Picking up girls.

[3rdEyeVision]

I dunno if someone made this thread already but I couldnt find anything so whatever. Post tips on how to get girls and starting conversations with people you dont know here.....theres a girl that is in the locker next to me thats really pretty but she's different than the girls I normally hang out with(she's kinda on the edge of being emo if you could classify it as anything) and I dont know what I would say to her or what I would talk to her about but I really wanna get to know her better and stuff.

[something]

have you ever listened to death by stereo? they do this crazy ass song called emo holocaust, i'm sure she'd love it

[OniEhtRedrum781]

have you ever listened to death by stereo? they do this crazy ass song called emo holocaust, i'm sure she'd love it

I think we need an emo holocaust....


but yeah, back to topic, the trick is to just have confidence, and although since you don't chill with her this is highly unlikely, but try and get drunk and slink into a conversation with her. The booze will help you stop thinking about wut you're saying and you'll be more confident..

[potsmokingnome]

I really don't think the first convo should be a drunk induced convo. lol

[3rdEyeVision]

O yeah one more question, everyone always says "have self-confidence" but they never really say any more than that....how do I show that Im confident??

[infumus k]

I really don't think the first convo should be a drunk induced convo. lol

Yeah.....prolly not but it most certainly gives me confidence and makes me more relaxed. When ur sober u think too much.

[potsmokingnome]

look her in the eyes when you talk to her...do not try to sneak a glance at cleavge lol, and just be confident, don't seem unsure of yourself, don't be all "I'm sorry...yada yad a...I'm sorry...yada ya" if ya get what i mean lol

[OniEhtRedrum781]

Yeah.....prolly not but it most certainly gives me confidence and makes me more relaxed. When ur sober u think too much.

My point exactly, you get way too ahead of yourself in ur head..

[potsmokingnome]

Yeah.....prolly not but it most certainly gives me confidence and makes me more relaxed. When ur sober u think too much.

Very true, i went through high school as a very unsociable person cause I thought everyone would judge me on every word I said, but when i was high, I didn't give a fuck....

[Smokin EnDo]

I wish people would stop being so fucking judgemental. I am far from emo but I still think it is retarded to classify a person as "emo". The root of this word is emotional. We are all emotional. Anyway why does everyone have to have something against someone why can't it just be "that girl" not "that emo girl"?

[Smokin EnDo]

Take 2 e and than talk to her I bet you'll get her ;)

[OniEhtRedrum781]

Take 2 e and than talk to her I bet you'll get her ;)

LOL! Truez!!!

[B u M b L ee K y]

Breaking the ice is the hardest part. Saying a simple "hello" will get the ball rolling. From there, work your way up into more meaningful conversations and all will be well. When people say you need confidence, they mean you need to say something to her. No one ever gets anywhere by not talking. Try to make her laugh or smile. Women remember small things and try to get her name (no longer emo-girl) and use it when appropriate and as much as possible. People LOVE to hear their name and she will be impressed knowing you remembered. This may seem hard, but it's really easy. Just say something so she knows you're acknowleding her presence.

[4gan2ja0]

Take 2 e and than talk to her I bet you'll get her ;)

hahaha, thats would be fucking funny man, would work too:thumbsup:

[couch-potato]

Slap her on the ass and shout, "BOOYAH!" . That should get a conversation started.

[DannyMan]

Well, it's quite simple.
Be confident. How? Show her that you respect yourself, and that you aren't scared of judgement. Show her that you know what you want, and if it's her that you want, show her that you aren't scared of letting her know that.

Think about it, if someone random comes up to you without any fear and starts talking his/her mind out and cracks jokes, surely you'll respond with a good attitude. However, if someone comes up to you acting like a little bitch, you'll think to yourself:"Woah this person really is a bitch". That opinion will stick in your head forever.

Lots of eye contacts, and again, no fear! Stare at the deepest part of her eyes and don't worry about what she's thinking, since she most likely is worrying about what to do herself! You're a man, just act like one. :D



The best way to start a convo though...go up to her when she least expects it, and comment her on something, then take it back right away by teasing her, like you'd tease a friend. You catch my drift? Say something lovely to melt her heart, then make fun of her to create that spark of interest and attraction.

Good luck :rasta:

[3rdEyeVision]

I already know her name and stuff..



I wish people would stop being so fucking judgemental. I am far from emo but I still think it is retarded to classify a person as "emo". The root of this word is emotional. We are all emotional. Anyway why does everyone have to have something against someone why can't it just be "that girl" not "that emo girl"?

the reason why I said she's kinda on the edge of emo is because Im a skateboarding stoner kid and she's got a total different personality than me and the only way I could explain her without going into full detail is saying shes like that, and as much as you hate it everyone fits into a "group" and thats what people classify/know them as.. so im not trying to be mean im just trying to describe her the best I can

[JaggedEdge]

Does she wear band tee's or anything? Does she wear NIN t-shirts to school. If you know what kind of bands she likes buy tickets (if they are fairly cheap) tell her you have tickets, get a conversation going, and finally ask if she would like to accompany you, since your friend had to back out. I say cheap because she can say no, also if you do that, make sure it is a band you actually like. Nothing like getting things started with lies. :thumbsup:

[fikusroot]

Just talk about smoething school related and make eye contact and see how she responds. You can tell if she's interested by eye contect buy thats only half the battle. I can dig what your saying though. There's this one girl that I'm good firends with and shes one of the few people I get along with. Shes really attractive and she seems pretty interested in me but shes also pretty popular while I, frankly, am not. It's like something from some cheesy teen She's not one of those girls that's just friendly with everybody and flirts with the antisocial kids like me to get attention. Not to steal the thread from you 3rd eye, but does anyone have any advice? She doesnt smoke and like everyone else at my school is really religious. I think it's one of those things where they hate all the douchebag guys who are popular so they kind of branch out to the less social people. My last gf was like that. But I dont know. The attractions there, I know that, but it seems like the circumstances would make it out of the question.

[Anathema2121]

If you're packing more than 10 inches just pull it out and show it to her.

[3rdEyeVision]

Not to steal the thread from you 3rd eye, but....

dont worry bout it man..this threads made so everyone can get girl help :)

[B u M b L ee K y]

fikusroot, I'm having a hard time to follow you, but I have a friend...decent looking guy, but he got the best of the best looking women and he assured me it's possible to break a clean, nice, good, religious raised girl. Now, I'm not saying to turn her into a crackhead or something, but girls that like are not as hard to get as it may seem is what I'm trying to say. Also, the women you describe actually seems really desirable. Those are the best types...the ones that haven't quite realized their true potential and you should make a move when the time is right to cap on such a fine female.

[fikusroot]

and 3rd eye, it sounds like youre overthinking the situation. But once again, I know how you feel. I get mood swings real bad so girls that I get to like me when I'm fairly social all think I just lose interest in them because I tend to go through silent phases

[fikusroot]

fikusroot, I'm having a hard time to follow you, but I have a friend...decent looking guy, but he got the best of the best looking women and he assured me it's possible to break a clean, nice, good, religious raised girl. Now, I'm not saying to turn her into a crackhead or something, but girls that like are not as hard to get as it may seem is what I'm trying to say. Also, the women you describe actually seems really desirable. Those are the best types...the ones that haven't quite realized their true potential and you should make a move when the time is right to cap on such a fine female.

Thanks. Yea, and often times I do and that is how I've gotten most girls but like I said before, they often think I just lose interest. But this ones different. I've got the friendship thing working for me now which I've never really had to deal with. But I dont know if you could consider it that because we never really hang out on the weekends because she's with a different crowd. It's like the opposite of the breakfast club.

[B u M b L ee K y]

Well, it's time for you to step up and offer to hang out with her. Only good can come from that.

[3rdEyeVision]

Well, it's time for you to step up and offer to hang out with her. Only good can come from that.

That brings up another question, lol sorry if im asking too many but I need all the help I can get, where are some good places to take a girl....right now all the places I can think of are the movies, a party(if theres one on), go drinking and play soccer or something dumb like that, swimming pool but some of those things are kinda cheesy and dull/boring.

[fikusroot]

Yea, but that's easier said than done.

[NextLineIsMine]

What bumbleeky was saying about names is so true. I find when I use someones name really soon after ive met them they feel like they can relate to me better and you seem much less like a stranger to them. Ultimately the best thing you can do is treat someone your just getting to know like an old friend.

[B u M b L ee K y]

Places to take a girl could be the mall, the movies, the bowling alley, the park, the beach, the zoo, and etc. It all depends on where you live and the age of girl you're trying to win. Ask more questions and I'll give more tips!

[Breukelen advocaat]

That brings up another question, lol sorry if im asking too many but I need all the help I can get, where are some good places to take a girl....right now all the places I can think of are the movies, a party(if theres one on), go drinking and play soccer or something dumb like that, swimming pool but some of those things are kinda cheesy and dull/boring.

You have to put your pride aside and go along with the bullshit that they like. Ask her if she'd like to go to dinner and a movie and if she says "yes", bring some fucking flowers - a cheap batch is OK, because it's the gesture that they appreciate. If you can afford it a music concert, or play, is better than the movies. Even if you just go to the park, try to act like a gentleman, at least in the beginning. The last thing doesn't cost anything, and can go a long way.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Find something in common to talk about with her. You might try:

1. a teacher (did you see Mr. Whoever's tie today? isn't it loud?)
2. a class (did you get the assignment? or have you ever taken spanish?)
3. how was your weekend? what did you do?
4. the weather: it is so cold out! but I can't wait to go snowboarding! do you ski or anything in the winter?
5. I like that color on you, by the way :) give a compliment but don't be like "you are so gorgeous" b/c it's too forward.

Good luck. Remember, you only get what you ask for. So don't be afraid to ask!!

If things go well talking with her, and you're still into her, then don't be shy - ask if she wants to hang out and grab a coffee over the weekend or something.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Or, if she likes sports I would take her to a professional or college sports game - that way you guys can concentrate on something fun without having to make really super-intelligent conversation the whole time.

I also like shooting pool (it's not as "just friends" as bowling), going to a play (it's better than a movie), or dancing (provided you like to do that).

[duncan87]

when shes not there, break her locker a little, im a way that only you can fix it...so when your both at your lockers and she cant open her's, un-break it for her...then just start a convo like oh yeah that happens to mine all the time, these lockers suck, or whatever

good luck you fuckin emo-lover!

[duncan87]

then give her eye contact and then scream a little like a dinosaur, like not too loud...then just start tearing her emo clothing off (it might be a little hard with all the emo chains she wears) then jus turn her around and bend her over so that her bare ass is facing your penis and jus put it in...it feels good, like the first time you smoked the sweet cheebah
good luck man! and have fun!

[yabatab]

Does she smoke the herb? If so a joint or bowl offering can be a great
ice braker. Just seem interested in every thing she says even if you
dont give two shits about what shes talking about and you'll be in
like flin.....LOL

[cambam]

O yeah one more question, everyone always says "have self-confidence" but they never really say any more than that....how do I show that Im confident??

Happy, out-going, smiley, pleasent to be around, don't stutter, no saying 'I don't know' no cockiness, not loud and not quiet, well spoken, calm body language, relaxed.

They do ya?

[Acouwaila]

we are talking about a high school girl here...i mean all of this advice sounds like it should be given to older more mature people...

im sure theres different approaches....like in high school...find out what music shes into....ask her a lot of questions....even make a list while u have time and memorize them...if u are too shy about shit like this then u will run out of stuff to say.....

just be yourself and remember she is no better than u....u are both just humans....she is merely a different sex

[Hydro_smoka]

i got a number yesterday a school and it was this easy:

i step out front for my break and this pretty hot chick is out there, i ask her can i get one of those cigs?.

she's like yeah and i light up, and she brings up how cold it is......after that i just built a conversation from it.

and buy the time i had to go back inside i had her number.

just be yourself.

[higher4hockey]

talking to girls is the eastiest thing in the world mate!!! the confidence part, all you have to do is start talking to her...about anything. and just give off the impression that you talk to girls every day. dont use stupid pickup lines, just talk about ANYTHING. also i have found that in my experience, a well placed wink does wonders. and smile a lot!

[canucktoker]

....ask her a lot of questions....even make a list while u have time and memorize them...if u are too shy about shit like this then u will run out of stuff to say.....




Best advice in this thread^ I find asking questions to be the best way to stop uncomfortable silences. Chicks love to talk about themselves, so just keep asking. End of the nite she will have talk talk talked, and you will be "good listener". Hopefully she gives you some info that will help you get her in bed.

[partyguy420]

just say whats your name the say ohh him *random name here* want to fuck?


you dont realy need to know there names... thats how you get suckered into love... and love sucks

[fikusroot]

talking to girls is the eastiest thing in the world mate!!!

I know many people who would disagree. Myself included. But in regards to my current situation. I found out the girl I like is being nominated for Homecoming queen. Later that day, one of her friends told me and I quote "Yea, ____ really likes you. Ya'll should go out. Tee Hee Hee!" This kind of floored me because she and I are so different you wouldnt imagine. And any other day I would have found her and asked her to do something friday but I was having one of my mood swings and was basically felt shitty and didnt talk to anyone all day. So Now I'm pissed at myslef because she probably doesnt think I like her which I do so I'm in the process of finishing off my handle of captain morgans. And I'm starting to get buzzed which means I'll probably just stay on here and make obscene posts. No point to that last post. Just needed to vent.

[higher4hockey]

^ok so picking my nose might be easier.... but the bottom line is , with practice its gets pretty simple. i talk to a lot of girls, and not in the 'i'm trying to pick them up' way. but just talk to random girls at the store or the bar or anywhere....just talk to them! practice makes perfect

[TheSmokingMonkey]

when shes not there, break her locker a little, im a way that only you can fix it...so when your both at your lockers and she cant open her's, un-break it for her...then just start a convo like oh yeah that happens to mine all the time, these lockers suck, or whatever

good luck you fuckin emo-lover!

That is so elaborate, when you could just ask her to borrow a pencil or something.

But points for the sneaky.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Best advice on here was actually to squeeze a wink into the conversation! I think that is the cutest thing ever - it's very manipulative, too, by the way.

I wouldn't start out by asking if she smokes. I tend to think that relationships shouldn't be built on the common interest of drugs. It's like marrying an alcoholic because you're an alcoholic, too.

But if you find out down the road apiece that she smokes, then yes the very first thing I would do is share. That's only polite among friends.

[Ganj]

O yeah one more question, everyone always says "have self-confidence" but they never really say any more than that....how do I show that Im confident??

Confidence is a state of mind. When you're confident other people will know you're confident, too. People latch onto confidence. Look at all the world's great influential people. They're leaders and their most noticeable trait was their self-affirmation. Doubt, worry, and anxiety are all combatants against your own self-assurance. Talking to new people is always a challenge, especially when you worry about what you all should discuss. With a little bit of confidence, you'll notice that the worry is no longer there. You can pick fun at yourself and whoever you're talking. Subject matter becomes unimportant, instead you listen to their words, tone, gestures, etc. An individual can share so much more than you can pick up on from what they say. Our language is nothing more than symbols. Discovering what someone means is far less important than knowing how someone feels. When you know how they feel, you can interject with a similar rebuttle conveying the shared feeling; empathy. Then you can work on unveiling an individual's meaning. But don't worry too much about that, a person's reasons or motives often go unnoticed by especially themselves.

That's my two cents.

[higher4hockey]

TheSmokingMonkey; Best advice on here was actually to squeeze a wink into the conversation! I think that is the cutest thing ever - it's very manipulative, too, by the way.

manipulative? explain that one to me!

[Ganj]

Happy, out-going, smiley, pleasent to be around, don't stutter, no saying 'I don't know' no cockiness, not loud and not quiet, well spoken, calm body language, relaxed.

They do ya?

And still you can be confident when you're not doing these things...although calm and assertive are the most appealing traits to girls.

[3rdEyeVision]

whoa thanks for all the help/tips guys....I didn't think this many people would respond.



and for the guy up there ^ somewhere shes not full blown emo lol, thats just the only way I could describe her personality....a bit emo

[RESiNATE]

If you're packing more than 10 inches just pull it out and show it to her.

Ahhh...now I know where I've been going wrong!
:thumbsup:

Res...

[RESiNATE]

But, seriously.

I've always found that the best way to pick up girls is 'scooping' under her legs whilst supporting her round her shoulders.
Mind you, I've often gotten into trouble using this method.
And, because I sometimes don't care what kind of girl I pick up, my back has suffered.

Res...

[3rdEyeVision]

And, because I sometimes don't care what kind of girl I pick up, my back has suffered.

Res...


lmfao :D

[partyguy420]

ok, im serious, this worked for me, i was walking back to class, and i saw kirsty, befor we were going out, and she was walking by me, and she went to kick me cause earlyer in the day, i "bumbed" up aginst her ass, so, as she was tring to kick me, i grabed her boob, and now were going out.

[3rdEyeVision]

hahahaha just get straight to the point huh lol

[Shannon]

Slap her on the ass and shout, "BOOYAH!" . That should get a conversation started.

hell yeah it would.

[partyguy420]

hahahaha just get straight to the point huh lol

yep. thats how i work... its worked 2 out of 2 times that ive used.... and ive only used the more formal way of picking up girls (by just asking them out after getting to know them) once... that worked out ok to