Mom!

[AlwaysBlazed]

Ok, I got caught and now im grounded... again. I'm tired of being grounded for smoking and I have nothing left to lose. My dad is a huge pot head so he lets me smoke but my mom is completely anti-drug. I got booted from camp cause I was caught so my mom hates me even more (how do you expect me to stay sober for 8 weeks?!). Any ideas on what to say to my mom would be greatly appreciated. I have nothing left to be grounded from so im just going to leave tommorrow and run away if nobody has any good ideas.

:rasta: Oh yeah, and im an A, B average student, never been suspended, and I spend my own money on it.

Added: I'm 15, almost 16.

[Shrooms]

Ok, I got caught and now im grounded... again. I'm tired of being grounded for smoking and I have nothing left to lose. My dad is a huge pot head so he lets me smoke but my mom is completely anti-drug. I got booted from camp cause I was caught so my mom hates me even more (how do you expect me to stay sober for 8 weeks?!). Any ideas on what to say to my mom would be greatly appreciated. I have nothing left to be grounded from so im just going to leave tommorrow and run away if nobody has any good ideas.

:rasta: Oh yeah, and im an A, B average student, never been suspended, and I spend my own money on it.

Added: I'm 15, almost 16.

run away? what a dumb idea...

[AlwaysBlazed]

run away? what a dumb idea...

What else can I do? I'm grounded.... im not going to quit smoking either so i'll just keep being grounded. Please give me something to say to her or something instead of just making stupid comments.

[Frivolous248]

Heres what ya' do:

Don't let her know you still toke, and be much more careful. I mean, get some visine, and use it always, just in case. Also use spray, like axe. And just be more cautious in general.

[mastahaze]

explain to her that u are a good student, and its not fucking up ur life. tell her thats its not as bad as she thinks it is, and show her erowid and here so that she can understand wat pot really is. tell her that it can actualy be a good thing, and that it helps you. shell understand

[FAllout]

What else can I do? I'm grounded.... im not going to quit smoking either so i'll just keep being grounded. Please give me something to say to her or something instead of just making stupid comments.
Keep smokeing behind her back and getting good grades...
She will think you stoped then ask her in a semester or two is shes happy with yout grades and how your life is going...
If she says yes then tell her you were high for more than half of the last yar and your doing great and she might leave you alone.

Or tell her you wont listine to her untill she atleast trys pot.

[Shrooms]

Keep smokeing behind her back and getting good grades...
She will think you stoped then ask her in a semester or two is shes happy with yout grades and how your life is going...
If she says yes then tell her you were high for more than half of the last yar and your doing great and she might leave you alone.


LOL

[AlwaysBlazed]

Hmm, I don't want to do it behind her back, she will know. She knows the smell, my dad smokes every night. Also she has drug tested me before so I can't count on lieing, im done lieing.

[Frivolous248]

If its a home drug test, put a lil bleach in it, that'll pass.

Like I said, just be super cautious. By that, I mean, DONT BE HIGH AROUND HER. Use eye drops, and stuff to cover the smell. But if you aren't high around her, then you just won't get caught...

Maybe thats why people get caught, they don't wait untill a good enough time. Seriously, you cannot get caught if you aren't high around them and stuff.

[AlwaysBlazed]

I know, but it's too late, she knows that I am not going to quit, I want her to accept that I smoke, but she's being closed minded.

[graph]

It's her roof, until you pay the rent you gotta respect her decision.

I know it sounds like a load of crap now, but I feel bad for all of the shit I put my mom through. She's just doing what she thinks is right, and in the end that's why you should be lucky you have her.

Stop smoking for a while, and buy your mom something nice. Tell her how you feel about things and believe that you can balance the two, but you better be prepared to back it up. You better be getting good grades and maybe even get a job. You'll be better for it in the end.

Don't worry so much man, just 3 more years left until no one can tell you what to do. Except the government, your boss, the police, firefighters, your mother, your father, the judges, and old mr. henderson down the road.

[AlwaysBlazed]

Thanks for the help, I think I know what im going to do. Thanks for the imput, I hope if anybody else is in my position that they find this topic... im going to go smoke a joint.

[hammertime]

I say you just gotta keep smoking just dont bring the shit inside to thier house. You got 2 years and you'll be outa there. Im living back at home for a little bit and outa respect i cant just smoke all the time. But damn you make good grades and you dad smokes, so she should just get over it. its not like your doing some meth.

[ThePurpleMan]

lol runaway... im 16 the last time i pulled that it was when i was 14 and i came home to a locked door... my parents diecided since i was gone it would be cool to take the family to havasu withought me... lol yea i never run away.. your moms never gonna respect the fact that you like smoking.. my mom is the same way.. she still tries to catch me but im just smart about it.. she never drug tests me though.. because when i am really faded i start doing chores or somthing so im not just a lazy fuck about everything.. i know its hard to look at it from ur moms point of view but she doesnt want u smoking cuz she cares about u.. so dont hate her for it.. thats my 2cents

[think green]

Running away will only make your mom more desperate to "Get your life on track."

It would be more responsible sit down with her and talk about it. Be mature, level with her. Tell her you understand that she will probably never like the idea of you smoking. She is your mother, and her feelings are very understandable. Tell her that you maintain a principle of self worth and achievement, and that your grades and academic success are very important to you. Let her know that nothing would get in the way of those priorities.

Don't be argumentative. Remember; the point of telling her this is to establish that you're a responsible and motivated person. She is displeased with you smoking because she fears that it might jeopardize your future. All you should be trying to do here is help ease her mental suffering.

Wait out the punishment. Weed is illegal, you're relatively young, and afterall, it IS your mom's house. She has every right to ground you, and theres no way you can rationalize your way out of it.

Once you've talked to her, lay low for awhile. Don't break any of her rules, and be polite. Dont talk to her about anything too serious, especially weed. Give her some time to cool down and let the information you told her sink in. After you've waited a few days tell her that you would like to talk to her again.

When you're both comfortable, calmly and politely tell her that you're not giving up weed. Tell her that you don't pull asinine or dangerous stunts, and that you're not in harm's way. Then mention that if it ever comes near to endangering your priorities or well being, you'd give it up instantly.

Don't expect her to take it easily, if anything, she will probably get angry. Remember to keep your voice down and choose your words carefully. Also, I strongly urge that you DON'T mention the fact that your dad smokes. She will make him stop before she ever allows you to do it.

You're objective here isn't to ask for her permission or get an ok. You are indirectly giving her an ultimatum. You're letting her know that you will keep smoking regardless of her punishments. The most you can do is hope that she will realize that you are mature enough to handle smoking.

If the entire thing ends up being a disaster, continue to smoke as usual, and benevolently accept any punishment. Then maybe, overtime, she will realize that its pointless and give up.

Good luck with whatever happens.

[stoneberg]

just talk to her about it dude. Is your dad affected negatively by pot? I mean she is married to a pothead so if its not doing bad things for him I don't know why you can't relate yourself to him, and show her that its only doin you good knowing that you get good grades and stuff.

[Nightfire24]

man i got the same situation as you except if i touch it again i get kicked out... lol well so far im still blazing hell i was high this weekend if i get busted im homeless oh well and + i ain't talking about it

[SpiritLevel]

say "............i wonder what my dad is doin right now"..
then say ".....proplly getting wasted"..
then say ".....gee! i wanna be just like him mom. stoned and wasted just like my pops!"
then go take a hit in the kitchen immediately and don't let the smoke out.
they say ".....yeah mannnn! i'm just like my pops. wow! what a role model!"
then fix some food and offer you mom some and ask her what she'd like..
throughout that scenario you might her words coming out of other mouths, but pay no attention to them, they are just noises! once you finished, hit the books and turn those A Bs into A* As... yeah right

[Reefer Rogue]

Talk to your dad about it, ask him to talk to your mom and go easy on you.

[shoi]

since ur a good student and stuff i wouldnt ruin it by running away id talk to ur dad

[dankman]

totally off subject but i have to say it last night my mom was off the hook she made me and my friend who were baked out of our heads cookies pasta enchiladas salad it was awesome

[Nochowderforyou]

What else can I do? I'm grounded.... im not going to quit smoking either so i'll just keep being grounded. Please give me something to say to her or something instead of just making stupid comments.

And how would you eat? Cloth yourself? Stay warm? Shower? Sleep?

Money doesn't grow on a special tree in the woods. If you're 14 or 15, good luck working full time to support yourself and go to school. Even if you do, a 14 year old might make $8 an hour, which isn't enough to live off of.

This is typical teenage stuff. Suck it up and get through it, or go live on the streets and see how much you miss home. :thumbsup:

[jonniethunder]

I've got to agree with Graph and NoChowderForYou. I read somewhere on this site that pot should enhance your life, not be your life. If you're sitting in a camp for 8 weeks (which is nothing in the grand scheme) and can't stay straight or even imagine staying straight for that time, then I'd say you have the wrong perspective on your pot use.

Having lost my dad not long ago, I can only say that a parent is the most unique relationship in your life - for better or worse. So...my 2 cents is parents first, pot second.

JT

[jamstigator]

Eh, that depends on your parents. My dad ditched my mom with four kids, when I was 5, then declared us as dependents while not paying child support, and got away with that until I sic'd the IRS on him for being a dick, when I was 16. I'd trade my dad for one joint of skanky weed, but I wouldn't wanna rip off the guy with the joint.

[AlwaysBlazed]

My dads a good guy, so I don't want to fuck his shit up. Well, heres the story. Today I spoke to my mom and showed her Erowid and a ton of shit that shows how weed isn't as bad as you thing. I apologized to her and told her I want to be more responsible about it and I will start to limit it (even tho thats bullshit idk). She told me she didn't care and she will never give me permission. Once i'm 18 I can do whatever I want. We got in a fight after about some other stupid shit and i'm really considering running away now. In 30 miniutes if I don't think of something I may leave.

[Budman37]

If you run away you will just give your mom more ammo that weed is distorting your reasoning ect ect..You got a dad that gets high soo thats cool..you got to remeber if you get busted with weed in your moms house she could loose here house and you so she has reason to not want you to smoke...just dont smoke at home and takes the advice buy visine and keep it cool go in the back yard a get high ...dude your to young to run away then what????stick it out it'll all be behind you real soon

[AlwaysBlazed]

She'll just keep finding out since she drug tests me. I'm tired of lieing and I want her to accept it. I'm not sitting at home all september for smoking.

[Budman37]

I'm 42 and my dad dont know i smoke if he did he would think the same way your mom does..remeber its always better to be sweet then sour...with this bad attitude you'll more then likely go out in the world and trust the wrong person...I bet your moms really made at your dad..Just tell your mom your going to take her advice and quit and leave it at that..then dont be so bullheaded about her approving of it..just do it behind her back and be a good boy or girl....thats life when your a kid..I bet everyone here hides it from someone we have to its illegal...chill dude stay at home pay no rent get an education free food a place to sleep smoke in secret and then move out dont run away she can take legal issues with you then thats ammo for her always remember to use everything to your advantage if you leave you'll be at a huge disadvantage..let her think she won its your mom...

NOTE: monitor whats with the 5 min edit time thats lame

[Budman37]

drug test can be passed..make it your passion to hide it from her use this as a positive thing

[Shrapnel]

Just talk to your dad since he knows where you coming from. Try to get your dad to talk to your mom, and at the same time be a little more cautious or cut back a little for the time being. Get some Rohto's, fuck visine. When I'm high and I put Rohto's in, it feels so cool. They work so much better than visine too. They burn a little, but it feels like it kind of refreshes me, or my eyes.

[AlwaysBlazed]

I think I just got a sign from god to run away, my house is about to be empty for 2 hours. I'm just going to take $40 and leave for a bit. Wish me luck, until next time.

[rottenPauL]

r u stupid man?? ur running away to smoke pot????

[Budman37]

good luck dude but that aint no sign from god to leave its a sign top smoke a bowl in private and chill out..but whatever you do just be careful...Remember TRUST NO MAN

[cathi]

my parents are strict, religious, conservative nuts! they've done the same thing to me.. and the only thig i've ever found works AT ALL, is just to show them that you care about them, focus on school, work and dont EVER blaze at home, or come home stoned.

they just want to feel that you're destined for good things!

[rottenPauL]

...man dont do that, ull fuck shit up. Ull just make ur mom feel like shit. Not good move man. Face it u cant smoke home. I couldnt either, so many ppl is dealing with the same shit. U will figure out what its gonna be. Go smoke a j with ur dad and think things over.

[jonniethunder]

Eh, that depends on your parents. My dad ditched my mom with four kids, when I was 5, then declared us as dependents while not paying child support, and got away with that until I sic'd the IRS on him for being a dick, when I was 16. I'd trade my dad for one joint of skanky weed, but I wouldn't wanna rip off the guy with the joint.

I've raised enough kids whose dad's were dicks, so I'd say you had a good point.

[Left]

start smoking crack and meth and then when she cetches you you say "see what you made me do!!" and then bud wont seem bad at all anymore.

[orangeman]

Tell her your marijuana use is hereditary from your dad so you cant help it :D.

[AlwaysBlazed]

I ran off but now im home and im grounded again, i don't really give a shit anymore.

[jonniethunder]

You sure this is just about the weed?

[BongZoola]

Running away for weed? are you eths freshman? just stop for a while and pass a few drug tests and gain her trust back and make sure you dont ever get caught again. Stop making weed seem like an addiction instead of an enjoyable hobbie.

[AlwaysBlazed]

Allright, I got a little trust back by apologizing. I am going to take a break, pass a few tests, then do it behind my parents back again like normal. Thanks for all your imput and I hope I can stay clean for a bit. I'll still be on the boards talking about pot and such. Maybe i'll take this time to shroom again, peace.

[mrdevious]

Alwaysblazed, seriously consider something....

If you're willing to ruin your relationship with your parents and run away from home, all because you want to keep blazing... it's time to admit to yourself, being that dependant on it, that you DO have a problem with marijuana. real drug problems aren't the commercial cliche of "I want to quit but I can't", real drug problems are there when you'll throw away everything else to not quit.

nothing is that important.

[AlwaysBlazed]

Yes, i've thought about it and thats why I am quitting for a while. I'm not going to become dependent again once I start up. It'll be like it used to be when I started blazing.

[BongZoola]

I wish you nothing but good luck and hope.

[AlwaysBlazed]

Ready for the exciting conclusion? I am grounded for 1 month (back to the origional punishment). I am allowed to basically do everything except go out. Once I'm ungrounded I am just going to go back to doing it behind my moms back :thumbsup: Peace out, thanks to those who tried to help.

[ThePurpleMan]

good take a break... for awhile when i was a freshman i stopped because i didnt think it was fun anymore and the break really helped me.. i might even do it agian now that im gonna be a jounior

[Boo360]

How about you grow up and actually stop smoking until you move out if its requested by a parent? I'd never listen to my mom if she told me to stop smoking but then again she ruined my life. On the other hand if my Dad asked me to stop I'd never touch it again until I moved out simply because I have that much respect for him.

[ThePurpleMan]

^^^ couldnt have said it better myself

[SpiritLevel]

Sounds a little odd. If my mom mentioned piss test at anytime since I started toking 13 years ago I would have had to have been seriously deranged. I was asked on the first night I toked what I had been smoking, I stoopidly said "why? what can you smell". That reply didn't land me in any bother. It was many years later; after going out early and coming in late stoned every night for months, my dad sat me down and told me to look at myself and how stoned I was and asked probing questions about what I wanted to do with my life and how much I was being disrespectful by having a cannbis habbit. Then he asked me if I sold weed. I didn't answer. He knew it was a yes. I think he found out because I was really careless. I'd bag my shit up at my mates house in front of his rents, I'm sure they mentioned it to my dad. At that point my smoking cover was blown. The reality is if you want to do stuff and get away with it you have to be 2 steps in front of everyone who you want to keep out of your personal life. Failing that, we all have to put up with the opinions of others when we involve them in our business.
Stop arguing and having bust ups. It takes two people to argue and fueling the fire when you don't wish to feel the heat is not a good idea. I am a private person in front of my rents. If they ever knew how much weed I cultivate annually they would have far too much to say regardless of me living in my own place or not. But so long as I show them signs that I am healthy and keeping out of trouble then they can only assume that I am doing good. Was that shyt?

[SmokingPlatypus]

Running away is probably the worst thing that you could do in your situation.

[fikusroot]

Platypus is right. The only thing to do in your situation is to KILL YOUR PARENTS! I'd reccomend using a plunger or putting Mr. Clean in their water when they arent looking.

[D1me]

I've got to agree with Graph and NoChowderForYou. I read somewhere on this site that pot should enhance your life, not be your life. If you're sitting in a camp for 8 weeks (which is nothing in the grand scheme) and can't stay straight or even imagine staying straight for that time, then I'd say you have the wrong perspective on your pot use.

Having lost my dad not long ago, I can only say that a parent is the most unique relationship in your life - for better or worse. So...my 2 cents is parents first, pot second.

JT

i saw that part and put it in my sig