Advice needed

[slowburn420]

I have some major problems in my life right now and i would like to get some advice from u guys. Im 17 years old, but i look like im about 12-14. This has caused severe depression for me and i dont know what to do. I have had this problem since i was bout 15. When im driving my car around i get alot of stares... at my old school i had to leave cuz i couldnt handle being around my friends i have known forever just cuz i felt like i was a burden to them cuz everywhere we go i get humiliated. I dont know how much longer i can stand it. Suicide has come to mind many times but i dont want to hurt my parents. Weed is one of the only things that makes me want to live. It gives me something to look forward to each day. I also have a disorder that makes it really hard for me to meet new people and have a conversation with a stranger. I get so fucking nervous i cant stand it. I also stutter when i talk sometimes. I think i am a good person and i think that if people got to know me they would like me. But its hard to do that when u dont look like any of the people ur age. If u have any advice it would be greatly appreciated.

[dryst]

hmmm...start working out man...start filling out, even if ur short, if ur stocky people wont fuck with u, besides, working out is good for it its a stress reliever...everytime u think about some kidk messing with u doing another rep...go to your local gym and get a membership, trust me man, ull feel alot better about urself

[Skink]

When you get to my age it will be a blessing to look young...

[dryst]

just out of curiousity...how old are u skink?

[Inferius]

I would suggest Growth Hormones, but maybe you've already been down that path...
For some reason, I know quite a few people in your situation... But i'm not necessarily friends with them, mostly becuase they went the opposite direction of you, they developed a psychological complex that makes them act tough and an asshole to everyone.
Do you know if you have an actual disease, or a hormone problem, or??
You must realize, your problems are always temporary. Distress fades, confidence develops, happyness can be acheived. Never give up.
I would definately suggest you stick with your old friends however. You don't need to go to school with them to be with them.
You could try meeting new people through them, expirementing with your social interactions in the safety of their companionship. Once you overcome the self-pity, the depression, the lack of confidence or social anxiety, there won't be any more problems. It all comes from within.

[dryst]

are u referring to the napolen complex?

[Frivolous248]

get a fake beard, worked for me!

Seriously, chill, kill yourself cause you look younger? Think about the poor people who are deformed, your lucky you just look like a little kid and not retarded and hideously disfigured. No offense to those, but I'm saying others have way worse problems.

[dryst]

ya dude suicide cause u look young...i mean come on dude...u could star in a fake kiddy porn movie and make bank...(lmao...thats sick and god please forgive me...)

[ShadowGate420]

I went through and am going through the same thing. Some people just develop later than others in life, you'll fill out eventually. What I did is learn to fight. If you are undersized growing up highschool becomes a living hell and you will run into people looking to bully and humiliate you. I took up boxing and karate and started weightlifting. After I pounded the shit out of one guy who was picking on me since 5th grade ppl stopped fucking with me, even though I was undersized. Learn to fight and scrap anyone that fucks with you. Don't take shit from anyone, no matter how bigger they are.

[Inferius]

are u referring to the napolen complex?

Yeahhhh thats the one! I kept thinking of Alexander the Great and Nero but Napolean wouldn't come... :)
In the fields of psychology and psychoanalysis, Napoleon complex (or Napoleon syndrome) is a colloquial term used to describe a type of inferiority complex suffered by people who are short. The term is also used more generally to describe people who are driven by a perceived handicap to overcompensate in other aspects of their lives.

[dryst]

key word is overcompensate....like those assholes who got those huge ass hummers to make up for something eles...*wink wink*

[Isayso]

... your lucky you just look like a little kid and not retarded and hideously disfigured. No offense to those, but I'm saying others have way worse problems.

No offense taken.

[Isayso]

Yeahhhh thats the one! I kept thinking of Alexander the Great and Nero but Napolean wouldn't come... :)
In the fields of psychology and psychoanalysis, Napoleon complex (or Napoleon syndrome) is a colloquial term used to describe a type of inferiority complex suffered by people who are short. The term is also used more generally to describe people who are driven by a perceived handicap to overcompensate in other aspects of their lives.

Hehe nice cut and paste there einstein ;)

[think green]

It probably seems cliche, but I'm going to suggest it anyway. There are several medications that help with depression and anxiety, all you have to do is get a doctors appointment and ask to see a psychiatrist. If antidepressants sound too offsetting (used to make me dream of satan), then psychotherapy could always help.

[orangeman]

Just smoke before you meet people and it will be easier to socialize :p.

[make it legal]

dude people develop at different rates im 16 and i still cant grow hair on my face but dude dont worry you will be fine

[Cheery Cherry]

Hey Slowburn...there are worse things in life than looking young. I know right now, looking younger than you are may seem like it's holding you back in life but there must be a lot of positive qualities that you have that can get you ahead too. Focus on the great things about you.

Seriously, if you had a friend who was in the same situation as yourself, how would you feel about that person? Wouldn't you look at him for the great person he is? Be a friend to yourself. You deserve that, don't you think?

[NextLineIsMine]

My friend Donny always amazed me. He was always ugly as shit yet always the most popular guy and the focus of every party. Why? Cause hes the coolest most outgoing guy youll ever meet.

Its like a bad haircut. You feel like an awkward doofus at school but since its in your head thats what you are thats how you tend to act and how people tend to percieve you. The key is believing that you are the coolest guy alive while being authentic and not being a dick.

[slowburn420]

I would suggest Growth Hormones, but maybe you've already been down that path...
For some reason, I know quite a few people in your situation... But i'm not necessarily friends with them, mostly becuase they went the opposite direction of you, they developed a psychological complex that makes them act tough and an asshole to everyone.
Do you know if you have an actual disease, or a hormone problem, or??
You must realize, your problems are always temporary. Distress fades, confidence develops, happyness can be acheived. Never give up.
I would definately suggest you stick with your old friends however. You don't need to go to school with them to be with them.
You could try meeting new people through them, expirementing with your social interactions in the safety of their companionship. Once you overcome the self-pity, the depression, the lack of confidence or social anxiety, there won't be any more problems. It all comes from within.

Inferius you have the ability to make sense of anything. I am still friends with my old friends from school cuz i have known them since 3rd grade. And im not a mean person mainly because i know what its like to be treated bad and i would hate myself knowing that i caused someone else trouble in their life. My dad had the same problem when he was my age, and then when he turned 18 he grew alot, i hope its like that for me. anyways thanks for the advice everyone it has really helped me out.

[orangeman]

dude people develop at different rates im 16 and i still cant grow hair on my face but dude dont worry you will be fine

Yeah, I know what you mean. Theres fuckin kids younger than me with a full grown beard. I am not joking. My chin hairs are just starting to come in and I've had a slight moustache thats noticable but not full every since I was 12 but just recently it started to grow more lol.

[dryst]

lmao orange, have ur balls dropped yet at least?

[dankbuds]

yo son honestly - you nedds to fucks with some hot sauce or anything spicy you dig homie - you'll began to notice ali-oh insanity start to take over your body oh and Jose Quervo Black too good stuff get some dawg - ladies as well dont be afraid of em they want it as bad as you do - but dont be stupid women needs to fucks with men so fucks with em son

[Professor Dan K.]

yo son honestly - you nedds to fucks with some hot sauce or anything spicy you dig homie - you'll began to notice ali-oh insanity start to take over your body oh and Jose Quervo Black too good stuff get some dawg - ladies as well dont be afraid of em they want it as bad as you do - but dont be stupid women needs to fucks with men so fucks with em son

anyone know what the hell this guy just said?

[lagstronaut]

anyone know what the hell this guy just said?

Something about Jose Canseco? :stoned:

[make it legal]

i have no fucking clue. i hate it when people talk like fucking idiots. like, i dont think that you need to capitalize the first letter of a sentence or use absolutly perfect puncutuation (both are fine to use if you want to) but people who talk like fucking retards just piss me off

[Frivolous248]

Yeah, I know what you mean. Theres fuckin kids younger than me with a full grown beard. I am not joking. My chin hairs are just starting to come in and I've had a slight moustache thats noticable but not full every since I was 12 but just recently it started to grow more lol.

:( Theres a 15 year old kid in my class who has a full beard, I'm 16 and only shave about every 2-3 days or so. I knew a kid who had a goatee in 7th grade, last time I saw him he looked like an old man at the age of 16 (saw him like 2 years ago) and his hair was thinning.

So yeah, people definitely mature at different rates. Most 16 year olds can't grow a full face of hair though, I wouldn't say you are too far behind untill you are 18 and can't grow a decent beard.

[legalizeit1234]

i know exactly what your talking about man. i also look about 2-3 years younger than i am. but who cares? i gurantee your grow up sometime, and when that happens, trust me, your "disorder" will almost completely disappear. Right now it might suck, yes, but give it time. your not gonna look like your 14 forever man, so you may as well live it out.

[cuziwashigh420]

start shaving

Ill be your friend! jsut dont kill yourself.
Smoke some and foget about it. Youll look older sooner or later.

[Its a Plant]

Yes, please quit saying "son". You're not any cooler because you might use it on a marijuana message board, so why use it?