Help With Parents

[lardman]

Hey all,

Ive been having trouble with my parents (step mom and dad) lately. Ive been getting OK grades(no D's). But theyve been acting like they always do, but its horrible. Always seem like theyre in a bad mood. They always have an attitude and seemed pissed off at the TINIEST things. For example, I have to be in bed at 10pm and I usually take a shower at around 8-9pm and then just chill after that until bed time. Well, I was already done with my homework and I was on my computer at 7:40pm and my dad came out nocked on my wall (i live in a room in the garage) and he said "its almost 8, you havnt taken a shower yet, you need to eat dinner, and get you clothes out" i say ok in a minute and he says NO NOW and slams the door. Other things like this, if i do something a little off from what they want theyll flip out.

Like I was supposed to get a paper signed with the homework i missed on the day i was absent, well i got the missed work to do but i didnt get it written down by my teachers so my dad flips out and starts yelling saying i cant do the simplest things. I dont know what to do.

Well, i got to go, new RULE saying i have to be off at 9:30. Im 16 btw.
Peace

[nonono]

Sucks to be you. Just wait it out - there's only two more years to go.

I'm sixteen too. Small world.

[birdgirl73]

I have to guess they're trying to crack down in the only way they know how to get your nose to the grindstone so you'll raise those grades. But they're not going about that in the way I would. For one thing, the angry tone just backfires and provokes more reciprocal anger and attitude, I think. And you're old enough that you should be able to schedule your own shower time and not have to be reminded when to get your clothes ready, etc. Also, if you really do get off the computer by 9:30 and into bed by 10, I'm truly amazed. You're the first teenager I've even known who does this.

Like I said, they're trying to get you to shape up in the only way they know how--by overcontrolling you and tightening the reins, which they must believe need tightening. If you can get your grades up and work on keeping any attitude in check that you may display toward them, I suspect things might get better quickly. Once you show that you're responsible enough to take some initiative and work to your potential, they should ease up. If they don't, you'll want to keep track of how well you're taking care of your responsibilities and improving your grades and then remind them that you're ready for a little more freedom and are proving you can handle that. Remind them that in less than two years, you'll be finished with school and moving on to something else like college or living on your own. Remind them that eventually, you're going to have to live according to your own schedule and set your own rules. Good luck!

[MrGreenFingaz]

you can either:

your parents sound kindof like mine, like they "know whats best for you" so they try to controll your life to suit your means, once this thinking is engraved in their minds i dont think it ever changes, my parents are seperated now so its all good..well here are your best options, RESPEKIVELY:

A) you need to get a gun and shoot some place up, youll get on nancy grace and since "its always the parents fault" youll make em look bad..BINGO.

b)One day you just might have to snap, really bring out the inner demon and just trash everything like a mad man..that'll show em

C)Just do some little things (a little sugar in the gas tank here and there) this will make your feel proud, like you are superior and getting back at them (if you can do this behind their back this increases the superiorness stimuli.)

D)Go out every night at 10 and try to find some local hoodlums (next time mommy fucks with you throw up your signs and slap a hoe)

E)Go to bed at 9:00, that'll show them who the boss is.

F)Sleep outside

Well someones baked.

[MastaChronic]

Hey all,

Ive been having trouble with my parents (step mom and dad) lately. Ive been getting OK grades(no D's). But theyve been acting like they always do, but its horrible. Always seem like theyre in a bad mood. They always have an attitude and seemed pissed off at the TINIEST things. For example, I have to be in bed at 10pm and I usually take a shower at around 8-9pm and then just chill after that until bed time. Well, I was already done with my homework and I was on my computer at 7:40pm and my dad came out nocked on my wall (i live in a room in the garage) and he said "its almost 8, you havnt taken a shower yet, you need to eat dinner, and get you clothes out" i say ok in a minute and he says NO NOW and slams the door. Other things like this, if i do something a little off from what they want theyll flip out.

Like I was supposed to get a paper signed with the homework i missed on the day i was absent, well i got the missed work to do but i didnt get it written down by my teachers so my dad flips out and starts yelling saying i cant do the simplest things. I dont know what to do.

Well, i got to go, new RULE saying i have to be off at 9:30. Im 16 btw.
Peace

tell them to fuck off and suck a dick. you live in america (i think..) and as such you are an american citizen and there is no law saying that have to listen to your parents

[Garden Knowm]

shouldn't this be in the experiences forum?

lol
iloveyou

[couch-potato]

He probably has issues (serious)

Next time they bitch at you tell them that you're tired of it, and if they can't talk to you in a respectful manner then they can fuck off.

[Captin]

call the police and say your parents molestered you, that'll take care of them...

[MastaChronic]

call the police and say your parents molestered you, that'll take care of them...

yeah, you should do that. all you'll need to do afterwards is go a a bunch of psychiatrists for the next few years.....

[Inferius]

Be open and honest and stand up for yourself.

If that fails, and they're still being abusively controlling, try to get family counsellors involved. Any counselor with half a brain is going to take your side in this case.

[Cooler Then Jesus]

im 15, its 12:30 am, ill get off the fuckin comp when i want, ill go to bed when i want, take a shower in the morning if i want, and get my clothes ready in the morning, it doesnt make sense to me why they feel the need to do this to you.

[smokin dope]

I DONT GOT THAT PROBLEM, I HAVE SUCH A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MOM, SHE SMOKES WITH ME SOMETIMES AND MY DAD WHO LIVES IN CANADA, WE SMOKE TOO, BUT OUR RELATIONSHIP IS WEIRD

[smokin dope]

BUT THAT SUCKS, 10PM BEDTIME...DAMN

WHEN I WAS 16, MY CURFEW WAS MIDNIGHT ON WEEKDAYS AND WHENEEVER ON WEEKENDS, IF I STAYED OUT I JUST HAD TO LET THEM KNOW IM DRUNK AND IM NOT COMING HOME HAHA

[Reefer Rogue]

Talk to them in a respectful way but firmly tell them how you feel and express that you feel that you want the responsability of making your own routine. Teenagers need FREEdom

[Perp]

I'll probably get flamed but I gotta answer this from the parent's perspective. Now, I dont' know your specific situation, but I am the stepdad of three boys now aged 19, 17, and 14.

The oldest was never bad as a child. In grade 8 he began hanging out with a couple of guys who had no rules at home. He called them 'his friends'. Well, soon after we got a call from Walmart. He had been caught stealing. I went and talked the store and cop out of pressing charges. His mom and I wanted to be cool parents so we didn't come down too hard on him. After all, almost everyone swipes something as a kid. We hoped that he had learned his lesson. He didn't.

Next, he was caught breaking into houses with 'his friends' during the time he was supposed to be in school. They would steal money, booze, whatever. Then he got caught breaking into my house, HIS HOUSE, going for you know what. A neighbour seen them and called the cops. Well, 'his friends' ran, leaving him to take the fall. I was awakened by about 5 cops stomping around my home. Luckily, my grow was secure and they didn't find it. That was the scariest day of my life. At that point I had no choice but to make him choose: his friends or his family. He moved out a week later.

Long story short he dropped out of school in grade 10, and now works at a KFC.

After that we set down the rules for the other two. School was a priority. We wanted to know where there were, and who they were hanging out with. Sometimes we didn't let them go places that they wanted, and we made them be in at a certain time.

Now, the middle one is finishing high school this year and is applying to college. He is a great teenager, very responsible, has a job and helps out with chores around the house. So, we loosened the reins a bit and allowed him more liberties.

The youngest is in his first year of high school. His marks actually improved from grade 8. He also does chores, and we limit his computer time and he goes to bed at 10 on school days.

I guess the moral of the story is, sometimes teens don't need freedom, they need rules. They need to learn reponsibilities, and how to make decisions that will benefit their well-being. Sometimes you need to take life seriously now, in order to enjoy it later.

Sorry for the long post but everyone was saying 'fuck the parents' and all that. But maybe they just want you to grow up to be a happy, well adjusted, responsible adult.

[rebgirl420]

My parents were always cool. As long as I mainataind an A average, cleaned my room, and called at least once if I wasn't coming home I was allowed to smoke pot, run around, and go over and sleep over anyones house. They trusted me and neevr really had any rules. They figured they'd tell me once about what not to do and I should make my own damn mistakes, tho they were allways there if I needed them. But if they did give me shit all I have to do is pull the cancer card out. Oh yeah because WHO is gonna yell at a cancer kid? No one thats who, it's just one of those great things you get for going thru so much shit. It's like the race card or the sex card. it's a magical thing.

[PaRaNoIa]

and go over and sleep over anyones house.

And yet you always go home...:(

[rebgirl420]

well you gotta remember I only stayed over my friend Nick's house and he's gay. Now I stay over John's house, like I am now and i'm only home on wednesday. He works at night and I stay here and smoke, eat, play bass and drums and watch t.v.. It's a good life. Plus I do all my school online any time I want. It's nice.

[PaRaNoIa]

School... Online?

Jesus.. Teenagers nowadays..:rolleyes: :p