Who thinks i'm screwed?

[d00d557]

Alright this might be a sort of long post but anyway here goes. Alright so I recently get drug tested so I can smoke again because at my school we get tested like once a year minimum. So first incident is yesterday my stepdad had to get on my computer to use the internet because his wasn't working on his laptop. I come home from my friends blazed since we've been smoking before school every day this week. My mom comes in and tells me hey your stepdad was on your computer earlier and saw a few things drug related. I said what? She said things like links of weed info stuff like that and asked me if I did drugs. I said no! I don't do drugs and if you don't beleive me check my drug test thats about to come in. Then she said,"That's just the thing, I saw a link on how to pass a hair test." Then I think, god dammit how can this get any worse. So she said just tell me you don't do drugs and i'll beleive you. Of course I said no I don't so she said she believes me. I thought it was all behind us until today I get home after blazing at my friends and say what the hell, another bowl in the back yard.(My backyard is really small just like a few feet in every direction then its fenced off) So I go into the corner and duck under the fence so no one can see me toke. As I am about to open the door I noticed I stirred up some leaves kicking the ash up. So I went over and stomped them back into the garden. As my mom is about to leave for the gym like two hours later she says,"Why were you in the backyard?" and I say,"Uh what are you talking about?" Then she says I saw some leaves kicked up onto the patio that weren't there this morning. I was like WTF WHO NOTICES THOSE LITTLE THINGS. So she kept asking me what I was doing and I said idk looking for something and she said what? I said nothing important just stop being so paranoid. Then came upstairs, but the way I wasn't so fast to answer makes me wonder if she knows. I just started smoking weed not too long ago and just again now getting to smoke after having to wait for my drug test it might all be gone:[. Now my stepdad who is a very nice man couldn't even have told he did a lot of drugs told me, with his friends when he was in college he would go out with his friends and drop acid. He also said he smoked weed back then. Now I have already mentioned to my mom the fact that he smoked weed and she said, "Oh, it was okay back then you know that." I said bullshit what makes it any different from today? So with all the recent events not helping the other one out at all I'm very paranoid that my mother knows and or is suspicious of me smoking. I'm pretty sure my parents would really fuck me up if I got caught. My stepdad said that he doesn't give a shit what I do, just if I get caught. So what's your opinion? Previous to these incidents nothing ever drug/weed related ever came up. Now its really awkward because i'm afraid they're gonna get me in a discussion mode and try and talk it out of me.:(
Sorry for the long post but thanks for reading

[slipknotpsycho]

dude, there's no way your mom noticed that shit... she saw you kickin the leaves or whatever... she just wants you to be honest... i mean seriously... do any kids actually think their parents notice these extremely minimal things???? hell no, they saw you and are trying to just get you to come clean.... your step dad doesn't care... so atleast you have 1/2 your parental figures on 'your side' just tell her now and get it over with...

honestly, i'm a father.. and my son isn't old enough for this yet (he's only 2) but even if i hated weed/drugs, i'd rather have him be honest with me, then lie to my face....

[konqrr]

Ya, your mom probably knows. I know that my dad is very suspicous because of one tiny incident where I was " a little off ". Im pretty sure he knows I smoke weed, jsut doesnt want to confront me about it. And that is from a very small incident, yours is a serious of big incidents. I would say your mom knows but isnt going to take any dramatic action until she catches you.

[d00d557]

true, i'm contemplating quiting directly after I finish my current bag. It sucks but in the face of total annihilation by my parents idk. My stepdad would still care because of my mom though. My mom was around that scene back then too and I always ask,"Mom you smoked with them didn't you and she says," NO I didn't." So i'm suspicious, but still I gotta figure out what to do.

[konqrr]

dude, there's no way your mom noticed that shit... she saw you kickin the leaves or whatever... she just wants you to be honest... i mean seriously... do any kids actually think their parents notice these extremely minimal things???? hell no, they saw you and are trying to just get you to come clean.... your step dad doesn't care... so atleast you have 1/2 your parental figures on 'your side' just tell her now and get it over with...

honestly, i'm a father.. and my son isn't old enough for this yet (he's only 2) but even if i hated weed/drugs, i'd rather have him be honest with me, then lie to my face....

My dad would rather have me be honest with him too...so that he can annoy the shit out of me everytime I want to go outside and try to punish me.

[konqrr]

true, i'm contemplating quiting directly after I finish my current bag. It sucks but in the face of total annihilation by my parents idk. My stepdad would still care because of my mom though.

Honestly, just cut down to smoking only on the weekends. Go over a friends house when youre high instead of walknig around infront of your parents.

[Skink]

Yup,,, Slip is right,,,fess up and your chances are better...

[d00d557]

But how weird does it feel, at the first question. Do you use drugs? Then I say, yeah mom marijuana. It just feels like I might be giving myself away when they're on the verge of letting it go or something. Just feels like its not clearly laid out to happen a certain way. If she asks one more time I'm going to say what I should have said. I heard a really weird noise and I went ouside to see what was making it. Like an animal or something

[konqrr]

But how weird does it feel, at the first question. Do you use drugs? Then I say, yeah mom marijuana. It just feels like I might be giving myself away when they're on the verge of letting it go or something. Just feels like its not clearly laid out to happen a certain way. If she asks one more time I'm going to say what I should have said. I heard a really weird noise and I went ouside to see what was making it. Like an animal or something

Are your parents going to be strict about it? If they arent going to be too harsh, like my parents, then just tell them. Although you probly wont be able to smoke again.


When Im 18, I wont have a problem with telling my parents. But as of now, even though I am paying 20% of the bills (5 family members...not even my sisters who are in college pay that much), they pretty much control my life.

Technically Im paying enough to have my own room, yet they still bitch about when its not clean and keep there stuff in it. I just cant wait til Im 18. Look both my parents in the eyes and say "Mom, dad, Ive been smoking marijuana since I was 12, and I have been dealing since I was 14. I plan to continue to do both. You are free to join me in smokngi a fat blunt later tonight, if you wish."

[d00d557]

Yeah only thing i'm afraid of is maybe dissapointing and they will ground me for a while. I just dk how they would be affected by it because both of them were around it and I beleive my stepdad would be able to relate to the fact that marijuana isn't harmful or bad for me or anyone else.

[2600HERTZ]

GET STONED, and then tell her you were digging a hole to china with your feet and laser vision... I think that'll sort her out.

[slipknotpsycho]

But how weird does it feel, at the first question. Do you use drugs? Then I say, yeah mom marijuana. It just feels like I might be giving myself away when they're on the verge of letting it go or something. Just feels like its not clearly laid out to happen a certain way. If she asks one more time I'm going to say what I should have said. I heard a really weird noise and I went ouside to see what was making it. Like an animal or something

lol... they are your parents... they're NOT going to let it go.. you're just holding on to blind hope.... (not sure if that's really a phrase, but blind faith doesn't exactly fit here :p)

and yes, some parents only want to give you hell, i'm not denying that... but from you have told us so far, and by using logic, it sounds to me like your mom just wants you to be honest with her... yes, things may be akward/difficult for the first few days afterwards... but generally people in your exact position (with the attitudes you've described of your parents) it turns out way better in the end when you came clean.... hell for all you know both your mom and step dad toke up as of right now... they may be alot more accepting then you give them credit for.. it's only natural to be afraid and to hide it... but natural doesn't mean better....

i don't like to steer people down the wrong roads... but it's pretty easy to tell the parents who are going to make your life a living hell after you admit it... and the ones who are going to be atleast halfway understanding... honestly, if i was you i'd come clean... i'd tell her the truth and the whole truth, wouldn't sugar coat it or anything... but that's just me..

[d00d557]

I'm thinking about it but its hasn't reached the level where I need to be admitting to anything. My stepdad was only there for the computer thing not the leaves on the porch thing.

[konqrr]

My parents are both catholic...my dad would probably punch me if I went up to him and told him to his face that I smoked pot...hes a little crazy..I come from a Slavic family. :(

[d00d557]

My stepdad is slovak, man this sucks. Its all speculation though no evidence really. My stepdad hasn't asked me shit but my mom has a lot. I'm pretty sure he's like, man he is screwed.

[konqrr]

My stepdad is slovak, man this sucks. Its all speculation though no evidence really. My stepdad hasn't asked me shit but my mom has a lot. I'm pretty sure he's like, man he is screwed.

I remember when I was 12 I was exactly in your situation. It was pretty obvious to my whole family that I smoked weed (I was really scared of my dad back then an he would always come up into my face and start yelling 'where were you?' and all this shit...my sisters would just cry sometimes like 'Youre hanging out too much with that kid that smokes weed all the time wah wah'). I just kept denying it and eventually they stopped asking and the situation slid over.

[d00d557]

Yeah I wouldn't be so worried if I had had a quick answer to the what were you doing outside question. Too bad I thought of an answer afterwards.:o

[slipknotpsycho]

My parents are both catholic...my dad would probably punch me if I went up to him and told him to his face that I smoked pot...hes a little crazy..I come from a Slavic family. :(

funny how religious people are always the first to turn to violence to solve problems lol..

[konqrr]

Yeah I wouldn't be so worried if I had had a quick answer to the what were you doing outside question. Too bad I thought of an answer afterwards.:o

Ya, same shit happens to me. My dad would be like "what did you do today?" and Ill be like (while high) "I...umn...today...I...oh ya, I was at the library with some friends cuz we love to study" then I would giggle and he would storm out of my room and give me shit about it the next day.

[mackSwell]

If you get eyed again outside, and you're in a jam for a quick answer and therefore probably looking guilty as hell, tell her you were smoking - a cigarette.

[ericwt]

In the infinity of all things you are far from screwed. In 10 years you will have a whole new set of mind boggling situations. And that is only the beginning of many strange and uncomfortable but wonderful circumstances.

No my friend you are not even screwed. Not even close.

But for now. Sucks to be you!

You have my compassion my brother. Been there, done that and yea I survived.

Good luck

[tootsie roll]

But how weird does it feel, at the first question. Do you use drugs? Then I say, yeah mom marijuana. It just feels like I might be giving myself away when they're on the verge of letting it go or something. Just feels like its not clearly laid out to happen a certain way. If she asks one more time I'm going to say what I should have said. I heard a really weird noise and I went ouside to see what was making it. Like an animal or something

Just admit it, get it over with and quit playing stressful games.
It just may be that your P's have some advice for you but you need to be HONEST and not sneaky.
You may be surprised because some parents prefer their kids smoke in the privacy of their homes then out doing whatever and getting caught and catching a case. (or getting ripped off and possibly killed)
If they go nutzo, you always have the option to quit while you live under their roof and are supported by them.
You can always wait a couple of years and get your own place and do whatever you want in your kingdom.:jointsmile:

[mackSwell]

In the infinity of all things you are far from screwed. In 10 years you will have a whole new set of mind boggling situations. And that is only the beginning of many strange and uncomfortable but wonderful circumstances.

*laughing* Thank you, Buddha!

[slipknotpsycho]

In the infinity of all things you are far from screwed. In 10 years you will have a whole new set of mind boggling situations. And that is only the beginning of many strange and uncomfortable but wonderful circumstances.

No my friend you are not even screwed. Not even close.

But for now. Sucks to be you!

You have my compassion my brother. Been there, done that and yea I survived.

Good luck

lmao... yea but you can't teach that to pre-adults man.. that's DEFINATELY shit they have to learn on their own... you can tell that to them all you want, but they won't listen... then after it's already happened they finally know what you're talking about....


You gotta just be a little bit more slick
or get more honest.... of which the latter is more preferable among bond between parents, and usually parent's thoughts...

[MotleyCrueBoy24]

Man, You have to EMBRACE your lifestyle. That doesn't mean you have to stop hiding it from the people you care for. But that means you have to go with the consenquences of getting caught or tested positive, and just be like FUCK IT. It's who I am, it's what I DO!:rasta:

[Pink_Floyd]

Don't smoke every day.
Do it only on weekends. If you start toking in obv spots like your backyard and your room, your chances on avoiding being cought are really slim.
Go to friends' houses, go to the park, or just anywhere far from home.

When I started to smoke regulary I just fessed up to my parents right away and they were actually really cool with it. However, the fact that I'm 18 played a large factor. And the fact that I'm one of the best performing students in the school prolly played a role too. hehe

[funky not a junky]

OK well i told my dad i smoked. He is pretty much my moms little helper. He makes no decesions and has no say in anything, he is merely a messenger. He does what she wants because she controls everything. Its quite sad. So i just told my dad one day and he was like i cant tell your mom blah blah blah. HE just didnt wanna keep it from her. He told me to not smoke and stuff but he realized that i would smoke regardless of what he said. Its nothing personal, its just that i am going to continue my lifestyle. O and my family is extremely catholic, im surprised i dont go to catholic school. Just do your best to explain things calmly.