Advice?

[crudemood]

So there's this girl I kind of like. We met this year and we hung out alot. She is actually the one who broke the ice between us and asked me to hang out even she knew I was bi. She told me alot of her secrets and even said that she hasnt told anyone else except me and that makes me feel special. Who wouldn't feel special?

There are a couple of times she comes home with me twice all the way home like 1.5 hrs away from her house twice only to go home on bus. No one has ever done that for me before and so I'm like this girl is fucking cool, I definately won't mind dating her.

Another time we were talking about being afraid of stuff and then out of nowhere she drops "You know what would really scare me? Commitment." So that really got me thinking does she like me? She doesnt like me? I've thought about alot of things she said and done and I'm pretty sure she does like me. I'm really sure she does.

But I call her a couple of times and she hasn't reached me back yet for some reason. Why? What could she possibly be afraid of? Commitment? So she really does like me and is afraid? Can someone be that afraid of commitment? Should I just forget about her? I mean I'm a fucking hot girl.. mostly decent and friendly.. whats not to like! lol

what do you guys think is going on her head?!

[Buzzd]

I think she would do yah... she just dont want to feel stuck with yah.

Enjoy what you have with her when it comes. I'd give her another call *s*

[thcbongman]

I couldn't tell for sure without a little background.........

Is she bi as well? Was she raised with a religious background that going on a date with another woman is wrong? From the sounds of it she's scared of something.

[crudemood]

I couldn't tell for sure without a little background.........

Is she bi as well? Was she raised with a religious background that going on a date with another woman is wrong? From the sounds of it she's scared of something.

she dropped hints she was bi too. there was this one time she said.. "you wish i was bi" and walked away before i could say anything. she tends to do that alot when she's uncomfortable, she'll just walk away.
another time she asked if i wanted to hold her hand... and another time she asked how come i never talked about girls and that she would do a girl if she was really hot. those are kind of hints.

[thcbongman]

Judging by that, there is physical attraction, definitely innuendo. She definitely likes you, but something is holding her back. It could be she's afraid of commitment, it could be the way she was nurtured to think about same sex relationships, or how others close to her would think about her. Regardless if you want her, you gotta take it slow, and get her comfortable, stay away from commitment and some physical acts until she comes to terms with her own acceptance.

[crudemood]

Judging by that, there is physical attraction, definitely innuendo. She definitely likes you, but something is holding her back. It could be she's afraid of commitment, it could be the way she was nurtured to think about same sex relationships, or how others close to her would think about her. Regardless if you want her, you gotta take it slow, and get her comfortable, stay away from commitment and some physical acts until she comes to terms with her own acceptance.

Ive been getting the same advice from people, she's afraid, trust issues and take it slow. I guess thats the way im going to go with it.
I just needed all perspectives on this, some people have different idea's.

[friendowl]

take it slow
hell no ,dont do that

slam her against the wall and give her a nice slow kiss

[evergreen.02]

Sounds like to me she is afraid to make the first move, but she keeps dropping hints that she wants to. Maybe now that she senses you are catching on she is running scared. Scared of what she calls commitment. A tattoo is commitment to me. People do silly things when they start feeling out of their comfort zone. Be honest with her, be real. That is the only way to find out for sure. Ofcourse, first you have to get in touch with her. Try calling her again, but I wouldn't call again after that. She knows how to reach you if she is still interested.

[Frivolous248]

Tell her how you feel. Straight up. You seem pretty close, so just sit her down and be like "I really like you, you make me feel _____" and everything, be open.

Throw in something about her being afraid of 'commitment' too and make her feel better about the idea of dating you. Just say you wanna make her happy and will do anything to be with her.

[napolitana869]

maybe she wishes she's bi but shes really not. I hope that didnt sound stupid

[crudemood]

Sounds like to me she is afraid to make the first move, but she keeps dropping hints that she wants to. Maybe now that she senses you are catching on she is running scared. Scared of what she calls commitment. A tattoo is commitment to me. People do silly things when they start feeling out of their comfort zone. Be honest with her, be real. That is the only way to find out for sure. Ofcourse, first you have to get in touch with her. Try calling her again, but I wouldn't call again after that. She knows how to reach you if she is still interested.

Great, the exat same thing going through my head. I think I scared her by showing signs of interest too. I appreciate the input. If it was me I couldnt bother with someone elses problems. lol.
Ive been told to be patient and thats exactly what I'm going to do.

[Oblio]

Sounds like you have a really cool friend...don't mess it up trying to add more to it by your own design. Have fun...hang out...in time if you two become more than that then it is cool.

The comment:
"You know what would really scare me? Commitment."

Could have been made for sevral different reasons.
1st she sensed your desires and was maybe tying to slow things down.
2nd she was just being honest and talking about personal issues with her. She could have wanted you ask why she felt that way.
3nd she wanted to see how you reacted to the comment.

sounds like honesty is a big part of your friendship...just tell her your thoughts