Stressing Hard about Smoking - Girlfriends and Reefer

[The Grim Reefer]

Wow.

So I've been having ongoing "discussions" with my girl on smoking.

Honestly, it makes me feel like a criminal and like some kind of loser/slacker whenever I pick up the pipe because she tells me it's all I talk about.

She called me last night and told me I had a "problem".

I also realized that since she's been getting on my case about it, it makes me more paranoid when I smoke and I lot less enjoyable.

What do you guys do when it comes to situations like these? Seriously, I'm starting to wonder if I have a problem simply because she implies it so much and I question it each time deep in the back of my mind.

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[Krogith]

whats she saying? whats her defence? I just turned my GF into a stoner fixed that RQ:smokin: shes gotta talk about sonething to? shes gotta be into something everyone got a hobby? can you call her out on doing the same thing on something she likes?:smokin: i mean imo i did TILE setting as my job for like 8 years and thats all i would talk about is work so whats she busting your balls about? wouldn't she talk about something she was learning and/or getting into?

[The Grim Reefer]

She tells me things like "It's not good for you, it's not good for your lungs, it's not good to be doing everyday.." ect.

I've been telling her everything I know from how it produces brain cells, to how it kills anxiety, to medicinal uses and all of the benefits of legalization.

She smokes once in awhile, she just doesn't believe it's something to use everyday or even every other day. How often do you guys smoke? :thumbsup:

[Krogith]

I have smoked non stop for like 9 years man:smokin: i got my medical card tho .... if im out it's like a day:smokin: To not mess with tolerance i just keep changing herbs like right now i got 5 differnt strains to mix and smoke (hawaiian indica, Jack Herer, Trainwreck , KnockOut, Ghooey/afgan cross)
:smokin: get a vaporizer you'll love your self for it $Volcano$

[The Grim Reefer]

Did you notice any difference in your lungs after using the Volcano? Hrmm?
Thanks for the quick replies, btw.

This is my 2nd year smoking, though I mainly use it recreationally - it mostly helps me deal with stress. My mind goes a mile a minute, bro :)

So you're saying switching strains/herbage eases tolerance?
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[Krogith]

Vapeing hella helps your lungs.
Now the mixing strains is What i have found works for me ....now what some bogard is going claim it's all in my head what ever....
But from my Exp smokeing you have 1st your 2 differnt strains Sativa and Indica (ones head high and others more body high) these are the classes your Strains are in..... and 2ed you got tons of truely differnt weed strains from all around the world ....Now sometimes my head high is crazy overwelming i pass out sleeping some times it will be just the WOW WOW WOW WOW feeling and same with the body high they all differ IMO when your not on the same strain and Swiching it around like me ( i got 3+ kinds allways to smoke with) Seems to me i can Still get just as high as the 1st day I smoked herb ..... :smokin:sounds like you got same prob i have i can;t stop thinking when not smokeing i need weed to just go :smokin: OK FUCK IT:smokin:

[Pride]

My gf is very against weed and would break up with me if she caught me. Just mentioning it at all makes her go ape shit.
Yet she's an alcoholic, lol!

She told me some story how her friend went crazy cause of weed and killed himself when there was no weed left or some shit. Weird.

[fikusroot]

to be perfectly honest maybe you do have a problem and maybe you should cut back. It takes maturity and disipline to smoke in moderation and not let a stupid plant run your life, I think if you cut back, you'd show your girlfriend some real strengh since since she obviously sees smoking as a sign of weakness. And I dont smoke very often, maybe once or twice a week. If I'm on vacation or during the summer I smoke a lot more though.

[WaKeNvAp]

My gf is very against weed and would break up with me if she caught me. Just mentioning it at all makes her go ape shit.
Yet she's an alcoholic, lol!

She told me some story how her friend went crazy cause of weed and killed himself when there was no weed left or some shit. Weird.
the first part sux. my ex was like that. i told her i smoked pot @ last to try to scare her away from me. didnt work. i really thought it would have becuz she was super anti-pot. but she just adapted a "dont ask, dont tell" attitude towards it. but she would always ask with extreme sarcasim, "are you high?" and she would ask, "whats that smell?" everytime we got in my jeep.(hid a stash of OG kush in the glove box, also told her the glove box was broken) and whenever herb was mentioned, "i hate all drugs and the people who do them" even though she became addicted to cigs and drank (soicially) hard since i first met her. after that, i knew when she knew i was high and when she didnt know, and to be honest with you, she didnt really care, she jus acted like it bothered her.
as to the second part, ur kinda screwed there well arent ya? i mean, u could ask her to bring u documented evidence of this occuring, but i know it can be hard to ask your girl that. u just have to ask her, tell her you were learning more and more about it, ask(whats?) her opinion on cigs, tobacco is natural, but it kills nearly half a million people a year. google around with her and try to find something "bad" about cannabis except getting stoned. then look at alcohol's stats. alcohol occurs in nature, but i dont see many people grabbing rotting bananas off the trees to drink the natural accuring alcohol. it grows in the ground(depending) and is 100% natural, no distillment neccessary.
so the answer to your q grim reefer, it's not you that has the problem, it's her. it sux cuz u prob luv her, and i know you love herb too. do what you do, but dont hide it from her. i wish i never hid it form my ex. if she's not cool with it, tell her that you are, and if she's right for you, she'll come around or except you for you. if not, go fishing with ur current catch molded on your wall as a friend.

[Pride]

you said it like it is..

I doubt the story of her friend is any true. It's way too weird.
Her brother smokes lots of weed and invited me to party with him lol!
Oh, and her father died from cigs so that developed quite a hate for smoking in general lol!

[ScarlettCrush]

talk to her, tell her making you feel like an asshole really isn't working for you and she should find another way to motivate you other than nagging and acting like a cop.
(pride- ask for an obituary as proof, that story is laughable)
or you guys could not date such uptight chicks, they can't be good in the sack.

[Mr.Whitey]

I dunno mines pretty great in bed but she is REALLY, REALLY fucking confusing. I mean to the point that she seems crazy. I'm fairly smart, I know that much, but shit I can't figure her out sometimes.

I smoke and she knows but everytime I mention I'm going to be smoking she starts in with a lot of "I really don't like you smoking weed Trevor". I tell her it's less harmful to my body and mind then the alcohol you drink (of which I'm not a fan cus it makes people billigerent assholes) and she says it's not about her and it's not the same thing.

I fucking hate relationship double standards like this.

I didn't want to be a dick but last time she nagged on me for it I went after her about the drinking. She said I should quit and I said "I would quit smoking it all together, only if she quit drinking too". She actually fucking agreed. When I got back home I laughed my ass off because I knew that shit wouldn't hold as we were going to a party the next night.

We go and sure enough she started drinking when I went off to talk to some friends.

Next day I lit up as we were walking down the street together. She tried to start and I just said don't even start. Now things are pretty good for me.

[activedenial]

The last girlfriend I was serious about hated me smoking, even though she used t do it. She quit drinking alcohol as well. I would smoke up right before bed and she would say can't you go without it. That pissed me off. It felt like I had two different moms. When I broke up with her I felt like a free man released from prison.

[Big Calhoun]

I'm all too familiar with this type of scenario. Despite the differences bwtween my wife and I when it comes to smoking, we still ended up together and are very happy.

1st thing I learned was to not talk about weed around her. She obviously wasn't comfortable with the subject and I didn't want that to turn into her telling me to not smoke anymore. So if I got some good stuff or whatever, I'd restrict the conversation to only friends of mine that I knew smoked.

2nd, make time for her. My wife was used to watching her brother smoke; he'd blaze and just sit like a bump on the log. When I blaze, I like to go out and do things so I always dragged her along. Some things she liked, others she didn't care for. But I wasn't creating a situation where I would smoke and not want to do anything, leaving her bored.

3rd, Don't smoke around her and tell her you smoked. This probably helped me the most. I would just step into the hallway and smoke and then go into the bathroom and clean up. She never would know unless I didn't Visene up or something.

In general, I've learned when dealing with a significant other that doesn't like herb, the best strategy is just never let the two meet and keep everything separate.

[Mr.Whitey]

....so lie?

[are you kind]

my last girlfriend was a total stoner. it was cool. this one time we were at a party and i was smoking with everyone and since she was with me she smoked a ton of weed and she was so high. it was cute.

[SensiRide]

She called me last night and told me I had a "problem".



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Yeah, my mum found some weed in my room when I was 16 and advised me to go and see my doctor about my cannabis addiction :rolleyes:
Didnt help that she is a nurse and is totally anti-drugs (she deals with a lot of junkies)

Anyway, yeah, communication is the key! Sit down and have a really good talk. Its not fair that she's making you feel like shit over something you feel is perfectly normal. If its stopping you getting on with your every day life then yeah maybe you need to address the problem, but if she's just nagging all the time and driving you away from her - then tell her - maybe she doesnt realise what a negative effect its having on you.

[Big Calhoun]

....so lie?

Nah, not really lying...more like 'don't ask, don't tell'. My wife knows I smoke and she knows when I'm going outside to smoke. But I don't make a production out of it and she just as soon as forgets when I come walking back in.

It really does come down to communication. First, everyone has to be on the same playing field...ie. you smoke and your S.O. knows you smoke. Second comes protocol, decide how it will be handled.

[are you kind]

Yeah, my mum found some weed in my room when I was 16 and advised me to go and see my doctor about my cannabis addiction :rolleyes:
Didnt help that she is a nurse and is totally anti-drugs (she deals with a lot of junkies)


my parents wanted me to go to the psychiatrist when i got caught smoking for the first time. i was like ''so i smoke weed, but you don't like it, so you want me to start taking pills? like addictive, dangerous benzos? because i love me some xanax bars i'll get a script and start selling that shit and get barred out all day every day"

so she stopped trying to get me to get put on meds

[ScarlettCrush]

you don't have to lie, but if this is a behavior you do not intend to stop for her then you need to let her know that this is how you are and that part isn't changing, however you will be as safe as you can be with it, keep her out of danger, and keep it out of her face. That is a fair compromise, also let her know that you would not put her in any unsafe or illegal situation because of your habits.

[The Grim Reefer]

Thanks for the advice everyone. :)

We broke up a few days ago but are still remaining friends.

Life can now return to normal!

[activedenial]

Nice. Maybe you can be SUPERfriends. I had that happen, it lasted for a few months. All the benefits without the bullshit.:smokin:

[suhl]

if she has a problem with that being all you talk about, i can see what she means as that is incredibly annoying to anyone, especially someone who doesnt smoke. if she has a problem with you smoking then its different

[Pride]

Sigh.. there's nothing I want more right now than a gf who smokes lots of weed..............
My current gf likes to get me drunk but it really hurts to drink and makes it hard for me to sleep! I hate alcohol!

[mrdevious]

She told me some story how her friend went crazy cause of weed and killed himself when there was no weed left or some shit. Weird.

so again somebody's using totally flawed weed-logic, that somebody freaked out about being out of weed and killed themselves, like a cokehead running out of coke. Nevermind the obvious that he, as many people, were using weed to treat their depression and when they ran out their suicidal feelings had nothing to supress them.

Personally, weed was what got me out of my depression.

[eddievanzant]

GO ON THE OFFENCE!
She'll never suspect it. Say something like, "You don't respect my choices. If I want to smoke I will and if you don't like it fine, but don't try to chamge who I am (bitch!)."

[Shelbay]

great advice ed....I am sure she will show him bitch.:D

[eddievanzant]

Hey! How dare you call me a bitch without parenthesis!

[The Grim Reefer]

She called me wanting to get together to drink and smoke a spliff that I gave her a week ago.

We ended up not hanging out that night, but the night after - we ended up getting together and gave the bed quite the endurance test!

Hrm, not sure how I feel about this yet ;)

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[WaKeNvAp]

Post 420 reefer!!!