need some help guys

[Dmo18]

alright here it goes
today at work i had to down the hall to this other office and get some shit and while i was there i saw this girl i hadnt seen working there before so i talked to her a little and called down to her office later and eventually i asked her out on a date!! i am completely fucked man, i CAN NOT talk to girls at all. i was really shakin right before i asked her of she wanted to go out. so i was wonderin if you all had any tips to make this date run smooth. im probably gonna take her to this nice italian restaraunt(sp?) and ask for a table near the fireplace, but any advice as far as something that will help me relax. and girls that read this please help me out, what would you all want your first date to be like. sorry for this long thread im just really nervous about this thing, so thanks for all the help

[Nochowderforyou]

Alcohol, and lots if it, and if my knowledge and wisdom has taught me, you should be making sweet love down by the fire. :p

Ha ha! I'm just kidding man.

I don't really know as I've never been on a formal date like that before, but conversation is key. Keep her interested, and don't talk about yourself. Let her talk and tell you about herself. Eye contact is key as well.

Like I said, I've never been on a date date before, but hopefully this kind of helps.

Good luck!

[friendowl]

no no chowder is right
she will be nervous just like you
unless shes a gold digging whore

after a drink or three
you both will be chatting like dorks

have fun and order some chicken fettucini for me
im hungry

[Hagbard Celiene]

and not to close to the fire, you'll be sweeting as it is already...

[birdgirl73]

Yeah, I agree that a nice drink or two is in order early on the date because you'll both be nervous. And ideally, maybe you can get to know her a bit more before the date even occurs so you will feel a bit more comfortable. Go and chat her up some more at work tomorrow if you can.

Hey, I know you said you can't talk to girls, but frankly, it sounds like you did alright for yourself. There are plenty of guys who can't get as far as you did, so you should congratulate yourself. That takes nerve to put yourself out there and ask a girl out. And she said yes!!

OK, date tips? Be a gentleman. Open car doors and restaurant doors. Make sure she has what she needs at dinner. Hold out her chair for her. This is such a key to what ladies look for early in a relationship. A guy who goes out of his way to be a gentleman is proving that he will make an extra effort to make sure she's happy. This signals excellent bedroom potential down the road, which is why women find this so sexy. A guy who'll hold your chair out for you is the same guy who'll go the extra mile to help you reach the high note when you're horizontal.

Other than that, just be yourself and let her see your personality. Talk about stuff that interests you and ask her about what interests her. My girlfriends in college and I used to have to give thumbs-downs to guys who spent the whole date talking about themselves or pounding their chests to show us how great they believed they were, and sometimes when you're nervous, it's easy to want to fill empty air time with talk. Make sure she's doing at least half the talking. If she likes you, she'll give you signals that she does. Just go according to those. Make sure you thank her for the date and try and get a reading on if she might like to go out again. Oh, and don't get drunk on the date, and make sure your breath is good when you pick her up. After you eat, especially if you plan to try and kiss her, have a mint on hand or something. Breath is important early in relationships. Oh! And be nice to the waiters and others you encounter. Girls notice stuff like that, too.

Sorry for such a long answer. I wish I could have a first date again!!! Dating and that exciting crushy stage are a lot of fun. Enjoy that.

[bavet]

Hehehe It's only a girl just be yourself. Be a little funny, complement her on things she has control of, like her shoes or choice of nail polish. When she talks show you are listening by repeating some things back to her as u answer. If you can't look her in the eyes at first at lest look at her lips or nose.

Have fun kids

[higher4hockey]

as far as something that will help you relax.........talk to as many girls as you can in your day to day encounters (just not at the office, might give the wrong impression) practice makes perfect man!

[Dmo18]

thanks guys, but were both only 18 LOL

[Tomorrow Never Knows]

Just dont flip out, an' don' jive about yo' whitey ass son. Just be jivin' about her, ya here what I be saying. This iz what will git results if ya wan t results dat iz. GOOD LUCK

[Hagbard Celiene]

oh, and eat something before the date, you don't want your stomach growling, or to be pigging out, infront of her, and as bird girl said, pick out something she is waering or something about her appearance, the sooner the better, look for something that stands out, like she put extra effort into it, and compliment her on it, not one of those, i like your what ever, but something like, " your necklace really makes your eyes shime" i know it sounds corny, but trust me, the cornier something is, the more she will think your willing to put your neck out, it shows confidence. and again, as bird girl said, let her do the talking, listen to what she says, and show her your listening by making inteligent replys, try to build on what she is saying, so she thinks your not only listining, but understanding, and interested.

[napolitana869]

people have given you a lot of really good tips. one thing that I've always noticed is how much someone tips. it goes along with being nice to the waiter, and girls notice when someone is nice to other people. just dont go overboard (more than 30%) because it will seem like youre trying to impress her. good luck and let us know how it turns out!

[bentleygtgirl]

OK, date tips? Be a gentleman. Open car doors and restaurant doors. Make sure she has what she needs at dinner. Hold out her chair for her. This is such a key to what ladies look for early in a relationship....A guy who'll hold your chair out for you is the same guy who'll go the extra mile to help you reach the high note when you're horizontal.




You're awesome! I wish I went on dates, and i'm easy to please, if a guy even offered to take me to dinner i'd be estatic...my advice is call earlier in the day to confirm you're still on, then call when you're on your way and DONT BE LATE!!!!!! i hate lateness unless theres a call. otherwise it looks like you don't care.

[tootsie roll]

alright here it goes
today at work i had to down the hall to this other office and get some shit and while i was there i saw this girl i hadnt seen working there before so i talked to her a little and called down to her office later and eventually i asked her out on a date!! i am completely fucked man, i CAN NOT talk to girls at all. i was really shakin right before i asked her of she wanted to go out. so i was wonderin if you all had any tips to make this date run smooth. im probably gonna take her to this nice italian restaraunt(sp?) and ask for a table near the fireplace, but any advice as far as something that will help me relax. and girls that read this please help me out, what would you all want your first date to be like. sorry for this long thread im just really nervous about this thing, so thanks for all the help

Oh honey, take a deep breath. What you do is shower, slap on some deodorant, pull out some nice clothes, shave and use a small amount of a nice aftershave.
Now you are lookin and smellin good!
Next is picking her up. Go to the door. Introduce yourself and say you have come to take "becky" out. If you are invited in, follow the lead of your host. If you are offered alchol, say NO thank you.
Get "Becky" to the car and to the restaurant. get that fab table by the fireplace, call ahead and reserve it so you know you have it.
Have fun, look at the menu together, decide on a couple of things you'd both enjoy and that way you can share. It gets some conversation going. Always order dessert and if she doesn't, offer to share yours. Somethimes girls really want desert but won't order it but they get very happy if you offer to share. feed her a bite or two.
You'll have a beautiful time! Let us know!

[partyguy420]

listen to the song by ICP called the datin game it will tell you everything you need to know about how to treat girls! no dont do that for real... just be your self...

[hooterhead NTL BM]

Very good advice from some and better from others.Heres something to think about.DON'T ACT. Be your self. treat her like you want to be treated and just be honest. If you are the kind of person who would open and hold a door,pull and push a chair,then by all means be your self.But DON'T ACT. If you start with the charming and devanair and its not you;you have started a relationship that will fail in the end.DON'T ACT....BE!...YOU:thumbsup:

[indicagrower]

Very good advice from some and better from others.Heres something to think about.DON'T ACT. Be your self. treat her like you want to be treated and just be honest. If you are the kind of person who would open and hold a door,pull and push a chair,then by all means be your self.But DON'T ACT. If you start with the charming and devanair and its not you;you have started a relationship that will fail in the end.DON'T ACT....BE!...YOU:thumbsup:

This is the best advice you could hope to get..

[slowlickitysplit]

Try and draw her out. Get hee talking, prefferably about her hot sister. Whatever she orders, make a joke about how fattening it is. Don't forget to mention how sexy the waitress is multiple times throughout the evening and drop lots of hints about a threeway with date and said waitress! LOL

JK!

What I find works best is to go in with the thought that the date is going to be a big bust right from the start. Then you can take the attitude that you're just out for a good meal. If she is pleasant and you hit it off great, if not, at least aim to have a fun night for your own sake. I find this attitude takes the pressure off and you can relax and be yourself and that is a big turn on for most women because it helps them to relax and feel comfortable around you.

I hope that made some sense.

- Slow -

[FakeBoobsRule]

Hey partyguy and those who followed, this first date took place about 6 months ago. That's cool if you want to give some dating advice but you are talking like the date is tonight!! :S2:

[partyguy420]

Hey partyguy and those who followed, this first date took place about 6 months ago. That's cool if you want to give some dating advice but you are talking like the date is tonight!! :S2:

ohh my bad... i forget to check the dates in the sexuality fourms because im used to being in the lounge were threads dont usaly stay on the first page for to long because of all the threads posted in the day... my bad...

[Anubis10012007]

man, keep it normal. just take her out to dinner and talk about shit. talk about her though, and not yourself a lot.

be yourself, not someone else. if it happens, that it will.

[spliffstar22]

i usually keep dinner for the second date, but a movie is always great for first dates, it's a reall ice breaker to laugh together, and to get close in that 2-3 hours than a 45 min-1hr dinner.........