Babies BABIES BABIES!!

[TallulahGreen]

Oh shit guys...

..so I think I may have a little problem.

My whole life I was like "babies are stupid, kids are stupid, I am never having kids.."

Now everytime I see a freakin' kid they are like all I can focus on and think "AW OH MY GOD THEY ARE SO FUCKING CUTE I WANT ONE..."

..it is really starting to freak me the fuck out.

I feel like I am going to have a baby VERY VERY SOON..and im a little fREAKED.

[MastaChronic]

theres only one thing to do if you have a kid of your own



kill it






















nah, just playing.....or am i? i really dont know...call it being half serious...

[Breukelen advocaat]

Oh shit guys...

..so I think I may have a little problem.

My whole life I was like "babies are stupid, kids are stupid, I am never having kids.."

Now everytime I see a freakin' kid they are like all I can focus on and think "AW OH MY GOD THEY ARE SO FUCKING CUTE I WANT ONE..."

..it is really starting to freak me the fuck out.

I feel like I am going to have a baby VERY VERY SOON..and im a little fREAKED.


This is a common condition among many childfree people: You have a temporary moment of weakness, your instincts take over your emotions, and you feel warm and fuzzy for a while and wish to become a parent. You will get over it! Don't give in, it's not real - nature is trying to trick you into having sprogs.

the childfree-by-choice pages (http://www.childfree.net/)

Childfree By Choice
Childless By Choice (http://now2000.com/cbc/)

The Childfree Webring Homepage
http://www.fred.net/turtle/kids/ring.html

The Childfree Zone (Phoenix, AZ)
The Childfree Zone - free of kids by choice! (http://hometown.aol.com/childfreeaz/index.html)

Childless By Choice
http://cottagesoft.com/~cynthia/essays/waterlil.htm

Kindervrij, the Dutch childfree site
Kindervrij (http://www.kindervrij.nl)

New Zealand Childfree Community
Childfree (http://communities.msn.co.nz/Childfree/_whatsnew.msnw)

No Kidding!
The international social club for childfree and childless couples and singles
No Kidding! A social club for childfree singles and couples (http://www.nokidding.net)

No Rugrats!
http://www.tbns.net/ferrette76/childfree

To Breed or Not to Breed
To Breed Or Not To Breed (http://www.context.org/ICLIB/IC31/ToBreed.htm)

World Overpopulation Awareness
World Overpopulation Awareness (population) (http://www.overpopulation.org)

You have a choice!
http://www.fred.net/turtle/kids/kids1.html

Zero Population Growth
Population Connection: Learn More (http://zpg.org/)

[TallulahGreen]

hahhaha DAMN you are serious about that shit.

I want to have kids for sure, I just don't know why I want them so young all of the sudden!!!
Maybe I already am pregnant???

[Chronic Chrissy]

I.was.the.same.way...Then.we.had.a.oops...Now.my.b aby.is.all.that.matters...

[birdgirl73]

I feel like I am going to have a baby VERY VERY SOON..and im a little fREAKED.
This was the part that worried me. Are you basing that "feeling" on the fact that you had sex with your BF at precisely your most fertile time of month? Or on the fact that, deep down, you know you're already pregnant or feel fairly certain the chance is high?

Because if it's the other--and you don't think or know you're already pregnant--then it's probably just a phase. Happened twice with me as I was maturing and I'd see babies'/kids' little faces and imagine the romantic aspect of it all, particularly during times when I was particularly taken with a boyfriend and feeling a touch of the "nesting" instinct kick in with him. I had two friends who had the mommy urge when, on some level, they were hoping to get pregnant and hasten a desired marriage proposal (a very bad idea and strategy that backfired in both instances). And I had one friend who went through the urge to breed when she was disillusioned with college and wanted a reason to drop out. Sometimes it happens when girls/women are looking for more love than they're getting currently.

For the sake of the fun you're having now and need to keep having, your future, and your future kids' happiness, let's hope this is just a passing phase. Babies and children are charming and a great joy for people who like babies and children and want to spend 20 - 25 years raising and supporting them. But even under the best of circumstances when they're planned for and you have plenty of money, a solid marriage, college educations completed and good jobs in hand, it's a huge and overwhelming responsibility. It turns your life, your priorities, your plans, and your finances upside down. The reality of parenting isn't all just "ooohs" and "aaahhhs" and cuddles and rocking. It's bone-draining fatigue, additional stresses on a young marriage/relationship, impossibly expensive medical and babycare costs, and changes to your body, your sex life, and your hormones that you can't yet really fathom. It's hard work and serious responsibility. Wish I'd played for 10 more years before we had ours!

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

Excellent advice BG.

[birdgirl73]

Thanks, Mrs. G. As usual, I'm sure I said too much. And I don't want to seem anti-baby or anti-reproduction. I adore babies. I love my own, wanted to have more than one, and to this day still crave to adopt the others I see. Heck, I think I want to be a pediatrician. But parenting is the most frighteningly hard job there is, and emotionally and physically it's far harder on moms than on dads, especially during pregnancy and the first three to five years.

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

Amen, and well I know it. I'm crazy about my daughters (8 and 5) but some of my most horrific and heartrending moments of my life are directly due to them LOL!

[TallulahGreen]

It seems in the past year I have known more people around me to have babies than ever. Never would I have ever thought that at such a young age(21 years old)..I would start to feel like I want kids.

I am going to fight(and will) the thought of wanting kids now.

I don't want to do what my mother did....and have a kid too soon!

However, she always tells me weird trippy stuff...like I should have a kid young?

I am feeling quite nested...with my boyfriend of 2 years...we often talk about kids, and have agreed that if I were to get pregnant on accident at this point in time...we will keep the child.

I don't know, I am trippin' out on life lately...

I know what I want and what I need..but I still just have this trippy ass feeling in the pit of my stomach screaming BABY!!

[birdgirl73]

Sweet Tal, you're so young that by the time you finish school and have your kids, you'll still be young. Seriously, if you have them in your early or mid 20s, that's young. When you look around at your baby's contemporaries' parents, I'll bet lots of them will be in their 30s and 40s.

I had our son too soon at 24. But I had that baby-fever feeling . . . I still get it now at 45, hearing in the background some very loud Westminster chimes tolling the approaching end of my ovulating years. I'm pretty sure most women who like children and have a functioning uterus feel that feeling. Having babies is part of what we're designed to do!

[Samwhore]

hm, ive said that I dont want kids either, but then I look at them and I say the same thing. I can imagine myself later in life with 3 boys (wierd, i know) but I cant see myself having a happy family. I can see myself in the typical dysfunctional family with my kids always saying "mom I hate you" and all that other stuff, I just dont know why. I guess I dont have that maternal instinct, and im kinda afraid to have kids, not because of the pain, but I cant see my kids happy.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Ewwwww babies.

[Coelho]

hm, ive said that I dont want kids either, but then I look at them and I say the same thing. I can imagine myself later in life with 3 boys (wierd, i know) but I cant see myself having a happy family. I can see myself in the typical dysfunctional family with my kids always saying "mom I hate you" and all that other stuff, I just dont know why. I guess I dont have that maternal instinct, and im kinda afraid to have kids, not because of the pain, but I cant see my kids happy.

well... it will depends on you... maybe you had not a happy family, but it was not your fault... anyway, if some day you have a family and children, it will be your oportunity to give them everything you had not... so, love them, show them how great is your love, and they will love you back. :)

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

Ewwwww babies.
Babies rock. They start sucking when they start talking.

My oldest girl (now 8) talked so much, so nonstop, when she was 3 that I wasn't sure I was going to allow her to make it to 4.

[birdgirl73]

Babies DO rock. It was the 3-ish toddler phase when I began to first question the wisdom of future birthdays. Something about waking up in the morning, greeting a smiling 3-year-old, and then not being able to stop moving in his wake, hoping to prevent spills, crashes, falls, climbing disasters, breaking glass, liquids pulled off counters, etc., until he fell unconscious again, which never happened nearly soon enough.

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

...until he fell unconscious again, which never happened nearly soon enough.
::blackgirl voice::Mmmhmmm.
I know I'm not the only parent who used to wish for their kids to get a cold so I could legally give them Benadryl and knock their little rowdy asses out.

[dutch.lover]

Im young and im kinda getting the baby fever too...it's not that strong, but lately I have just been seeing soooooo many pregnant women, and they look so amazing, and the babies are soooo cute!! I was never obsessed about babies before, and I'm not really now, but it's definitely more than before. I think being pregnant would be awesome....but alas, I shall wait. I would like to have my first baby before I am 30. My mom had me when she was 27, and she is a good age for a parent IMO. I don't want to be too young, or too old....my friends uncle just had a baby with his wife and he is 51! That's way too old IMO, not to mention the risks to both the child and mother at that age (his wife is 46).

[Storm Crow]

Just a suggestion for all of your girls who are getting "baby fever"-- why not work for a while as a volunteer worker at a pre-school? It will help those of you who are having mixed feelings to get it all sorted out. Babies are delightful and demanding. They are screaming with stuff coming out of every orifice and getting it all over you. The next minute, they give you a smile straight from heaven. Taking care of other people's children is a great reality check!

And I was 27 when I had my first- the second followed about 4 years later. I stopped at two kids...I remembered all the stuff my brother and I pulled, and I wasn't about to be outnumbered! Two kids, two adults! Worked out pretty good, we're all still friends. My "baby" is 28. Granny:hippy:

[birdgirl73]

I just learned this week that I'm going to be an aunt! My younger sister (by a little less than a year and a half) is very newly, successfully pregnant after in-vitro fertilization. She's an older mom, 44, but she didn't marry until just a couple of years ago. So they're getting a bit of a late start, but we're all thrilled that there's going to be a baby in the family again. It could even be twins because they implanted two embryos, but it's too early to tell.

This takes care of the last remaining vestiges of my own baby fever. I have on some level held out hope for all these many years that I would get pregnant and have a second baby, but that isn't going to happen and my body and heart couldn't support a pregnancy anyway. Now I can be an aunt, and then by the time my sister's baby gets grown, I hope I'll be heading in the direction of being a grandparent.

This has been especially good news for my family because we lost my older sister to cancer exactly four months ago. Welcoming a new baby into the family later this year will be a lovely renewal of the circle of life.