Need Some Advice Please

[emkid420]

Hey guys.

Heres some backround info:
I'm 15 years old and I live with my parents. My parents are strongly against recreational use of marijuana. I don't know why but they just are. Also, about two years ago, when I first tried marijuana, my parents found out. I think ever since then theyve always been suspicious. And then about 5 months ago, they found a home made bong of mine, everything was fine, I made up lies (I don't like to, but its the only way I would come out of the situation reletively all right)

Anyways, I'll cut to the chase.

For the past like 6 months I have been smoking pretty regularly. Its one of the things that I enjoy doing the most, and also I have many friends who do it too so its part of my social life as well. Well last night I come home after being at a friends still a little high and no one is home. I go take a shower and such.
An hour later, my mom comes home. She gives me a hug and she says "You smell like pot, tell me the truth, did you smoke?" blah blah. She startes interegating me and shit. I deny it and so forth cause its the only option I have. If i tell her I smoke, shit would go down. I wouldnt be able to get my drivers permit, she probably would not let me go out nearly as much, etc..
Well now I know she will be always so suspicious of me and everything. I hate the suspiciousness because I'll always be having to worry about her finding out.

Well in conclusion. Last night I was thinking of taking a break, which I really don't want to do. Marjiuana is one things I enjoy most.
Or on the other hand, I was thinking of just coming clean and telling her the truth. But telling her the truth could result in drug tests.
And my third choise was to just keep on doing things how I'm doing them.

So basically I have a pretty big dellemma and asking for some advice.


Thanks for reading! (sorry if it was a little long)

[MastaChronic]

what fruit said.
youve got to learn to be much more sneaky now that you know theyre on to you.

[Skink]

I think she is justifiably right in not wanting you to learn how to drive while you are on pot... You need to convince them that you are responsible,,,not lie... They know your lying and you are only compounding your problem by lying... My deuce...

[MastaChronic]

I think she is justifiably right in not wanting you to learn how to drive while you are on pot... You need to convince them that you are responsible,,,not lie... They know your lying and you are only compounding your problem by lying... My deuce...

exactly, the only way to not let them know your smoking and at the same time not lie about it is to be uber duper sneaky so that they never ask if you have been.

[emkid420]

I think she is justifiably right in not wanting you to learn how to drive while you are on pot... You need to convince them that you are responsible,,,not lie... They know your lying and you are only compounding your problem by lying... My deuce...


Yeah, it hurts to lie to them.
And I agree with the driving thing, I would never drive (especially while learning) stoned. I know most people say this, but Im a pretty reasponsible kid! :D

[Skink]

exactly, the only way to not let them know your smoking and at the same time not lie about it is to be uber duper sneaky so that they never ask if you have been.

Your mother is the only person in this world you can not fool,,,fool...

[MastaChronic]

im just glad i dont have to try and fool my mom, shes a super stoner too

[emkid420]

Ive come to realize...thats pretty much true. My mom always knows the jist of whats really going on.

[Skink]

ever see that commercial where the mom is on the phone wth her back turned to her son and says,,,stop drinking from the carton... so true...

[b0Ng h!tz 4 mE]

well im 16 which is only a year older then you so i guess i can kinda relate.. but my opinon is, if you wanna toke.. do it, i first started tokin when i was 13/14ih and my parents didnt like it, my mum cheated on my dad and my dad didnt really give a fuck about me tokin but its hard for me to tell you what to do since my parents are pretty much shitty parents.. it depends really, peronsally i think you should just tell her thhe truth.. just tell her how you think marijuana isnt that bad and less addictive then cigerettes and how you enjoy mariujana because you feel its a pretty safe and enjoyable way to relax.. if she cant accept that then you have 2 choices.. either quit smokin weed since its her house and her rules.. or live on ur own and make ur own way threw life and altho you'll stuggle threw life it'll be you're house so ur rules and ur way ofd life

[JeenYuss]

parents are really just powerless figureheads, like the queen of england, she looks like she runs things but she just looks good an represents

i think at 15 you should (should is the key word, maybe not) be able to be responsible enough to make decisions on your own, i would just tell them and if your parents dont like you smoking weed tell them you dont give a fuck what they say, refuse drugs tests and stuff, they cant legally make you unless your on probation or something
:D

[JeenYuss]

my mom is pretty much one of the dumbest moms

when i come home, baked as hell or something she usually doesnt even say anything, she just asks me if im high at random times, and usually its when i've been clean form a day or 2:confused: so idk

[emkid420]

thanks for all the advice guys~!

[Skink]

seriously sit down with the parent you feel most comfortable with,,,you will gain respect...

[Skrappie]

Take a break dude.

Why cause friction in the home?

[JeenYuss]

well mr skrappie.... i see yr point too

kid these are the 2 choices really

if u feel u can be man enough to talk to them in an adult-to-adult way tell them u do but u quit or w/e do it

my mom knows i smoke n she dont approve
but i told her i was cutting down and that im guna quit soon
worked for me

[notech]

I'm 15 years old and I live with my parents. My parents are strongly against recreational use of marijuana. I don't know why but they just are. Also, about two years ago, when I first tried marijuana, my parents found out. I think ever since then theyve always been suspicious.

If i tell her I smoke, shit would go down. I wouldnt be able to get my drivers permit, she probably would not let me go out nearly as much, etc..
Well now I know she will be always so suspicious of me and everything. I hate the suspiciousness because I'll always be having to worry about her finding out.

Well in conclusion. Last night I was thinking of taking a break, which I really don't want to do. Marjiuana is one things I enjoy most.
Or on the other hand, I was thinking of just coming clean and telling her the truth. But telling her the truth could result in drug tests.
And my third choise was to just keep on doing things how I'm doing them.

So basically I have a pretty big dellemma and asking for some advice.


My advice dude,, take that break that your thinking about,, because by the
sound of things your mom aint going to accept the fact that you tell
her that you smoke and it's your choice and she can either like it or lump it...

You don't need drug tests and restrictions on your lifestyle and freedom,, nor
do ya need your driving lessons and stuff to be fcuked up over the fact that
ya toke now and again.

It's best to take a break now and get all your stuff sorted out over the next
while because it will work out better in the long run. . . .
Hope ya do make the right decision dude. . . .

Peace. . . . :jointsmile:

[emkid420]

yeah man. So basically what I'm thinking of doing is just stopping after my stash runs out. Cause I think its cool for now with my parents, they don't seem like extremly suspicious today for some reason. But eventually I know if I keep toking as much as I do they will find out. So after i finish like the 2 g's I got left, Im going to stop atleast having a stash at home. I'll probably toke at a friends if they have it and im sleepin over or something


Thanks for all the advice guys! Very appreciated!

[BlueCat]

You know I worry about my 3 boys even more when some of my youngest sons friends come over. He has never given me any reason NOT to trust him so I pretty much let him do what he wants but I can't help but worry when I see guys come over wasted out of their minds.

Sometimes I wonder if there are any kids out there with brains....then I see this thread and for the most part the perfectly wonderful well thought out responses and my faith in young people is restored. Thanks guys, you've got it together :D

[Matt the Funk]

You know I worry about my 3 boys even more when some of my youngest sons friends come over. He has never given me any reason NOT to trust him so I pretty much let him do what he wants but I can't help but worry when I see guys come over wasted out of their minds.

Sometimes I wonder if there are any kids out there with brains....then I see this thread and for the most part the perfectly wonderful well thought out responses and my faith in young people is restored. Thanks guys, you've got it together :D

Really though, some people just don't obey what there parents say or do a bad job at keeping it secret. I hate coming home really high, because even thought my parents are semi-cool with it, they still don't like it.

[BlueCat]

I don't mind HIGH but I hate falling down slobberingly wasted, you know?

[Matt the Funk]

I don't mind HIGH but I hate falling down slobberingly wasted, you know?

Yeah, I ussually come home faded, but I was talking about, don't know what the fuck you are doing high haha. I feel bad for my friends parents, especially when I am high, I feel loving toawrds there parents like I should keep them from going home so fucked up, but when college comes it's cool, until then it's whatever :jointsmile:

[Frivolous248]

Start doing coke, fuck up your life real bad, then when you hit rock bottom say "You told me not to smoke weed so I had to do other shit that I wouldn't be caught for easily"

But really, maybe just be like "Its harmless..." then continue on with why it is. Tell her you use it responsibly, etc.

She already knows, shes suspicious, the most you can do, if ya' wanna continue tokin', is get her to care less about it. She may not fully believe you, but it helps to have your life on track. Don't mess up in school, don't get in trouble, appear productive, don't give in to any negative stoner-stereotype and slowly she'll realize its not as bad as it is.

Then you can live a bit under the radar, maybe you'll still get caught, but the punishment is sure to be less.

Then again, I don't know if honesty is the best policy...thats just one way of doing it. But like you said, shes already suspicious, so if your already getting caught, try that.

[le vallette]

I think most parents have tried some drug or other, think 70's.80's 90's so maybe if you take a break get your toughts together sit down and talk to your parents about it. you will never know at least you know your parents care.
good luck.