Busted by the cops.

[keinmehrkreig]

yeah so saturday I got busted by the police. Which is kinda dumb considering they didn't find anything on us...or even search us for that matter, but my friend who was with me admitted to smoking so i guess that was all the proof they needed. Anyway my parents were notified and are handling the situation pretty immaturely. They said once I turn 18 (which is in a few monthes) that I'll have to find a way to support myself, they also said while im under their roof I have to go to church for 3 hours every sunday (their mormon) and read the bible and stuff.

I just was wondering how you guys would handle the situation, would you quit smoking? or just be more secretive? I told them if they allowed within their house I wouldn't be in this situation anyway, and I told them I'm not going to disobey by smoking within their own house...I think this was a bad idea because they got really defensive about this so I started to kinda lie and act like I felt all guilty about smoking and acted like I need help..(which I regret now but their was a lot of pressure).

But yeah they honestly know nothing about it, they kept reffering to my "drug" problem, and how weed "impairs your ability to drive, even worse then alcohol".

So yeah any suggestions?

[NextLineIsMine]

yeah you cracked man, if you nod along and let them think theyre right that it is a problem you are submiting total power to them, theyll be more righteous and pushy than ever now.

Dont you let them dare send you to that Mormon church, I can tell youre smarter than that

[GratefulDead4ever]

Its hard to give something up that is so fun but what your parents do for you and who they are is way more important than gods plant but its your decision i was in the same situation you are except my parents made me a deal either they would buy the weed i had left cause they found out that i smoke or i could smoke the rest of it and just not buy it ever again i chose to smoke it cause i will miss it very deeply but over the time they have not seen me smoke but they have realize i act no different and they allow me to make my own decisions since i showed them that people who smoke pot dont act completely off the wall

[myselfandi]

If they're truly going to kick you out, tell them to go fuck themselves.

If they're just being assholes and threatening, print some info from reliable sources on the effects of marijuana usage, NORML has plenty of links to sources. Good luck!

[Big Calhoun]

How much do you kick in for the bills? Ye who pays the bills make the rules...

[Dutch Masta]

Your parents punshied you like that simply for smoking weed?

Where the hell do you live? If my kid is 18 and has never tried weed I'm going to kick his ass. But seriously, there is no reason to stop. Just be more careful. Sounds like you weren't exactly careful to begin with to get caught like that so maybe this is your chance to straighten up and get smarter when it comes to situations like the ones you faced rather poorly.

and I didn't understand any of this:


I told them if they allowed within their house I wouldn't be in this situation anyway, and I told them I'm not going to disobey by smoking within their own house

Don't ever tell your parents to go fuck themselves. Thats some lousy ass advice that would not do anything but get you in even more trouble. What they dont know, dont hurt.. so just keep smoking and dont ever get caught.

You should have just told them you were experimenting and you were depressed over a girlfriend breakup or something and that you didn't really like it and will never do it again.

[smokinbass]

Hmm... i understand those who pay make the rules, but dam, forced religious participation is wrong on so many levels and quite contrary to... well freedom

but if u are a minor... well, sorry for u

[Big Calhoun]

Hmm... i understand those who pay make the rules, but dam, forced religious participation is wrong on so many levels and quite contrary to... well freedom

but if u are a minor... well, sorry for u

I totally agree. Try being Muslim and growing up in a baptist household...I know about forced religion all too well.

But I also know that, even if you're not a minor, if you're living in someones home and you're not putting in for anything, you go by the established rules in the house.

At least that how it always was in my family. After I dropped out of college, I moved back in with my parents. I was still bound my the rules of the house. A few months later, I got a job and started kicking in on the bills. At that point, the rules were modified. I was no longer their child, I was essentially a tenet and had all the rights of being one.

But one thing I would advise against is being sneaky. My brother did that after he got caught. He was subsequently thrown out and spent 1.5years of the streets of NY, homeless. He was staying at a shelter at the World Trades on 9/11 and only b/c he witnessed some crazy stuff did my mother allow him back in. He no longer smokes even though he's now paying bills so he doesn't have the 'restrictions' that he used to. Don't make a bad situation worse...

[pixel]

dont go to church because they force you to
if it's not your belief tell them they are making their entire denomination look bad.

it's your decision, NOT THEIRS, if you want to partake in that religion or not.

and do not think for one minute that because they are your parents you have to go to church with them because they say so. if you don't believe in mormon, or any religion for that matter, do not ever let anyone force you into it.

[Oblio]

You are bright enough to know which post is a valid choice. Do not disrespect your parents directly. I agree with sitting down and having a mature conversation about the situation. Once someone yells, the communication is over. You mentioned till your 18 in three months...how long did you expect to stay there after that? Do you have a job?

You could be in jail if it had got ugly. It is cool you are not. On the note of getting into trouble...do any of your friends have some serious change to post your bond with? Who will be the person you make your "ONE" call to? Your parents? to come save their child from jail? Show them respect, this will show you have matured...you are only talking about 90 days !!!

I know some moroms so can kind of understand that. Just do it. You said it was for 3 hours on sundays. That means keeping peace between you by going to church for about 36 hours. Keep your mind open and listen, you may not agree at all but it won't hurt you. IF you all don't blow this into more than it is..and you keep yourself out of trouble with the law. Then one day you all might even be able to laugh about it. But not if it becomes WW3 in "their" home.

REMEMBER IT IS JUST 90 DAYS! You planed on being a man and moving out when you turned 18 anyways right?

I wish your family well dealing with this...Peace Brother

[weedheaduknow]

i got busted too man, but i dont live with my parents so thank god for that. Shit sucked though, i got pulled over right down the road where i lived at so i was literally less than a minute away from home when it happened. The cop said i was swerving in an dout of the lane like i was drunk ( wasn't drunk, i had one 211(more than 2 hrs earlier) it was also around 3 am so i was pretty tired which is why i left my friends in the first place. Anyway the cop saw part of the bag with weed in it and asked me if it was marijuana so thats when i was like fuck, and i told him it was and then he made me get out and cuffed me. He also found the empty 211 bottle which sucked but he didn't cite me for it, he also found my brass knuckles which i had totally forgotten about and he didn't cite me for that either but he said he would throw it down a sewer. They also found my bong so i was busted for misdemeanor under 40grams of marijuana and possession of paraphanelia.
I went to court and found out that the cop lied about the brass knuckles cuz they were right there next to the bong and weed in the evidence photo's but like i said, he didn't cite me for them so i wasn't charged for them. Anyway thats my story.

[Dutch Masta]

I disagree with a sit down and explaning to them about the situation. Its almost laughable to think that would be effective for parents that strict. You're just going to have to do it behind their backs, so what? Most of the world smokes like that.

[Oblio]

Telling someone not to try to resolve a problem between two people by talking is crazy. Your attempt may not be met opening but you can say you honestly gave it a 100% effort. If his parents were that bad they would have thrown right when this happened. The fact he is still under their roof means they are not that cold and their relationship is not completely lost.

[keinmehrkreig]

Alright thanks for all the comments, allow me to explain a few things though.

I don't intend on simply just telling them to "Fuck Off" and I suppose I should follow the rules of the house considering I don't pitch in on the bills.

But my parents are very controlling, they won't let me have a license, permit, or a job. And they are using this situation as even more power to take these things away from me.

If I had one phone call I would probably call my older brother, He smokes weed too, and when he was 14 my parents sent him to a correctional facility in samoa (a foreign pacific island country) for 27 monthes. Now their not going to do that to me considering this is my first offense but if I keep up this kinda thing I don't doubt for a second they would.

The other thing is, I do take some responsability for getting caught, BUT the cops had nothing on me, there was four of us there, They did not see me smoking, and I didn't admit to it, I had no paraphenellia or drugs on me, they stopped by us because my friend parked in a no-trespassing area near a park in a subdivision that one of our friends lived in. He saw smoke in the car apparently and when my friend opened the door he said he saw smoke pour out.

I honestly don't think it had much to do with stupidity, I'm sure we could of been more cautious but honestly it wasn't like sheer immaturity, this is the first time I've been caught by ANYBODY and I've been smoking for 5 years (but only it's only been about 2 years since I started smoking a lot).

Thanks

[pixel]

forcing a religion upon someone smashes the very foundation of what it means to be a free human being

move the fuck out if they try to force you into their bullshit. controlling or not, selling yourself out is not worth a roof over your head.

get a job, start pitching in, and when they tell you to get up for church, tell them to shut the door and stop disturbing your sleep. and say it with a god damn smile on your face!

[orange floyd]

How much do you kick in for the bills? Ye who pays the bills make the rules...


if hes not even 18 he doesnt owe his parents shit.. they legally have to provide him with food/shelter...

[Markass]

You're entitled to make your own decisions. Your parents are going to instantly hate the idea of their 'little boy' doing drugs. You need to talk to them. Just tell them of the worse things that can be done, and that you are capable of being responsible and not messing your life up when your smoking pot compared to anything else. That's what I did. My mom knows who I get my grass from, how I get it, how much I get, but she's cool with it. Show them you can be responsible and it'll change their thinking about it. Trust me.

[Oblio]

Kein, that sure adds ALOT of facts to the situation. You sound like a good kid. Your home live may not be what you wish it was, but not many are.

I bet you made good grades in school. Do you have any desire for a higher education or college? I encourage you to look into it. What kind of 1st job would you like? Presenting yourself as well as you have makes me think will have no problem finding employement, Keep us updated.

[Kaparski]

K, first thing, don't defend your position that you decided to smoke. It is your right to. However, in doing so you'll alienate them and lose their support which is detremental. My best advice is to take the plunge and tell them youll never touch that 'demon' again. Get them thinking that your spiritual inclined and theyll think nothin of it. Sure they might monitor you for a bit but once the opportunity knocks, hit that fucken bong.

Just be sure to NEVER get caught again and learn from your mistakes.

Second offense = sure way to find your ass on the street

[keinmehrkreig]

Yeah actually I do have pretty good grades in school, I have only failed one class before (a math class) but retook it and passed, I've done exceptional on all my standardized tests, and have a pretty good GPA. I will be graduating a quarter earlier next year, assuming I do well.

As far as job's go, I've been wanting to work at a warehouse records not too far from me, I picked up an application but my parents say that the kind of people working their will be "stoners, and a bad influence on me". So it looks like that's a no-go.

As far as college and higher education goes. I plan on going to a community college to take my core-classes, and then applying to some sort of school like Berklee School of Music.. or something similar. (I play guitar, and piano).

Thanks for all the responses everyone, I appreciate them.

[Oblio]

Make a list of places you could get a job fairly near your home. Along with this add how much they pay per hour and amount of hours you could get. Like part-time vs. full-time. You could make a list of jobs that distance could require you getting a DL. Call a local insurance agent and see what basic insurance would cost you.

with this information you can find out what kind of income you will need to cover cost of transportation and all cost involved...do not forget to add gas. Now you can see basically how much you will have left over to spend or save.

With all info clearly wrote out, sit down with your parents and show them the options available to you. It might show that the job at the music store is one of your best options. My first job was at a pizza place...it was fun. Also, ask them if any of their friends know or own a business you could work at. Is there a state employment agency in your area? What about job corp...that could be educational and a blast at the same time. Job Corp. does some very good work in teaching skills and you could maybe get to travel also.

I am proud of you for ignoring some of the dumb comments.

Your ideas on getting educated is great! Now make it happen. Look into fin. aid...some schools will even help you find a job. I know it is hard to give great advice without knowing more about your location, family life, and your desire to be independant. It would not be best to cover all those either. Just take what could help you and dismiss the rest.

You could also take this one more step. Find out the following and see what it will cost you to move out.

Rental cost: (maybe a roommate)
Electric: (you have to lights and hot water)
Interent: (yeah yeah)
Transportation: (personal or public include insurance and gas)
Food: (working at rest. can cover some of this)
furniture: ?
Cable TV: (not needed, forget it for now. some places its free with apt.)

This is not a complete list but enuff to get you started. Did not include any medical/meds or cost of dealing with LEO.

[Road to Zion]

Look at the bright side, bible paper rolls a good J

[Love Street]

move out

o and its not illegal to be high, as long as you dont have anything on you, the pigs cant do shit, to bad you didnt know this before eh?

[geoffrowley19]

hahahahah fuck you trevor...goddamn it fuck u

[herostyle]

move out

o and its not illegal to be high, as long as you dont have anything on you, the pigs cant do shit, to bad you didnt know this before eh?
Yeah thats true.

[Dutch Masta]

But some states have laws regarding driving under the influence on Marijuana, in which you can be charged for being high. I also remember hearing about laws against public influence of marijuana as well but I don't know much about that.

But for the most part, useage is the lowest of all crimes. You see, posession means a chance that its for distribution while usage ensures it is not.. so a cop will have to be a pretty big dick to bust anyone for usage. Cultivaters and Dealers, you just gotta be smart and watch your ass to avoid gettin pinched.

[herostyle]

But some states have laws regarding driving under the influence on Marijuana, in which you can be charged for being high. I also remember hearing about laws against public influence of marijuana as well but I don't know much about that.

But for the most part, useage is the lowest of all crimes. You see, posession means a chance that its for distribution while usage ensures it is not.. so a cop will have to be a pretty big dick to bust anyone for usage. Cultivaters and Dealers, you just gotta be smart and watch your ass to avoid gettin pinched.
Well there is a "disrupting public" law when your under the influence but that doesn't cxome into par a lot. And they don't put on their sirens or anything and yeha its kinda minor.