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MaryJaneScott
10-03-2006, 03:43 AM
Why do humans kiss?

Her eyes are wide as they stare into yours. You wrap your arm around her waist and pull her in close. She touches your face and you lean in, tilt your head ?? to the right, of course ?? and your lips connect. The rushing sensation leaves you little room to wonder, ??Why the hell am I doing this anyway??

Of course, the simplest answer is that humans kiss because it just feels good. But there are people for whom this explanation isn??t quite sufficient. They formally study the anatomy and evolutionary history of kissing and call themselves philematologists.

So far, these kiss scientists haven??t conclusively explained how human smooching originated, but they??ve come up with a few theories, and they??ve mapped out how our biology is affected by a passionate lip-lock.

A big question is whether kissing is learned or instinctual. Some say it is a learned behavior, dating back to the days of our early human ancestors. Back then, mothers may have chewed food and passed it from their mouths into those of their toothless infants. Even after babies cut their teeth, mothers would continue to press their lips against their toddlers?? cheeks to comfort them.

Supporting the idea that kissing is learned rather than instinctual is the fact that not all humans kiss. Certain tribes around the world just don??t make out, anthropologists say. While 90 percent of humans actually do kiss, 10 percent have no idea what they??re missing.

Others believe kissing is indeed an instinctive behavior, and cite animals?? kissing-like behaviors as proof. While most animals rub noses with each other as a gesture of affection, others like to pucker up just like humans. Bonobos, for example, make up tons of excuses to swap some spit. They do it to make up after fights, to comfort each other, to develop social bonds, and sometimes for no clear reason at all ?? just like us.

Today, the most widely accepted theory of kissing is that humans do it because it helps us sniff out a quality mate. When our faces are close together, our pheromones ??talk? ?? exchanging biological information about whether or not two people will make strong offspring. Women, for example, subconsciously prefer the scent of men whose genes for certain immune system proteins are different from their own. This kind of match could yield offspring with stronger immune systems, and better chances for survival.

Still, most people are satisfied with the explanation that humans kiss because it feels good. Our lips and tongues are packed with nerve endings, which help intensify all those dizzying sensations of being in love when we press our mouths to someone else??s. Experiencing such feelings doesn??t usually make us think too hard about why we kiss ?? instead, it drives us to find ways to do it more often.

http://scienceline.org/2006/10/02/ask-fiore-kiss/

birdgirl73
10-03-2006, 04:01 AM
Thanks for this info, MaryJane! I loved this, and I plan to keep a copy of it. I figure i may be able to use it for something in school sometime. Even if I can't, I just enjoy reading it and thinking about kissing. That's one of my favorite activities. Did a lot of it this past weekend, in fact!

invision
10-03-2006, 04:03 AM
i dont know myself but when my GF kisses me......damn.....just....damn:thumbsup:

napolitana869
10-03-2006, 04:32 AM
Bonobos are crazy! they use anything as an excuse to have sex

mrdevious
10-03-2006, 04:40 AM
I was watching a program on discovery channel, and this very subject came up actually. Apparently they've discovered that there are odours on a person's breath distinct to their direct family line. So when we kiss we're actually detecting that subtle smell, and if the smell turns out to be that of the same family that you're in, you're attraction to that person lessens, the experience being interpreted as a "bad kiss". So basically kissing is a safety mechanism to avoid inbreeding.

Inferius
10-03-2006, 05:43 AM
I was watching a program on discovery channel, and this very subject came up actually. Apparently they've discovered that there are odours on a person's breath distinct to their direct family line. So when we kiss we're actually detecting that subtle smell, and if the smell turns out to be that of the same family that you're in, you're attraction to that person lessens, the experience being interpreted as a "bad kiss". So basically kissing is a safety mechanism to avoid inbreeding.
WOW. This explains so much.

spatte21
10-03-2006, 06:49 AM
Kissing wasnt really common place up until the medievel days (about 1200-1500) dont know the psychological reasons though. Maybe its the connection of one of the most important parts of your body. Many consider a passionate kiss on the lips more intimate than the act of sex itself.

sensi skier
10-03-2006, 06:53 AM
great thread. really interesting, I never really though about why we kissed before.

MaryJaneScott
10-03-2006, 03:56 PM
I was watching a program on discovery channel, and this very subject came up actually. Apparently they've discovered that there are odours on a person's breath distinct to their direct family line. So when we kiss we're actually detecting that subtle smell, and if the smell turns out to be that of the same family that you're in, you're attraction to that person lessens, the experience being interpreted as a "bad kiss". So basically kissing is a safety mechanism to avoid inbreeding.

coooool
Now THAT is interesting!!

qdavid
10-03-2006, 04:05 PM
Great topic. I just wanted to add my 2 cents. I've found when I kiss, I have very different reactions, due to the original intent of the kiss. When I kiss my child, for example, is much different than when kissing a woman for sexual gratification. In that case it's like my lips feel like there is a direct connection to my penis and I get aroused. Whereas, after I have kissed my kid, I just have told them I love them, as can be the case when kissing a woman, but the intent of the kiss was different. I know that hasn't got much really to do with why humans kiss in the first place but that's my view anyway.

orangeman
10-03-2006, 07:01 PM
Why do humans kiss? It's not that hard to figure out, it feels good and gets me stimulated..thats why :p.

turquoise70
10-03-2006, 07:26 PM
This is a really awesome thread. I've wondered this myself often.

For my part, I've always had a sort of dislike for kissing. I've had all kinds of kisses from different people, girlfriends, etc. I dunno, it just kinda makes me want to scrunch up my mouth and draw back from the person.

Then again, to contrast this, there is this really super hot black girl at my school and frankly I'd like to kiss her nonstop all day.

So what the hell's up with me, I guess XD

cannabis campbell
10-03-2006, 09:55 PM
Why do humans kiss? It's not that hard to figure out, it feels good and gets me stimulated..thats why :p.

Haha ditto enough said, do we really need to know any more :confused:

Samwhore
10-03-2006, 10:41 PM
amazing thread MJS!!

birdgirl73
10-04-2006, 01:34 AM
This has been my favorite thread of the day, MJS. About my favorite thing, too.


For my part, I've always had a sort of dislike for kissing. I've had all kinds of kisses from different people, girlfriends, etc. I dunno, it just kinda makes me want to scrunch up my mouth and draw back from the person.
So what the hell's up with me, I guess XD
OK, Turquoise, I've had this question before based on something else you wrote in another thread. Do you think there might be a part of you that's simply not interested in dating/kissing/romancing someone else at the moment? I get that feeling very distinctly, and I think it's real important that you not necessarily be in any hurry to do so. Many of the young ones around here talk such a big game about their various conquests and romantic activities, but I think the wiser ones are the more cautious, slow-moving folks who wait till they feel an emotional connection before they make a physical one. If that's the case with you, I applaud that.

fikusroot
10-04-2006, 01:40 AM
I love kissing; feeling her breathing against my cheek, her hair playing gently at the side of my face. I like to cup my hand under her jaw the way you grab ahold of a dog after it's misbehaved, but softly and gingerly. I like running my hand up and down the small of her back, gently massaging her while at the same time, pulling her close. I love the way the way the warmth seems to charge and magnetize the two of us so breaking away becomes inconcievable. And most of all, I like to yell really loud into her mouth while we're kissing and freak her the fuck out.

CrushIt
10-04-2006, 02:48 AM
I love kissing; feeling her breathing against my cheek, her hair playing gently at the side of my face. I like to cup my hand under her jaw the way you grab ahold of a dog after it's misbehaved, but softly and gingerly. I like running my hand up and down the small of her back, gently massaging her while at the same time, pulling her close. I love the way the way the warmth seems to charge and magnetize the two of us so breaking away becomes inconcievable. And most of all, I like to yell really loud into her mouth while we're kissing and freak her the fuck out.

lol

turquoise70
10-04-2006, 03:13 AM
OK, Turquoise, I've had this question before based on something else you wrote in another thread...

Aw man XD I didn't mean to give off the impression that strongly. I hope I'm not getting a reputation...

I dunno. It's definitely plausible that something in me really just isn't into it right now-- it's probably due to me being somewhat self-interested overall. But irritatingly enough, I've been "dating" (i use the term loosely) since first grade; that is to say I've been, at least ostensibly, wanting to strike up something really romantic and engaging since before I knew where babies came from. But, like I said, it was probably just me mimicking adult behavior.

Without wanting to sound boastful or arrogant, I do somewhat pride myself on restricting my affection for someone I feel very deeply for, and have a long-term intimate bond with. This is a notion that was pretty much lost on most of my buddies in high school-- then again, they were the ones with girlfriends, lol. All mine have been internet girlfriends I met in real life (and no, none of them were child touchers...thank goodness).

birdgirl73
10-04-2006, 03:21 AM
No, no. No reputation. Just something subtle I picked up on. And wondered about.

How old are you, Turquoise? About 19? It's perfectly fine to be self-interested and it's great to be discriminating about when and with whom you bestow your affection. I think what you said reflects a great deal of self-actualization. One of these days the right person will come along.

turquoise70
10-04-2006, 08:32 PM
Good guess-- I'm 20. But sometimes I tend to exude a little bit younger of an attitude than my age.

Anyway, I appreciate the vote of confidence :) Encouraging words are nice things to keep in mind.

SinisterK
10-05-2006, 01:44 AM
They explained this in my Psychology class. It's like, your tounge has the most touch senses, it has the most...feeling, I guess. I can't explain it as well as my teacher did. But it's somthing like that.

HypnotizedMind
10-06-2006, 12:43 AM
Why do humans kiss?

To feel 2 tounges in one mouth?.