Friends?

[GhostOfGanja]

hey everyone, this thread is about your friendships. I want to know if you are pretty happy with them, think they are pretty much dumbasses, or whatever your feelings are about them. I was inspired by a group of friends that were just soooo dumb, saying weed permanently damages your brain and if you smoke 10 times you will have lowered your IQ by 10 points... But anyway, do you wish you had more friends or anything like that?

[D1me]

LMFAO i know some kids just like that, all they know about cannabis they learned from D.A.R.E. (Dare to Resist Drugs and Alcohol or something like that).

[paperlunatic]

i hate those kids. anywayt. yea i wish i had more friends, even if they were agaisnt drugs, cuz im so damn lonely .l ol

[dryst]

ya i dont really have any friendsand the ones i do have dont smoke bud...and the ones that do...just try to use me to score bud (cause im such a nice guy)...i mean i go to parties and shit but its all superficial...
only friend i really got is my girlfriend....u guys of course :D

[FunkyMonkey]

*takes a big breath*

I used to feel that my friendships we unbalanced. I saw that I provided more for them than they did for me. I have always been a better friend than I had returned to me when needed.
But it was my ego talking and placing expactations on them and desiring control of aspects of a relationship that should not need controling.
As long as there is mutual benefit in a relationship it doesnt matter who does more for the other or who shows more loyalty. I cannot expect them to be more like me can I? No, thats an obsurd thought. But , one that causes rifts and prevents many a person from enjoying what they have in front of them.
A friend is not an extention of ourselves but , go figure, a seperate person.
When expectations are not met it erodes our good feelings towards others and prevents us from sharing openly and drawing on the pool of enrichment offered.
So, now I expect nothing, I demand nothing, and I offer openly. Because if I react with ego, I do not change who they are...I change who I am.
And that, my friends, is not benefitting anyone and the only one hurt is me.
So, to answer your question, I am perfectly happy with my friendships.
I am open to more always and I do not remember "trespasses" and injury because I fel it takes away from me not them.
Even on these boards...I have read and commented on some pretty ignorant things some have said and done but I forget it and move on.
I might have disliked something someone said or did but it does not affect how much I love each and every one of you simply for being you.
I love everyone and dont reserve this for people who are more like me or act like I feel they should act.
Unconditional love friends....thats what its all about.


*gasps for air*
peace.

[crudemood]

I would say I only have a couple of close friends.
A friend to me is a friend who is like family. Do things for each other without asking. Just that mental understanding you have of each other most of the time. Words understood without being spoken. You can be yourself without being judged.
Of course in this day we cant find such people because we're to based on materials and money.
I do actually have friends that are really close and do match these expectations I have for friends.
I'd say I'm pretty happy with the few friends I have.

[Nochowderforyou]

"Brass monkey...that funky monkey!" :D

Hmmm, a lot of my friends I'm not really friends with anymore. They haven't really grown up and are still living like they're 18. All they do is piss their money away and all of them, but one, are all into Meth, Cocaine, all that junk pretty much. The one is an alcoholic though, it runs in his family and I just don't like to see him like that. Plus, he drinks and drives all the time and pretends like it's okay.

I've known him for 15yrs, and I haven't seen him in months. I gave up drinking and dove more into cannabis. He's the opposite, he quit smoking and now drinks and drinks and drinks. He can spend his entire $900 paycheque in a weekend on girls and drinks if he could. Instead he blows all he can afford so he's broke for 2 more weeks.

All in all, I don't really see my old buddies too much. I have made a few new friends but they're not really friends. We just hang out and smoke each other up, otherwise we never call each other.

I like my time to myself and I always have, but at times it can get a little boring. I just use that time to find new and interesting things to do.

[Bong30]

DARE drug abuse resistance education............ Lost funding here in the usa


pretty much gone..............sweet


Make new friends but keep the old, one is silver the other is gold.

[Inferius]

*takes a big breath*

I used to feel that my friendships we unbalanced. I saw that I provided more for them than they did for me. I have always been a better friend than I had returned to me when needed.
But it was my ego talking and placing expactations on them and desiring control of aspects of a relationship that should not need controling.
As long as there is mutual benefit in a relationship it doesnt matter who does more for the other or who shows more loyalty. I cannot expect them to be more like me can I? No, thats an obsurd thought. But , one that causes rifts and prevents many a person from enjoying what they have in front of them.
A friend is not an extention of ourselves but , go figure, a seperate person.
When expectations are not met it erodes our good feelings towards others and prevents us from sharing openly and drawing on the pool of enrichment offered.
So, now I expect nothing, I demand nothing, and I offer openly. Because if I react with ego, I do not change who they are...I change who I am.
And that, my friends, is not benefitting anyone and the only one hurt is me.
So, to answer your question, I am perfectly happy with my friendships.
I am open to more always and I do not remember "trespasses" and injury because I fel it takes away from me not them.
Even on these boards...I have read and commented on some pretty ignorant things some have said and done but I forget it and move on.
I might have disliked something someone said or did but it does not affect how much I love each and every one of you simply for being you.
I love everyone and dont reserve this for people who are more like me or act like I feel they should act.
Unconditional love friends....thats what its all about.


*gasps for air*
peace.

Funkymonkey, You and Birdgirl should fuse minds and turn this conflicted world into a beautiful eutopian society.

[dryst]

DARE drug abuse resistance education............ Lost funding here in the usa


pretty much gone..............sweet
.

how do u figure?...my 7 yr old sister just came home from school with a dare shirt saying drugs rot ur brain and make u die...

[OreO]

seriously, i never had dare come to my school and EVER talk about how drugs were bad. We had teachers tell us, but never had the dare campaign talk to us.

Ya i have 3-4 close friends one being my best...i used to have like 10-more in highschool, but people change, start getting into harcore drugs, and some kids just CHANGE. I had a best friend stabe me in the back....but hes in jail now...then i noticed how some other friends just seemed to be around only for the bud.

Some just dont know how to grow up either....so i broke off from the ones i couldnt trust and the ones that werent going anywhere(i tried helping them get started with there life)...i mean you lose friends but you always gain em,,,,if you aint TOO weird, lol

[3 Sheets To The Wind]

My friends rule.. with the exception of one who's a cunt at times :)

[OreO]

shheetts! where ya been? how ya been...doubt u remember me but ive been around for a while

[3 Sheets To The Wind]

shheetts! where ya been? how ya been...doubt u remember me but ive been around for a while

Dude how could I not remember you?!

I've been around just not on here, I've been cool just not sober and I'm hopefully gonna post more here like before.. But how many times have I said that in the past? ;)

How are you anywho pal?

[OreO]

thats cool man, well im well...lol i just started classes and smokin ofcourse, trying to stay around on these boards when i have time but the school has takin over once again, but im good

[FunkyMonkey]

Funkymonkey, You and Birdgirl should fuse minds and turn this conflicted world into a beautiful eutopian society.

Sounds like fun. But would we still have 2 different bodies or would we, er, fuse them too ?

;)

[Kryzco]

*takes a big breath*

I used to feel that my friendships we unbalanced. I saw that I provided more for them than they did for me. I have always been a better friend than I had returned to me when needed.
But it was my ego talking and placing expactations on them and desiring control of aspects of a relationship that should not need controling.
As long as there is mutual benefit in a relationship it doesnt matter who does more for the other or who shows more loyalty. I cannot expect them to be more like me can I? No, thats an obsurd thought. But , one that causes rifts and prevents many a person from enjoying what they have in front of them.
A friend is not an extention of ourselves but , go figure, a seperate person.
When expectations are not met it erodes our good feelings towards others and prevents us from sharing openly and drawing on the pool of enrichment offered.
So, now I expect nothing, I demand nothing, and I offer openly. Because if I react with ego, I do not change who they are...I change who I am.
And that, my friends, is not benefitting anyone and the only one hurt is me.
So, to answer your question, I am perfectly happy with my friendships.
I am open to more always and I do not remember "trespasses" and injury because I fel it takes away from me not them.
Even on these boards...I have read and commented on some pretty ignorant things some have said and done but I forget it and move on.
I might have disliked something someone said or did but it does not affect how much I love each and every one of you simply for being you.
I love everyone and dont reserve this for people who are more like me or act like I feel they should act.
Unconditional love friends....thats what its all about.


*gasps for air*
peace.

i found myself going through the same thing

now I realized that it was partially my fault for the demise of some of my friendships

I have a weird group of friends but we are all really close

some I hang with everyday

some I see once in a while

I don't trust too many people, mainly 5 people, including my bf and my ex

i'm content with what I have, they keep me in place of things

we are all very different from each other but we share common ground

[darthstoner09]

What are friends?
Friends are people that you think are your friends
But they really your enemies, with secret indentities
and disguises, to hide they true colors
So just when you think you close enough to be brothers
they wanna come back and cut your throat when you ain't lookin

lol, some lyrics on what I think about my friends.
Ya know, for about 3 or 4 years now ive been so unhappy with my friends. non of them get me. they dont understand me, they dont accept me for being me, I always feel like an outsider to them. I do so much for all of them, I drive them places, buy them stuff, always avoid drama as much as humanly possible, but they just seem to love to give me shit about anything. I need new friends really bad. I feel like the lonelist person in the world. I have no body, I hate this feeling. all I have is weed, sucks, but love weed

[GhostOfGanja]

Great posts everyone, glad I'm not alone heh. One more thing I forgot to ask is, what age group are you in? Like, high school, etc.

[Nochowderforyou]

I'm 24, so I've seen so many friends come and go, and there was only one that actually stuck around. I don't see him much because difference of lifestyles, but we're had a lot of good memories, sometimes blurry ones, even a few bloody ones, but we still talk to each other. He's a friend, just not an everyday friend.

[cole]

i have my girlfreind who is my best freind and i wouldent trade anythying for what i have, then i have freinds dale david and clay they are good freinds to but uhh yea mainly i dont like to have lots of freinds small groups of closer freinds is what i like better than a shitload of dumbass's

[thcbongman]

After going through hard times, I realized how my friends are like my brothers. They hooked me up with this PC to connect in my hospital room, DVDs, and visit me constantly. Don't have a huge amount of friends, but the few I have got my back all the way, and I can't love them enough. We been close for years and their actions show it. I wouldn't trade my friends for anyone others in the world.

[FunkyMonkey]

Youre in a hospital bongman ??

[Kryzco]

What are friends?
Friends are people that you think are your friends
But they really your enemies, with secret indentities
and disguises, to hide they true colors
So just when you think you close enough to be brothers
they wanna come back and cut your throat when you ain't lookin

lol, some lyrics on what I think about my friends.
Ya know, for about 3 or 4 years now ive been so unhappy with my friends. non of them get me. they dont understand me, they dont accept me for being me, I always feel like an outsider to them. I do so much for all of them, I drive them places, buy them stuff, always avoid drama as much as humanly possible, but they just seem to love to give me shit about anything. I need new friends really bad. I feel like the lonelist person in the world. I have no body, I hate this feeling. all I have is weed, sucks, but love weed

i just got into a huge arguement about the same damn bullshit

I hate being the nice one, people suck

[bobmarleyjr.]

I had a best friend stabe me in the back....but hes in jail now...

dam that must of hurt...that fucker deserved wut he got. How many stitches u get?

[Ae...]

I'm a fucking creep so the friends I end up making are pretty loyal since they are just as strange.

I was a hermit for about three years and just now started getting out more. Have about four maybe six friends. Three good ones that I see often.

[Justin Incredible]

I have got friends from different places if that makes sense. Got best mate that I have known for about 8/9 years (19 now) went to school together and worked together for a bit. Got a few friends from school. Got some from previous work and got some from where I work now. I have about 6 really good friends but shit loads of acquintances, the sort of people you always talk to when you see them but dont go out with them.

[Frivolous248]

lol, I got like no friends. I got some people I associate with, no one I really hang out with, especially outside of school. People down south are fuckin' wierd, I miss up north hella bad, I had 1 chill friend, he wasn't a perfect friend, but you know it worked. We both mostly hung out with eachother, you know where you have a group of friends, but you tend to chill with one more than the others cause you know eachother a little better. Now I got no one though, I've tried hangin' out with people, but people don't call me and I get sick of trying to find stuff to do with people who don't seem to give a shit.

I just wish I could find ONE effin' person to chill with. Someone who tokes, but not all about the weed, and is pretty cool otherwise. Just a chill kid who is down to earth and will actually do shit, like hang out.

[FunkyMonkey]

lol, I got like no friends. I got some people I associate with, no one I really hang out with, especially outside of school. People down south are fuckin' wierd, I miss up north hella bad, I had 1 chill friend, he wasn't a perfect friend, but you know it worked. We both mostly hung out with eachother, you know where you have a group of friends, but you tend to chill with one more than the others cause you know eachother a little better. Now I got no one though, I've tried hangin' out with people, but people don't call me and I get sick of trying to find stuff to do with people who don't seem to give a shit.

I just wish I could find ONE effin' person to chill with. Someone who tokes, but not all about the weed, and is pretty cool otherwise. Just a chill kid who is down to earth and will actually do shit, like hang out.

Hey man, maybe you could find someone with a likemind if you join a club, team or something similar. Then you have that as a starting point.
If you dont try you wont succeed. Its all about the first action, that initiative. Hell, if youre shy, fake confidance. Play a game with yourself and challenge yourself to make contact with at least one stranger a day.
Let your personality be seen and it will attract people like you.
A lot can happen, nothing to lose.

peace.

[crudemood]

Hey man, maybe you could find someone with a likemind if you join a club, team or something similar. Then you have that as a starting point.
If you dont try you wont succeed. Its all about the first action, that initiative. Hell, if youre shy, fake confidance. Play a game with yourself and challenge yourself to make contact with at least one stranger a day.
Let your personality be seen and it will attract people like you.
A lot can happen, nothing to lose.

peace.

I totally agree with what yous aid here Funky. It works, from personal experience. Supershyness got the best of me then faking confidence really helps because noone will be able to tell. I had to learn the hard way.
I wish I read this before I became 'normal'.

"Let your personality be seen and it will attract people like you.
A lot can happen, nothing to lose"
I can't agree more, that is very true. :)

Funky you should have been my psychiatrist, really. :p