Girl help

[420purpHAZE420]

ok, so theres this girl that i really like...like i cant stop thinking about her...but i dont know if she likes me and just the thought of her saying no scares the shit out of me, so im asking you guys what you think

shes been my best girlfriend for about 2 years now, but for like the past year ive really liked her. i always just told myself to get over it, but since the beginning of this school year i think she may have started liking me back.

basically she mite be the hottest girl in my grade, so guys are always hitting on her in my school and shes very flirtatious back, but i know that she really would never touch any of them. we spend a lot of time together in school and we spend every saturday night together. a lot of ppl think like we are about to go out with eachother bc they always see us together, but im really not that sure. when we are together sometimes she will be very affectionate and hold my hand all the time and hug me all the time, but then there are other times when she wont even let me hug her. whenever someone brings up us going out she always just like laughs and says to the person your so weird. my bestfriend says he thinks she likes me, but my bestfriend isnt so close with her so he can never really know besides from what he sees. everyday after school she usually texts me at least once and calls a lot also and will always im me (i try not to text im her or call her bc i dont want to seem like i have a huge crush on her). I really like her, so what do you guys think i should do?

[dutch.lover]

well from a girls perspective, it is generally very flattering when a guy asks us out. i think you should just go for it, and ask her out. worst thing that could happen is she says no- but you two sound so close that i don't think she would freak out or run for the hills if you ask her.

and it does sound to me like she is into you. all that affection and attention she gives you sounds hopeful... although you do need to ask yourself if she treats everyone that way, or just you.

[OniEhtRedrum781]

Get it over with dude. If she says yes, great! If she says no, tell her that this doesn't change anything you had with her before that. Easy-Peasy-Lemon-Squeezy!

[420purpHAZE420]

yea thats the part that confuses me bc i think that she does treat every1 that way if it was just me id know she for sure likes me, but its not. the thing is she definitely does it to me the most also, like were always together...a lot of times she asks me to eat lunch with her(just her) in school, which is kinda weird bc every1 usually just eats together. i think i mite just be scared to ask her out, but there is defintely a chance she will say no, idk, i guess im just being a pussy lol

[budsmoker only]

seriously dude just ask her, if you like her a lot then there shouldnt be a problem with it.. and if she says no then you will know that it just wasnt meant to be and you can still be really good friends.. and just have some confidence in yourself bro..

[420purpHAZE420]

u guys are all right, any suggestions on how to ask, i dont want to fuck this up...wow i sound really gay right now lol

[budsmoker only]

just say what you feel about her, be honest with her and tell her how you really feel and what not

[420purpHAZE420]

yea, hopefully i will ask her out this week and not pussy out, thanks for the help though...ill deff let u guys know how it goes

[iStaaHi]

NOOOO,, do not do it, i did that once, only once tho, cuz i think its best to just be freinds if the girl is a really close freind, i dont know tho its just me,
i asked a girl out that was my freind for a couple of years and she said yeh and it was all cool but she thought it would ruin our freindship cuz relationships tend to do that with people, sometimes

[dutch.lover]

^what you say is valid, however no one likes to live their life regretting something. what would happen if purple haze didnt ask her out, but then 3 years later when he has a diff gf, she comes up to him and is like "btw i had this hugggge crush on you back in...." that has happened to me many times and it sucks.

[FakeBoobsRule]

2 years and nothing....you are stuck in the friend zone. Give her a kiss and see what happens but I think that it is too late.

[420purpHAZE420]

yea dutchlover im with u, and i dont really think itll ruin our friendship itll just b awkward for like a 2 weeks, if i wasnt scared i would 4sure have asked her out already...it just seems like its never the right time tho

[dutch.lover]

well good luck with whatever it is you decide to do, and keep me/us posted:)

[420purpHAZE420]

deff will thanks a lot

[420purpHAZE420]

fakeboobs...i didnt see ur post, that is a possibility, but i think its 50/50 on whether or not she likes me and i just need to ask so i can get over her if she doesnt like me back

[OniEhtRedrum781]

Honestly, in my experiences, the best way to do it is to just spill your guts out...

[WeedyBoyWonder]

Just ask her if she wants to go out on a 'date'. That way, your not asking her to be your girlfriend, but its the first step. If she says yes, she likes you just as much as you like her. If she makes excuses you know your just very good mates.

[Abattoir Dream]

treat her real nice, (you probably already do) boil up some confidence, and at the right time look her straight in the eyes and ask her out... you should get an honest response...

rejection isnt so bad, lol i remember i asked some girl i really liked to go out with me on valentines day (thinking she liked me too) and she said no.. but i was glad i asked and afterwards she did become more friendly towards me... lol it took some balls too...:)

good luck man... its all on you...

[Reefer Rogue]

ok, so theres this girl that i really like...like i cant stop thinking about her...but i dont know if she likes me and just the thought of her saying no scares the shit out of me, so im asking you guys what you think

shes been my best girlfriend for about 2 years now, but for like the past year ive really liked her. i always just told myself to get over it, but since the beginning of this school year i think she may have started liking me back.

basically she mite be the hottest girl in my grade, so guys are always hitting on her in my school and shes very flirtatious back, but i know that she really would never touch any of them. we spend a lot of time together in school and we spend every saturday night together. a lot of ppl think like we are about to go out with eachother bc they always see us together, but im really not that sure. when we are together sometimes she will be very affectionate and hold my hand all the time and hug me all the time, but then there are other times when she wont even let me hug her. whenever someone brings up us going out she always just like laughs and says to the person your so weird. my bestfriend says he thinks she likes me, but my bestfriend isnt so close with her so he can never really know besides from what he sees. everyday after school she usually texts me at least once and calls a lot also and will always im me (i try not to text im her or call her bc i dont want to seem like i have a huge crush on her). I really like her, so what do you guys think i should do?

I can see this ending horribly. That's what happened to me when i tried to go back out with my ex g/f, we were so close, like i've never been closer with any other girl then her. I was so certain that she would say yes that i didn't prepare myself enough for rejection. After she rejected me and i left her house i broke down in tears, that's the first time i've cried in so long. Look man, i really hope she does like you back but once you're in that friends zone it's SO hard to turn it around. My advice is to move on, find another girl, this will potentially make her jealous and then you may get what you want anyway.

[napolitana869]

you could jokingly say something like "stop sending me mixed messages haha" or something like that just to see what she says. Kind of feel her out on it.

[WeedyBoyWonder]

Just ask her if she wants to go out on a 'date'. That way, your not asking her to be your girlfriend, but its the first step. If she says yes, she likes you just as much as you like her. If she makes excuses you know your just very good mates.


Just do this, seriously. That way you dont get rejected from asking her to be your girlfriend, and you get to know if she likes you to. If you do go on a date, tell her you really like her then.

[Its a Plant]

2 years and nothing....you are stuck in the friend zone. Give her a kiss and see what happens but I think that it is too late.
Y E S.

Reading this is honestly creeping me out. I was drowning in the deep end of the friend zone back in high school, with a girl that, from your description, is the EXACT same person.

She was afraid of losing what we had, and for that reason, nothing ever came of it. Luckily I didn't keep my hopes up, but still, if you don't take a shot, you'll never know. That girl is still a close friend of mine to this day, actually.

I think I mentioned something like "what are we?" to her one day, and that was enough for her to get what was going on.

Speaking from a person that was in your SAME shoes a few years ago, if you feel something, don't hold it back. Just be careful how you tell her, ya know? Don't spook her and don't act like you don't care about your friendship.

I missed my chance back in high school, lol, b/c my eyes apparently weren't open. But now they are open, and seeing this, it seems to me that she's waiting for you to make a move, one way or the other. So do just that. ~

[Skink]

Get off the bus at 5th street and wack it dude,,,guessing is about as good as thinking...

[420purpHAZE420]

thanks guys, as of now im just waiting for the right moment when i have her alone...but i would like to add the fact that she calls me her boyfriend all the time, i dont kno wat that means exactly, is that a good sign or a friendzone type of thing?

[Its a Plant]

Well, for starters, next time she throws out the "B" word, ask her what that's all about? I know I'd be a bit curious why she'd be calling me that.

And I know you think you're trying to wait for "the right time," but in all actuality, the "right time" is when you finally bring it up. Over-analyzing something like this sometimes causes you to continuously put "that" moment off, and before you know it, you blew your chance. Case in point: me, lol.

Just GO with it, don't think too much, and I'm sure she'll be yours. ~

[MaryJaneScott]

Just GO with it, don't think too much,

do this always. :)

[napolitana869]

Good Luck!

[420purpHAZE420]

im gunna force myself to do it by winter vacation (dec. 21st), i figure if i dont find the rite moment by then i can just tell her i really need 2 talk 2 her b4 we leave 4 vacation, then i can ask her out

[biohazard]

whatever you do, dont ask her out over msn or the like. do it in person. good luck!

[I just love weed]

yea thats the part that confuses me bc i think that she does treat every1 that way if it was just me id know she for sure likes me, but its not. the thing is she definitely does it to me the most also, like were always together...a lot of times she asks me to eat lunch with her(just her) in school, which is kinda weird bc every1 usually just eats together. i think i mite just be scared to ask her out, but there is defintely a chance she will say no, idk, i guess im just being a pussy lol

i believe so :) no but really if you are such close friends, her saying no shouldnt bring too much between you.

[insanity]

Go for it... I'm asking a girl out from the dorms this week when she comes to see me, and quite frankly I'm expecting rejection... but I refuse to live my life regretting not having balls.

[FakeBoobsRule]

fakeboobs...i didnt see ur post, that is a possibility, but i think its 50/50 on whether or not she likes me and i just need to ask so i can get over her if she doesnt like me back

Don't ask or get all feely feely and spill your guts out. You have known her for 2 years, make a move and kiss her. If she feels the same way about you she is probably wondering if you do too and if she does feel the same way, she will kiss you back. This is the best way to find out. Also, if she doesn't then you can just be like I don't know what got into me instead of spilling your guts and having a huge awkward moment instead of a small one. The kiss is the best and quickest way to find out if someone likes you.

[napolitana869]

Don't ask or get all feely feely and spill your guts out. You have known her for 2 years, make a move and kiss her. If she feels the same way about you she is probably wondering if you do too and if she does feel the same way, she will kiss you back. This is the best way to find out. Also, if she doesn't then you can just be like I don't know what got into me instead of spilling your guts and having a huge awkward moment instead of a small one. The kiss is the best and quickest way to find out if someone likes you.

dont do that. if she doesnt feel the same way and you make a move rather than ask i think you would be risking your relationship as it stands right now. if there was more like a 75% chance she felt the same way then this would be an option you might want to consider, but for what you think the odds are now it might be taking too much of a chance.

[FakeBoobsRule]

dont do that. if she doesnt feel the same way and you make a move rather than ask i think you would be risking your relationship as it stands right now. if there was more like a 75% chance she felt the same way then this would be an option you might want to consider, but for what you think the odds are now it might be taking too much of a chance.What do you want him to do, do nothing or talk it out. That is the perfect way of telling the girl that he is a take charge manly man, by asking her if she feels the same way because he can't tell.:rolleyes: He needs to take charge and show a little bit of fire, that he isn't some weak male but a manly man who knows what he wants and takes care of business. If he is wrong and he goes through this long talk about how he has feelings for her and blah blah blah and she says no how is he going to unopen that can of worms. "Oh, I was just kidding." If she doesn't feel the same way that talk will send her running. Maybe you want him to call Maury Povich and go on one of those "I have a secret crush shows" :rolleyes: A small kiss that goes unreturned after they smoked can be brushed off more easily than a talk that he obviously has to come up with over time or had to think about for a while before he told her. Since he is in the dangerous friend zone, the kiss will show her some passion and fire. It is just a fucking kiss, but if she feels the same it will be so much more.

[fikusroot]

It sounds like you are already going out. Do you just want the friendship with benefits? I've found if you want something long enough and keep doing little things to get it the planets will align and good things will happen.

[420purpHAZE420]

yea we really are basically going out minus the sexual part, and i dont think the kiss thing is a good idea

and freezland dont worry i dont care if u steal the thread, but keep us updated tho bc it really sounds like were talking about the same exact thing

[fikusroot]

Just ask her "so what are we?" and see what she says.
You should try to give us a better picture of this girls personality. She sounds like one of those girls that likes to get a lot of attention. Find out what her friends think. It's not a matter of you being a pussy, it's a matter of knowing exactly where you stand and knowing how into you she is. If you know shes really into you than asking her out wont be a problem.

[420purpHAZE420]

shes kinda like free spirited, doesnt care wat ppl think, but shes pretty hot and i dont think she really knows it, i dont really kno wat ur looking for but if u ask questions i will anser

[ronjohn420]

i agree with its a plant and weedboywonder???:stoned:

just ask her on a date, its like sayin "hey do you want to go there"(in relationship terms) without goin to far...

if you kiss her and she really doesnt like you like that ,it will...
1. make you look bad
2. embarrassed like hell(no one wants a kiss rejected)
3cross the boundries
4

but hey if she calls you her b/f, she obvisoly diggin you (or shes just weird):p :p j/k

so just ask her on a date and when she implies on (do you mean like together just say yes and start it from there

it sounds to me like your cool and doing the right thing

good luck,
Ron

[napolitana869]

What do you want him to do, do nothing or talk it out. That is the perfect way of telling the girl that he is a take charge manly man, by asking her if she feels the same way because he can't tell.:rolleyes: He needs to take charge and show a little bit of fire, that he isn't some weak male but a manly man who knows what he wants and takes care of business. If he is wrong and he goes through this long talk about how he has feelings for her and blah blah blah and she says no how is he going to unopen that can of worms. "Oh, I was just kidding." If she doesn't feel the same way that talk will send her running. Maybe you want him to call Maury Povich and go on one of those "I have a secret crush shows" :rolleyes: A small kiss that goes unreturned after they smoked can be brushed off more easily than a talk that he obviously has to come up with over time or had to think about for a while before he told her. Since he is in the dangerous friend zone, the kiss will show her some passion and fire. It is just a fucking kiss, but if she feels the same it will be so much more.



If he wasnt such good friends with her already I think that he should go with what you're saying. I just got he impression that he didnt want to risk the friendship as it stands now. If she really just wants to be freinds a kiss would cause more damage than just talking to her. I think your way would work well for the other guy who was in a similar situation though.

[CaliJay]

Friend -

If you ask her out do it because you have a connection to her spirit. Don't waste your time if there is nothing more than attraction. If you think she is someone that you can teach and learn from then go for it and see if she sees the same thing you do. My GF told me "you know we have an attraction don't you?" and I did know..that was 13 years ago...

Now...If she says no it is simply because she doesn't see the connection (and possibly never will) that you do.If she says no YOU are not rejected... it just means you need to find a way to help her open up her heart and see what you are seeing. Don't ask out her physical person. Ask out her spirit or her soul. The energy you are so attracted to. Inside her is a soul that wants to have love and be happy just as much as you do. If you remember that we all want deep connections (even if we don't realize it) You can consider yourself as giving her the chance of a lifetime to have a relationship with you.

In other words bro..Get inside her dome and Flip tha script.

Peace and LOVE -Jay

[yoda]

anytime you have these types of moments with girls, they have some sort of attraction to you

the one i mentioned in my thread, we are "engaged".

[420purpHAZE420]

wow, calijay u mustve been really stoned when u wrote that lol

but umm, nothing news happened with my girl bc i was suspended yesterday and probably nothing will happen today bc its friday and every1 either leaves early or doesnt come, so i probably wont see her...hopefully saturday nite

[Mechanix]

depends on how much you value the friendship. the friendship will never be the same if you tell you have feelings for her.

[spliffstar22]

your overthinking too much, just go for it, whatever happens, happens........

[insanity]

the worst that could happen is your friendship is awkward for a while. The best that could happen is sex... weigh your options dude.

[dutch.lover]

mmm sex. lol.

[bavet]

Stop being a pussy man grow some balls and tell her you are attracted to her and ask if she want to move to another level. If not so what, its not the end of the world. If she don't go fuck her friend hehehe

[420purpHAZE420]

ok so its the 21st and i know i said id ask her out, but i didnt im such a fucking pussy lol, neways her second bestfriend made a comment 2 me 2day like are u gunna hang out with her during vacation, and i was like idk, n she said u definitely should...i think thats a pretty good sign, but idk wat do u guys think?

[Frivolous248]

ok so its the 21st and i know i said id ask her out, but i didnt im such a fucking pussy lol, neways her second bestfriend made a comment 2 me 2day like are u gunna hang out with her during vacation, and i was like idk, n she said u definitely should...i think thats a pretty good sign, but idk wat do u guys think?

Yes...now go for it already. Seriously man, do you really need approval of people over the internet? 'Cause you already got it, don't procrastinate any longer, just...go for it. Seriously, the more you procrastinate and put it off the harder its gonna be, so quit asking people on the internet if you think something is a sign or whatnot, and do it.

DO IT.

[hewhispers]

(I can not believe THIS is my first post here.)

I am assuming that you're young.
From what I know...girls that have guy-friends keep that guy as a friend.

But here's a way to find out if there's more than that possible...
If you spend one-on-one alone time with her.....do 1 of 2 things.

1. Simply and in an off-handed casual way ask her "How would you feel if I kissed you right now?" Because its a hypothetical question...there's no rejection there, which is what you're afraid of and why you're stalling.

"Asking her out" is very stressful and puts her and you on the spot.

If you really have not balls....

2. Simply and in an off-handed casual way ask her "How would you feel if tried dating each other?" Again...because its a hypothetical question...there's no rejection there, which is what you're afraid of and why you're stalling.

Good luck, chief.

[420purpHAZE420]

ok, so last nite we were at my friends house and she was sitting on me/my chair for most of the time...we all smoked so we had the munchie, so my friends decided 2 go get food, we took the elevator down, but she had 2 wait 4 her ride home bc she didnt want to go get food...so of course i offered 2 wait with her, and like all my friends started going so it was just me and her and shes like u should really go with them, i dont mind waiting my ride will be here in 2 seconds, so i was like no seriously i wana wait with u its not rite to leave u alone, then she was like just go and i was high so i was just like fine im sorry, bye and ran to catch up with my friends...so wat do u guys think she didnt wana be alone with me bc she thought i mite make a move or she really just didnt want me 2 leave my friends or mabe i shouldve stayed and was just stupid?

[thcbongman]

I think you came off a little overprotective with the "i wanna wait with you, it's not right to leave you alone." Were you in like the ghetto? Was it dark? Otherwise it sounds silly.

Be cool, and chill ask her out for christ sakes. Hang out, make her laugh, take a deep breath and ask. It's not the end of the world here. It's the only way you'd have a chance to go out with her: ask. Otherwise, it won't happen, unless Apollo appears and shoots her.

[420purpHAZE420]

yea i kno i gotta ask, its really pissing me off like everytime im like im gunna do it, but then we start talking and i get scared...and i wasnt trying to make it seem like i was protecting her, i just was trying to be a gentleman

[Its a Plant]

Honestly man, things aren't looking too good. He-who-whispers had some good advice, too. I'd probably try that before acting a fool again.

And if Apollo does shoot her, it's not the end of the world. Then you can get his autograph. ~

[peaceandlove420]

Wip it out and she what she does.

[thcbongman]

Intent and perception are 2 different things. We all can see your intent. The way you came off is well, over-protective, forced, ya know?

Ease up. The more relaxed, the more fun you are having, the better chance she'll agree.

[napolitana869]

I think that you're over thinking things at this point. you've gotta relax

[JeenYuss]

i feel bad for you

the girl obviously wants you


if you tell yourself that about any female she will most likely become attracted to you... im not sure if this will work but it does for me... it could possibly have something to do with my looks and the fact that i last a while in bed

just be cocky and KNOW she likes you, dont THINK she likes u

example:
one night i'm at this party, a friend of mine invites this really fine female to the party, hoping that he has a chance with her
i spit some mad game, do ma thang thang etc.
we end up leaving together
she gives me her number and tells me shes getting a hotel room to party tomorrow
next day
i text message asking what hotel shes going to
later that night
arive at hotel... no party... just me, her, an her sister(who was in the other room cuz it was a suite)
she hands me $100 and says hang onto it for her
this is where i fucked up
i invited a few friends over to drink with me(she paid for all the drink)
me n her sister go get sum drink
i come back to the room, my homies i invited are there
we drink, have fun, etc.
i lay back on the bed for a second
out of nowhere she jus starts making out with me
for no reason
we would have F-ed if there werent all the people there(see i fucked up)
so we end up drinking at my gpas house with a few ppl the next day(my gpa went to mexico or suttin idk)
got somewhat lit, then we go off to the bedroom
a few hours later we re-emerge, smile big as hell on her face
so we end up doing this for a while, jus hangin out with each other at random parties, getting lit, f-ing, etc.
i tell her "i bet u all in love wit me huh"
she replies "no"
i reply back "yeah but u guna"
so we drop the subject, start hangin out more, blah blah blah

that was about 3 months ago

we're pretty much bout ta get married soon as i turn 16(shes a year older then me)

happy ending

thats what you get for being cocky:D



:rasta:

[420purpHAZE420]

yea i did that this summer, and i got head from the 2 hottest girls on my vacation trip, being cocky definitely works

the problem with this girl is i think she likes me, but shes not the type of girl that is going 2 make it really really obvious, especially since were such good friends...the doubt in my mind is what keeps scaring hopefully soon i will be able 2 grow some balls and ask her out or make a move lol

[JeenYuss]

dont keep talkin about growing some balls, JUST GROW THE DAMN THINGS

lol

:rastasmoke:

[420purpHAZE420]

this guy took her 2 a concert 2nite, she always tells me how she doesnt like him tho(like as a person) and hes ugly...im pretty sure she just went for the tickets, but this guy has been known 2 get girls by spending lots of money on them...im kinda scared that something mite happen:(

[phoenix]

i feel bad for you

the girl obviously wants you


if you tell yourself that about any female she will most likely become attracted to you... im not sure if this will work but it does for me... it could possibly have something to do with my looks and the fact that i last a while in bed

just be cocky and KNOW she likes you, dont THINK she likes u

example:
one night i'm at this party, a friend of mine invites this really fine female to the party, hoping that he has a chance with her
i spit some mad game, do ma thang thang etc.
we end up leaving together
she gives me her number and tells me shes getting a hotel room to party tomorrow
next day
i text message asking what hotel shes going to
later that night
arive at hotel... no party... just me, her, an her sister(who was in the other room cuz it was a suite)
she hands me $100 and says hang onto it for her
this is where i fucked up
i invited a few friends over to drink with me(she paid for all the drink)
me n her sister go get sum drink
i come back to the room, my homies i invited are there
we drink, have fun, etc.
i lay back on the bed for a second
out of nowhere she jus starts making out with me
for no reason
we would have F-ed if there werent all the people there(see i fucked up)
so we end up drinking at my gpas house with a few ppl the next day(my gpa went to mexico or suttin idk)
got somewhat lit, then we go off to the bedroom
a few hours later we re-emerge, smile big as hell on her face
so we end up doing this for a while, jus hangin out with each other at random parties, getting lit, f-ing, etc.
i tell her "i bet u all in love wit me huh"
she replies "no"
i reply back "yeah but u guna"
so we drop the subject, start hangin out more, blah blah blah

that was about 3 months ago

we're pretty much bout ta get married soon as i turn 16(shes a year older then me)

happy ending

thats what you get for being cocky:D



:rasta:

lmao, that was a funny story...especially that fucking end.

You're going to get married once you're 16..yea that's the best age to wait til' , at least then you have your license? O_o

[420purpHAZE420]

i had no reason 2 worry...i asked her n she told me im retarded lol

[spliffstar22]

or just be like how would you feel if i asked you out right now?
from the sounds of it she likes you, and you should just grow some kinda balls and just ask her properly........

[hewhispers]

Ever hear the phrase "nice guys finish last?"
Ever try to figure out why that is?
Cause they're so nice that they never step up to the plate and never take a swing and never get a hit. LAST!

Now I live in NY as well, so if you dont start taking swings, I will find her and once she gets a taste of me....puh...you're nothing but her pal. Its a dog eat dog world out there and you're about to get your ass kicked...then if not by me then by the ugly guy that at least had MORE BALLS THAN YOU.

THAT should piss you off.
Take what you think is yours, or hand in your balls at the front desk for a pussy, because thats what you are.

Look up my first post and just do SOMETHING.

Look at it this way:
Even striking out is better than doing nothing, because at least then you'd KNOW and then you could lick your wounds and move on.

Now you're just torturing yourself with the NOT knowing.
And yo're really killing my buzz, know what I mean.

Now get in there, and fight for that pussy.

[420purpHAZE420]

its really annoying rite now bc i left her on a bad note without a hug or nething i was high and kinda was just like watever fine ill go catch up 2 my friends and ran away, i will probably see her 2morrow nite, but i mite not bc we really have nothing to do since all our friends went away for vacation, then on sunday im going 2 florida, and i would love to ask her out b4 florida bc if she says no then i can just hook up with some1 there and if she says yes ill b really happy...hopefully shell do something with me 2morrow nite or mabe ill even ask her on a date(doubt it lol)...but enough is really enough i gotta ask soon

[Its a Plant]

Dude, straight up, I don't wanna see you post here again until we hear some good news from the homefront.

Serious.

Ask her, make a move, ANYTHING.

Once balls have appeared, report back soldier. ~

[420purpHAZE420]

haha...well hopefully something good will happen if i see her 2morrow nite...so freezland any updates on ur girl?

[hewhispers]

The "gonna ask her on a date thing" is lame.
Dont ask her.
Tell her.
Hey I got an extra tix to the pig races, why dont you come with me.
Instead of "Please come with me or I'll just die."

Be confident
Act confident.

My sense is that you're scared.
My sense is that you are you're own worst enemy in all of this.

Here, let me smack some sense into you.

WHAP!!!!!!!

Remember those girls you got to touch your pecker?
You werent sweaty palms with them.
Dont be with her.

Ahhh to be young and naive.
I live vicariously (sp?) thru you.

[420purpHAZE420]

haha i dont plan on being like do u wana go on a date, ill be like do u want 2 go to dinner and hang out 2nite and shell be like sure(assuming it will be with our other friends bc we always plan stuff 2gether then invite every1)...and then id be like but lets just go me and u this time

[420purpHAZE420]

o yea and i hope im entertaining u guys otherwise ill just stop updating this bc i guess it could also b kinda annoying to keep reading about this

[thcbongman]

We just wanna heaer that you got some pussy the way you want it.

Ya hear?

It sucks not knnowing ya could've ya now? Cuz you could get anye girl you wish t ya know.

i don;t mnake any snes but ya ta===know waht i awm saying
?

[Its a Plant]

Haha, yeah, what he said ^^^^ :stoned:

[420purpHAZE420]

i will definitely do but its gotta wait till i dec. 31st bc i wont see her till then...but dec. 31st i will ask her out or i mite die lol

[JeenYuss]

lmao, that was a funny story...especially that fucking end.

You're going to get married once you're 16..yea that's the best age to wait til' , at least then you have your license? O_o

no we both get per-cap checks for being native, minors get 3,000 every 3 months and adults get 1,200 every 2 weeks

once legally married you become emancipated and are legally an adult

im sure she would enjoy a few extra G's in her pocket, i sure as hell would

[JeenYuss]

in michigan u gota b 16 to legally marry... ima b 16 nex month the 29th, shes bout ta b 17 on new years

[420purplehaze420]

woh...long thread didnt read much of it but strangely enough not only are our screen names strikingly similar but im going through the same situation, accept she has a boyfriend and we do a little more than hold hands...

I say go for it man...life is to short

[Frivolous248]

ok, so last nite we were at my friends house and she was sitting on me/my chair for most of the time...we all smoked so we had the munchie, so my friends decided 2 go get food, we took the elevator down, but she had 2 wait 4 her ride home bc she didnt want to go get food...so of course i offered 2 wait with her, and like all my friends started going so it was just me and her and shes like u should really go with them, i dont mind waiting my ride will be here in 2 seconds, so i was like no seriously i wana wait with u its not rite to leave u alone, then she was like just go and i was high so i was just like fine im sorry, bye and ran to catch up with my friends...so wat do u guys think she didnt wana be alone with me bc she thought i mite make a move or she really just didnt want me 2 leave my friends or mabe i shouldve stayed and was just stupid?

I think what you shoulda done, is definitely stayed with her. Unless she got really mad. After she told you to just go, you shoulda been like "But I wanna wait with you, I like bein' around you, why do you want me to leave so bad?" or something to show her that you cared about her. Then if she was like "okay" you mighta been able to make a move unless she got really bitchy for you not goin' with your friends. But you definitely messed up there, in my opinion.

[tootsie roll]

NOOOO,, do not do it, i did that once, only once tho, cuz i think its best to just be freinds if the girl is a really close freind, i dont know tho its just me,
i asked a girl out that was my freind for a couple of years and she said yeh and it was all cool but she thought it would ruin our freindship cuz relationships tend to do that with people, sometimes


ep zactly. PLUS, this girl could feel very safe around her friend. That doesn't mean she wants to take it to the next level. Asking her out could spook her.

[spliffstar22]

you had a crush on her since the summer?? You shoulda made a move quicker, who cares now anyways?, you got some action, thats great lol

[Bob the Awesome]

Alright, it's simple.

Either you do something, opening up the chance for you to win, or you never do anything and sit on the internet worrying about it.

Either you have a chance, or you never will. The choice is simple. Now go.

[dutch.lover]

Good luck for tomorrow! And have an awesome New Years Eve!

[Great Spirit]

See what your astrological signs are first and see if they are compatible. Then try Chinese astrology.

[dutch.lover]

^Don't believe that crap. (no offense). If I compared my sign and my BFs sign, and found out they weren't compatible- would I break up with him? Hell no! Psychics are just bullshitters too, for the record.

[420purpHAZE420]

hey guys, i just got back from florida, so i didnt have a computer...but i have some bad news... basically she hooked up with her ex-boyfriend, and the day after her friend goes 2 me have u talked 2 her 2day? n i was like yea why? and then she told me that the girl i like hooked up with her ex...so i texted her saying im mad and i didnt talk 2 her until today...then today she texted me asking if i was going 2 this new years party, i said no, but i plan on suprising her there...neways if i feel like shes not into me 2nite, i will prob just find another girl...not seeing her 4 a week made it easy 2 4get about her, i already met 1 other potential girl, but idk how ill feel once i actually see her

[dutch.lover]

if not seeing her for a week made u forget about her, she is probably just that- forgettable. absence usually makes the heart fonder, not colder. lol. although you may just be saying "easy 2 4get about her" because you are upset about her hooking up with someone else....

you could always try talking to her. maybe she made a mistake hooking up with her ex. maybe she regrets it. maybe she was too drunk to know what was happening...etc. And if not- she is not worth pursuing.

[420purpHAZE420]

yea it would be so much easier for me if i had another girl to like...thats why i keep liking this girl its bc i have no1 else to like

[420purpHAZE420]

ok, so basically i still like the girl...its really hard wen i see her every day...she went on a date with this guy this weekend but she said she didnt really like him, she just wants a bf...i dont mean 2 be conceted or nething but im prob 1 of the best looking kids in the school and 1 of the most popular, i dont see y she would never think about being more then friends...i think that she mite want to but thinks that i dont like her back, is there nething i can do to hint to her that i do like her besides asking her out?

[dutch.lover]

i have been with you this far 420, but i think it's time to get over her. "she just wants a bf..." those chicks are the ones to stay FAR away from. #1 they are desperate for male attention (this seems to fit especially cause u mentioned much earlier how she flirts with lots of guys) and #2 they are the WORST girls to break up with. almost impossible. they're clingy, jealous, and generally insane once they get a bf.

does anyone else know what im talking about?

[robert42]

i hear u dutch!

[HighGuy]

Hi , 420purpHAZE420.
I read this first page of this thread and the last. So
I am correct in that you haven't asked her out? Man I feel were you are at.
Basically you are not in a great position. The "friend" thing going on with a girl you are attracted to is a quick prescription for frustration. Buddy ya gots
to be firm. Forget about asking her for a date. It's not a magic solution.
Just tell her. "(insert name) I have got to be completely honest. I DO NOT
want to be "friends" w/you. I'm crazy about you ( or whatever you think is appropriate). This , of course forces the issue. You do need a Yes or No
answer. If she's not warm for your form, It would probably be best to cut and run. You don't need to hear abour her dates or whatever she wants to tell about whoever she's messing with. You will only be depressed.
Be cordial, but it will be tough to remain friends, feeling the way you do.
Also there is lot to be said for not being so attainable. Chicks like aloof.
sincerely,
Bindar Dundat.

[greendove]

I'm going to be the oddball in this thread. I married my best friend, and I wouldn't have it ANY other way on the planet.

He had an extra ticket to a concert here in town, and invited me to go with. We had been best friends at this point for quite a while. At the bar afterwords, he says to me, "I have something to tell you. I am deeply, madly, and hopelessly in love with you." I then immediately responded that I respected him too much to give him the "you're such a great guy" speech. I was with another guy at the time. I didn't talk to my husband for about a month afterwords, because it was so weird. Then, we ran into one another at a party, and started talking again. My relationship at the time was falling apart, and that helped. We got back to "best friend" status, and about four months later, we were dating. (Actually, we skipped the dating process, and went straight to a serious relationship.)

The biggest thing to worry about here is that she's a high school girl. Teenage girls are especially crazy and insecure, with few exceptions. She may be hanging all over you because she likes the attention. Maybe she needs the reaffirmation that she's a pretty girl, and all that sort of high school insecurity. Chances are, if she does like you, she's probably terrified of making the first move.

The reason I avoided my husband for a month after he told me was because of the manner in which he told me. It was a bit too much and too intimidating, scared the crap out of me. So, don't do what he did. He's lucky it worked out alright. lol (actually, I'm pretty damn lucky, too.)

Instead, go with a more subtle approach to feel out the situation. Take her out to dinner, and pay for everything. Sit down with her and talk with her about what she's looking for in a guy. See if you fit the bill. Gaze into her eyes, and see if she gazes back, immediately looks away, or doesn't notice. If she doesn't notice, then that's bad news. There are ways to lead up to that first kiss which leaves plenty of bail time. Do it slowly, and see how she reacts. For GOD's sake, NEVER ask a woman, "Can I kiss you?". They will almost always freak out and say no. Going in for the slow kiss is often times the best and most honest indicator as to whether or not someone likes you back. She may be nuts about you, and not even know it herself until you've kissed. In matters of love, I've found that it's always better to act first, and talk about it later.

[JeenYuss]

kinda makes me wish i had female friends that werent so interested in having sex with me... sounds awkward but sometimes i jus like havin females that will jus hang out wit u n not b tryna do suttin wit u all tha time

like today i was hangin out wit sum friends that hang out wit my ex, n jus bein aroun her was kinda awkward, we both got a b/f an g/f but shes still always flirtin wit me n tellin me she loves me n shit we used ta have feelins for each other but now i dont n she still does idk i should start a new thread n c if ppl had this kinda shit happen

[420purpHAZE420]

ok, so i either just took a huge step forward or backwards...we were talking online n i was making fun of her about her date that she had on sat nite, but i was like, i wish ud date me or something expecting her 2 take it as a joke (ive done this a lot b4)...n then she was like wait do u want to go out with me?...n i was like who wouldnt want to go out with u (bc i was 2 scared to just say yes)...n then like it took her a while to anser n she said haha...so then i said seriously sometimes i think wat rong with me ur like my only friend thats a girl and u r beatiful, y dont i do something, but then i was like then theres other times wen ur mean...she then said haha i love and went to go shower...idk if this was a good conversation or a bad one, what do u guys think?

[420purpHAZE420]

i have been with you this far 420, but i think it's time to get over her. "she just wants a bf..." those chicks are the ones to stay FAR away from. #1 they are desperate for male attention (this seems to fit especially cause u mentioned much earlier how she flirts with lots of guys) and #2 they are the WORST girls to break up with. almost impossible. they're clingy, jealous, and generally insane once they get a bf.

does anyone else know what im talking about?

see thats the thing all my friends rite now have gfs and i want that myself rite now also...its good knowing u always have some1 instead of having to go out and find a random girl every weekend...ive never actually had a real gf b4 and i think its about time i do

[dutch.lover]

i feel for you....throughout high school i never really had a bf. I had one for a week in gr.9 but that was it. I finally got a bf in grade 12, but at that point i had almost given up all hope of ever getting one. So, don't give up, when you finally do get a gf I am sure she will be worth waiting for. Also, having lots of gfs/bfs is overrated... i mean, because i only had 1 bf in high school (the one i got in gr.12 i still have now), i only had to deal with one breakup. Breakups suck, so less bfs/gfs=less heartache. That's just something else to ponder...if you don't feel totally serious about someone, it's not worth going out with them- it will probably end soon anyways.

[greendove]

i feel for you....throughout high school i never really had a bf. I had one for a week in gr.9 but that was it. I finally got a bf in grade 12, but at that point i had almost given up all hope of ever getting one. So, don't give up, when you finally do get a gf I am sure she will be worth waiting for. Also, having lots of gfs/bfs is overrated... i mean, because i only had 1 bf in high school (the one i got in gr.12 i still have now), i only had to deal with one breakup. Breakups suck, so less bfs/gfs=less heartache. That's just something else to ponder...if you don't feel totally serious about someone, it's not worth going out with them- it will probably end soon anyways.

Not to mention that VERY few people actually end up with their high school sweetheart nowadays. If you're in high school, then chances are good that, even if you do get together, it'll end badly eventually.

[greendove]

ok, so i either just took a huge step forward or backwards...we were talking online n i was making fun of her about her date that she had on sat nite, but i was like, i wish ud date me or something expecting her 2 take it as a joke (ive done this a lot b4)...n then she was like wait do u want to go out with me?...n i was like who wouldnt want to go out with u (bc i was 2 scared to just say yes)...n then like it took her a while to anser n she said haha...so then i said seriously sometimes i think wat rong with me ur like my only friend thats a girl and u r beatiful, y dont i do something, but then i was like then theres other times wen ur mean...she then said haha i love and went to go shower...idk if this was a good conversation or a bad one, what do u guys think?

Dude, I missed this post earlier. I think that you had your opportunity right there, and pussied out of it. ;) All I can say is to keep flirting, and wait for your next golden window.

[420purpHAZE420]

do u guys think asking her out online would b that bad? i mean like if i couldnt say yes i want 2 go out with u online, how can i ever do it in person?

[greendove]

If talking online is a usual and comfortable mode of communication for you two, then it's as good as anywhere. Otherwise, online relationships wouldn't exist. Just break the topic in slowly so you don't startle her with it. I mean, she asked if you wanted to go out, and you said, "no". *chuckles* Bite the bullet, and ignore those tummy butterflies.

[420purpHAZE420]

yea, but i dont think she was asking me out...it may have been more like wow i never wouldve thought...and how do u guys think i should get into it online...it would b awesome if u all think its ok bc then we can preplan it 2gether

[Jack the Tripper]

Purplehaze, don't do it online.

Here is my recommendation:

Buy/download the original broadway cast recording of HAIR.
Next time you see your girl, invite her over to get high and listen to music.
Get nicely stoned with her, and try to be clear with your body language that you'd like to be close to her (if you're not already close to her.)
Get comfortable, light a joint, and listen to HAIR.
Just let whatever happens, happen.

If this doesn't get you somewhere, I'll give you another idea ;)

[Euphoric]

HEY JUST CAUSE SHE SAYS NO ONCE DOESNT MEAN SHELL KEEP SAYING IT..BE PERSISTANT HAHAH I ASKED MY GF LIKW 20 TIMES BEFORE SHE SAID YES

[greendove]

HEY JUST CAUSE SHE SAYS NO ONCE DOESNT MEAN SHELL KEEP SAYING IT..BE PERSISTANT HAHAH I ASKED MY GF LIKW 20 TIMES BEFORE SHE SAID YES

I turned my husband down for MONTHS... over and over and over again... before he finally broke down my resistance. Couldn't help but then marry the guy. Persistance can get a man far when it comes to winning a woman's heart. Just make sure you don't get any restraining orders in the process. :cool:

[420purpHAZE420]

so u guys think that was just a nice way of saying no?

[Pumpkinpie]

Get it over with dude. If she says yes, great! If she says no, tell her that this doesn't change anything you had with her before that. Easy-Peasy-Lemon-Squeezy!

I loled :)

@topic starter

I can see your point, I mean if she said no she might feel awkward around you later on... and then, well you're fucked.

:( Don't know what to tell you except go eat a box of cheeze its and be happy! (Except if you're fat eat a crisp apple)

[mackSwell]

Ok, Kiddo... First of all, don't forget to breathe. *chuckle*

Now, it is nigh-impossible to figure out whether or not she'd be interested in being more than friends with you based on her actions and these dance-around-the-topic conversations you two are having. I suspect after that online conversation that she might be interested, otherwise when you semi-joked about the 2 of you going on a date, she would have just blown it off or changed the subject immediately. The fact that she asked could be a good sign.

So here's my advice: Instead of asking her straight out if she's interested (straight-forward is often a good thing, but it has it's place!), just say something like:

"Why do you think you and I have always been just friends?"

This way you are asking the question, but without revealing that you wish it were more. If she doesn't feel the same way, she'll be able to gracefully answer without putting something weird out there in the way of the good friendship you have now.

A) She might say something like, "We just don't think of eachother that way." or "We wouldn't want to mess up our friendship." This is her way of telling you she's not interested in more. Go to D.

B) On the other hand, she might say, "You never asked!" or "I never thought you would want to." If so, this is your opening. Continue in the hypothetical, and say something like, "If I had asked, would you have said 'Yes'?

If she says she would, then it is time to make your move!
If she says No, you have your answer - Go to D.
If she says "I don't know," skip to C.


C) She might just say, "I don't know." Then you can ask her if she's ever thought about it.

If she asks, "Have you?" go ahead and admit it! But be casual and light about it: "Of course. We get along so well, and you know you're beautiful - I'm a guy! Of course I have thought about it."
If she says she's never really thought about it, back it up - She probably doesn't want things to change. Go to D.

D) Be prepared with something upbeat to change the subject so it doesn't get too heavy, like, "Holy shit, did you watch South Park last night?"

You can do this! You'll find out what you want to know without fucking up the friendship.

Good luck!

[mackSwell]

Thank you, Freez. *grin*

Does anyone remember those Choose Your Own Adventure books?

[dutch.lover]

haha that was good advice! and yes, i remember those books fondly.

[420purpHAZE420]

should i be like can we talk for a second...or just do it like in the middle of a conversation...i really dont have experience in this most of the girls ive hooked up with either made the move the first time or made it very obvious they wanted me...i was thinking about doing this like wen im drunk or something, but number 1 i hate drinking, so thats not so often, and number 2 like if we want to have a real relationship, do i really wana ask her out wen im drunk?

[dutch.lover]

no no...asking her out when you're drunk is not a good idea. it presents many problems: you won't be enjoying yourself very much cause you don't like drinking; you may not be able to remember her reaction all that well in the morning, or how you presented yourself; she may be insulted that you're drunk and making a move like that; if she's drunk too and says yes, because you're both drunk it doesn't really mean much...it's easy for either one of you to say "oops, i made a mistake, i actually don't wanna go out with you" or something would backfire like that.

[2600HERTZ]

As a last resort, you could shoot her( or some other gruesome thing) and carry her around and have sex with her and just do all the talking for her.


sorry that was so gross, i couldnt resist

[CUPNOODLES]

DIZ IZ WUT U DO.....FUCK EM ALL......SORRY DOGG BUT IT SEEMZ THAT SHE DOEZNT LIKE U CUZ THIZ IZ WUT HAPPEND 2 ME N IF U 2 GO OUT N BREAK UP U WONT B AS GUDD FRIENDZ AZ U USED 2 B...BUT I DONNO DOGG...I SAY U STILL GIV IT A TRY U NEVA KNO

[mackSwell]

Nah... Don't preface it with "can we talk for a second" - That takes the nonchalance out of it. We ladies know damn well that that is the man-version of "We need to talk." *shudder* *wink*

When you're just hanging out and mellow, toss it out there. If you can't find an opening, make one - Mention a couple you know who just started dating: "Hey, did you hear that Jenna and Mike are going out now?" That way your question will be relative to the conversation.

Yeah, don't do it when you're drunk or high. If all goes well, you don't want either of you to be left wondering the next day if it was the alcohol talking. And in any case, you're less likely to pull off the casual delivery if you're not on your game.

[420purpHAZE420]

thanks for the advice guys...i wana do what u said mackswell, its just weve had finals this week so i havent seen her at all...so i saw her for a second 2day and she said 2 call her 2morrow nite, and im almost 100 percent sure neither of us have nething to do...so i wana be like do u wana go2 dinner with me? the thing is we do this all the time but she usually invites a bunch of ppl or i do...so i was thinking about saying do u wana go 2 dinner 2morrow nite, and then be like, i mean just me and u

[mackSwell]

Sure, you could do that.

If she insists upon inviting others, it could be she is sensing your wish to have a talk and is avoiding it.

[420purpHAZE420]

its not that she always insists on inviting other ppl, its just that ive never actually said just me and u, and like her friends kinda follow her everywhere...also another thing is ppl always mention the fact that they think were basically going out, we both just always laugh it off...is that a good or a bad thing, like if she didnt want me wouldnt she say something like, "never"...but like i talked 2 her friends about it and they say she says that were too good of friends, but thats also wat i tell my friends...so i dunno...girls are confusing lol

[mackSwell]

I think you need to just 'screw your courage to the sticking place' and try the A B C advice I gave ya... That's the best I've got.

[Coelho]

When i started to read this thread, more than 1 hour ago, i could not imagine that at the end of it you would not asked her yet... please man... DO SOMETHING! Dont be SO afraid... Or you will regret later...
I myself did like you... my history is pretty like yours, but i was a pussy coward to tell her i really liked her and wished something more then friendship... so the years passed, and i had to wait some 5 years till get a girlfriend cause i had wasted that one. And she was really beautiful...
So, all in all, is better regret what you DID than what you did NOT. Im the living proof of this. JUST DO IT, man!!!
Dont stall because you're afraid of a 'no'... the 'no' only exists if you ask her. And there is a great chance she will say 'yes'... so, DO IT, MAN!!!
If you knew you would die tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, what would you do? Ask her, and enjoy what may happens, or die like a coward? Think SERIOUSLY about this... cause you dont know which is your last day... which can be today... we dont know... Death is just at an arm of distance... just stalking us... and waiting the time for touch us... so DONT WASTE YOU TIME WITH PETTY FEARS!!!

I really wish you take my advice seriously... cause i know what is live to regret my petty fears... be more a man than i was...

And always remember... Our Lady Mary Jane can keep you cool in the moments of need! :thumbsup:
Peace, and plenty of weed for all! :jointsmile: :rasta:

[Nailhead]

chances are if you are in the friend zone, you're already screwed. If she really liked you and knew you for so long don't you think she would have made an initiative?

I had a similar experience in high school, I was head over heals for this girl. I was very close to her for years, but never took it further. Trust me, you will regret not trying. If she doesn't like you that way, there is a good chance it will hurt/ruin your friendship. But take it from me, it is worth it to know!

I still regret never asking her out, I never let her know, and now she is married. So my time is long gone now, and honestly I'm not the same guy I was when I was head over heals for her so even if the chance came, its too late for me.

Just grow some balls, and ask her. Don't be a pussy about it, usually if you are her friend its because she doesn't think of you as dating material, so you gotta show her you are dating material, IE you are a man. It'll be worth knowing, even if she turns you down.

[Amun]

if you like her ask her out.

no sense in wondering for the rest of your life.

and if shes hugging and holding your hand she most likely likes you anyway, unless you waited too long and she stuck you in 'friend zone'.

ask her out, and if she says no, who cares...its her loss...

dont be a wuss.

[NotAFattyDotCom]

If you don't do it. I will.

[Jim Morrison]

god damn man you piss me off. i had the same situation as you and i waited too long and she fell for another guy. this was my first relationship i dont really try with women cause it always turns out the same with me.

we had a friendship then i found out she liked me and we had a great thing for months like we were dating but we werent, i was afraid to ask her out even though she called me everynight and told me she loved me all the time before hanging up.

then one day she decided to throw it away for some guy she knew for a month and dumped 2 weeks after going out with him for another guy who dumped her and hurt her bad and she moved from guy to guy making out with random guys she hardly knows and then going back to the guy who dumped her whos shes still with now.

(thats when i realised shes just one of those girls that dosent have a father and will accept love from any guy who gives it to her and when they use her for sexual favors and stuff like that it fucks her up in the head more then she already is, so i feel bad for her but its what she chose for her life, and shell regret it when shes knocked up and the guy ditches her just like her father did to her mother.)

i was heartbroken and depressed for a long ass time it still bothers me today thinking back on it, i really loved this girl and thought i could make her life better for her by taking her away from the guys who just try to get in her pants. im was a nice guy.

i got over it by ignoring her and realizing theirs no such thing as lovem i should just be like the guys that just want sex and no relationships with that kind of mentality i got my first handjob but then the chick i was with stoped talking to me for a month and went back to college and i found out she was sucking some guy off a week after i was with her so my luck sucks. the only girls that like me are fucked up in the head and psycho bitch whores.

im staying single and the only love intrest i need is mary jane

sorry for being so long but i got a little carried away in my sleep deprived state and just wanted to show you what happens when you wait to long

[420purpHAZE420]

ok, so i guess i had this coming...it turns out she almost %100 used to like me and i guess i lost my chance...now she likes another guy who is one of her bestfriends (also one of mine) and i kno he likes her back...we just went on vacation together and she spent like no time with me and most of it with this guy/other guys, which just ruined my day everytime...now im back and i just cant stop thinking about how she doesnt like me and i have no chance anymore, i really think im heartbroken...idk what to do i feel like shit and dont kno how to make it better

[thcbongman]

*claps*

You did it! Be proud of yourself.

Getting rejected sucks. But it'll make you stronger once you stop hurting. Shake it off and try it again when you spot a hottie. It's not the end of the world man. Just look at the positives, and it's brings you happiness.

[ReUp]

Reject her back. See how much she doesn't like you when you never see her. Eventually she will realize that she misses you. The best way to cure heart ache is through time and distance. Win/win situation either you cure your heart ache or she realizes how madly in love with you she is. Just an idea. It seems to me she has taken you for granted.

[420purpHAZE420]

i never got rejected...i just never asked her out...this is why i never asked her out, i didnt want to ever feel this shitty

[B.Basher]

Lol, come on man. You didn't even do anything and your hearts still broken?

Just think of it as a lesson. Sooner than you think you'll find another crush and be in the same situation. When that happens, just remember to hurry it up instead of thinking about it too hard. These things arn't meant to be pondered hardcore. When you like someone, get the fuck in there.

I'm more dissapointed than you, i've been following this thread for ages waiting for something to happen :D .

Chillax with your close friends and get high.

[thcbongman]

Time to apply what cannabis smokers are apparently known for.

Peer Pressure!!!!

Cmon man, you got me all excited, but you didn't do it :(

Now that you are hurt at nothing, what do you have to lose? You tell yourself she doesn't like you, but how are you certain if you didn't ask her out?

Now or Never. Summon the cajoles and do it. Otherwise we'll all rag on you forever! muhahahahhahahaah.

[Coelho]

yes man... now youre feeling everything is lost, is your better time to try... cause you have nothing to lose... if she say not, it wont be much worst, cause youre already feeling broken hearted. but if she say yes... i bet youll be more euphoric than if you smoke a loooooot :jointsmile:
so... please man... do something... NOW is the time... when you have NOTHING to lose and EVERYTHING to win... really... now is your LAST chance... do it now... or REGRET it FOREVER!

PS. Again, i say, Mother Mary Jane can give you the courage and detachement needed to your enterprise... :rastasmoke:

[thCA livin]

In one of your previous posts you mentioned something about popularity and looks. Many people have that misconception in their minds that just because they are attractive and many people look up to them that they automatically will get just about anyone they want. If you pay attention, even the hottest girls have a hard time getting the guy they want.
In this life you dont need to look like a model, you dont need any of that..

you need balls.

Smoke a blunt, think about it, call her and tell her to meet you somewhere, be honest with her..if all goes well it will happen.
If not you also have to ask yourself, if she werent cute would she be your friend? Why do you hangout with just her? Personality perhaps?

[420purpHAZE420]

i kno she doesnt like me anymore, theres no point in even asking...and as for liking her for her personality, i 4sure do, i love every little thing about her and its her faults that make me love her even more...like she has this 1 tooth that is smaller then the otehrs that i love, she has this cut in her eyebrow...i can keep going on and on, but i love all these things

[ReUp]

Whip it out.

[Jim Morrison]

yeah whip it out treat her like dirt and be really egotistical and say something like i know you always liked me how bout we fuck or you suck my dick?

if shes easy shell do it if not heh you tried and your already depressed nothing can make you lower

[CJBHM52]

ok dude. if you know she doesnt like you then what do you have to lose? honestly man, whats the worst that can happen? she says no and youre sittin the same as you are right now. in 5 years whats it gonna matter. youll look back and kick yourself for not makin the move. so just do it. and V day is comin up. do somethin. please dude. youre killin me. do a few things annonymously leading up to V day to let her know someone likes her. maybe drop a few hints that it might be you. then make your move on V day. lifes too short man. and i promise you, you will regret it if you dont at least try. good luck man.

[tokin'smoker]

dude, i can't believe i read all of that and at the end you still didn't ask her.
i think we all can relate to how incredibly nerve racking asking a 'girl we have feelings for' out really is. but at some point throughout each and everyone of our ordeals we had to make the decision to either step up or step down. and i'm just dissapointed, that even though you cared about her so much, you took the easy road out.
and now you may never know. that's rough. i feel for you.

[CUPNOODLES]

WELL I DON WANNA B A DICK BUT....I TOLD U SO......OK 2 MAKE THA PAIN GO AWAY A) DONT DO STUPID SHIT(I.E: CUT UR SELF). B)DO WUT JIM MORRISON SED....NOW SERIOUSLY DONT LET THIS GIV UP ON GIRLS...DONT TURN OUT LIKE ME.....GO OUT HAV FUN 4GET BOUT HER...GO OUT OUT WIT FRIENDZ N TRY 2 B A PLAYR EVN IF U DON HAV THA LUKS OR WORDZ....GO DRINK SUM...GO SMOKE SUM....GO FIND SUM EZ WHOREZ N FUCK EM....DO WUT EVR U CAN 2 GET HER OFF UR MIND PRETTY SOON ULL 4GET BOUT IT.....

[italianrose]

i say you grow a pair of balls and ask her out.

[Alien Intel]

yeah man, ive read the most part of the post, and the only reason you lost your chance is becuase you kept her on the hook for a long fucking time, if you feel the urge to go for it, then yu just should of gone for it, you should of tried something like a whole plan to ask her out, used props or something....

i brought a guitar on a a day i was thinking i lied this girl, aafter band pratice and all, adn she was like oh will you play a few songs for me. ia greed, anded in me playing a few good songs, then i made a silly improvision asking her out and she didnt let me finnish the song without her saying yes...

girls suck only whenyou dont have the balls to do anyhting about that.