Marriage? I don't think so... [Archive] - Green Grass Forums

justinsane

11-21-2006, 04:08 PM

Because marriage doesnt work in the world today
its and institution that is in decay
and if i, have love i wish to portray,
i will surely find another way.

someuser

11-21-2006, 04:49 PM

I believe in marriage. My parents have been together for 30yrs, my grandparents 50+ yrs, and all my aunts and uncles on my mom's side are married w/o any divorces.

The thing is, marriage is a lot of work... Too many people marry too young and too early... Having kids too early too doesnt help as it can put a lot of stress on a marriage.... One day I hope I'll get married but I dont see that happening until my mid 30s at the earliest... The key is all about waiting until both people are mature and ready and going into with the mind set that marriage is a lot about compromises :)

birdgirl73

11-21-2006, 05:34 PM

I think Someuser's right. Half of marriages do last. And when folks get married for the first time later rather than sooner, particularly after getting decent educations--and when they don't get married because of an accidental pregnancy--the success rate is much higher.

Not all marriages are meant to work. I'm convinced of that. But there's a lot to be said for sticking through the rough spots and staying married. It certainly does take work, and it takes a strong desire to be married rather than divorced or single. It's a whole lot easier to throw the towel in, to be honest. I've been married for 24 years. My parents have been for 53 years. My in-laws for 51 years. And my grandparents were married 67 years and 63 years, respectively, when death did them part. So there are some marriages that do last.

Storm Crow

11-21-2006, 05:41 PM

I've been married for 40 years to the same dude. We rarely fight, we toke a lot, we love and support each other. We have a partnership for life. And no, it hasn't always been easy. There have been rough spots, but we got through them. With marriage, there is a sense of security lacking in "just living together" lacks. Marriage feels like a warm coat on a cold day. I do advise that you wait at least 5 years before having kids (I waited almost 7), since men (and frequently women) are usually not ready for the heavy duty stress that having kids brings and you need the time to party and really get to know each other. A little secret for a long marriage- Be sure to say "I love you" (and mean it) every day. :thumbsup: Marriage rocks!:dance:

birdgirl73

11-21-2006, 05:59 PM

Granny Storm Crow's right again! If we had it to do over again, we'd have waited longer to have a baby (we were only married two years when he came along) and longer to get married in the first place. Looking back, 22 and 26 were mighty young ages at which to get hitched, despite the fact that we're still together. Another helpful secret for a long marriage? Marry someone you love and are physically attracted to. There's a lot to be said for having lots of sex to keep the connection alive.

LIP

11-21-2006, 07:07 PM

Im all for marriage. It's good thing, and of course it works in this day and age.

Just becayse some people are ready to rush into it and fuck everything up doesnt mean were all that stupid.

Smokalotxxx

11-21-2006, 07:08 PM

Finding someone you love and are physically attracted to is the hardest part.

NightProwler

11-21-2006, 07:40 PM

i want to get married.

katacus

11-22-2006, 03:23 AM

hell no.
70% ends.
if you stay married, chances are your mate strayed and you just dont know it.
and if you find out....
...its half.

Hell No. Keep your heart in the bank.

slowlickitysplit

11-22-2006, 03:49 AM

I love marriage....in fact I have 7 wives now!
JK

Psycho4Bud

11-22-2006, 04:06 AM

Marriage is a great institution! Been there done that twice now and can't wait for the third. The beginning and middle are great.....then if it comes to an end it's like doing a clean sweep on your garbage. She'll take EVERYTHING that she can so you FINALLY get a clean house! All is well that ends well.:D

Have a good one!:thumbsup:

Psycho4Bud

11-22-2006, 04:07 AM

Little marriage music. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6k1raYHD2Fk&mode=related&search=)

Have a good one!:thumbsup:

birdgirl73

11-22-2006, 04:09 AM

Next time you marry, P4B, you gotta go into it with a pre-nup, I'm thinking. Then she'll know going in what she can have when she goes. Not very romantic. But very practical!

Psycho4Bud

11-22-2006, 04:12 AM

Next time you marry, P4B, you gotta go into it with a pre-nup, I'm thinking. Then she'll know going in what she can have when she goes. Not very romantic. But very practical!

Na, let her have all the old shit so I can get new. LOL

Have a goooood one!:thumbsup:

Inferius

11-22-2006, 04:42 AM

NEvERRrrrrrr!

Maybe after 50.

But until then, I beleive marriage goes against the true rules of biology.
Man was made to spread his seed.
-but i'm really just blabbing,
I'm a hopeless romantic and will probably marry when I hit 19.
lol.
oh well.

birdgirl73

11-22-2006, 04:45 AM

Don't do it, Inferius! Spread your seed till you're at least in your early 30s and have a couple of degrees. Then settle in and be domesticated. Monogamy's still hard even then. And it's hard on women, too. Lots of folks forget that fact. . .

VOYAGER

11-22-2006, 05:06 AM

I'll plat the wild card here, were in our early and mid 20, married w/3 and wouldn't have it any other way, especially when we compare our relationship w/ others we know. Some people just never know when they'll meet the right person, but i hope they finally do. I'm sure good morals has a lot to do with it also. Cause people without morals are the wild disease spreaders that need to be watched out for. Just like reading that lil blonde stoners threads, hey might be a cute chick but if she stays on that path long enough some dirty persons gonna ruin her life. You can't spin the drum too many times without gettin the bullet.
P4B the thing about takin the mess with her cracked me up, fortunatly me and my wife kinda swapped roles and i'm a stay at home dad now, i think guys do run a tidier house.

ericwt

11-22-2006, 05:28 AM

I think marrage is great...For other people.

ericwt

missJambi

11-22-2006, 07:32 AM

fuckin' A man! i have been married and it sucks out the azz!
did ya know that in amsterdam they dont get married anymore really. they get with one another, have kids and live together and boy if they aint the happiest people!
something just seems to totally die when you say i do. screw that.
me and my man got divorced but stayed together. that fixed all our problems and we are so cool now!

trippruss

11-23-2006, 04:51 PM

rather be married than not. been married 12yrs & we have some fights, but the sex is awesome & we always work things out. she's got a saying" a BJ a day keeps the other woman away"

Pipe Dreams

11-23-2006, 08:58 PM

Shit man, my parents have been together 20 years, theyve both gone to college, spent alot of time at work, now my moms is retired, my dad still has his construction business, but here they are 57 and 58 years old, and theyre getting a divorce. Man my family is fucked up. My mom and dad still live together, but my mom is fucking some rich dude now, and my dad is just poppin pills and chillin.

All in all, marriage does seem to be a lost cause in alot of cases.

harris7

11-23-2006, 09:07 PM

I dont think marriage has really changed over the years. Yes many more people get divorced these days. I dont think that is because people are making bad choices or love dosn't work these days (maybe they have a very small effect).

I think it is because there is no social stigma behind getting divorced anymore. 50 years ago people would just keep the marriage going and live unhappily. So now the only thing that has changed is that people can leave unfulfilling relationships

MastaChronic

11-23-2006, 11:40 PM

i consider marriage to be a very unnatural thing. you dont see wolves getting married, they just mate for liufe, no ceremony needed, just like an unspoken agreement.

Professor Dan K.

11-24-2006, 04:01 AM

Because marriage doesnt work in the world today
its and institution that is in decay
and if i, have love i wish to portray,
i will surely find another way.

hahaha nice man! :thumbsup: , maybe im the only one who saw that but i thought it was pretty funny

blackbarbie

11-24-2006, 05:01 AM

I'm an old-fashioned girl and I wanna get married young. Like 21, 22.

VOYAGER

11-24-2006, 05:09 AM

i consider marriage to be a very unnatural thing. you dont see wolves getting married, they just mate for liufe, no ceremony needed, just like an unspoken agreement.

you don't see wolves smoking herb either, or driving cars, or doing anything an advanced civilization would do

Its a Plant

11-24-2006, 08:11 AM

I don't really care when I get married as long as when I do, I know she's the ONE. If not, I'm probably wasting years of my life.

Truthfully, I really do look forward to being married. Just spending the rest of my life with the love of my LIFE excites me.

Oh where oh where are you love?

Thankfully I trust my gut for stuff like that, so when and if the ONE comes around, I'll be ready =)

MastaChronic

11-24-2006, 08:33 AM

you don't see wolves smoking herb either, or driving cars, or doing anything an advanced civilization would do

wolves dont have thumbs, theyd probbly eat some herb if they found it though

Eshelmen

11-24-2006, 08:36 AM

hell no.
70% ends.
if you stay married, chances are your mate strayed and you just dont know it.
and if you find out....
...its half.

Hell No. Keep your heart in the bank.

HAHAHA

Its a Plant

11-24-2006, 09:24 AM

Lol, Jake, even with all the differences we've had, I respect you man.

You're YOU no matter what, and that's tough. Your humore is something I've grown to look forward to. Honestly, I admire something like that.

Peace to you my man, and good luck with the ladies and your quest for true LOVE. ~

BabySnookums

11-24-2006, 10:20 AM

Its a Plant

11-24-2006, 11:14 AM

Wow, plant...thank you. I've always respected you, even when we did disagree.

"Yeah I had to go upside his head once or twice but that's cause I love him." Rick James...Chapelle's show lol

Jake

Cocaine's a helluva drug :upsidedown:
HAHA

That was the PERFECT quote.

"Now why would I do somethin' like put my shoes on Charlie Murphy's couch.........yeah I remember puttin' my feet on his couch. He could buy a new one." ~

slowlickitysplit

11-25-2006, 06:05 AM

Voyager,
When my boys were in diappers i did the house dad thing too. Worked nights. Killer hours all in all but i wouldn\'t trade those years for anything!

kiwi

11-25-2006, 07:28 AM

:thumbsup: I love married life....don't get me wrong, we have our ups and downs but thats just the way life goes. I know that my hubby trusts, loves and protects me and thats what makes me sleep well at night. We are from two diff walks of life but I think thats what gives us the glue that holds us together.....:thumbsup: