The great mystery of my life

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

I work. I don't steal. I'm pretty open minded (about some things). I'm not racist or a chauvinistic. I'm strong, but not a bully. I'm not a genius, but I'm not dumb as a rock either. I'm not arrogant or rude. I'm considerate of other people's needs and feelings. I'm not shallow or superficial. I'm generous (even though I really wish you would start buying your own cigarettes). I don't molest kids. And I'm kind to animals.

I've accomplished things in my life that most people never even attempt because it's "too hard." I've endured my share of trials and tribulations. I've paid my dues a thousand times over. I've journeyed through hell on foot, and made it back out again, and still managed to put an occassional smile on my face.

But there is one thing in life that comes to most people so easily, that always eludes me. Why is it so fuckin hard for me to get a girlfriend?

[Inferius]

Maybe the girlies want something a bit more.. "fresh"..?

[Greenport]

girls are very picky people, its sad to say:(

[Polymirize]

I work. I don't steal. I'm pretty open minded (about some things). I'm not racist or a chauvinistic. I'm strong, but not a bully. I'm not a genius, but I'm not dumb as a rock either. I'm not arrogant or rude. I'm considerate of other people's needs and feelings. I'm not shallow or superficial. I'm generous (even though I really wish you would start buying your own cigarettes). I don't molest kids. And I'm kind to animals.

I've accomplished things in my life that most people never even attempt because it's "too hard." I've endured my share of trials and tribulations. I've paid my dues a thousand times over. I've journeyed through hell on foot, and made it back out again, and still managed to put an occassional smile on my face.


Yeah yeah, trials over come and all. Good stuff. Probably describes 86% of the population. Average. Bland. Like a bowl of soggy cherrios without any fruit.
You're not putting in a job application, you're trying to find a girl. The whole "I've been to hell and back" line is dead. Maybe you should try dancing. Or become a good conversationalist.

Seduction is a matter of making yourself into a fascinating object. Not to simplify your love life.

Think of it this way. Instead of all the reasons why you 'deserve' a girlfriend, instead try to think of the reasons why a girl would want to spend time with you. Once you've got it, run with it.

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

You're not putting in a job application, you're trying to find a girl. The whole "I've been to hell and back" line is dead.

Actually, I'm describing my situation on an online message board. I'm not trying to feed anyone a cheap, meaningless pickup line.


try to think of the reasons why a girl would want to spend time with you.

I try to think of reasons why a girl would want to spend time with an asshole like you, and it just boggles my mind.

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

Look, I don't mind criticism. But if you're going to criticize me, at least criticize me for the right reasons. It's not like I walk up to women at the supermarket and say "I've been through hell and back and I deserve to have a date with you." No, I'm not that socially retarded. I actually do know how to have a normal conversation with people.

My post was not an attempt to get a date with anyone from cannabis.com. My post was describing what kind of person I am, so that you people, whom have never met me before and won't know what kind of person I am unless I tell you, will be able to understand what I'm trying to communicate.

Apparently it was a bad idea.

I have to go to work now.

Fuck it.

[suhl]

Yeah yeah, trials over come and all. Good stuff. Probably describes 86% of the population. Average. Bland. Like a bowl of soggy cherrios without any fruit.


hahhahhahahhahahaha that had me on the floor

[friendowl]

how do you look

maybe your not that cute [nothing wrong with that]

but it is harder to break the ice
your going to need to befriend a woman first
so she can see how good you are
join a single hikers club
hikers are the best people

[Storm Crow]

Look for a mind, not a bod. Pretty girls are often just "full of themselves". Look for the "mouse" in the corner- chances are, she's smarter, funnier and more of a human being than the cute "cheerleader" types and she will be more appreciative to your attention than the cheerleader with her pick of the boys. Beauty is cool, but it's WHO the person IS that is more important. Beauty is there only for a few years, personality is forever.

[Dankmike]

Look for a mind, not a bod. Pretty girls are often just "full of themselves". Look for the "mouse" in the corner- chances are, she's smarter, funnier and more of a human being than the cute "cheerleader" types and she will be more appreciative to your attention than the cheerleader with her pick of the boys. Beauty is cool, but it's WHO the person IS that is more important. Beauty is there only for a few years, personality is forever.



No, my chick is dumb and beautifull and she smokes bud with me.


we are perfect for each other.

[surreys princess]

storm......storm...that was just...awesome...

princess

[Its a Plant]

Polymirize's advice sounds spot on, personally. But you have to remember to take anything said with a grain of salt man, and don't sweat the small stuff.

And for that matter, he wasn't even being an asshole. At all. He suggested that you simply "sit down and think of honest reasons why a girl would spend time with you," not "there is nothing that wants to make a girl spend time with you." - - Read carefully before blowing steam - -

My own advice would probably be to put yourself out there more, in as many social situations as possible. Meet new people. Exchange phone numbers. Engage in deep conversation, maybe some dinner and sex, and see where that takes ya.

But PLEASE don't take that as me being an asshole. I'm not I swear. =)

[Dro_Princess]

You may have a problem with being in the just friends zone. If you like a girl let her know it and show it as well. Everyone hates to hear your just like my brother or vice versa for a girl. No one sleeps with there siblings so your stuck in the friends zone. When you approach a girl make it known that your single and looking for a relationship not just a friendship.

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

Polymirize's advice sounds spot on, personally.

Actually, what he did was make an assumption about me that was completely inaccurate.

He read my first post in this thread and assumed that's what I say to try and pick up women. The fact of the matter is that when I talk to a woman the first thing I do is ask her name and let the conversation take its own course from there.

So, what Polymirize had to say is not relevant to my situation at all.

To everyone who tried to give me some advice without making assumptions, I appreciate it and I thank you.

[Its a Plant]

I think he was just making you aware that this whole thing isn't anything new:

I've accomplished things in my life that most people never even attempt because it's "too hard." I've endured my share of trials and tribulations. I've paid my dues a thousand times over. I've journeyed through hell on foot, and made it back out again
I mean, I'm sure you have had to overcome adversity and all that, but so has everyone else, and it's almost like you're trying to use that as a reason to meet a special lady. We get it though. You're a real catch and any woman would be lucky to have you. But everyone's practically in the same boat, so you gotta find a new way to seperate yourself from every other single guy.

If you make things unclear for us, it's hard to help you out when all you write is some bland paragraph trying to name your good qualities. Maybe start things out a different way then, eh?

I still think you misread Polymirize's post, too, because he's not talking about just picking them up, but actually meeting women. What you do after that is up to you. ;)

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

What I was doing was telling you about what kind of person I am (I do believe I already said that before). I was making the point that I'm not a bad person to have around. And that's why it's a mystery to me that I can't get a girlfriend. After all, there are many, many men who are very bad people to be around, and they have girlfriends.

For fuck sake, even Hitler had a girlfriend.

[Its a Plant]

That IS tough to swallow, especially since Hitler was a closet homosexual.

Oh well keep ya head up, but you gotta put yourself out there before anyone finds you, ya know? No use waiting all your life, because sometimes you have to meet halfway. ~

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

That IS tough to swallow, especially since Hitler was a closet homosexual.

You're damn right it's tough to swallow.

That's why I don't think people should ever say "you have to be like this" or "you have to be like that" in order to get a girl. Because there are so many different personalities and characters out there, it's just ridiculous to think they will all be attracted to someone like you.

The truth is, I believe, that those of you who have girlfriends were just lucky enough to meet someone who is willing to put up with your shit.

[RichieRich]

hey city boy:

you sound like a nice enough dude. Sure maybe you get a little edgy too quickly and there are some self confidence things to work on...but....just be who you are and you will be fine....try to live life in the lights, camera, action mode if you can....try to seize your moments. i hate it when i leave someplace and i think darn i wish i would have done this or that...
you'll be fine...

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

Sure maybe you get a little edgy too quickly and there are some self confidence things to work on...but....just be who you are and you will be fine....

I tell you what man, there is no such thing as a perfect human being. Sure, I have my faults, and so do you, and so does everyone else who has posted in this thread, and so does everyone who hasn't.

Like I said, you're all just lucky you found someone who will put up with your shit.

[friendowl]

heres a for sure thing that will work for you

if you have a small pecker stop reading now

find a group of girls that are just hanging out [over18 years old]
walk up to them and ask for directions to the bank
while you are in conversation
have one of your buddies sneak up behind you and
pull your pants down to your ankles and have him run off
when th echicks see you standing their with your johnson
hopefully pointing towards the floor the will fall in love on sight

[lagstronaut]

I tell you what man, there is no such thing as a perfect human being. Sure, I have my faults, and so do you, and so does everyone else who has posted in this thread, and so does everyone who hasn't.

Like I said, you're all just lucky you found someone who will put up with your shit.

it's not about putting up with people's shit, it's about trying to have as much fun with someone as you can

[BabyFacedAbortion]

If ya wanna be happy for the rest of your life, get an ugly girl to marry you.

[Cheery Cherry]

If ya wanna be happy for the rest of your life, get an ugly girl to marry you.


:yippee:


How long have you been single? I think you just need to be patient. Things will happen when they're supposed to.

[Polymirize]

Plant and Billion, thanks for getting my back guys. Especially Plant. I sounded even deeper through his interpretation.

:D

CityBoy, sorry to get you all wound up. I have a somewhat abrasive style at times. Plant actually already but it out there but all I'd say to try and clarify is that its sometimes a matter of presentation.

It's not just about who you are (and kudos for knowing btw), but it's about who you project yourself to be. What's going to keep a girl interested long enough to discover the "real you"? because let's be honest, that takes time. What do you offer until she's figured you out?

Sometimes, it works just to be a mystery...