One pissed stoner

[johnnyfive]

Okay, there's really no point to this thread other then to have me vent.

I have been getting really close to someone. Hanging out with her a lot, smoking with her a lot, and just having a great time. There was always this unspoken "they like each other" aura in the air when we hung out.

Or so I thought.

I treated this chick with respect, appreciation, and kindness, the exact thing she was looking for. But I guess what woman say and do are two totally different things. Considering I'm "not man enough" for her. LOL.

Ah yes, "not man enough". Next time she wants to hang out (read: RIGHT when she gets out of work later tonight) I'll be too busy with another girl.

Oh I am pissed. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. No more treating chicks with respect, kindness, and appreciation. That's not good enough for them, they deserve the pieces of turd that most end up with.

Gah. Sorry, I know not all woman are two faces, but I'll be amazed the day I meet one that isn't.

[Nochowderforyou]

Did I misread something? What did she do to you? :confused:

[friendowl]

sad but true
hot chicks need attention
ugly chicks want even more attention
no matter what you say and do
it will never be good enough
just be a pimp
and have no feelings
money weed and sex is the only concern

[johnnyfive]

Did I misread something? What did she do to you? :confused:

lol, I typed it up pretty quick, sorry about that.

My sister told me (who is the girls best friend) that she told my sister "I am not man enough". My sister told me about it, cause I was being lead on, and god bless her for it ;).

[Nochowderforyou]

That's pretty harsh man, but remeber, this is coming from your sister. She could have, exaggerated this girls words, you know. Sisters do that you know. :p

Either way, talk to this girl face to face and find out what's up. Don't go by here say.

[johnnyfive]

Me and my sister are close. I will take her word, and ask this girl about it right when she comes by after work.

Or, if I am going to do something, I'll say "I hope I'm man enough to do this", while staring at her with a stare that would make her feel VERY uncomfortable if she knew what I meant by "I hope I'm man enough to do this".

Sorry if this makes no sense. I'm pretty stoned :\.

[Terps]

girls want a guy that treats them like a dick
(from my experence anyways, they want a guy thats hard to get. the one all the ladys want but cant have)

[johnnyfive]

girls want a guy that treats them like a dick
(from my experence anyways, they want a guy thats hard to get. the one all the ladys want but cant have)

Oh, I am more than familiar with this. But I thought this one was different.

[Professor Dan K.]

i wouldnt say anything that would let her know that your sister told you. that would be a pretty ratty move in my opinion. just my :twocents: though

[Kid Dynamite]

Me and my sister are close. I will take her word, and ask this girl about it right when she comes by after work.

Or, if I am going to do something, I'll say "I hope I'm man enough to do this", while staring at her with a stare that would make her feel VERY uncomfortable if she knew what I meant by "I hope I'm man enough to do this".

Sorry if this makes no sense. I'm pretty stoned :\.

dude just be straight up with her don't do any of that "subtle hinting" shit, she'll just say she dont know what your on about.

[fasterspider]

You can't live with them
You can't live without them
And your not allowed to kill them.

[LIP]

That's females for you. There's only a few that are ok. I've given up. I'll just stick to making love with MaryJane every day and night.

[friendowl]

the secret to keeping your lady [any lady]
is by providing unbelivable sex
if you make em sweat and moan and put that ass to bed
even if they wanna bounce
they cant leave

if you make love like a poet
she'll leave before you know it
if you hit that shit hard
and get to the point
shell make you dinner wash the dishes
and roll you a joint

[Stedric]

Sheesh, you guys act like you've never spurned a lady's attention before. And if you haven't then there are plenty of guys that have.

Look, I've been shot down before too, and it didn't turn me into a grumbly misogynist. Women, like men, should be considered as people before they are considered as women.

Not that I expect this post to magically change everyone's opinion.:D

[johnnyfive]

Sheesh, you guys act like you've never spurned a lady's attention before. And if you haven't then there are plenty of guys that have.

Look, I've been shot down before too, and it didn't turn me into a grumbly misogynist. Women, like men, should be considered as people before they are considered as women.

Not that I expect this post to magically change everyone's opinion.:D

I've been shot down before. I just prefer the people to be straight up about it instead of, you know, leading them on. I never lead chicks on, it's fucking lame and pathetic.

[halosin8r]

Women, like men, should be considered as people before they are considered as women.

agree. human companionship in general is a good thing.

[royalHIGHness]

dont hate her bc she doesnt wanna be with you...

[enthused]

dont hate her bc she doesnt wanna be with you...

well if she was leading him on, then he has a right to be pissed off....but theres a fine line between friendship/kindness/all that bs and leading someone on....

perception is a bitch

[crudemood]

Originally Posted by Stedric
Women, like men, should be considered as people before they are considered as women.

I agree, make good friends and things should take off. a lover is a friend too.
as for the 'we like each other' aura is like that for me tooo im not even sure.. maybe you were imagining it like me. ^^. dont give up on girls already.
from what you said, you seem like a guy id date. definately. its her loss.

[bentleygtgirl]

maan i have got to say the sex thing is so tru...if you get it damn good then its all good...bad sex is harder to deal with

[Captain Hanks]

I've been shot down before. I just prefer the people to be straight up about it instead of, you know, leading them on. I never lead chicks on, it's fucking lame and pathetic.

I know exactly what you mean. She was basically wasting your time, wich is considered extremely rude in today's fast-paced world.:p

[Inferius]

"Best Friend Syndrome".
If you find a girl attractive, and have noticeable chemistry from the beginning, never treat her like a friend. Keep the non-platonic-ness very obvious, and show friendship through companionship.

[budsmoker]

maryjane is the only female u can trust and she'll never leave you

[Dro_Princess]

For the 2 who said that women want men who are dicks thats not what any of the women I know want. My mom got rid of my dad because she felt he was a dick. My sister left her boyfriend cause he was a dick. Why in the world would a woman want a man who is a asshole? Be straight up with her. Seems to me she was leading you on and possibly using you for weed. Its not right what she done and she needs to be called out on it. But dont think all women are like that cause they are not. The next time that you become intrested in a girl tell her or you could become "just like her brother".

[Inferius]

For the 2 who said that women want men who are dicks thats not what any of the women I know want. My mom got rid of my dad because she felt he was a dick. My sister left her boyfriend cause he was a dick. Why in the world would a woman want a man who is a asshole? Be straight up with her. Seems to me she was leading you on and possibly using you for weed. Its not right what she done and she needs to be called out on it. But dont think all women are like that cause they are not. The next time that you become intrested in a girl tell her or you could become "just like her brother".

It's actually scientifically proven that most women tend to choose the asshole over the nice guy. For most women, this primal urge is just a phase. Others never expirience it. For others, it seems to ruin their entire lives.

[FireyBudBurner]

Wow guys I have to say this is a topic that has been troubling me for years. I have had many girlsfriend whom I loved and treated very nicely and they always kept taking advantage of me. The one girl I dated for more than a year was a chick I cheated on, smoked weed before hanging out with her (she hated weed...don't ask me how that worked) and even fooled around with her best friend one time before we started seriously dating. If you ask me those were the only reasons she stuck around, because I was that dick-headed male she wanted and most girls do want. They will say they don't and claim they think otherwise but at the ended of the day they are attracted to bad boys and dickheads by nature. It has a lot to do with the fact we are animals and in nature the strongest meanest (alpha male)g ets the best female. I hate it and I will never be a dick to a women again as it made me feel horrible when the relationship ended, now I will just stay single, bang slutty chicks and wait for a women intelligent enough to overcome this until I engage in another relationship. And honestly the hottest girls are always the worst they almost always have no personality and tons of issues, go for a girl you like to hang out and seems down to earth enough while still being attractive (yea yea we all no VERY hard to find).

[cjshamrock]

Hey man, I've been through this shit too. As Inferius wrote, this is known as the dreaded LJBF syndrome (let's just be friends).

Please don't fall into the trap of nice guys/jerks, or start treating women like shit too, because that won't get you the results you're looking for. FireyBudBurner has given some good advice.


I HIGHLY recommend reading an ebook (which you can easily download for free on Emule) called "How to be a pickup artist" from a guy called Juggler. I'm not kidding, this book has changed my life... You'll see everything you're doing wrong and what you need to do to change it... Plus, it's easy and fun and you'll be getting girls in no time. Promise. :rasta:

[buddymyfriend]

Ahhh bro we've all been there, nothin hurts more than being hurt by opposite sex especially when you're picturing yourself knee deep in her panties! Learn your lesson and move on. Sounds to me like she was using you to get high and what kinda girl bad mouths you to your sis. She sounds like the kinda tail you dont wanna be chasing. You seem like a cool kinda guy, hang in there, dont give up, trust me the most amazing girl will come into your life when you least expect it and she'll turn your world upside down and inside out!

Peace

Buddy

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

She wasn't "woman enough" to tell you this herself? Whatever.

[Cassiopiea]

This is why guys are better then girls for that sort of thing. (not meant in a sexist way, rather a gay way.)

[Stedric]

It's actually scientifically proven that most women tend to choose the asshole over the nice guy. For most women, this primal urge is just a phase. Others never expirience it. For others, it seems to ruin their entire lives.

You're not a woman, so how would you know? Scientifically proven my ass, show me some sources.

I think guys who are assholes are very lucky that they are girls with low self-esteem out there, otherwise they wouldn't get any.

[Inferius]

You're not a woman, so how would you know? Scientifically proven my ass, show me some sources.

I think guys who are assholes are very lucky that they are girls with low self-esteem out there, otherwise they wouldn't get any.

I know what I read, and most older more expirienced men will tell you the same.
How about from a woman's perspective? This is what I could find during the fifteen seconds I allowed myself to care.
http://www.nassauweekly.com/view_article.php?id=467

[akornpatch]

Me and my sister are close. I will take her word, and ask this girl about it right when she comes by after work.

Or, if I am going to do something, I'll say "I hope I'm man enough to do this", while staring at her with a stare that would make her feel VERY uncomfortable if she knew what I meant by "I hope I'm man enough to do this".

Sorry if this makes no sense. I'm pretty stoned :\.

betray your sister's confidence?? Bad move. Your sister was told this by her "best friend". She never should have told you, but now that she has you can NOT give her up. She'll lose her best friend if you do.

Just let the chic go her own way. be a man and move on. No sense in burning bridges.

[Stedric]

I know what I read, and most older more expirienced men will tell you the same.
How about from a woman's perspective? This is what I could find during the fifteen seconds I allowed myself to care.
http://www.nassauweekly.com/view_article.php?id=467

That's an article someone wrote, there isn't anything scientific about it. Might as well call "The Protocols of the Elders of Zion" a scientific essay.

Dude, women differ as much as men do on an individual basis. Don't let social stereotypes cloud your judgement, you seem to be a smart guy.

[Inferius]

That's an article someone wrote, there isn't anything scientific about it. Might as well call "The Protocols of the Elders of Zion" a scientific essay.

Dude, women differ as much as men do on an individual basis. Don't let social stereotypes cloud your judgement, you seem to be a smart guy.

But see, that's what I was trying to say in my previous post.
"For most women, this primal urge is just a phase. Others never expirience it. For others, it seems to ruin their entire lives."
Trust me, I'm the last person to beleive in a stereotype.
Eventually you might find some "Scientific Study" stating that through evolution, there is a subconscious natural desire for women to be drawn to more "Tough" more "Alpha" men. I didn't say All women constantly feel this way, I made that clear in my previous post.
If you don't ever find that study, or see a pattern similar to it's conclusion in real life, consider yourself lucky.
Personally, I am not very "Alpha" at all. I'm more of the poetic romantic anti-confrontation anti-competition type. I'm not using this argument as a scapegoat for my own social negativities, merely promoting the furthering of understanding of human behavior.
:thumbsup:

[Stedric]

Personally, I am not very "Alpha" at all. I'm more of the poetic romantic anti-confrontation anti-competition type.

You and I have that in common.:rasta:


I'm not using this argument as a scapegoat for my own social negativities, merely promoting the furthering of understanding of human behavior.

But do you really think there IS such a thing as human behaviour, in the context of one specific reaction a human will show to a situation, regardless of social background/culture/numerous other variables? I wonder sometimes if there is such a thing. Just a thought.

[JR77]

I think that girls are attracted to the "bad" boys - there is definite truth in that...but we don't want guys that are assholes...whoever said that is a moron!
A lot of guys ARE assholes just like a lot of girls are too!

[MastaChronic]

so humans are assholes....man, i cant wait til the next time i go to the supermarket, i wanna see a bunch of giant assholes shopping for their groceries, rofllmnop-b-i-n-g-o