Domestic Disturbance

[Metaphor]

A few days ago i was at L's crib, R S and me were tokin a blunt and throwin L a few hits for the crib. This was nothing new, just an average day there. After we had toked and played some video games S had to go to get to work. Now L tells us to put on our shoes in the hallway outside his crib because of the carpet. S, being the stoned bastard he is puts his shoes on right near the door and is about to leave when L's Sister starts to scream at S.
Ls (L's sister is also L so shel be LS) Why are you putting your shoes on in the house
S Its not a big deal
Ls your gunna clean it up?
S clean what up
Ls Clean up the mess!!!
S I guess (or something like that)
Ls So Do IT!!!!
by now things were getting pretty loud so L gets up and goes in the other room and tells S to just leave, so he does
then LS starts flippin out on L, Screaming a whole bunch of shit along the lines of "What the fuck, how are you gunna let him disrespect me in my house" They argue it out for a few mins then L just tries to drop it and comes back into the room, LS then Pushes the door wide open screaming "Dont Turn Your Back on me".
L finaly gets the door closed and locked. After LS Screams for a bit everything appears to be over. Me and R can tell L is very tense and shaking his legs, and balling his fists. We just kinda sit there in akward silence for a few seconds and L punches the couch, We were trying to get him to smoke a cigg or something to calm down but he didnt say anything. A Few Moments pass and he says "God ide love to deck that bitch" or something like that.
LS then starts screaming again, "YOU THINK I CANT HEAR YOU, COME DO IT IF YOUR A REAL MAN" something like that.
we just sit in a silence as L starts to shake more than ever, he then jumped up and ran out the room.
now L is a big guy, atleast 6' nd 250lbs, me n R couldnt have stopped him seeing as how were both about 5'6'' and more of the "non-violent" potheads if you will, anyway we both look out the door just in time to see L Knock her right in the cheek, as if a man would hit another man.
LS starts so scream and scratch him, pull his hair w/e untill LS Boyfriend, a much bigger guy who is friends with L too broke it up.
Me nd R kinda snuck out while LS boyfriend was holding it down.

i lost respect for L that day. It was a sad more than anythin, ive never seen anyone hit a chick like that.

sorry if any of that is unclear or w.e but im a sloppy typer

[Samwhore]

dude, L, ls, D, R , DGEBR

all those letters got me confused

[slipknotpsycho]

not me i understood the story... and while i'm firmly against fighting a woman like that, the woman shouldn't antagonize the man....

i'm in no way saying it's ok, so don't get me wrong there ladies.. but if you already know a man is on the verge of losing his control, and about to hit you, or could be about to hit you, don't keep dragging it on, as hard as it may be for yal to let it go, you really should... cuz nearly every woman is going to get some kinda sympathy from nearly everyone once you push that guy over the edge.... and it's just not fair...

again, what he did was surely fucked up.... i've never hit a woman like that (yes i've hit a woman, i ain't gonna sit here and lie) and i never would... i'd sooner break my fist on a wall (our walls are sheetrock, then solid wood, so it's not that hard to do), then punch her dead in the face... and i HAVE done it before... i'm a bit more in control of my emotions at this age... but i used to have to punch a wall or steel or soemthing, just to break my fist, so i wouldnt' end up using it on a person... not the best way to deal with a problem i admit, but it sure kept me from bruising/bloodying up a female...

i'd have a serious sit-down with L.... if he's that damn mad, he needs to walk away (this is another thing i've seen the ladies have a problem with... if a man is walking the fuck away from you, it doesn't mean follow him and keep bitching at him, it doesn't mean he's 'lost' w/e you were arguing about and now is a good time to re-assure yourself of that... or continue whatever you're doing that made him walk away in the first place.. it means he's trying to seperate himself before he does something stupid he's going to regret later...)

again, hittin on women is wrong... and don't take this the wrong way (tho i know someone's bound to, so go ahead, i won't even respond, if you wanna take it out of context, that's your problem) some of you ladies ask for the shit.. you just don't know when to let something die, or drop... you keep on picking and picking at the guy, until he loses all self control... i'm not saying you deserve it (exactly..) but you are asking for trouble when you keep barking up that tree.... just know when to let shit go...

[Inferius]

^^

well written post.
I'd give rep but it wont lettt me.

[slipknotpsycho]

lol... someone gave me a negative rep for my post....

probably a woman who thinks it's their right to crawl up the mans ass and antagonize him to no end, and he's not supposed to do anything... or even worse... one that thinks she can punch, kick, pinch, and slap a man and he's just supposed to take it...

hey epic... :S4:

[YayAreaPnjbi]

I dont hit women, I hit bitches.

[azure]

she pushed him to his limits, her fault, i wouldnt lose respect id be surprised though i suppose.

[institutionhead]

women - can't live with em - can't get head without em... whats a guy to do??

[Greenport]

Women do it all the time to men and its not fair. But i myself wouldent ever hit a woman. I think that is pretty wrong but still in ur post i think she had it coming.

[affasd]

sounded like shes a huge bitch and pretty much deserved it

[TheAtomicPunk]

Slipknot's argument sounds like the "you never touch a woman's feet" kind of argument. He had no reason to hit her like that but a woman should know not to intimidate a tall large pissed off man, that's common sense.

[slipknotpsycho]

Slipknot's argument sounds like the "you never touch a woman's feet" kind of argument. He had no reason to hit her like that but a woman should know not to intimidate a tall large pissed off man, that's common sense.

i'm not sure what you meant by that... ?

[rebgirl420]

That fucker should have his throat slit with a rusty razor blade. You NEVER hit a woman no matter how crazy she is acting. Ugh!

[birdgirl73]

I think he was just referring to the tone of your guys-should-never-hit-a-woman message as perhaps an arbitrary gender-based rule in protection of women just like, say, his example of "guys should never touch a woman's feet" or this one of "a woman should never mess up a guy's hair." That sorta thing, Slip. He didn't have a problem with what you said.

I wish situations like that never happened. That big guy should never have punched her, but she at the same time shouldn't have egged him on like that, especially knowing the potential risk. My guess is that's not the first time that's occurred between those two. I hate physical violence that goes either way like that. Guess I've volunteered too long in a women's shelter/crisis center. It's a two-way street. Both genders can be abusive, but at the same time, both genders can also be the provocateurs, and all domestic partners with even half a brain know how not to push those buttons (and sometimes still choose to do that anyway). That's part of the dysfunctional dance that goes on when the anger starts spinning out of control like that.

For me, I know if it ever got physical between my husband and me, I'd be the bad loser. He outweighs me by 130 pounds and is half a foot taller. We've had our hottest differences worked out for a long time now, but when things do get to the point where we're about to say something we'll regret later, we just agree to go to neutral corners and talk about it later when we're cooler. We both let off a lot of stress and steam through exercise anyway, which helps us tend to be more chill with each other in the first place.

[slipknotpsycho]

o.0 rebgirl lol.... a guy shouldn't hit a woman yes... but a woman shouldn't be able to stick up in the guys ass following him everywhere continually nagging him, and as has happened to me alot before, be able to slap pinch kick and hit the guy, when the guy just wants to walk the hell away...

my WIFE used to have this nasty habbit of following me when i needed to get away to cool down... o.0 and i've seen countless other women do it to friends as well.. even taking it further and basicly beating the shit outta the dude... and all he wanted was to get away... i have hit a woman, i won't deny it, and i regret it everytiem ithink about it... but i never would do it with a closed fist, and it was never as hard as i possibly could..

just enough to let the woman know i'm in no mood to put up with all the shit atm and to just go away and leave me alone, that was also after i had been followed everywhere, poked, pinched, and had the living shit bugged outta me.... o.0 for some reason lol, alot of women i've been around seem to think when the guy is pissed off is a good time to irritate him even further...

i end up just taking alot of crap... restraining myself, but sometimes, i just can't hold back anymore.. after warning after warning after warning... usually starts off with them like touching me (irritating touching, not i'm sorry.... but 'poke' like in the ribs or something like that...) and me moving their hand, to a few touches later, squeezing their hand and moving it, til quite a few times later to squeezing their hand and flinging it, well you get the picture...

i do try to do everything in my power to not let it get to that.. but you can only do so much... i don't have a car or liscense so i can't just drive off... anywhere i can go, she can go too...

[Nochowderforyou]

Wow, so this whole thing was over someone putting their shoes on in the house? Now that is some stupid shit to argue over and get mad about.

They obviously hate one another to flip like that, and if I had someone like that, see yeah!

Some nagging I can deal with, but if it was a daily thing, I wouldn't be with a women like that anyways. The dude hitting his women because she was calling him names is out of line in my opinion. A women can call me all the names she wants. I'll laugh in her face and leave for good.

That's all he had to do was leave, but he chose to hit her instead.

Now, if the girl had slapped him first, then yes, he has that right to plead self defense and defend himself. I don't mean beating her to a pulp, but if someone hit me out of anger, I would return that favour. :thumbsup:

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" ;)