Anyone else?

[TallulahGreen]

Is anyone else feeling extra down lately? I have been pretty good about keeping myself happy and doin' good...but the past few days all I have wanted to do is sleep..and I just want to say fuck it to everything.

Seem to be finding lots of people feeling this way...

I am sick of it!:S4:

[xxxhazexxx]

hello tallulah yeah its a bummer i went through a period just before xmas last year lasted 1-2 weeks,no matter how long i was a sleep i was tierd all the time i would get up get the kids to school go back to sleep wake up fell like shit so i would go back to sleep i did'nt want to do anything,cleaning,shopping,cooking,etc.....but we all come trough it im back on top form again growing smoking everythings cool:S5: :S5: :S5:

[deftdrummer]

you are what you make of it

[TallulahGreen]

you are what you make of it

exactly...which is why I usually am so happy...

...but..it seems as if lately it's been one thing after another.

[surreys princess]

you need a vacation!!

here is some love for you tal.....cause i love you, even when you are down which is so unlike you....i think i even love you more at these times, cause we see even you are human too..hugs for tal !!!

<3<3<3<3

[Blunt burner turner]

everyone i know is ill tired and depressed, its the light, we are meant to be asleep when it i darka dn awake when its light but that doesn't work with jobs and school and that so.. everyone feels like shit :(

[NextLineIsMine]

ive coined my own term "natural depression sessions". Personally I think every normal healthy person should at least have a week or two a year where they let out the tortured artist within. People who are bubbly and perky 24/7 seem like they force it to me.

Just give it some time, I usually feel great after having felt down a little while

[benagain]

I hope you get to feeling better. About a month or two ago I went through a 'funk'. I wasn't depressed (or at least I think), but I really didn't feel like doing anything most days. I was very emotional there for a bit and I didn't know why. I felt like I was 16 all over again and depressed for no good reason. I'm not sure if I was really really homesick or what.

If I had to guess what it was, Id say I wasn't getting out of the house enough. On average, I would leave the house for maybe 10-15 hours a week tops and that was ususally spent at the grocery store, bank and so on. Didn't spend a lot of time doing fun things outside of the house. What was funny is that I could have cared less about weed. If my wife didn't smoke, I prolly wouldn't have gotten high for a month. It was starting to effect my work. I'm not sure what helped me, but I tried going out to visit friends, went fishing as often as possible (weather permitting), started doing a lot of yard work, started trying new recipes to cook for dinner and started working out again. Basically made myself get so busy, I was too tired to feel like bumming around. Something must have worked because I feel fine now. I still get homesick from time to time and wish I could live here and still be in my hometown, but thats life. I'm happy and have a good life so I can't complain :D

[2600HERTZ]

Sometimes at work I get so frustrated with the people after everything has stacked up all day, that I just go outside and Look at the sunset and meditate for a minute or two, and just focus on prayers I have wanted to say all day. I just take some time for myself.

[JR77]

Yeah - I felt like that last month...I was like f**k everything - I don't care anymore...But I try to tell myself that when things are on a bad streak - they can't stay bad forever...and I feel better now, so I think sometimes in life it is just to be expected.

[Nochowderforyou]

Nah, I haven't been down lately, but I have been extra tired for some reason. Last night I fell asleep at 5pm, and woke up at 11pm. I stayed up until 4am and watched NBK, then went back to sleep and awoke at 8am.

My sleeping pattern is all fucked up, and now I'll need sleep this afternoon. :p

[TallulahGreen]

Thanks guys. I don't mean to be a whiner or a complainer but it feels it's easier to complain to you guys than people in my real life. I am going to work and school full time and on top of that so much other shit has happend...it seems like so many people lately are right there with me. Today is easier than yesterday, I went to class at least.....and now I am gonna get high the rest of the day and do school work...

...at least I don't have work today....

[Its a Plant]

I feel ya Tallulah.

The past couple weeks I've felt down and out about a number of things.

But, it's a new day, and a clean slate.

Glad you're on the road to happiness again. Now I want another "I'm in love with myself" thread ASAP! :D

[TallulahGreen]

I feel ya Tallulah.

The past couple weeks I've felt down and out about a number of things.

But, it's a new day, and a clean slate.

Glad you're on the road to happiness again. Now I want another "I'm in love with myself" thread ASAP! :D

hahhaah you crack me up.

[higher4hockey]

i've been feeling like that lately as well....
my situation is that were i'm waiting for a phone call and a pack your bags you're leaving type thing. i've been waiting for about four months now, and its driving me bonkers.

but on the bright side of things, my hometown usually freezes the town square for the hockey players and such, but the last few years its been too warm. but seeming how its been 'colder than a well diggers arse in flim-flom manitoba' the last few days, they froze it!!

so that means as long as the cold holds out , i'll be playing some puck with little kids! :D yaaaay

[stinkyattic]

Yeah it's been bad.
This cold snap is shitty.
I miss my plants.
I just found out yesterday that the week I kicked out my theiving no-good boyfriend, he had been shopping for an engagement ring for me for Christmas. Now I feel even more miserable. Even though I still think he's scum and he snitched on my grow op.
My VW needs new struts.
I still don't have a tenant.
Did I mention I miss my plants?
booooohooooo!

[TallulahGreen]

Yeah it's been bad.
This cold snap is shitty.
I miss my plants.
I just found out yesterday that the week I kicked out my theiving no-good boyfriend, he had been shopping for an engagement ring for me for Christmas. Now I feel even more miserable. Even though I still think he's scum and he snitched on my grow op.
My VW needs new struts.
I still don't have a tenant.
Did I mention I miss my plants?
booooohooooo!


Don't feel bad, I was going to break up with my boyfriend..and I swear the second I was gonna break up with him he put a fucking diamond ring on my finger.

*SIGH*

[Its a Plant]

So...wait...

You're engaged?

Do I..congratulate you? Yeah, I think I will.

:lovestruck: **Congratulations!**:lovestruck:

[TallulahGreen]

So...wait...

You're engaged?

Do I..congratulate you? Yeah, I think I will. Hoooray :jointsmile:

I'm 21 years old, it's a freakin' J-O-K-E to even think about something like that at this age.

I STILL HAVE YET TO EXPERIENCE INDEPENDANCE AS AN ADULT.

:S1:

[Its a Plant]

At least now you won't be doing it alone..

To quote some cheesy 80's love song..."I believe...love is the answer...I believe...love will find a way."

Lol, don't ask me why I know that...

[TallulahGreen]

At least now you won't be doing it alone..

To quote some cheesy 80's love song..."love...is the answer...I believe...love will find a way."

Lol, don't ask me why I know that...

Yes well, if only he weren't an alcoholic. Or WE rather I should say....I suppose.

[higher4hockey]

tallulah......if you were going to break up with him and he put a ring on your finger.......why did that stop you??

[Skink]

I have been feeling down as of late but,,,it is due to current events... I always try to keep a positive attitude/outlook on life... if I obsess in the negative I will defeat myself... you are a upbeat individual Tal and I think you will brush this bad spell of quite easily... Think positive!!!

[TallulahGreen]

tallulah......if you were going to break up with him and he put a ring on your finger.......why did that stop you??


I am a crazy girlfriend who tends to think that after a bad night that we should break up.


....I don't know...


Sometimes I still think I should breakup with him....than others times I can't imagine it.

I want to feel the feeling of freeeeenessss while still having someone to come home to..

I can't seem to have the best of both worlds and I feel I really need it. Boyfriends are hard, relationships are hard..especially being so young....and a diamond ring is a lot of pressure..I don't know what the hell I am doing. I still am trying to figure out how to be who I am, and it is so hard to do that with someone else trying to do the same thing for themselves...
...still trying to figure out, in fact just learning...HOW to live life..how to be responsible...how to not care....how to stay happy.

We have our problems...and the number one problem that makes PROBLEMS in our relationship is ALCOHOL. It is something I had dealt with my whole life and same goes for him and it is a horrible battle and I sometimes feel hopeless like I can't win...but I fear that no matter who I am with will be an alcoholic for fear of my own habits.

I am so very confused about my life at this point in time....really..good luck getting an answer out of me that makes any sense at all.

[TallulahGreen]

I have been feeling down as of late but,,,it is due to current events... I always try to keep a positive attitude/outlook on life... if I obsess in the negative I will defeat myself... you are a upbeat individual Tal and I think you will brush this bad spell of quite easily... Think positive!!!

What is your sign if I may ask and haven't already before????

[Its a Plant]

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."

What you said does make sense, to your dismay. :o

I see it as two different roads...one is a future full of LOVE with your hubby...the other is truly free as you discover yourself...where either takes you, no one knows...

That DOES sound tough...

[higher4hockey]

it seems like you need an answer out of you , more so than i need an answer out of you.


in my past relationships i can look back now, and the moment i started thinking of what it would be like without her....was the beginning of the end. but thats just me.

[TallulahGreen]

it seems like you need an answer out of you , more so than i need an answer out of you.


in my past relationships i can look back now, and the moment i started thinking of what it would be like without her....was the beginning of the end. but thats just me.


Yes well...I imagine whatever is supposed to happen will work itself out and all I can do is keep my head up......and wait for my next life adventure...whatever that may be!
:S5:

[Skink]

Ok Tal about the boy thing... if it don't feel right the answer is obvious...

Alcohol is a subject I have plenty of experience with!!! One of the most critical things is dependency... an alcoholic generally need some one to drink with to make them self feel it is justifiable to drink... you need to stop and see if there is a change in the way he feels about you... edit: and VisaVersa if he should stop...

Divorce is a growing statistic for a reason,,, so don't jump into a fire without knowing it will be hot as hell...

Besided you are to young for marriage,,,find your goals first...

[Skink]

What is your sign if I may ask and haven't already before????

I'm a Scorp...

[TallulahGreen]

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."

What you said does make sense, to your dismay. :o

I see it as two different roads...one is a future full of LOVE with your hubby...the other is truly free as you discover yourself...where either takes you, no one knows...

That DOES sound tough...

I am ever so quickly discovering myself more and more every day and I am constantly tripped out.

I am at peace with my weirdness!!!!

[Its a Plant]

Hooray for being okay with bein' a lil out there :jointsmile:

Paaaarty on, Wayne! ~

[TallulahGreen]

Ok Tal about the boy thing... if it don't feel right the answer is obvious...

Alcohol is a subject I have plenty of experience with!!! One of the most critical things is dependency... an alcoholic generally need some one to drink with to make them self feel it is justifiable to drink... you need to stop and see if there is a change in the way he feels about you...

Divorce is a growing statistic for a reason,,, so don't jump into a fire without knowing it will be hot as hell...

I fear I don't want to end up like my mother whom has never been married.

So I always want to make it work. He is a great guy who loves me a lot, but...theres a lot to it. Hes had a lot of past problems in his life that I think have made him turn to alcohol because he doesn't know or want to express things. (like his brother being murdered a little over 2 years ago...and lots more)..it's just life I guess. It's so confusing sometimes...why can't there just be an easy answer to everything?

I like scorpios, never met an annoying scorpio. :)

[TallulahGreen]

Hooray for being okay with bein' a lil out there :jointsmile:

Paaaarty on, Wayne! ~

It's like, why I AM weird.....why would I want to hang out with people that don't accept weirdos?

I enjoy being a weirdo! It makes life interesting for me and everyone around me...har har har.:S5: :S5:

[higher4hockey]

alcoholics don't need someone to drink with! i'm drinking right now !


:D

[Its a Plant]

I like scorpios, never met an annoying scorpio. :)
I hear once you go virgo, you never go back..:cool:

[TallulahGreen]

alcoholics don't need someone to drink with! i'm drinking right now !


:D

Thats the thing, I would drink even if he weren't around..which makes me realize I can't just blame HIM for the problem...because I drink too. I was raised by alcoholics, just as he was....

It's rough. (My boyfriend is out of town right now..and I imagine ill buy a bottle of wine tonight and drink by myself.....) so yeah....there ya go.

[Skink]

I fear I don't want to end up like my mother whom has never been married.

So I always want to make it work. He is a great guy who loves me a lot, but...theres a lot to it. Hes had a lot of past problems in his life that I think have made him turn to alcohol because he doesn't know or want to express things. (like his brother being murdered a little over 2 years ago...and lots more)..it's just life I guess. It's so confusing sometimes...why can't there just be an easy answer to everything?

I like scorpios, never met an annoying scorpio. :)

Well I'm happy I don't annoy you...

[TallulahGreen]

I hear once you go virgo, you never go back..:cool:

Exactly, my boyfriends birthday is September 8th.

I am September 23rd.


(little weird if ya ask me? We virgos are weird...and I am a virgo/libra...I am fucking nuts!)

[Skink]

I just need to say here ,,,and only one time... alcohol will defeat anyone if they let it control them!!!

[Its a Plant]

Oh yeah, I'm not normal.

Haha I'm sure it's borderline creepy for some, but mehh, they can sit on it.

virgos aren't your average folk.

Bottom line: virgos RULE - -

[stinkyattic]

tallulah......if you were going to break up with him and he put a ring on your finger.......why did that stop you??
My thoughts exactly.

Then I read TG's response.

Tallulah, you get enough bad nights, it's a crap relationship. Trust your gut on that one. I always think of a diamond as sort of a bribe anyway! :D And Her Dankness don't take no bribes.

BTW my 29th birthday was on Monday and I am really starting to feel my age... and I found out about the engagement ring while I was out celebrating my birthday last night... what a fucking buzzkill.

[higher4hockey]

talullah.......is alcohol getting blamed for something in this conversation, or is alcohol the cause of something.??


im confused.

[Skink]

I fear I don't want to end up like my mother whom has never been married.

That is something not to fear!!! you are your own individual...

[stinkyattic]

He is a great guy who loves me a lot, but...theres a lot to it. Hes had a lot of past problems in his life that I think have made him turn to alcohol because he doesn't know or want to express things. )
This is exactly the case with both my ex and his brother. When a man can't stand up and take control of his life and stop using past problems as an excuse for present behaviour, he is still not a man, he's a child. I believe my ex may have been sexually abused at some point. He refused to get counseling either for his depression, his drinking, or his shall we say sexual dysfunction. Until he has dealt with that stuff, he is NOT ready for a relationship PERIOD. If your man is still really hurting over something in HIS past, he needs to get counseling or you, the girlfriend, get to be, guess what, his shrink.


Thats the thing, I would drink even if he weren't around..which makes me realize I can't just blame HIM for the problem...because I drink too. I was raised by alcoholics, just as he was....)
Well in that case you're supporting each others' drinking... if it's a problem in the relationship, you BOTH need to quit together. If you feel HE has a bad problem, and you aren't willing to quit and work with him to get the problem sorted out, you need to break up. Because it simply does not work for one partner to try and quit while watching the other still drink. TRUST ME I have been through this with 2 different men who BOTH had bad drinking problems and BOTH blamed them on their admittedly shitty childhoods... but once you're in your 20s, you're on your own and any choices you make are YOUR choices.
And for yourself, I don't mean to sound preachy, but you don't want to get into the habit of dating guys who are emotionally damaged/needy in some way because of course you will end up trying to ohelp/fix/change them and it's something that has to come from within; a girlfriend isn't a mother. This was something I noticed in both of the previous 2-year relationships I've been through- the guys really started to treat me like I was their mom as soon as that initial romantic period was over.
Oklay long assed post better stick it up
:D

[TallulahGreen]

This is exactly the case with both my ex and his brother. When a man can't stand up and take control of his life and stop using past problems as an excuse for present behaviour, he is still not a man, he's a child. I believe my ex may have been sexually abused at some point. He refused to get counseling either for his depression, his drinking, or his shall we say sexual dysfunction. Until he has dealt with that stuff, he is NOT ready for a relationship PERIOD. If your man is still really hurting over something in HIS past, he needs to get counseling or you, the girlfriend, get to be, guess what, his shrink.

Well in that case you're supporting each others' drinking... if it's a problem in the relationship, you BOTH need to quit together. If you feel HE has a bad problem, and you aren't willing to quit and work with him to get the problem sorted out, you need to break up. Because it simply does not work for one partner to try and quit while watching the other still drink. TRUST ME I have been through this with 2 different men who BOTH had bad drinking problems and BOTH blamed them on their admittedly shitty childhoods... but once you're in your 20s, you're on your own and any choices you make are YOUR choices.
And for yourself, I don't mean to sound preachy, but you don't want to get into the habit of dating guys who are emotionally damaged/needy in some way because of course you will end up trying to ohelp/fix/change them and it's something that has to come from within; a girlfriend isn't a mother. This was something I noticed in both of the previous 2-year relationships I've been through- the guys really started to treat me like I was their mom as soon as that initial romantic period was over.
Oklay long assed post better stick it up
:D



You are right, and I have already been on a path of dating emotionally needy guys.

I have always had a problem of loving myself, and in recent times....I have started to like myself more and feel stronger about who I am and such....and I don't really know if my boyfriend helps or makes that worse....

...I am in a huge state of confusion about my life at this point, and even more so about my relationship in my life with him..I am currently in the process of finding out what is right for me and what I need to do.

I have never really done that for myself before, nor have I been able to. I am always trying to think about whats better for others...and I never even know whats right for me. It is something I am battling in many aspects of my life right now that is really starting to take a toll on me. I am turning into a wreck! But at the same time figuring out oh so much...:S5:

[TallulahGreen]

That is something not to fear!!! you are your own individual...

True...maybe it's that whole self fulfilling prophecy thing.

Thus far I have completly followed my moms footsteps...it's scary.


Maybe I can blame it on the fact that I never had a dad in my life....and every other male figure in my life really screwed me over....

[TallulahGreen]

talullah.......is alcohol getting blamed for something in this conversation, or is alcohol the cause of something.??


im confused.

alcohol is always the cause of something.

[misspotn]

I sure have felt like that lately...

[Skink]

True...maybe it's that whole self fulfilling prophecy thing.

Thus far I have completly followed my moms footsteps...it's scary.


Maybe I can blame it on the fact that I never had a dad in my life....and every other male figure in my life really screwed me over....

I will be your Dad in proxy... Now put down the whine and find a man that will worship you!!!

[geonagual]

I grew up with an alcoholic father and it sucked big time. I hated when he was drunk cause I knew something crazy was going to happen. That is why I turned to running away at a young age. Much rather run than get beat down.

As for me, as of late, I cant say that I have been down, just kind of drudging through life. My mom is within days of her death, I hate my job, I hate my marriage and some other stuff.
I just keep moving forward and make the transformations within myself as needed.

Tal, don't get married. I read a statistic that marriages for people 21 and under end up getting a divorce 80% of the time.

[TallulahGreen]

I grew up with an alcoholic father and it sucked big time. I hated when he was drunk cause I knew something crazy was going to happen. That is why I turned to running away at a young age. Much rather run than get beat down.

As for me, as of late, I cant say that I have been down, just kind of drudging through life. My mom is within days of her death, I hate my job, I hate my marriage and some other stuff.
I just keep moving forward and make the transformations within myself as needed.

Tal, don't get married. I read a statistic that marriages for people 21 and under end up getting a divorce 80% of the time.


....yes..I don't want to get married...haha..that is just a joke to me right now!

I really am sorry about your mother. :( I am constantly struggling with my moms health and it is hard. My mom is not near as bad as your mom though, and I can't imagine how I would deal if I were in your shoes! Moms are great and I hope that you can hang in there buddy. :(

Ill keep your mom in my thoughts...send some positive energy her way..I wish I could give you a fat nug!

[geonagual]

....yes..I don't want to get married...haha..that is just a joke to me right now!

I really am sorry about your mother. :( I am constantly struggling with my moms health and it is hard. My mom is not near as bad as your mom though, and I can't imagine how I would deal if I were in your shoes! Moms are great and I hope that you can hang in there buddy. :(

Ill keep your mom in my thoughts...send some positive energy her way..I wish I could give you a fat nug!


Thanks. I would take that nug too. Cause I am out! But thanks for positive energy, she is at a point of no return, but soon she will be at peace.

[potsmokingnome]

Is anyone else feeling extra down lately? I have been pretty good about keeping myself happy and doin' good...but the past few days all I have wanted to do is sleep..and I just want to say fuck it to everything.

Seem to be finding lots of people feeling this way...

I am sick of it!:S4:

I have been very down lately, but then again thats due to the fact that I'm going through a lot of problems lately..

And I have noticed a lot of people are depressed lately, its been a rocky start to the new year..

Hope ya start feeling better Tall