Is it me or do i have problems?

[goldhead]

when ever me and my gf get together it always seems as if i want sex and she dont want it. it kinda makes me feel unwanted we have argued about it loads i just feel really unwanted. she tells me once a week is all she wants but it aint good enough for me can any woman tell me how shes thinking!!?

[MastaChronic]

lol, your not making her cum
that much should be obvious because if you were making her come she would be wanting to fuck every night

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

I hate to say this, but I think I agree with you MC. Although people do have different sex drives. But I know my man is the total shiznit in the sack, and I want to hump up on him aaallll the time.

[MastaChronic]

I hate to say this, but I think I agree with you MC. Although people do have different sex drives. But I know my man is the total shiznit in the sack, and I want to hump up on him aaallll the time.

im glad we agree

as for you.....whatever the fuck your name is.....try eating your girl out.....if you dont know how to do it.....watch some porno and pay attention

[SuperTorch]

She could just really know herself well and is just saying once a week thats it. I mean its not like she saying no shes just saying once a week and not everytime I see you. If she was geting it somewhere else I don't think she even be doing you once I week but scheams can be complicated. Was there ever a time when she did more. This seems to me like 2 diffeent sex drives. You have the right to ask for more info from her as to why, if shes unwilling to say or can't talk about it than maybe somethings up, but if shes always be like this then you cant tell her to change and get more into it.

[Jack the Tripper]

im glad we agree

as for you.....whatever the fuck your name is.....try eating your girl out.....if you dont know how to do it.....watch some porno and pay attention

That's actually some pretty good advice. Change it up a bit, maybe try doing something romantic to get her in the mood rather than just saying "let's have sex".

...

And play with her clit.

[Kid Dynamite]

yeah, i agree with these guys /\/\/\/\

this might be a personal question, but how much foreplay do you do? You might have more luck getting laid if you warm her up a bit first, without jumping straight into it. If you make her horny then she'll want it, kind of obvious.

[Veratyr Star]

She probably doesn't want to do it because you keep asking her for sex, which is making her think that she can have sex whenever she wants it because she knows you will give it to her when she wants it.

And knowing you can have sex whenever you want it is a good feeling and she doesn't need to do it all the time.


So my advice would be to lay off sex for a while. Maybe a week or so. Don't meantion it at all. And the first time she asks for it, don't give in right away.

Turn the tables on her and make her start asking.

[napolitana869]

She probably doesn't want to do it because you keep asking her for sex, which is making her think that she can have sex whenever she wants it because she knows you will give it to her when she wants it.

And knowing you can have sex whenever you want it is a good feeling and she doesn't need to do it all the time.


So my advice would be to lay off sex for a while. Maybe a week or so. Don't meantion it at all. And the first time she asks for it, don't give in right away.

Turn the tables on her and make her start asking.

this is true

[locomark]

Well goldhead,

I say dump her for a philippina. Your not satisfied now you may never be so why torture yourself. But what do I know.

Loco

[JeenYuss]

yeah, i agree with these guys /\/\/\/\

this might be a personal question, but how much foreplay do you do? You might have more luck getting laid if you warm her up a bit first, without jumping straight into it. If you make her horny then she'll want it, kind of obvious.

not all tha time... my girl just wants to fuck at RANDOM ass times... like if we're all alone an im on top of her kissin her an i start kissin her lower an shit sometimes shes jus like no i dont feel like it, but then other times we're jus sittin there an she gets all over me an jus wants sum even if theres ppl around sumtimes she might just fuckin rape me in a livin room full of ppl

[Jim Morrison]

maybe she wants you to like her for her and not her vagina

you have to respect her decision or find another girl whos easier to put out

[someuser]

I agree the problem could be your lack of 'performance' Goldhead but also, as an 'older guy here' it is also possible her lack of sex drive could be medically or psychologically related.


My advice is to just have a very blunt talk with her. Let her know how you feel just like you said it here and just ask her point blank:

- Is there something -I- could do different

- Do you just not have any 'desire'

If it is the desire maybe she would be willing to see a gynecologist about it to help identify if there is something medically that could be done or determine if it is psychological (and maybe recommend a good shrink)


Of course if you're not that serious about her, then I advise you to dump her and move on. Most girls I've been with had either the same or HIGHER sex drive then me. On average (atleast in the beginning) sex atleast once a day is a mutual thing (some girls I fucked on average of 3 - 4 times day with 7x being my 'high score' LoL). What I'm trying to say is if you really like her and this is a big deal seek some professional help... If not cut your losses now and move on.

[Victoria Plum]

An older woman here! It might be nothing to do with your performance, it could just be that she has gone off you. Sexual desire all starts in the mind and if it isn't in the mind it won't go anywhere else.

[2600HERTZ]

Slip your pinky finger in her anus while eating her out. That one gets em hooked everytime! :rastasmoke:

[Skink]

She's just playing her cards,,,act like you don't want it and go to the mall and stare at guy's dicks...

[kdspecial]

Feeling poorly about yourself is a bad place to start (Cuz you never know forsure if your performance is the problem),,, its hard not to do but it really is the worst mind state to be in for this situation.

Its great to talk about stuff but the last thing you want to do is come off sounding like a complainer or a low self esteem individual in the Sac. Girls hate guys with no confidence. Even if they say they don't they really do...Unconciously

From my experince which isn't a whole lot. But a few long relationships, Where yes the sex got to the point where it was differnet than it was when we started dating. (which is natural)

you gotta just switch it right up. Like if Romance is her thing try that// but For me the best Sex is unexpected and doens't take much pre work its just timeing...... And somtimes.. depending on your Girl.. You have to take it... I prolly take some Flack from some people when I say that but I mean it. Its true. I don't mean Rape or abuse, and the type of girl is a huge factor here when I say this, but somtimes you gotta give her no choice but to induldge in sex iwth you. its worked for me... Its all about how you approach her or (Your Attck)

Girls somtimes enjoy guys who show the power and what better place to show it than in the bed, Im not talking freaky shit.. leather chains and Whips.. not that theres anything wrong there ither whatever floats your boat. I mean just taking control and showing her your really into her by saying nice dirty stuff and touching her. Well its kinda like Nice gropping.

Like my Gf will be getting ready to go somwhere. and she may undress for a second to put on new jeans. Ill pick that time to grab her from behind. start groping her and then tell her shes beautiful and take control, She knows what i want. and she then is turned on by my presence As the "Male Alfa" from what i can tell anyways.. There is the odd time where she will be like Fuk off... but still She likes the gesture and feels sexy or Irresistable. But somtimes they just don't let ya have it.. Its just life.. she might be ina hurry or whatnot.

Another good time to jump into actiion is when they are getting into the shower.. Let them go in.. all the while you plan your attack.. then jump in She'll be like what are you doing... then kiss her tell her you WANt her and you coudn't control your animal urge... (in whatever words you choose) I like funny so im always refering to animal instinct and stuff... whatever works for you as a couple. Sometimes hse'll kick me out... but most times I stay and we have fun...

Ither way you can't be blamed for trying if you do it tastfully.. With these type of surprise controled Attacks...(im gonna keep using the animal references) She can really only be left with no other feelings besides... Wow im irresistable, sexy and Loved.. I made him stop what he was doing because he got so turned on when I took off my clothes to change.. or whatnot... or if shes a Bitch she just might find it annoying. thats personallyity thing .... It happens... move on...

I could be totally wrong here... but it has worked for me.. I feel most girls like you to be in control. it makes them feel safe and cared for.. Sex is a natural animal instinct. Since I satrted looking at it in that sense I started having better sex.. and funner sex too... there is no better place to show her you love and care about her and can make her feel safe than through sex.. because her animal instinct will kick in too.. It always does for everyone... Thats why we all love it....

We are just animals.... hahahha

Well thats was a lot of typing,, I hope you can figure out what my points are... Try it... Im telling you Uncontrolled Sex is the best.. Even if you ahve planned your attack out in your head for 10 mins... TO her it wasn't planned which makes it exciting and fun....

Kd

[JackdaWack]

if u have to ask for it, i dont think its gonna happen, talking is good, but seeming desperate for sex is almost like telling her you only want her for sex. The more u show her and not tell her shes irresistable and u just wanna u know bang, the more she will enjoy it, its not like a duty to her.

[JaggedEdge]

I stopped reading responses to this, but how old are you? If you are still in highschool and are around 16, she may not want to have sex with you everyday you see her, because she doesn't want the relationship to be about sex.

If everytime you see her you try and fuck her, she may begin feeling like that is all you care about.

Just my 2 cents.

[dutch.lover]

if you've been in a relationship for awhile, having sex only once a week is the average...she's not abnormal if she only wants it once a week. however, it could be due to other things like her not being satisfied with the sex, or having a poor body image. i think you need to talk to her and ask her straight out (in a non-blaming way) why she doesn't want to have sex very often. make it clear how much you care about her and how attracted you are to her- and have you told her that you feel unwanted because of her low sex drive?

[benagain]

How long have you been with this girl? I know that back in the day me and the misses used to hump like rabbits every free chance we got.
5 years of marriage later and we still get it on frequently, but we don't have at it every time we're alone. We still have to eat dinner and do laundtry and whot not.

Plus you're a guy. Guys think about sex constantly and once started can't stop.

I've found that women can be in the middle of sex and one little thing (phone call, knock on the door, whatever) happens and she's out in a snap.

[birdgirl73]

No one else has raised this question, so I will. Is there any chance that all you've been interested in lately is sex and nothing else like what's going on with her, with the romance, with going out, with relationship matters other than sex? Because sometimes if a girl feels like she's only being pursued for sex and isn't getting any of the emotional or romantic attention she needs, she'll hold out in the sex department. The different genders just have very different takes on sex and love. Y'all equate sex with love and acceptance. And we generally need to feel love and acceptance before we want to put out sexually. It can complicate things sometimes.

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

:clap:

[benagain]

No one else has raised this question, so I will. Is there any chance that all you've been interested in lately is sex and nothing else like what's going on with her, with the romance, with going out, with relationship matters other than sex? Because sometimes if a girl feels like she's only being pursued for sex and isn't getting any of the emotional or romantic attention she needs, she'll hold out in the sex department. The different genders just have very different takes on sex and love. Y'all equate sex with love and acceptance. And we generally need to feel love and acceptance before we want to put out sexually. It can complicate things sometimes.

Awesome post. :thumbsup:

[JaggedEdge]

No one else has raised this question, so I will. Is there any chance that all you've been interested in lately is sex and nothing else like what's going on with her, with the romance, with going out, with relationship matters other than sex? Because sometimes if a girl feels like she's only being pursued for sex and isn't getting any of the emotional or romantic attention she needs, she'll hold out in the sex department. The different genders just have very different takes on sex and love. Y'all equate sex with love and acceptance. And we generally need to feel love and acceptance before we want to put out sexually. It can complicate things sometimes.

Hey now, I kind of said that, just not as well. I think that is likely the main problem. I have had that happen with girls I was dating, they started feeling like they were being used for sex and started acting that way.

[birdgirl73]

Hey now, I kind of said that, just not as well. I think that is likely the main problem. I have had that happen with girls I was dating, they started feeling like they were being used for sex and started acting that way.
I see that you did indeed ask that general question, and I apologize for having scanned the previous responses so quickly that I didn't notice that. I would have acknowledged your idea in my thread, too, had I seen that on my first reading!