Anyone else?

[gr8misadventures]

I only get excited when I am stoned. I only call the guys I know when I am stoned. When I am straight, I feel like I am frigid...and I am actually a very sexual person. No wait, not frigid - I feel repulsed...like I have no interest in being with a man sexually. ANd then I get high and sex is good again...please please tell me someone has been thru this and it's just a passing phase....

[Kryzco]

I've been the same way for a while, I have to be drunk or stoned, I think its a phase, my theory is to have incredibly amazing sex one day that will make you like it and want it again

worked for me :thumbsup:

[birdgirl73]

I hope your needing-to-be-drunk-or-stoned phase is just a phase. How old are you ladies, Kryzco and Gr8misadventures?

Ever think maybe it's also because you're not yet with the right guy? Or that perhaps you're not giving the emotional intimacy long enough to develop before you rush into the physical? Seems to me like that's enough to make you want to be "under the influence" before you can act upon physical attraction to someone. The better you know someone and more deeply you trust him and feel bonded, the better the sex. I promise. But that takes plenty of time to develop.

[Captain Hanks]

I only get excited when I am stoned. I only call the guys I know when I am stoned. When I am straight, I feel like I am frigid...and I am actually a very sexual person. No wait, not frigid - I feel repulsed...like I have no interest in being with a man sexually. ANd then I get high and sex is good again...please please tell me someone has been thru this and it's just a passing phase....

That would suck!:p

[tootsie roll]

I hope your needing-to-be-drunk-or-stoned phase is just a phase. How old are you ladies, Kryzco and Gr8misadventures?

Ever think maybe it's also because you're not yet with the right guy? Or that perhaps you're not giving the emotional intimacy long enough to develop before you rush into the physical? Seems to me like that's enough to make you want to be "under the influence" before you can act upon physical attraction to someone. The better you know someone and more deeply you trust him and feel bonded, the better the sex. I promise. But that takes plenty of time to develop.

Exactly birdgirl. I think we've been there, done that but these gals are just beginning life, so to say. I still, with some fondness, remember my "beginnings". What a blast!:p

[Kryzco]

I'm 19, and my problem is practically solved

Me and my bf were having a lot of problems, he is a very closed person with major trust issues, and treated me as a buddy, whether we were with friends or alone, which really got under my skin, at times I don't mind, I don't like being smothered but some affection here or there would be nice...

Well my friend got sick of hearing all this, and wanted to find out what was going on, so she had a heart to heart talk to him, and ever since that day, he has changed so much, and we haven't fought since.

The reason I would need to get drunk or stoned to get into it was because afterwhile he was just uncomfortable to be around as was I, but under the influence we were perfectly fine, which I didn't like at all, so I decided to make a change...

I stopped starting arguements, and gave him space, and in turn he is opening up to me as there is no fear of an attack, and now there is trust again, and all is well

I've never been happier and the sex is amazing

I've learned there is always an underlying issue at hand which we are sometimes too blind or too selfish to see until its too late...

There is a hell of a lot more to the story but yeah I'm really tired and yeah I'm kinda private about all the other stuff that lead up to the problems

My best advice for this situation is to lay off on the sex, there are many other ways to bond and the chemistry will grow better from those than it will from sex

[someuser]

I only get excited when I am stoned.

Weird. I'm the opposite. When I'm stoned I have ZERO interest in women sexually.