my desire for sex or time with a great woman... or something like that.
I was thinking about this and my first thought was if I couldnt have sex anymore I think my life would be less complete, but then I realized that what would be missing would be the emotional fulfillment I get out of having sex with someone I love. I think I could do without the sex if I really had to, but I dont know about the things that come along with the sex.
i dont think sex is only for emotional pleasure.. don't get me wrong if you don't really think that way.
Oh no I dont feel that way at all. But as far as what makes it something that fulfills my life I think it would be the emotional aspect of it that does it. Trust me, I like sex just fine for the physical aspect. Some times I like it too much and tire out my boyfriend with the amount that I want.
For a long time I thought that all I needed was the physical side of it and I didnt understand why I wasnt enjoying myself as much as I had in the past. I didnt get the same thing out of it until I was in a relationship with someone that I really love. Love between partners makes good sex great sex.
I see what you're saying. feels good to love and be loved, and in a sexual relationship that's super.