How do/would you discipline your child?

[geonagual]

For parents
What do you do when your child has done something wrong?

This question is also for those of you who do not have children but may in the future. How do you plan to discipline?

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

Usually we'll tell him to not do whatever he's doing to get in trouble... the first time, we're nice but stern. The second time, we're stern and we warn of a time out. The third time is a 3 minute time out in the corner... before we let him out we ask him if he knows what he did to get in trouble, we discuss the situation with him, he apologizes and goes on his merry way. :)

[cannabis campbell]

Be laid back, would never hit them, but i wouldn't be too strict if they piss me off i would take their weed.

[birdgirl73]

My son is grown and in college now and so doesn't face that problem any more. But when he was younger, time-outs worked like a charm. We had a spare bedroom that was very sparsely furnished. No computer. No TV. No nuthin. That was the time-out room, and it worked to help isolate him (briefly) and let him calm down and re-think his behavior. He didn't need that very often, but he's an only child and was very accustomed to getting what he wanted. So there would be times when we'd have to say no, and he could be very dramatic. Time outs are the way to go. I don't believe in hitting. I wasn't hit as a child, and I never struck my child, either.

When he was a teenager, we removed privileges when we needed to discipline him. He'd have to stay home and not go out and do stuff he wanted to do. Once we removed driving privileges when he was 16. Once he lost the use of his PC. Usually once was all it took, and then he'd toe the line.

[del...]

we never hit ours but did use the time-outs after one warning. the fear of us taking the car keys seemed to work the best when they got older and being given extra chores worked throughout their time with us. we also used rewards just as often, if not moreso as we did our best with positive reinforcement...lol, now that i reread that it sounds kinda like we could be talking about training puppies! not all that different i guess...

[friendowl]

i dont discipline i let em do whatever they want
after they fuck up they learn on there own
if they get real bad mom's will kick ass

[JunkYard]

"Knock him into next week"!

That's what my parents always said they'd do to me, lmao!

Seriously, though...there are so many different situations that arise it's hard to use just one method of dicipline. I usually go for warnings, then I start taking sh!t away. i.e computer, video games, t.v, stereos, etc...

Timeouts worked great when my son was younger, but they tend to grow out of that. Oh, I'll never 'hit' my child, but I came close the other day when he darted across the road w/o looking. He nearly got hit three times, and again when he made it to the front porch. (By me)

It scared the sh!t out of me, and I ended up yelling at him something furious...

He got the picture w/o me getting physical with him, though. ;)

[Stoner Shadow Wolf]

ehh i'd rather study their natural behaviors and try to understand them more before i decide to tell them what they can and cannot do.... but hey i dont really WANT kids in THIS fucked uped world... ed.


maybe if the world... i dunno... WORKED for everyone... i might consider kids, but untill this planet has a DRASTIC reduction of STUPID, i dont want to make anyone else suffer by forcing them to be here.


I WAS BORN AGAINST MY WILL!

[LIP]

My dad always used to hit me :(

[Drolover]

First time give them a warning if they dont listen then whoop them with a belt thats the only why they learn.

[OtterPop]

a spray bottle

if they get used to that, put a bit of jalepeno juice in it

[Fengzi]

My little girl is in the "terrible two's" right now so I'm faced with this question several times a day. My wife and I pretty much follow MaryJaneintheCloset's method. A few warnings then a time out. My daughter spends a lot of time in the corner.

[Swizzy89304]

Id do what MJCloset does. Ive seen the TV programs where the nanny tells the parents what to do, and she always tells them to stick them in 'the naughty corner' for 5 minutes.
As for me, Id never face that dilemma. I think if I had kids Id end up doing a Jungle Book and sending it down a river in a basket.

[benagain]

Best thing I've seen for toddlers is a pop to the bad of the hand. Not hard, but it catches the kid off guard and they're quick to listen after that. Works like a charm. After they grow a bit and still want to fuck up, I'd go with taking shit away and stuff like that. Best rule of thumb may be to disregard anything anyone else thinks and do what works for you. At least that's what I think. You can't have someone in a book raise your kids by proxy. Just do whatever it takes to keep the kid in line.

[Big Calhoun]

LOL, my discipline was basically an appointment with a military school recruiter. They'd put them up for the weekend and invite them for dinner to tell us about the school. Funny thing is, my parents were drunkards and I ran everything. It was an idle threat...the house would have fallen apart without my sober ass.

As far as how I plan to discipline, they can do whatever. Life is about consequences and kids need to learn that concept. Touch the stove enough times when it's hot, you eventually know not to do that anymore...

[daima]

My dad always used to hit me :(

I use to tie my kids to a board and dip them in a tank with sharks, crocodiles, and vipers. I would pull them up right at the last second......except for lil jr. we do miss him but we are comforted in knowing that his being eaten helped feed a small crocodile family. Since that happened my others kids behaved like anglels. A small price to pay in order to keep the family in line. One less mouth to feed too :D

dai*ma:stoned:

[da haze meister]

no offense to time out ppl
that shit doesnt work
notice all the white kids in the suburbs
will call their moms hoes to their face
fuckin lack discipline
no straight up beatings
but whoopins on the ass
are the way to go

[dog420]

im pritty laid back, i dont need to hit them. They hate it when i shout at them, they prob prefure a smack tbh lol dunno why its not like im screaming my head off at them but....send them to their bedrooms works well for me. Then calling them down to tell me why they did wrong, and for the older one GROUND her from playing outside, she fucking hates that,,,oohhh yes thats all i need to do with that one lol

Peace and good luck canna. parents!

[FindingTim]

I am an only child and my parents just talk/ talked everything over with me. For instance, last week when I got caught stoned for the first time, my parents just sat down with me and talked about all the effects of smoking pot. We get along great and I am very pleased with how I was raised/ disciplined.

[Cooler Then Jesus]

lol, i am 14, and when i fuck up, i get my ass whooped on, wether it be my mom slapping me in the face repetedly (wether its coverd in poison oak or not!) till her hand can take it any more, or i start to bleed, or shell sick my brothers on me, both of them, 21, and 18. just to kick my little 14 year old ass because i ate the last cookie. bastards, or my dad, he`ll just smack me in my grill one time, boom, over. maybe do some screaming. other than that, i just get the daily threat of being put on the dr.phil show, or being sent away. dooo-dooo dooo, daaa-deeee. dont give a flyin fuck.

[JunkYard]

My mom tried to sick my older brother on me once, and I whipped his ass good! Then she got my uncle to try and knock some sense into me, and I put him in a head lock and kept jumping up, and down till he gave in, haha!

Funny sh!t! :D

I was such a bad teen, lmao!

[Cooler Then Jesus]

lol, i have kicked my dad`s ass before. he really acts like a bitch sometime, you know how crystal addicts can be..

[JunkYard]

That sucks, dude! My dad was the complete opposite; he once told me if I ever got involed in drugs that he would beat me sensless. Well, I gave him the big FUCK YOU, and started using coke, meth, acid, etc...

I still don't consider weed a drug, and found that the harder sh!t has the ability to get you in the ass. Even so, everytime I snort a line, I think of my brilliant father, and his fucked up attitude!

Don't worry, if you live long enough to get out from under your parents, life will be better. What are you...15, or so? Three years man, and you can give them the big FUCK YOU, and lead your own life! ;)

[lizzie on low]

It really matters on what's been done. Time-outs and loss-of-privlidge are what I plan on using once my son is old enough to understand (can't very well discipline an 8 month old, not that there's any reason to in the first place).

Haha, my parents never hit me, except for my mom. I was maybe 12 years old, and she had me mad something fierce, and I called her an asshole... she smacked me so hard that when I tryed to run away I ran straight into a wall, which irronically hurt a hell of a lot more than the slap.

I learned real quick to not disrespect my parents, and was never hit again.

[psychopixi]

My parents used to smack me when I was younger, and I really don't think it causes any harm. Having said that I'd hate to end up as one of those moms who are screaming at their kids in the supermarket and smacking them to make them shut up.

I guess a smack can work as a short, sharp shock, and would be more effective if it was reserved for when the kid's done / doing something very naughty, or where they could hurt themselves badly (running into the road / pulling on the cable of the iron...). Also, when the kid's very young then they're not going to properly understand why they shouldn't be doing X, Y or Z.

Once they're old enough to understand why you don't want them to do something I think it'd be better to explain to them, and if they're still naughty then use the time-out thing, because if they understand why they oughtn't be doing something, but still keep doing it it's probably going to be to get attention.

I guess you can't really make a teenager go stand in the corner though, so for that age punishment would have to be stopping them from doing something they want to if they've got into trouble, and rewarding them when they do what you want them to.

[theprettiestprincess]

I spank. No questions asked. Never tried "time out" or "sit in the corner". And never will

[HiddenBeauty]

What kind of message are you sending out if you hit your kids?I think they will see enough violence when they get older so there is no need for it to be in the home too.Also parents who hit their kids with anything other then their hand should be ashamed of themselves.I dont have kids but I have met others who have been damaged by their childhood so I would punish my kids by removing their things like tv,comp,etc.

[JunkYard]

What kind of message are you sending out if you hit your kids?I think they will see enough violence when they get older so there is no need for it to be in the home too.Also parents who hit their kids with anything other then their hand should be ashamed of themselves.I dont have kids but I have met others who have been damaged by their childhood so I would punish my kids by removing their things like tv,comp,etc.

Nothing is more dreaded than outright bordom for kids; that's why taking their sh!t works so well! ;)

Violence is NEVER the better option, imo!

[Funkamander]

There was a lyric in a Def Poetry Jam poem that captured my philosophy perfectly.

"... But she didn't raise me to be a friend. She raised me to be a man."

That's exactly what I'll be going for. I've spoken to enough of my friends to realize, a LOT of kids don't like their parents. It is entirely possible, despite my best efforts, my kids won't like me.

So, I do what I know I can. Form them into as functional human beings as possible. That way, even if they hate me with a passion, eventually they will make themselves proud. And eventually after that, they'll realize I tried my hardest to help them do it. Then, we can be friends.

[OtterPop]

If you need advice just go watch the dog whisperer episode of south park, lol

[Funkamander]

And hitting! Hell yes I'll hit them!

Why?

Because I think it's VERY important to learn, especially at a young age, that if you push somebody too far, you will feel their physical wrath.

[Reefer Rogue]

I'd be like: "Don't do that." *passes joint*

[Eshelmen]

i am at a vision right now after a blunt...


how will i disipline my child?

hmm
if he smarts mouth me i will be like "Oh so you think your a pot head huh? you think you can with stand a blunt?" he`d be like dad i`ll kill u in smoking pot" I`ll be like "OH hell no,HONEY GRAB BUBBA" the wife brings out Bubba"The fattest bong the kid`s ever seen"an expensive glass zong about 4 feet high"andthen i say"Honey grab the bag"she gives me my stash of about 4 ounces i`m like your going to smoke this all by sunrise" and he says "I`m to baked to smoke again" I`ll be like "Well you talk shit to me like your a thug" "Smoke this now or i`ll kick you out and call the cops on your ass for being high" He smokes it all and doesnt make the deadline"I say honey bring out the sack"she brings out the duffle bag full of weed its actually maui wauii "And i say by noon i want this gone , i`ll be here and you will be here all day if you dont finish by noon" so he does it finally and he never talks back to me again

the end

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

I spank. No questions asked. Never tried "time out" or "sit in the corner". And never will

We spank occasionally as well... sometimes that's the ONLY THING that gets their attention, unfortunately. And I don't mean a hardcore spanking, just a tap on the bum or a swat on the hand. For those of you who say you will never spank, etc., you don't know until you're in the position what you'll do and not do. You don't figure out how to parent until you become one- trust me, I used to say I'd do things differently!

[WhiskeyGirl]

All I have to do is get my hubby to 'Freak the Fuck out' on them, No hitting involved, they are too scared to even move!!
He has that ' I aint fuckin around' look and CRAZY , MANIAC temper.
But I also have seen him kick some peoples asses and so did they, so they know better than to give any SHIT back to him or they just might get their ass kicked!!
And talking to telemarketers or Comcast cable----------- We won't even go there, them people are SCARED too!! LOL
Basically , he is a nice guy till ya piss him off! This is him normally, the way he was raised - ya dont take no shit!!! Stick up for yourself attitude,
1 Day the kids will Catch on :)
l8errrrrrrrrrrrrrr yaaaaaaa
peace out!!!!!!!!

[BloodyRedBarron]

I tryed the Brady Bunch Technique.It wasent working to well.
But then my first boy died from eating poison berries.
Then my second son died from the same thing.
My third son died from blunt force trama to the head.

"He wouldn't eat the Berries!!!!!

[kongo]

Use the rod lmao!

[mike45]

im a bit to young to think about having kids yet but one thing sticks out in my head when i think of punishment when i was younger. My dad was real pissed at me one time and picked up a metal pipe and started hitting me with it. Now it didn't hurt that much but a hatred started to grow for him at that moment. After that even if he just yelled at me or even told me what to do I would go nuts with anger. I never really forgave my dad for that so I realllly dont think hitting your children is the right thing to do. It could really mess them up

[Fengzi]

I don't think spanking is a really good form of punishment. I don't say this because I think it's wrong. Sometimes a quick, not too hard, smack is needed to get their attention if they are doing somethting that could hurt themselves or someone else. The problem is its really an easy way out.

When I was a kid my parents never spanked me. They'd ground me instead. It sucked because I was an only child and grounding meant not playing with friends, not going outside, no tv, etc. I can remember several times that I actually requested a spanking. With a spanking, its over and done with in a few minutes. When your grounded for week, however, you have a lot longer to think about what you've done.

[Twisty1]

Well I don't have a child since Im 15 years old :P, but usually I get in trouble for staying up on the computer at 3 in the morning on a school day, he takes the computer away from me and the next night I just turn all my lights off and go on it :)

If he caught me smoking tobacco he would ban me from the computer for a month, if he caught me smoking cannabis he would get a hammer and smash my computer... My best defence for that would be to show him the cannabis FAQ on this site but he won't listen. I have no opinion in our house... thats what 24 years in the navy does for ya!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well I don't have a child since Im 15 years old :P, but usually I get in trouble for staying up on the computer at 3 in the morning on a school day, he takes the computer away from me and the next night I just turn all my lights off and go on it :)

If he caught me smoking tobacco he would ban me from the computer for a month, if he caught me smoking cannabis he would get a hammer and smash my computer... My best defence for that would be to show him the cannabis FAQ on this site but he won't listen. I have no opinion in our house... thats what 24 years in the navy does for ya!

I feel for ya Twisty, that isnt right .You shouldnt be on the computer till 3 am on a school nite, but he could find a better way to handle it. Just my opinion :)
Good Luck!
Be cool & Stay in School:stoned:

[Tmar.aLL.DaYmar]

lol, i have kicked my dad`s ass before. he really acts like a bitch sometime, you know how crystal addicts can be..

yeah bitches be wanting krystal burger all the time. fuckin small burgers are gross.

[Eshelmen]

my mom use to say to me

"HEY dont talk shit to me... if i brought you in i can easily take you out"

[poorprincess]

I'm having an issue with this actually because my kid is in her terrible twos and she's also very stubborn and doesn't yet speak. I dont know if she understands me most of the time. I know she understands the word "NO!" but she doesn't always react by stopping what she's doing. In which case I smack her bottom even though I think it hurts me more than it hurts her. I am reluctant to hit her at all since she will hit herself afterwards and I find that very disturbing.

[Jeff Spicoli]

keep smacking your kids. it's for there best interests, right?

[JunkYard]

I am reluctant to hit her at all since she will hit herself afterwards and I find that very disturbing.

That would stop me on a dime, man!

Disturbing indeed...

[puffpuffand away]

i do the 1 2 3 thing...
if that doesnt work, then i bust some ass...
if u tell them not 2 do something , stick with it...
no mean,s no...
not go ahead and do it when im not looking
u need 2 b consistant,and percentent...
or ur kid,s will walk all over u...
if u dont have there respect, u aint got chit