blsfan
09-15-2006, 03:46 AM
What's up everyone, I'm a moderate smoker ( about 10-15 times a month) who beleives in freedom for eveyone as long as you don't harm anyone.
I don't care if people smoke or not, but I do believe in knowing why they don't want to smoke( If they choose to tell me), just as I beleive in telling them why I choose to smoke ( If there willing to listen).
I have discussed my opinions w/ all my friends and have opened there eyes to the truth, I only know/ are friends with 2 people who don't smoke one I could care less about one of them, and the other is my girlfriend.
My girlfirend (who is amazing) chooses to drink alcohol and smoke and inhale cigarettes and cigars on a moderate basis (socially) which I have some issues with but it's her body and her life.
She does not smoke the weed nor has she ever, which I am fine with. Every now and then I like to discuss marijuanna with her and try to explain my opinion on the plant and in return hear hers. I feel that in any relationship, open discussion, understanding and finally compromise or agreement is essential.
She sees it as a negative thing to do, though she won't give me a straight answer why. She says she does not care if I do it, which is semi not true, she'll be cool for a couple of weeks and then get on my case about it.
She'll find a bunch of ignorant "facts" stating the harmful effects of it and then turn around and smoke tobacco and drink alcohol ( both poisons in my opinion).
I have been making some progress with her as of lately, she says that some day she might try it, which is fine with me if she does and fine if she doesn't.
Then tonight we discussed it again ( as we are going to a concert soon and I plan to herbalize) and as usual it ended in an argument over nothing, I was stating my opinion on the matter in a calm and reasonable way, and she says she doesn't want to hear about it and for me to stop lecturing her( even though she brought it up)
This insignificant topic has been the major source of our arguments in an otherwise amazing relationship.
I don't want to force my opinions on her and I definently don't want to force her to smoke, but I do want her to be more understanding with my choice to smoke, just as I am understanding with her choice to use tobacco and alcohol
It's just she is so filled with media, gov, family, school, religious, social, etc garbage. I feel bad for her. I want to help open her eyes to the truth, if only for her to be more understanding with me. I know her is trying t obe more understanding, but it's obivious she very conflicted.
What should I do, I don't want to stop smoking ( as I believe there is nothing wrong with it) at the same time I don't want to ruin something amazing over something as unimportant as a way I choose to relax, opinions welcome.
I don't care if people smoke or not, but I do believe in knowing why they don't want to smoke( If they choose to tell me), just as I beleive in telling them why I choose to smoke ( If there willing to listen).
I have discussed my opinions w/ all my friends and have opened there eyes to the truth, I only know/ are friends with 2 people who don't smoke one I could care less about one of them, and the other is my girlfriend.
My girlfirend (who is amazing) chooses to drink alcohol and smoke and inhale cigarettes and cigars on a moderate basis (socially) which I have some issues with but it's her body and her life.
She does not smoke the weed nor has she ever, which I am fine with. Every now and then I like to discuss marijuanna with her and try to explain my opinion on the plant and in return hear hers. I feel that in any relationship, open discussion, understanding and finally compromise or agreement is essential.
She sees it as a negative thing to do, though she won't give me a straight answer why. She says she does not care if I do it, which is semi not true, she'll be cool for a couple of weeks and then get on my case about it.
She'll find a bunch of ignorant "facts" stating the harmful effects of it and then turn around and smoke tobacco and drink alcohol ( both poisons in my opinion).
I have been making some progress with her as of lately, she says that some day she might try it, which is fine with me if she does and fine if she doesn't.
Then tonight we discussed it again ( as we are going to a concert soon and I plan to herbalize) and as usual it ended in an argument over nothing, I was stating my opinion on the matter in a calm and reasonable way, and she says she doesn't want to hear about it and for me to stop lecturing her( even though she brought it up)
This insignificant topic has been the major source of our arguments in an otherwise amazing relationship.
I don't want to force my opinions on her and I definently don't want to force her to smoke, but I do want her to be more understanding with my choice to smoke, just as I am understanding with her choice to use tobacco and alcohol
It's just she is so filled with media, gov, family, school, religious, social, etc garbage. I feel bad for her. I want to help open her eyes to the truth, if only for her to be more understanding with me. I know her is trying t obe more understanding, but it's obivious she very conflicted.
What should I do, I don't want to stop smoking ( as I believe there is nothing wrong with it) at the same time I don't want to ruin something amazing over something as unimportant as a way I choose to relax, opinions welcome.