Advice Needed

[Slither]

This is going to be a really long thread, anyways if I posted this in the wrong section I am sorry. Well here goes.....

Anyways I'll start from the start, I have probably been smoking everyother day during the summer and about when school started I started smoking almost every day, as much as I could. I love weed sound bad or not it's the truth. Anyways I am 16 years old, 10th grader, make good grades and shit like that. Anyways it starts one night when I am high as a bitch, somehow my weed ended up in the floor in my mothers room. She found it showed it her to her boyfriend they did the little talk that was it, got grounded for a day no problem. Next thing I did, was go looking for this weed she had, it was a pretty big bud, i didnt do it for the weed tho i did it so they wouldnt have blackmail on me. Took the bud back, kept it of course, then put oregano in a bag, everything was perfect until somehow i spilled it when putting it back and didnt notice it, who knows I maybe didnt even spill it, but somehow my moms boyfriend noticed it was spilled. He knew I went in there, told my mom she told my dad. Now I have a very good relationship with my father, he was a little dissappointed but did not really care regardless, (you will see why in a little). That was it for a while, i kept smoking doing my thing, until my mom started riding my ass, everywhere i went i would come back she would check my eyes and shit and just rode my ass all the time. Now i went to my dads house for a weekend, (my mom and dad are divorced) he told me if ure going to do it, be very very very careful and use visine or something. I decided to sneak out during the night go use the phone toke a little. I always wanted to go in that barn of his that he never lets me go in tho, so i got a little curious. I checked his barn, found a bowl, a shit load of seeds, and a couple of small buds. Didn't dare mention it to him though, came back the next day and the shit was moved, therefore it has to have been used, and some of the weed was gone. Kept it secret for a weekend or two. Then somehow he mentioned that he knew I was in there, saying that his friend can't have it at his house, so he comes here before work. Bullshit I believe since the fact that it moved, and no1 had been over unless this friend came over really early while i was sleeping which i highly highly doubt because my little sister would have mentioned it. Now my mom came to pick me up, and she mentioned that she thought it was more than weed. I had a piss sample with me incase she did this, but she thought i was doing more than weed and all this, so I was like fine ill be honest, take a regular test, that will be it, show up for thc that is it. It did it worked out just thc, got my cell taken away for a little bit, noone really mad or anything.Back to my moms now, she still hadn't caught me though. Still no proof so she didn't do anything. Now this past thursday was the end of all of this i had some friends over during the daytime, and they left my trashcan full of water and a gb and a waterfall with resin all over it. It was left up there, mother found it. I told her that my friends left it because that is what happened. She told me she didn't want any illegal activity going on on her property. That was the end of it, now me and my mother are argumentative, very. She starts arugements and expects me to just sit there and agree or some shit, anyways I don't do that so opposing forces dont attract. Well this weekend was the end of that, we got into an arugment and I punched a hole in my drywall, cussed her out and so on. She tells her boyfriend, he wakes me up at 12:30 am. Telling me to leave the house and shit and that he is going to hit me blah blah blah. I called my dad said come pick me up he said alright. He got to the driveway of my house (40 minutes away by the way, he lives near richmond i live in dinwiddie)called and didnt get an answer, so he decided to go get the cops and bring them into this. I figured since he was bringing the cops, ill just listen to my moms boyfriend, tell the cops about all the threats he gave me and all that shit and I won't get in that much trouble besides the wall i punched. Anyways the cops gets there, and my mom and dad totally back the fucking cop, the cop talked to me the whole fucking time, I was threatened to be killed and shit and to have my teeth beaten in, still didnt say a god damn thing and he didnt get in any trouble. I told the cop this and he was like he was just defending ure mom blah blah, then my moms boyfriend tells the cop im a pothead and all this shit gets it going even better fucking great. Finally the fucking cop left, I went home with my dad went to sleep when I got home, now It's today, and I have no idea what to do. I love weed like i said and I don't want to stop smoking it. I have some choices I need to make and I have no idea what I am going to do yet, I can live with my dad who i like much better, and leave all my friends, pot friends and regular, probably barely ever see them anymore. Or I can stay with my mom and keep my friends. IF i live with my dad, I can maybe risk trying to get him to be cool with me smoking since I kinda know he does, but he might not do that. The schools down here are much better, girls, and especially the weed. But I kinda dont want to make all new friends and shit. Would it be worth it, what should I do, I'm so fucking lost in my own life I don't know what to do.

Thanks for any and every advice, and please don't reply with the "you're too young to smoke and give up weed" or whatever else. Palms sweaty, I guess I will wait for a couple of answers then decide what I am going to do, thanks a ton and if u need any more information or anything feel free to ask. If i can think of anything else I will post it, thanks.

[Slither]

I live In Virginia by the way, wanted to get that out.

[iwantFUEGO]

i would go live with my dad...

B/c quite frankly, if some idiot that was bangin my mom told me he was gonna beat my teeth in...

Lets just say he'd get a nice lesson in who he can and cannot disipline.

He has no right to say those things to you... dont listen to cops they dont know shit. He has no right to say that shit to you, your not his son.

Ur dad shoulda opened a LARGE can.

BUT, if your mom doesnt want you smoking in her house... you need to respect that. When you have your own house that YOU piad for, then you can do w/e u want.

AND, you shouldn't go punching holes in your mother's home unless you plan on going to home depot and fixing it yourself.

[Slither]

My dad was backing me until the cop got here, after being woke up and told to leave I tried to leave I didnt have a problem with that shit, but then once my dad said he was coming i was like fine ill just wait. IF my dad wasnt coming or I knew he was going to bring the fucking cops I would have beat the shit out of his ugly ass. I mean the cop didnt say a god damn thing to him it pissed me off so fucking much, i brought it up numerous times and he just stood there finally i was just like fuck it. I think I am going to move down here I like it down here, I just don't want to leave all my friends that smoke pot with me. I think my dad kinda agreed with the cop too because of the fact that he smokes pot too. I have smoked pot with my moms boyfriends brother, his sisters husband, his sons, his sons friends, and he wants to call me a pothead (I dont disagree, but still). They are some of the ones I started doing it with. I have never been that mad in a while, i sat out at 2am listening to a cop feed me shit and not even mention a thing to him. I told my mom I was like make these next 2 years terrible and I will make those years after those 2 years terrible for you. I really have no feelings for my mother, i know she is my mother I am just at the point where I don't give a shit about anything anymore except what I want to care about, which sadly for now doesn't include her

[Slither]

I hope I didn't type this for one person's opinion. Anymore would be helpful I dont care what you think, an opinion is an opinion and I most likely have to decide today. Thanks a ton guys.

[iwantFUEGO]

Dont let ONE cop try to teach you the law...

Truth is, if you were a bit older, that cop might have taken you a bit more seriously and your moms boyfriend would have paid some sort of price.

And if your moms b/f was fruity enough to throw out the word "pothead" infront of the cop, then you should have done the same fucking thing.

Geez i hate it when "Boyfriends" become involved and try to raise kids that arent theirs

Tell that guy to go get his own life and stop trying to impact yours all the time.

He obviously doesnt give a fuck about you or your wellbeing if hes trying to tell cops you smoke weed... what a fucking weasel.

[Slither]

Really, he was worried about getting me in trouble, so I was worried about getting him in trouble. Regardless if I punch a hole in his wall, I can see making me fix it, even though im not willingly going to do that now, but waking me up at 12:30 and threatening me does not help at all. He is such a douchebag I really want to get him back too, I want to plant some coke on him or something. He gets into something that has nothing to do with him whether he dates my mom or not. If i do decide to live with my dad, I have to go home to get my shit, and believe me when I go home, I'm going to run my mouth until he is mad enough to hit me, and then when he does swing, he will be fucking screwed. I'll charge him with assault and battery, and beat the shit out of him and say it was self defense. Oh well, i guess i can deal without a relationship to my mother. The worst part is my mom says she doesnt want me smoking pot know, but after I turn 18 she says that I can, so basically she doesnt give a shit about me after 18 so whatever. Thanks a lot IwantFuego. Going to eat now, hopefully other people will have voiced what they think by the time I get back.

[napolitana869]

If I were you I would go live with your dad, just because of your moms boyfriend. You were wrong in how you treated your mom, but I think he was more wrong in how he treated you (unless you treated your mom worse than what you said). Be nice to your mom. It may not seem this way now, but all she really wants is for you to be healthy and happy. It might be better for your relationship with her if you didnt live with her. Its not as hard to get along with people when you don't see them everyday. Saying you cant until you're 18 isnt that big of a deal. When they legalize it thats how its going to be. And dont plant coke on your moms boyfriend. Thats stupid and mean. Good luck

[iwantFUEGO]

It may seem like things cant get much worse at this point... dont panic man.

Remember one thing, even tho its hard to do sometimes, never let yourself do anything drastic when your upset. ALWAYS wait till you calm down and can think straight before you start making important decisions.

Smoke chronic every once in a while if you need to bro, dont let anyone tell you that its wrong or bad. We're all different with different brain chemistry, and some people don't understand that cannabis just makes it easier to get through the days emotions sometimes, but that doesn't make them correct opinions.

[Slither]

I agree, I mean by moving with my dad, I leave all my friends, that I will probably won't see again until I drive. I leave a girlfriend of 4 months, and all this has to be decided by tommorow, I still don't know what I am doing, I haven't had a chance to talk to any of my friends or my girlfriend. I know I can't have both so It's just something I am going to have to decide. I haven't even told her, I haven't told any of my friends from where I live now either, and since the new semester begins tuesday my dad wants me to start going to school on tuesday if that is what I do.I will never be forced into something I don't want to do, I'll kill myself before that shit happens. I mean ya i may have said a couple of wrong things to her which i most likely didnt mean because of the spur of the moment thing. But still he had no right to do that and I am beyond my point, If i go back living with my mom I know for sure I will never put up with those threats anymore, especially after the cop i was hoping was going to back me backed him. Thats why I smoke to not have to worry about this shit, it makes everything so easy. But avidently,according to my mom it's so bad that my whole life gets change around because of it. I have no weed or anything, right when i want to make my choice something makes me want to choose the other choice. Should life really be this fucking difficult, all because a couple of pricks decided together to outlaw weed....

[higher4hockey]

how would your pop feel about you moving in ? have you talked to him about that?

[Slither]

Oh ya, he doesnt care he just wants me to make up my mind, and I need to like really soon, school starts tuesday, and he has to get my papers for school tommorow if we do it this way. Would sacrificing my friends, at least to the point where i might be able to only see them on some random weekends, be worth moving in with my dad, who smokes and most likely will be cool with me and eventually give in, plus better school, better girls, better weed :jointsmile:. I cant decide shit on my own I always get other people to do it for me, or atleast help me.

[GanjaBob]

I dont think that the boyfriend was that out of place. You disobeyed their house rules and punched a hole in their wall. i would be fucking pissed too. I think that if you want to live with your mom you should, just go outside and smoke and at least act like you respect them. If you would rather live with your dad then dont hesitate. All im trying to say is unless you own the house just show some respect.

[Slither]

I do respect his rules he usually doesn't say shit, then out of the blue he wakes me up at 12:30. Couldn't he have waited until I wake up, I go outside to smoke or lean out my window its not like a toke up in my room. IF he would have sat down and been like you punched a hole in the wall, you need to fix it I wouldn't have a problem, now I am not going to pay for shit. But threatening me to my face to the point of anger, then telling a cop that i am a pothead and trying to get me in trouble crosses a line. He told me to leave, I left, then he tells me to come back half way down the driveway, because he knew he could have gotten into trouble, I agree I took it the wrong way I shouldnt have punched a hole in the wall, but that house isn't all his, its just partially his. My mom owns the other half, and he has no right telling me what to do and what not do, do you see what I am getting at?

[GanjaBob]

Yeah your story sounds very familiar to me. Just look at it from your familys point of view as well then decide.

[xmk]

honestly, you probably need to sober up for at least a couple days and get your head clear. Thats my advice. Its pretty retarded in my opinion that all this is happening because of weed, and i dont mean because your parents are making a big deal of it, i mean because your making weed a factor in your decisions... weed should never be a factor of any kind in any decision whatsoever. If you dont want to move into your dads place because you wont have anyone to smoke weed with and you wont be able to find weed regularly than your looking at this in completely the wrong way. You need to do whats best for you both physically and mentally... not whats best for your smooking routine.... Weed can be a very good thing but when you let it start getting in the way of your decisions and life than thats when its bad......just do whats best for you man, not whats best for getting high

[Slither]

I'm not putting it all like that xmk, just a little bit of it. Not all of my friends where I live at now are stoners, the regrets are mostly just the fact that I have to change things around. No more friends period including the stoners basically. But Ya I am most likely just going to move in with my dad, and those weekends I was supposed to go to his house, I would go to my moms house, but mostly likely just see my friends and whatnot instead at least for a little bit. Now I just gotta worry about this new school, haven't seen anybody from this area that goes to school since about 4th grade. It's going to be different I know that much, probobly end up getting fucked with i dont care i wont put up with it, hopefully theres some cool people there

[Slither]

Now I have to end a 4 month relationship, that ought to be fun. The moving thing might also be a good thing anyways due to the fact that I was going to quit for 2-4 weeks let my tolerance build back up from a day to day basis, just be different. I took some shit too serious I see now, taking pills with liquor and shit, I feel like hitting myself now. My chest hurts like a bitch from that tequila and hydrocodone too...

[xmk]

Change can be good sometime... i bet youll dig it and be happier after you get used to it. haha also remember using restraint can be a good thing. I only smoke on the weekends, during the week i go to college(earning a masters degree) and work damn near full time, i dont smoke during the week because i dont want to fuck anything up but when its time for the weekend it makes the weed that much more amazing

[Dibiticus]

dinwiddie lol, but for realz you should have told the cop that your moms boyfriend tried to molest you and that he beats you

[smoke it]

imo, go and chill with your dad for a little bit

[Slither]

Haha, well I made my decision, I'm living down here. The weekends I am supposed to see my mom I will most likely be hanging out with my friends, I still have to go back home to get my shit, and not really to be a dick but I will be sure to say something to him. Probably something along the lines of, "if you ever threaten me again I will fucking kill you, or perhaps If i would have known the cop was going to be a total waste of my time I would have easily hit you right in the jaw". Ya I haven't seen anyone from these school systems since about 4th grade so it should be interesting. It's time for a change, I'll be driving soon I can still see those friends, thanks everyone for the advice It did help out a lot. Now I just have to think of a way to try and convince my dad that I know he smokes and hopefully he will be cool with it, maybe me taking a break for a little bit like I said, then getting a job (passing the piss test) will help out that decision. Anyone know any other good ways to try and convince him?

[napolitana869]

Anyone know any other good ways to try and convince him?

make sure you get good grades and show him you have your shit together. Its hard to argue with that